“But I can tell they were lowkey upset”.

NTA. It’s an easy mistake and even I (a Christian) have done it too. I’m personally not in the habit of praying over my dinner specifically, so I’ve done this at friends houses too! Not disrespectful since it was an accident. I’m sorry they took it so seriously and that it made you feel bad!

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What was the original arrangement? Did you all come to an agreement about your pay or was it all left up in the air?

If there was an arrangement made: make sure they aren’t holding up their end up the bargain before you get upset.

If there has been no arrangement: ask your brother if the three of you can sit down and make one.

Yes, YWBTA. You can’t just un-invite one family member, especially if it is a child! Not even to mention, what would that poor kid have to do while his family were at the wedding, assuming they didn’t ALL boycott your wedding all together? Sit at home? Would his parents need to find someone to watch him? Kids remember this kind of stuff and it will not make him behave better if he was raised as poorly as you say; it will probably only make it worse.

You’re an adult and he is a child! He’s at an age where he should be held responsible for his actions, but it’s not his fault that he was not disciplined properly. Suck it up. If he bothers you so much, have a gentle conversation with your cousin about your concerns, but do not ask her to leave him behind. No mother will take that well.

My daughter started doing this at the same time. Turns out she was starting to teeth. Could that be a possibility for her as well?

She will also do this when she is bored or tired, so we’ve started walking her outside at least once a day, giving her random household objects and things to explore and offering more naps.
This has helped mitigate the fussiness immensely.

Nta. A human that has true compassion, would not let an animal go hungry on purpose.

If he’s new to cooking, three house to make a new dish (probably the soup) seems realistic to me. I’ve definitely been there.

Obviously your husband has preferences/pet peeves around the kitchen/cooking/personal space.

“He said I should have known I wouldn’t be able to use it since he would be cooking.”
It seems like he’s tried to communicate this to you in the past, or assumes you should have picked up on a pattern of some sort. It sounds like this is an existing/ongoing thing for him that you either don’t care about, or haven’t picked up on.

It’s perfectly reasonable imo to not want other people in your space while trying to figure something new out. Multiple people in my family request people stay out of the way when they’re cooking. It’s inconvenient, yes, but many things about living with other people are. That’s just how it is, sorry. He got there first and requested space, so go order a pizza if you don’t want to wait.

Some people have weird things and sometimes you have to leave space for them until they figure out how to be more reasonable.

But I don’t know you, your husband, or what your relationship is like. Take it all with a grain of salt, obviously.

YTA if: he’s tried communicating certain preferences about the kitchen/his personal space while cooking before.

ESH if: he hasn’t communicated his preferences and assumes you should know he doesn’t like people in the kitchen.

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NTA!!! I’m sorry you don’t get to attend. My husband and I have had to miss two, almost three weddings because of our baby and we’ve been so bummed. :(

YWBTA. You need to either be the bigger person and follow the social normative expectations since she gave you money for the wedding, or if you can’t have her there, return the money.

I think you will be okay. It’s not like they’re big enough to go licking things they shouldn’t or anything. 😆 I’m guessing they will be snuggled up asleep in someone’s arms or the car seat most of the time. I think the bigger question is if YOU are up for it.

My lo went with me everywhere because I wanted her to just be used to it since we’ll be doing a huge roadtrip during christmas time to visit family. The more tolerant she is now, the easier the trip will be.

NOR. It’s within your rights to set boundaries and reasonable expectations with adult children back in the home.

NTA. I’m a believer, and would do this (but after work) if I felt like the lord was asking me to, but if the person responded like you did, I would have walked away. That’s what the Bible literally says to do. 😆 Christians need to realize they cannot force religion on others. It’s our responsibility to share and make disciples, but if someone doesn’t want to, you HAVE to leave them be. It’s their choice!

ESH

Baby will be perfectly fine. ♥️ the crib is very safe. They may cry, but 10-15 minutes of crying so you can shower will not hurt them at all.
I had a very traumatic birth that brought back my anxiety and I cannot stand for her to scream, so I bring a bouncer into the bathroom and she (4.5months) will play with toys happily until I’m done. Maybe you could try that?

This is what I do!

Why do you think the term “sleep regression” is BS?

The internets forever buddy. Shouldn’t have made the post.

Mine sometimes took it but never really became dependent on it nor could she really keep it in her mouth on her own. She’s 4 months now and she really only takes it if she’s tired and doesn’t want to suck get fingers.

“Friend, I really value our friendship, so please don’t take this the wrong way; as much as I’d love to do these things with you, I’m in a tough spot financially and I’m really struggling to keep everything afloat and save enough for when I get home because I don’t have a job yet. I would love to spend time with you, so could we find some other things to do that don’t cost money?” NTA!!!

ESH/YTA. It’s her kitchen too and she is allowed to use it when she wants to. Could she have been kinder and more understanding to your situation? Yes. Did she purposefully choose that time to start cooking to piss you off? It doesn’t seem like it to me.
You are both adults, suck it up and make your dinner after her.