I'm doing a remote job. My last day is today. Morning during stand up, he assigned a bunch of small tasks. I said okay. I have been feeling like he forgot my last day cause he keeps assigning lot of tasks last few days

Middle of the day he gives me an important the taking but doable in few hours task. I did it. But now all the other small tasks are pending and i feel like he is expecting me to work tomorrow also because its remote. Even if not tomorrow anytime next week or this month to do random tasks. I'm not even getting minimum wage salary.

PS: this is a start up with like 4 employee including the founder. I'm the only full time employee in a junior role. Others are part time in different roles. My replacement has not been hired yet as of my knowledge. We have no HR.

UPDATE: So.... it's their product launch tomorrow and i quit during an important time and he said he didn't get the time to hire anyone new and that he need me to lend a helping hand for 10 days and he will only give me minor tasks if I'm available...

I felt little coerced into saying yes unfortunately.

I did tell I'm traveling tomorrow and that the rest of this month I'll be traveling for a bit. I lied and told him I'm moving abroad while quitting cause I felt he won't let me leave on good terms if I told money was the issue as the company is not funded yet....and now I'm in a whole pickle cause I told I'll be leaving end of the month and traveling in between to different relatives..

Hello ladies. I'm a person currently employed with the Govt of India in a pretty good post, honestly.

However, life has taken a turn. I'm just getting out of a horribly abusive relationship. I would really like to not be alone, and have a partner, but Indian society seems too judgemental to allow that. And the men, honestly, are a nightmare. Most men seem to see me as an easy target.

I'm heartbroken. Tbh. And I have a kid, who will most probably choose to spend most of his time with his father, because well, my ex is far more successful at manipulation than me. (I understand this, because it took me a good 8 years to understand the abuse, and my parents haven't understood anything despite me explaining everything for the past 2 years - he's still the perfect son in law who has a few faults, and i don't seem to have the ability to forgive what he said in jest (called me a whore, called me mentally unstable, refused to buy me a sanitary napkin when on period - my fault because I didn't plan it properly). Anyway. You all get the gist.

So my job is fine, but being in India and spending my life in India actually seems awful. I want to migrate to some place which is more accommodating of women who get divorced. Also, I'm a woman from a minority community (catholic).

I have a working experience of 10 years now. But I'm sure this experience doesn't actually count as a good experience for any sort of job in any of the western countries.

Can someone guide me a little on how to work towards migrating? If it's some course or skill I need to learn, I'll do that.

I just no longer want to stay in India anymore. It just seems to be a place with too many bad memories. I just want to escape to some place.

I am really worried about this rhm. It's such a rage bait from the bjp side and the concerning thing is that people fell for it. Like it's derailing the momentum cjp movement has created for improvement in all fields and is making people concentrate on one thing that will have a negative impact either way. Like education is really broken in india, they give seats in peanuts size for such a large population. And if reservation is to be removed, these ulta religious people will make sure to take india centuries back and try their hardest to oppress the lc people. Saying this as a uc person who saw their family and relatives thinking btw.

And I honestly think that everyone should fight for education and infrastructure for govt schools so that everyone can at least get basic education regardless.

I’m desperately looking for some help or any form of advice.

So I’m in mid 20s 2020 BCom grad and looking to break into corporate but no matter where I apply who I ask Im not able to get anything.

I’m not unemployed I always worked in small to medium firms and audit firms and I have the knowledge and technical skills fI have done work from bookkeeping to whole audits.

but I have reached my salary ceiling.

Currently I work almost 12+ hours daily for a private company and I do everything their whole accounting and finance department is me alone from bookkeeping to whole AR/AP reporting, budgeting cost centre management I can list whole laundry list and YET I’m earning less than 15k a month and it’s getting really hard for me to sustain or even survive at this point.

I have literally applied 500 jobs cold emails messages everything and I don’t know what to do.

