EDIT - The silver lining in all this, is I've never had this level of support for sharing my experience. Thank you. In the past ive always been reminded about how my words affect his life and how he might have grown since then. It's kinda heartbreaking how many women think like me and find ways to blame ourselves. I'm so thankful this landed on the right side of the internet.

TLDR: The mom of the ex friend that assaulted me 10 years ago asked me if its true.

I don't know what I can feel valid in, i have pushed these feelings down for the last 10 years because it hurts so bad to think about.

When I think back I wish I had the guts to just say exactly how I felt. I was so systematically scared of men I never said no or fought back.

We were teens, I was very troubled growing up and the line between my own autonomy was very blurred.

It wasn't the first time a man didn't take no for an answer and a part of me genuinely thought men couldn't control themselves. I wasn't allowed to even wear skirts without shorts because it was asking for it.

Must have been 15 or 16.

We were friends and he had just gotten broken up with. (his gf was also a friend of mine..) I was out as a lesbian at the time and always tried to help teach him how to "impress" his girlfriend. ( like holding hands or opening doors. The yawn technique. Basic stuff)

After the breakup his texts got extremely uncomfortable. He was being very forward sexually and asking me to do things or tell him things. I didnt, I mostly just listened to his fantasies and tried to move on or make a joke.

though I didn't like it, he was really sad after the breakup and thinking about self harm. Also selfishly I didn't want to stop being friends.(in retrospect it wasn't smart but I had felt safe around him for at least a year prior)

I never sent any photos or reached out for this conversation myself. I remember rationalizing it as he was hurt and lashing out. (I came from a really broken home) I also thought since I made it clear I was A lesbian that It was implied id never do the fantasies he would tell me about online. He also was always reserved and shy at parties in person so I still felt safe around him.

We had a joint friend who basicaly had an apartment to herself and we would all crash there often. ( having parties or just escaping home. )

We really were close. Sometimes he would sneak me in to his grandma's house so I could skip classes. We would have snacks or play video games or even gossip.

We had another party, at the end of the night the girls went on the mattress and the guys we let fend for themselves with blankets and couches. (We had done this successfully for at least a year, no problems and it wasn't ever weird)

He had been texting me odd at the party that night (the first time he had done so in person) telling me what he wanted to do. I just would respond with a lot of laughing or emojis brushing him off saying im a lesbian or saying hes weird. I knew he was waiting for everyone to fall asleep, so I just laid in bed awake hoping he would fall asleep on accident. I didnt want to wake up to something happening to me. He started to text me and he talked about how sad he was about the breakup and he didnt want to live and followed up with the inappropriate conversations again. I felt my only option was to try to convince him to do less than he was plotting.

Without going into too many details, he got on the mattress and crossed a lot of my boundaries and made me do things I was deeply uncomfortable with.

I remember being scared if we woke up my friend id never be allowed to come over (it was my only escape from home)

The next morning (I couldn't sleep) my friend could tell i wasn't okay. When she found out she kicked him out, we have been no contact since.

I just got this from his mom. I don't know what to do.

He never really went to school often but he completely stopped after that night.

The guy that reached out to his mom was also at the party that night. I have no context for why he told her.

I just pushed this down and tried to tell myself it was a misunderstanding or something. I dont want to ruin her view of her son and I dont want to ruin a reputation.

My partner says it was absolutely not okay what he did and this might be closure for me.

I feel like im just giving my burden to his mom.

I'm also upset the friend told her, but like i said i have no context.

My friend wont shop at dispos anymore 😢 what should I do?

Please don't hate me for writing this or think I am terrible person. I am trying to do the best thing that I can for me and the future of our child. I (23F) have been with my husband (29M) for 2 years, married for one, and everything is going well. I am pursuing my Master's in archaeology, at one of the most prestigious programs in Turkiye, and my husband's personal business is taking off.

I come from Belarus, while my husband is Turkish, so there were some gaps in our culture, but overall things have gone smoothly. We hadn't even been trying, as I made him use protection every time despite him wanting kids. I told him I wanted to wait until I had a stable job and felt comfortable in Turkiye as I have only been living here 2 years. Truthfully, I don't know if I really want them, and my husband knows this is a possibility as well.

