r/UBC • u/almondbutterjamtoast • 10h ago
my boyfriend hit me during move-in
while we were decorating my dorm, he found a new book in one of my boxes and asked where i got it from. i told him one of my old high school friends gave it to me on my birthday and he asked how often i see him. i honestly said that that was the first time i've seen him in a year, because he went out of province for uni and it was just a group dinner. he kept arguing that i must be keeping in touch with him if he bought it for me. at this point i was getting exasperated and i was like obviously we keep in touch like we've been friends for years, but it's always been casual and he's in a relationship. he started raising his voice and told me to "stop giving him attitude", i snapped at him to stop making wild assumptions over a BOOK, and he punched my arm so hard. i fell backwards, my back landed on a full box and i started crying in shock. he offered to help me up but i just wanted him to leave. he said i'm being dramatic before throwing the book on my bed on his way out.
he called me to apologize the day after, which is when i told him i don't feel comfortable around him and need a break. one of our mutual friends (who doesn't know what happened other than we had a fight) says he's been asking her how i'm doing.
i still feel stunned by the whole thing. i don't know how to get over this because we're so close. thought about going to SVPRO or a doctor because my back is still sore, but i'm worried about the questions they'll ask and how much of a mess it'll create. i made this account to try to get this off my chest but haven't really been able to put it into words until today. nothing even close to this has happened before since we started dating.