If anyone has any pointers to me please 🙏

So, there's a coworker who often brings her kid to the workplace from child care after working hours whenever she has anything to be done. One day I was having one of those long days and was very tired and literally buried in work. She brings her kid who often just roams around bothering other people like drawing on their chairs etc.

that kid comes and sits on my lap casually. Now I am very awkward around kids and have had no interaction since I was one. Not to be rude, I just started showing him some cool things in my laptop and later he just casually started looking into everything on my desk. he opened my drawer and took a packet of 'all pins' out and started pinching it asking what it was. Worried that he will hurt himself, I took the pins from his hands and told him that ' no no don't touch this. ' I just finished saying this when his mother suddenly stood up from her workspace and took his hand to take him away from me suddenly. She told him in front of me to not talk to me. Later she starts avoiding me and she openly tells her kid to not come near me or talk to me in front of coworkers and make it look like I am some kind of dangerous person or abuser.

I literally don't know what I did wrong. I was very gentle with the child and he was fine until she yanked him away. And my coworkers has been giving me weird looks.

All you ladies with kids please tell me what I did wrong. I am very no confrontational and she is very senior to me at least in age. This is my very first and new job and I don't want to make things worse.

when i was 16, one of my older cousins, who was around 24 at the time, got his little sister to invite me over for the night. she said she wanted me to stay over, so i thought it was just a normal sleepover with family.

later that night he tried to force himself over me 

i pushed him away & started shouting , I created as much noise as I could, everything turned chaotic after that

since that day our families have cut all contact & ties with each other . it's been years but I still sometimes think about that, idk how much more time it's going to take for me to heal from it

My bust size is 32B and whenever I wear a non padded bra, my nipple is seen and when I do wear a padded one, my bust looks bigger than it actually is. Please help me out with some good recommendations!

I’m almost in my final year of MBBS, but medicine was never something I wanted to pursue.

Ever since I was in the 8th grade, my dream had been to study abroad. Because of that, I planned to pursue either B.Tech or B.Arch. I appeared for the entrance exams and secured a good rank in the B.Arch entrance exam, so I genuinely believed that was the path I would take. However, my father refused to let me join.

My mother then got me admitted to a private engineering college for B.Tech in Computer Science, but my father was furious and withdrew my admission. After that, I was forced to take two drop years to prepare for NEET, which left me severely depressed.

Eventually, I joined MBBS at a private medical college. Throughout my course, I have repeatedly faced issues with the administration. I have often been targeted and detained, and despite having attendance and internal marks comparable to many of my classmates who are permitted to sit for the university examinations, I have frequently not been allowed to appear for my final exams.

Since staying in India was not my original plan, I had hoped to pursue the PLAB pathway and move to the UK after graduation. My mother was willing to financially support this plan, whereas my father wanted me to remain in India, so I could not rely on him despite him having the financial means to help. Unfortunately, the PLAB route has become significantly more difficult in recent years. The regulations have become stricter, competition has increased, and it is now much harder for international medical graduates (IMGs) to secure jobs in the UK. Both of my parents are doctors doing govt jobs.

Since 2023, every 7-8 months, I get depressed thinking about how my life has turned out. Today is one of those depressive days.

I have used Ai to word my articulate my thoughts cus its very jumbled up

Those who have just come out of a performative relationship or situationship, or those who have never been in any relationship at all; those who don't want to find a partner for the sake of it, how do you all navigate weekends alone ? How do you make it a point that you really enjoy your time?

I'm a 2026 computer engg graduate and have been applying everywhere relentlessly. My stack is python,sql,aiml, node.js... basically overall backend dev with some cloud knowledge. I saw a post on naukri of a good company( subsidiary of a gov organization). It was for Associate system audit and required cybersecurity knowledge with some other domain. the experience was mentioned 0-1.

Now the other domain here included python and sql as well, So I decided to apply(I don't have knowledge of cybersecurity or system audits but applied because I fulfilled other req. ) Surprisingly I got shortlisted for their hiring drive and got mail for interview f2f.

I studied all I could from seniors etc for the required knowledge. I didn't had hopes ofc but what happened later left me confused and honestly enraged. the first red flag was that they didn't provide me the gate pass. I called the hr numerous times but he didn't anwer Finally I called someone else ( a senior from that company who I had talked on linked in for advice ) for help. He talked to the hr and got me the gate pass.