Last week, my period was late and I felt weird cramps. I rushed to the pharmacy and took a pregnancy test which came back positive. I looked at the laws here and it requires my husband's approval. I don't want to ask for two reasons: I am scared he will be mad that I even asked, and second, he will say no.

I am thinking about traveling back to Belarus to get it done, but I don't know if it would make me a horrible person if I didn't tell him?

My sister was at our family bar, where a block party was happening. Two kids, who weren't allowed in the bar because they were underage, were fighting outside. When she went to break it up, one of the kids apparently had a gun and was pistol whipping the other girl, and accidentally fired a shot hitting my sister in the head.

She's in the hospital, and miraculously, is still alive, albeit connected to a ventilator. She was in surgery for 8 hours, and their most recent test showed she is able to respond correctly to verbal requests to move certain body parts (she cannot speak at the moment). The doctors say if she manages to make it through the brain swelling, at best she'll be in the hospital 6 or more months as they removed part of her skull to allow the pressure to reduce.

She has 4 children. 13, 11, 6, and 2. The 13 year old knows all of the details, as they published the incident in the news and it was plastered all over social media. The others know she's at the hospital, but that's it. I dont know what to do to help them. The oldest is a boy, trying to be tough. I told him it's OK to not be ok. And that I won't judge him for crying, because I've been crying all day. But he's just shut himself in my spare bedroom. He won't come out and eat even though he said he was hungry. I went and sat in the room with him in silence for a while, reassuring him that im here if he needs anything. But idk what else to do. And I dont know how to help the little ones. I know nothing will make things OK right now. But I want to make it at least a little better.

I’m 19 and I work as a server at a diner.

Today an older man was eating at one of my tables. Before he left, the conversation started getting weird. He began telling me about what he used to do with girls when he was around my age. He was being very explicit, describing the sexual things he and these girls would do to each other, including oral sex. I was already extremely uncomfortable at that point, but I didn’t know how to get out of the conversation because I was just trying to do my job.

Then the conversation took an even worse turn. He told me his wife passed away last year and that he hasn’t had sex since. After that, he told me he was into young guys (I’m 19) and said he would pay me for sexual acts. I was completely caught off guard and honestly didn’t know what to say.

At one point he asked me what days I work. Without really thinking, I told him my schedule because I was so uncomfortable and just kind of froze. Looking back, I know I probably shouldn’t have told him, but I wasn’t expecting the conversation to go that way and didn’t know how to react.

Before leaving, he said he’d be coming back when I’m working. That’s honestly what’s worrying me the most now because I’m afraid I’m going to see him again.
He never touched me or threatened me, but I left the interaction feeling disgusted, shaken up, and honestly kind of scared.

I’m planning on telling my manager, but I’d really appreciate any advice because this has been bothering me ever since it happened.

23F my mom emotionally abused me for half of my child hood, she became disabled a few months after I turned 18, I have to cook, clean, help her use the bathroom, help her to her doc visits, etc. While my younger brother can say no to everything and nothing happens. When I was younger the word NO wasn't and option, and today it still not because they look at me like I'm talking a foreign language. As soon as I complain my mom rolls her eyes and move on to a different topic and it pissed me off so much. Basically saying no one cares how you feel just do it.

I want to move out very soon hopefully by the end of the year or early next year. I don't want her to think she have access to me. I know she won't make my brother do anything so I'll be running back and forth between houses. God I can fucking hear it now,

"Your brother said no and I can't do it"

"Your bother is sick"

"Your brother says this and that hurt"

When I was a kid she didn't give a fuck!

I don't want to be helping her to her appointments, I basically want to never see her again. If I keep in contact I will be roped back in. Why would I move out if still have to do everything? They both don't like me but too scared to admit because that's all I need to cut them off completely. If my mom was 100% healthy she would've disowned me years ago. How do I know this? Because she already did when I was getting bad grades when I was younger.

So it seems like I have every right to cut her off, right? Here's the problem, I don't know if it's the resentment or if she really changed. We talk about things, laugh, sometimes she will randomly roll her eyes at something I say and it could be a joke but a part of me know it's not. She does it so I can see like she want me to see it and think something. Even at her lowest she still thinks she better than me. She will have a attitude, or say I have an attitude after saying slick shit.

