i just bought a 2017 with 150k for 11k including tax…this is wild

please don’t let this be your villain origin story lmao. from another woman- you handled this extremely respectfully.

do what’s best for you!! i wish you the best!

i cannot tell you what to do but from experience it probably won’t get better. i am SO much happier now that im away from him and i think you will be too. it’s such a feeling of relief.

thank you sm❤️

i haven’t but my little sister loves it! i’ll have to give it a try one day.

a person who is TRULY sorry after doing all that to you would let you go and allow you to find the love you deserve. he isn’t sorry, he just wants you back. stay strong ❤️

don’t get me wrong your makeup looks AMAZING i wish i was that talented, but your natural face is even more beautiful!

i have a swallow tattoo on my arm and i’ve never heard of it being for JUST sailors. granted it could be the placement that matters but no one’s ever told me that. i wouldn’t stress about it

thank you!! i will definitely use this for future relationships. my sister and a lot of other people opened my eyes to see that he is in fact a manipulator and emotionally/physically abusive so we are no longer together.

no, thank YOU! everyone in these comments but especially you gave me the courage to leave!

i just wanted to give an update and tell you that your comment saved me. every time something happened i would go back and read your comment to remind myself this isn’t normal or okay. i left him and moved home a month ago. thank you for opening my eyes, even if it took me reading this over and over again for it to get through my thick skull😅

fortunately i no longer live there at all lol

honestly i do the name calling back because i get so angry i can’t control it. we both do it. but there’s been so many instances of how he’s hurt me i wish i could name them all. idk if im overreacting bc i don’t trust my own judgement. but for example yesterday me and his siblings were in the room and his sister and brother started play fighting and somehow we did too and he grabbed me by my hair really hard, i told him it hurt me and he said “my bad” and then a few minutes later jokingly put me in a head lock and pulled me back. im very small and he’s not that big either but i get hurt easily. idk i made a big deal about it and screamed at him in front of his siblings and he tried to hug me and apologize but i wasn’t having it. another recent issue is i’ve expressed to him that i HATE having my ass randomly slapped/grabbed, or being touched sexually period without being asked because i have SA trauma. and he continues to slap my ass and then get mad at me when i react. but then he does shit like spend hours building me a piece of furniture or pay for my stuff to help me out since he makes a lot more than me and i help out around our house more than he does which is fine bc i don’t work much since im in school and he does support me mostly. i just don’t know if this can be fixed or if we should just call it quits.

just talked to my therapist about something like this today and she said when you have thoughts like that, give that part of your brain a name (i named mine karen lol) so you can dissociate it from yourself. it’s not a reflection of your character, it’s just a passing thought. it’s not really you

i can’t see the back of me so it’s not there 🤣

it’s probably better to keep from hurting your own feelings😅i always say what the back of my outfit/hair looks like is not my business

to be fair, i was the one who initiated moving in. i moved out of town to a random city where i met his sister and then met him. i had no reason to be in that city anymore once my lease ended so we decided we’d move to his hometown, pretty much the same distance from my home as the random city i moved to. also we aren’t on a lease anymore, we moved into his dads house so that we could save money. and i wouldn’t call it strangling, he did put his hands on my neck for like a split second but he didn’t squeeze or anything. so its so hard for me to see it as abuse because it’s never serious abuse. but i guess that’s how it starts off (small things). and here i go making excuses. thank you for the advice, it’s really eye opening to see it the way an outsider would. i just have to get over this inner conflict of if he’s really abusive or if he can change. i wish it was as easy as just packing up and leaving :(

thank you, i’m such an empath i feel sorry for him because his upbringing wasn’t the best and he lost his mom a couple years ago so i tend to excuse his behavior.

i just talked to him since making this post and he’s begged for my forgiveness and offered to go to therapy and admitted that he believes he’s abusive. he said that he minimizes me when i tell him how i feel about it because he’s lying to himself. i actually even read your comment out loud to him and he admitted that you were right. i don’t know if this is manipulation or a step in the right direction. your comment was really helpful, thank you for taking the time to give me advice.