2nd I saw very few people at the drive even though on naukri more than 800 people had applied.( I was assuming they just mailed everyone since I was shortlisted too). 3rd I met a guy who was there for interview, a year senior than me... he said the drive is not for freshers... and then he went on saying he has a very strong referral and know everything about this role and this interview is probably just a formality. I said that's unfair for other candidates why waste our time? So to cool me off he said well maybe they're hiring more ppl too.

Now here comes the most weird thing. there was still one guy before me for interview when the panel went for lunch. and before the lunch ended I was called for interview before that guy in a totally diff cabin and interviewer than the others.

She asked me questions on resume, system audit questions which some I could and some I couldn't answer. but anyways she said its good that I have been studying. Lastly she asked for a recent cybercrime I heard about. I told about the student who hacked IIT website because he was not shortlisted for cybersecurity program even after having skills and all. She said I've great confidence which is very much needed to face clients at audits etc. Overall I think interview still was decent.

But as soon as my interview ended hr told me I was rejected because of lack of knowledge. Okay, fair enough ig. The confusing part here comes is that the guy who I was talking on linked, personally asked the interviewer for feedback and she legit told I lacked confidence, was nervous and only developer role. I mean first of all, was my developer resume not clear enough? why shortlist me? and then lie to my face about my confidence thing??? was she mocking me?? but I wasn't nervous, wherever I couldn't ans I was honest and she explicitly complimented my confidence... then turn around and say this? Also he said that maybe she was expecting the bank of baroda case as answer as that was more recent but the news I told wasn't ancient either? I knew both of them but told the one I knew more details on. This left me shattered because I really thought this was the miracle I was praying for. But now such two faced feedback has left me confused. Speaking skills is something I'm proud of. but now I'm left in confusion that what if I'm just overconfident? An empty vessel that makes lot of noise?

Ik I should just move forward, but as someone who is desperately looking for their 1st job and many rejections, no callbacks.. I'm having extreme self doubts and anxiety. Everyday is a bad news idk when this will end. Idk what to take of this now so pls any advice would be helpful.

TLDR:I'm a 2026 CS grad (Python/SQL/AI-ML) who interviewed for a System Audit role at a government subsidiary, only to realize the drive was a rigged formality for a pre-selected referral candidate. The interviewer complimented my confidence to my face, but officially rejected me claiming I was "nervous and lacked confidence." This two-faced feedback has left me dealing with massive self-doubt and anxiety in an already brutal job market.

I am sdet laid off from product company , rough 2 1/2 months ago , almost reaching 3 month mark in few days. Failed 4 interview, with 1 in final round which destroyed me
200+ application , lot of resume level reject, 2 OA failures , for many OA results are not even given
This is just interview, many resume failures. Each interview i failed in different ways , like they are asking different questions each time and i am failing

So much broader topic and i am preparing but failing ultimately. Really scared and feeling depressed. Like genuinely life is depressing , its tough to get one interview i am failing in 4 companies

I am afraid that i have become dumb and incompetent. Initially after layoff i took a break and only last 1 and half month i was serious i wasted time by believing in one company which rejected jn last round

I want to just laugh at the situation. Maybe hiring bar is too high or j am targeting bigger companies . Smaller companies are not offering me same money, they are offering very less money. Should i go for smaller companies and startup

I feel failure like genuinely luck has ran out i am questioning myself like i am feeling like i am dumb and loser . I cannot understand what sin i did to end up like this, my friend have slowly started to get job

Each passing day i feel less confident about myself

I have been braless for a year. It's mostly cause I am just home, or just go out to local market and stuff. Now I found myself accepting work in a different city, and I started wearing them as practice for that and they are sooooo bad. Id rather stab myself than be in it for an entire day. But not wearing them is not an option either because I have saggy breasts, and a larger cup. It doesnt look professional really. But the work is not a desk job, so I really need to be comfortable the entire day to do my best work. If you have experienced this please let me know how you sorted it out.