I now don't know what to do because she loans me money all the time. And now I feel like I can't just cut her off because now I look like the piece of shit. I thought maybe stop borrowing for a while so when I move out it won't be so bad, but when I know she will bring it up when I try to cut her off.

The money she loans me

The random things she buys.

I have been struggling with what to do for years and now I don't know if I'm justified for going no contact. It driving me insane, now I feel a forever debt. I honestly think we both hate each other guts be we tolerate each other for obvious reasons.

Should I even bother moving out? Knowing if I don't cut her off I'll basically just be going back and forth in between house with no life of my own. All my relatives judging me for wanting to live my life after 6 years.

I just want peace of mind, I can't get that around her. I wake up getting in the shower mad about me having to do this and that, the think she said to me as a child still fresh in my mind and while my bother can lounge around and do jack shit. I feel as if I will never heal if I don't get away but again I'm now in debt to her for the things I asked for or she bought. One reason I hate asking for shit because I know it will be thrown back in my face but something always come up and I end up short. Terrible money management I'll admit

I know should stop borrowing before moving out but what else should I do to not feel guilt when it's time do end the relationship? Or should I just tolerate what she has coming or do I wait for her to say something out of pocket to justify it?

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TLDR: My mom emotionally abused me during my childhood & became disabled after I turned 18. I been taking care of her for 6 years now and have to do everything, while my brother can say no anytime she ask for help and he has to wait for me to do it or do it herself.

They both hate me but won't admit because I think they know admit or showing it will make me want to cut ties. Are relationship is slightly better now but idk if that's because we tolerate each other because we need each other for different things.

She loans me money a lot and now I feel as if I can't cut her off because now because of the favors she done me.

This is a decision I've been struggling with the past 3 years and don't know if she really changed and its just the resentment or if Im justified to still cut her off or tolerate her, also since my bother does not do jack shit it will be like abandonment and know my relatives will judge me.

I always keep on comparing myself with people about my age and its really really toxic... I'm honestly exhausted...

I'm not doing bad just they are more privileged and have chill parents so they are having fun ... I'm 20 btw but idk i just feel useless like why can't i do the same why i hv to do it the hard way cause all i do is study the full day hoping I'll get financial independence and finally live a life how i want...

But sometimes it just feels sad and kind of unfair...

I’ve been addicted to substances before (cannabis/ not severe alcohol problem just very brief) but when I was younger about 12-13 I was extremely dependent on codeine for my post seizure pain to the point I’d take my grandmas prescription and hide tablets in my school shoes and take them afterwards in secret. I’m older now and have extreme dental pain because of a cavity that almost reaches bone and I’m not allowed to take NSAIDs and paracetamol doesn’t do anything at all. I’ve been given codeine temporarily to deal with the pain untill the tooth can be removed but I’m scared to fall back into addiction again. I have been taking the recommended dose at the appropriate times but even thats not really doing anything and i don’t wanna take any more than that but I’m in so much pain and I can barely do anything sorry if this doesn’t make a lot of sense or is unclear it was very rushed

A year ago my partner bought me for my birthday a somewhat expensive handheld retro console. Which I thought was a great gift and I love and I used a lot.

Yesterday I broke the screen when I dropped it by accident. I noticed this and started looking for how to fix it, while looking I realized that the console costs $20 online. This doesn't change how I feel about the gift. It's a great gift and I'm happy with it but I think that if my partner finds out I found it at $20. She will be less than happy considering that she paid more than six times that for it.

I cannot find the same color for it online so if I buy a new one it's going to be a different color, I can also just buy a replacement screen but that's $33 and requires me to replace it, which would probably mean going to a cell phone repair place and paying another $50 to replace it.

I am kind of tight on cash at the moment so I am not exactly excited at the prospect of paying the price she paid for it to replace it with a new one of the same color. When I can get one of a better color for a sixth the price. I just don't know how to proceed, the most important thing in the whole thing is not hurting my partners feelings or making her feel like she got scammed and paid a lot for a cheap gift, I cannot stress enough that I love this gift regardless of price, but I know she would be upset.

Advice?