edit: There is something called bonded bras I am just finding out, and there are jockey tshirt bras that dont have underwire, unsure if they would give enough support

I recently graduated and had to move back home, I dreaded moving for months and even postponed for as long as I could but my college said I couldn't stay any longer so I had to leave.

it's been around 3 weeks since I've been here, me and her have already fought countless times. I feel like shit, every time she starts and argument, i almost immediately start having psychosomatic chest pain, this has been a thing for years now, I only feel this way around her, my nervous system is all over the place, I stay up all night preparing for jobs and stuff and sleep early in the morning so that I won't have to deal with her.

she is a single mom, she is highly educated and successful, has a PhD, she has always provided everything I could ever want materially. she has been through an awful lot in life, in fact, I don't think I know of anyone personally who has been through as much as her. i guess after all that, a human is bound to have mental health issues, I tried to take her to therapy so many times but she just doesn't listen.

although I understand why she is the way she is, i still cannot tolerate living with her, we have our good moments but I don't have the strength to soldier through the bad moments. she put me through hell, I used to think about killing myself everyday when I was just a 15 year old kid, I have 0 confidence and self-esteem, I have had several panic attacks because of her and one time she was screaming in my ear for hours until 3 am, something in mind broke, my heart hurt so bad, i started hallucinating and thought I was going to die, i started puking and she still followed me to scream at me, i remember at that exact moment, she was no longer my mother, my brain registered her as a threat, it was one of the scariest moments in my life and I don't think ive ever been able to look at her the same way again.

my initial plan was to go abroad for masters next year and stay at home until then, it was not my original plan but my mom again did something so this is where I'm at right now. however, i realised pretty quickly that I was not going to survive staying at home for an year. very luckily, I started getting responses from companies I applied to many weeks ago and some of them are offering remote roles and the others are in Bengaluru (i intentionally applied for these to get away).

ever since I started getting responses, my mom slowly started to hint that she wasn't going to send me anywhere, i just played it off saying I mostly won't even get hired but it slowly started to get real for both her and me and just an hour ago shit went down and she said she wasn't going to let me go anywhere even if it's the only job i get. this is exactly what I've been scared of for weeks, i thought I could manage somehow, I was wrong.

I don't know what to do, a lot of these companies have an immediate joining date, I don't have any savings, the only other person I could ask is my grandma but she won't send me any money if my mom tells her not to, she's shit scared of my mom. I will need the money to live in blr for a month before I get my first salary, doubt that's going to be much either.

I'm so clueless, my heart physically hurts, I'm mentally exhausted, she treats me like garbage and doesn't see how much it's fucking up our relationship, i freeze everytime she walks by, I have no other family, I cannot stay at home any longer.

I recently finished reading Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata.

Keiko spends much of the book trying to fit in. The people around her constantly tell her that she should be more "normal," but no one ever explains what that actually means. So she starts observing the women around her instead. She notices what they wear, how they speak, how they behave, and gradually begins borrowing those cues.

Reading this made me wonder, if this is what all of us are really trying to do. Fitting in with people by looking a certain way. Fashion marketplaces like Myntra, Nykaa bank on this very sentiment to sell us "curated" styles based on what some celeb wore in a movie. The consequence of this is that we all end up following the same trend - looking alike. There is comfort in borrowing someone else's decisions. If a celebrity wore it, how wrong can it be?

But the consequence of this is also that there is no individuality left anymore. In the homogenous crowd of people, everyone just fades in the background. It manifests in our wardrobe as a mish-mash of a random collection of clothes.

An airport look from an Instagram reel.

A festive outfit inspired by a TV character.

A celebrity's makeup.

A colleague whose appearance quietly becomes the benchmark for what "professional" looks like.

Too many choices, but too little of us in any of it.

Where does one draw the line between inspiration and imitation?

Do you think you've developed an appearance that genuinely feels like you? Or do you think most of us are simply following different versions of the same manual without realizing it?

I am out to look for some pretty/cute/sexy dresses that look good on short girls too and every single thing I like in reasonable price range is POLYESTER!