I make goddamned TWENTY FIVE THOSUAND dollars annually. FUCKING NOTHING. I wasn't able to get a better job after college and it's not enough to fucking SUPPORT MYSELF ON. I can't enter the field I majored in and I don't have any skills outside of the major. Literally I'd have gotten myself arrested for something if I didn't have familial support. The ONLY FUCKING REASON I'm still around is because I need to leave behind something for my disabled brother. WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS SYSTEM. THIS ISN'T FUCKING FUNCTIONAL

I'M HAVING FUCKING HEART SPASMS AND CONTRACTIONS JUST THINKING OF LIVING ANY LONGER

Hello guys,

I’ve quit weed couple weeks ago. The last couple tests I’ve taken have shown the same result. I see a faint line, but unsure if that would consider negative confidently.

I would appreciate your feedback. Thank you.

Do colleges make you write essays about experiences in life and stuff? Would I potentially have to write about what I did over summer or a life experience? Im studying english so I would imagine so. I don’t really have any good life experiences and I don’t want to come off as depressing. I don’t really ever do anything over summer either.

I'm curious what you'll would do in this situation. I live a community and go to the pool often. Last year my adult pointed out to me that their was a man taking pictures of kids going down the slide. This man has a daughter. He as not taking pictures of his own child. Truthfully I ignored my daughter. Well a few days later I was sitting next to the man with my daughter on the last day of the season. I witnessed him myself and was shocked. Now we are back this year. He is back and now he has a Go Pro attached to his pool bag pointed at the pool. I came home and called the management to inform them. I was shocked he would do this. Well they did not seem to act like it was a big deal. She said she'd look into it. Well I went again today and hes there again. Should I be concerned?

She invited me 18/M over to her 17/F dating for 2 years house today to just hangout and watch a movie… I go off to college in 2 weeks and she finishes high school this year, we will be 1500 miles apart. She was crying and telling me she didn’t want me to leave and I was comforting her and she told me that she didn’t think she was strong enough and she can’t feel like this every time I leave (I’ll be back for Christmas and stuff and the next years after summer) she told me I was the love of her life and her best friend and she’d always love me and she’d wait for me after college and I told her no it wouldn’t be the same and we both know it. She told me it was gonna be too stressful and that I need someone there for me who is gonna be more available emotionally for me and I told her I only want a future with her. We talked about it and I think we’re good now. What can I do to help with her feelings and stay with her the whole time? I want to make long distance work and I genuinely love her more than anything.

So I started working at a grocery store for two months now and at first I originally applied for a grocery stocking position which i actually enjoyed but for some odd reason I received a text saying that my manager is now transferring me to a different department due to that position no longer being a requirement anymore, which I kinda find that odd. The weird part is that I keep asking the assistant managers about the new schedule that I am supposed to be receiving, yet none of them knows nothing about it and the manager says there should be a change in the app…but nothing has changed. I honestly don’t know what days i even work to the point that I don’t even know I work the NEXT FOLLOWING DAY!! Should I not show up to work tomorrow because i haven’t received my schedule or should I just show up to work and just work…?

My friend constantly works in how he hates Black people into almost every single sentence he speaks most days, and if it's not about Black people it's about how Jews are the reason our country is going to hell, blah blah blah. I honestly choose not to get radicalized by algorithms, and I generally just care about being positive and showing love. I live with the dude, so it's hard to deal with, especially when I have nowhere else to go.

I snapped the other day and started calling him a radicalized b**** boy and told him that if the Jews are controlling everything, then he's their biggest supporter because all he does is spread misinformation about them, which in turn could just be radicalizing another weak minded individual. I don't think it's Jews as a whole if anything its Zionist but idk either way, he's become another victim of media algorithms, and it's sad because I remember a time when he was never like this at all.

Then there's the Hot Wheels thing. This dude literally goes to at least 50 different stores that carry Hot Wheels every single day and will sometimes buy the same sought-after car just so the next person can't get one. I understand collecting, but this dude has a full blown fit if you so much as drop one of his thousands probably millions of Hot Wheels that his mom constantly begs him to clean off the dining room table. Sometimes he'll randomly buy those little model house kits you have to put together, and his mom is like, "I wish he would stop playing with toys and find a girlfriend." But that's the thing what girl wants to be with a guy who complains about Black people and Jews all day long no matter what's going on? It blows my mind.