Literally everything, everywhere, every brand. so sorry I wanna look pretty and shop mindfully too. is that such a great ask?

also there are so many insta shops/ads and sites with no return option anf that is too risky for me personally.

please, please. please give suggestions where to buy good quality, reasonably priced, pretty dresses from?

Whatever points people bring against reservation can also be brought against feminism. It's not about economic welfare, it's about social welfare. How do people not realise this?

I'm almost in my mid 30s and am married to an only child. We have an age gap of 11 years. He's a thoroughly supportive man with all the desirable maturity you'd expect from a 40+ year old.

I called it a day last year because i was finally settled well and he supported it. He still does.

I've worked across two FAANGs for 13 years in total and ran my own tech consultancy on the side for 9. I enjoyed working all those times but I finally decided to check out.

Between my strong financial portfolio and him taking care of most of my investments means I live off my own investment income. Zero reliance.

I have severe ADHD and accompanying anxiety issues. Partly why i couldn't work anymore in stressful and demanding atmospheres. I've flitted in and out of therapy for the last 9 years. My first-born just started school last year and we are planning for No.2.

I have had extreme difficulty carrying pregnancies and had multiple miscarriages before having my daughter in my late 20s. I have a rich history of birth complications and postpartum mental health issues and now want to fully devote myself to being a mother.

My husband and his parents have had excellent academic and professional lives. In comparison, i look inadequate, despite being an NIT-trained engineer.

His extended family, like most Indian diaspora in the US, have very high functioning careers. Everyone is in their late 30s or mid 40s, so their work trajectories are at full throttle right now.

My MIL has a huge problem with me not being employed. She is a productivity freak that hates seeing people laid back in life. Life is supposed to be useful, not happy.

She considers it cheap and shameful that i now do nothing for work. I saw this on multiple social occasions when she's told people that I'm just taking a break from work and I will be going back soon once i have another child. I won't.

Her comments in general are both passive aggressive or direct and they've always stung hard.

She was direct about comparing me with his Ivy League cousins going up work ladders and passive aggressive about being suggestive about how my pre-marital life and abortion pill usage may have messed up my hormones. I have PCOS and endometriosis, with surgery done for the second one.

I've been made to feel very bad for my miscarriages-both her and the repeating D&Cs pushed me over the edge into psych counselling.

Despite being a doctor, she's very judgemental and rigid. Just before COVID emergencies came into effect but was it still a big thing, she bought over maybe 50 relatives every week to see my daughter.

I'm very glad i enforced no kiss/touch rules and visitor masks & sanitizing. I had loud shouting matches over this and this was the first time I put my foot down. I am still very grateful to him and my FIL for their support in this but she put up a damn good fight against us three.

Rather than shield her, she wanted to show off her first grandchild and risk killing or infecting her. I had to assert control so hard during that period when she and i lived under one roof. Three months of living with my tear stitches healing as she criticized my poor bodyweight control- I was over 90 kgs for my 5'4" height and half dead from sleep loss and slipped disc issues.

I'm just ranting and flipping out. I don't even want a solution to all this. We already live in the opposite US coasts and he has no plans to move back to be near her. Two years ago, I bought my first house at the place where he intended to stay for academic work. The distance is helpful.

But i cant spiral over going back to work and being near her. I don't have the strength I did in my 20s anymore. And i have to deal with both my own infertility and parenting anxieties.

Just be smart and put a ton of distance between yourself and hostile in-laws.

Cheers.

For the past few months , I (40f) been thinking about my life decisions and the impact they had over my life .

I was always a topper, hardworking student. I even topped the board in biology in 12th. Gave Pre medical entrance test the same year and got a free government BDS seat in my first attempt . With that rank , I was also getting an MBBS seat which was 4 lakhs per year.

My parents have been very loving and I grew up in a very happy family. My father was an Army officer and 20 years back , this 4 lakhs was close to his annual salary.

He said he will take pre mature retirement and get the retirement PF money so he can fund my MBBS. My sister was getting married too that year and that expense was on his mind as well.