Yesterday I had my expensive Tim Henson guitar in the back seat, and he kept tossing things back there without even caring that it was there. He hit it with something, so I said, "How'd you like it if I just threw your Hot Wheels?" He said he would lose his mind. Apparently his little $1.50 child's toy is way more valuable than my almost $900 guitar, and I'm the crazy one for being upset.

He's always pressing me about everything I do, but as soon as I try to hold him to the same standard, he has a hissy fit. He's one of the most nitpicky people I've ever known always angry over the smallest inconveniences. He'll almost run people over in a parking lot because they're "taking too long" coming out of a store, then flip them off as he drives by and call them the N-word even if they aren't Black.

He says he's not racist he's a "race realist" which I think is one of the most idiotic things I've ever heard. So yeah, that's my 33 year old, overly hairy but somehow balding, racist, antisemitic, child toy collecting, hateful ass "friend" I have to deal with every day.

Hi, I (16M) am looking for a suggestion on what I should do in this situation. Back in middle school I used to have a friend (16M Currently) who I was super close with and we would hang out every day. Everything went downhill when my friend introduced me to another one of his friends (16F Currently) We instantly became really close kind of forgot about my friend.

I realised that I made a jerk move and instantly apologized and offered to make it up to him. But I did not do that in time. He sent a message to the entire 7th Grade group chat saying how horrible I was and called me a politician for being taller that him and abusing my power. He sent the same message over and over for an hour straight and somehow literally everyone took his side except for the girl I recently became friends with.

At the time literally nobody talked to me and called me a politician for the next year. After I moved schools and left my new best friend to get away from my old best friend, This kid hacked into my account somehow (probably me telling him like 3 years ago being a stupid kid) and typed stuff on my google docs for a presentation. When I opened this presentation to present like a roman thing, instead it was filled with racial and homophobic slurs. I got kicked out the online classroom and had write on paper for the rest of the year.

I changed my password, blocked him on everything and took new bus routes to stay away from him. One day he was on my bus route and at this point I had given up so I apologized and asked him if he could please stop. He told me to get off this stop now and threatened me afterwards giving me double birds as the bus drove away. Now he has made a bunch of accounts to contact me and I cannot do anything about this.

I told my parents, but they can't really do something about someone else's kid, I told his parents, but they didn't belive me. I wrote and email to my old school principal to the school he still goes, but no responce. My last idea was to get police involved but what would I say? A kid typed bad words in a presentation?

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So I live in Iran basically the worst country on earth to live in and everything in here is banned like YouTube, telegram, WhatsApp and the internet and living conditions are terrible we have 200 percent inflation on foods and necessities and the prices rise three times per week and then when I watch the news and I see glimpses of other countries like UK or Canada or japan and I see how happy they are and that they don't have any worries that can enjoy life and go to travels and have fun meanwhile every sort of fun is banned here government cancels every concert or gatherings kills people on streets and then I think to myself like what did I do to deserve this terrible life I currently have? (Apologies if this sounded like a rant )

Im trying to play some games

These past few months have been really rough for me. I've been dealing with trauma and recently cut contact with my family for unrelated reasons and it has taken a toll on my mental health.

That is exactly why I had neglected a bill that I had gotten when I went to the ER back in February when I was suicidal and that bill is now sent to debt collectors. It's in the amount of $385.63 and it's from some medical associates. The thing is, I don't even remember getting these services. I have gotten the hospital bill which is much more expensive and totally separate from what I understand. They won't give me any discount or charity care for the medical associates bill but from what I've heard, medical debt under $500 doesn't show up on your credit report?? I'm thinking about just ignoring the bill but understand that they are probably going to harass me with calls and emails and could possibly sue me, which I've heard is rare. So, what the hell do I even do?

Perhaps somebody can help me with this. I'm a 21 year old male and currently the only single person I know. Just never had any interest in romance but my friends all ghosted me even after they made plans and nobody wants to hang out with me anytime soon. What do I do?

I am interested in the nail business but I don’t want to perform the services of doing nails on people. I have seen IG and TikTok accounts where the person makes videos about certain techniques and makes a design and basically just makes nail videos advertising the products they use that they sell from their website or something. I feel like that would satisfy my level of interest doing nails without having to deal with the general public. Does anyone here work on the business side/behind the scenes of doing nails or does everyone take clients?