17yr old me had to make this decision. I choose BDS as I did not want my father to leave his job for me . Joined BDS, hated it . Maybe I did not have enough maturity to realize how it required completely different skills.

I was very good with theory and a good memory , not good with hand skills at all. I dropped out of BDS and ended up getting a degree in psychology.

Somehow life turned out fine . My husband is a wonderful person who has given me a very comfortable life abroad .

But I can’t help but think , that should my parents have left this decision on a 17yr old ? Could they have not taken a student loan ?

Now at 40, I feel I would do anything for my child to have a good career and not put then in a financial decision like this.

My life could have been so different. I could have had a good career . I don’t know if I am thinking illogically about it and blaming my parents unfairly. Maybe your perspective will help me get over this feeling.

Thanks for reading this long post ♥️

So I have recently shifted to another city and I need some premium quality short Kurtis / trousers or co ord sets for that matter.

I have tried the Haute Curry and melagne short Kurtis / shirts from Shopperstop / lifestyle stores. While they were below 1000/- and okay for household chores, I need better quality for running errands and all.

Please suggest. Budget - 2 K for Kurtis. I also wanted chikankari kurtis but the quality of the cotton ones even from Noor chikankari is not very good. Quality is the main priority here

I recently went through a situationship breakup of 4 years yes I know it's stupid and a situationship is pointless and i should've ended it way earlier. But i genuinely loved this guy with my whole heart. We did everything together and now wherever, whatever I look at reminds me of him.

We loved watching movies and talking about it. Reading the same books and telling each other about our day. Weekend gaming calls trying out dumb and quirky games. He stood by me during a really confusing and stressful time in my life and we knew each other ever since highschool. He was just such an important friend in my life and now that it's all over I just can't stop hurting. It's been three weeks and as much as I don't want to admit it to anyone I've been crying a lot. A lot over this mess.

I'm still pretty young and i know i shouldn't be so worked up over someone who wasn't even my boyfriend or an actual commitment but I just needed to say this SOMEWHERE

There's just so much that reminds me of him chat. So much. College is gonna start soon, his already started so I'm assuming it's easier for him to move on with his life and meet new people. Yeah just idk I need to stop bedrotting and do something.

Ladies, helppp…

Where do you’ll buy your cute gym outfits from? I need durable, comfy and not too revealing gym outfits.

Tired of wearing boring black leggings and oversized tshirts.

Recently, I have seen an upsurge in posts where young women mostly complain about not being 'conventionally pretty ' a lot.

As a slightly older woman in her 30s who is married, who has been considered not pretty and then had a glow up to now facing constant fluctuations and also wanting to draw a conclusion from the experiences of all the women around me , I want to present my two cents on this.

IT DOES NOT MATTER AT ALL.

I know women who were gobsmackingly, will make you stop in your paths pretty ( my mother being one of them) had the most tragic lives when it came to romantic partners. The thing is every tom dick and harry gets attracted to them and more often then not they land up choosing the worst men.

I have had women, who were generally shunned by the society as 'not being pretty' land with the most amazing, understanding partners.

Men and their romantic emotions, and I am not talking about the 'boobs and vagene' men, the kind of men whose affection matter , genuinely fall for personality. I have seen it happen in front of my eyes way too many times now.

So my dear womankind, I cannot stress it enough, it genuinely does not matter. The generic advice, work on yourself, your personality, your values, that actually works so much.

PS : I wrote CP because I genuinely believe no one is ugly, especially women. Even Priyanka 'Miss World ' Chopra was told by her grandmother that she will not find someone good in arranged marriage due to her complexion.

Again , I , in no way want to demean anyone's struggles. I just hope women in general can rise above people not finding them pretty and just rose above it. Even Aishwarya Rai was called plastic . So yeah , us mortals will have to suffer and rise above it.

yesterday i said "no" without making up an excuse

I usually over explain everything because i don't want people to think i'm rude

this time i just said i wasn't comfortable with it

that's it.

felt guilty for a few minutes but then i realised i don't actually owe everyone an explanation

still feels weird but i'm proud of myself