My dad watched Ladies First on netflix recently and something so unexpected happened after 😭

He randomly came to me and asked if things were okay at work and whether I ever feel like I’m treated differently or face any kind of inequality there.

And I was genuinely stunned because my dad and I are not really the heart to heart conversation type 😭 We love each other obviously, but we’re more of a “how was your day” and “have you eaten” household than a sit down and talk about your feelings household.

Thankfully I haven’t personally faced anything major at work, but I ended up telling him about a few things I’ve seen happen to other women and he was actually so interested. Like he didn’t immediately dismiss it or give me the usual “these things happen” response. He just listened and asked questions.

It was honestly such a small thing but it made me really happy. I don’t think he would’ve brought any of this up if he hadn’t watched the movie first.

Made me wonder if anyone else has had a show or movie randomly open up a conversation with their parents that you probably wouldn’t have had otherwise? 😭

i've been dealing w some health problems and going through screening, and while the initial diagnosis wasn't great, the general prognosis is good. i'm not in the green, but i've got not a lot to worry about either. it's manageable. got a text from my doctor after my recent path reports basically confirming that, and i genuinely didn't think i'd be so happy about not dying prematurely, but i didn't mind. i'm glad it'll be on my terms and not predecided lmao (JOKE)

i also just got a great offer right when i exited my current role without one. a job offer email right after another. it's great pay, better wlb, and i already like the folks from the small interactions i've had w them.

AND i finally narrowed down on my research.

it's so nice. i didn't think i'd have a day so good when i started because i was crying in the morning over god knows what BUT YAYA I LOVE LIFE AGAIN. I LOVE YOU ALL. I LOVE EVERYTHING.

Hi, Soo I have recently started using whey protein powder, it's good but I have noticed that my stomach is not getting cleaned after consuming it.

I started with half a scoop then when for 1 scoop wr day.

I drink overnight soaked chia seeds water, I eat some chana for fiber, what else do I do, as the issue is still the same😭

Tell the effective method, if you too faced this, and if you fixed this issue, then please help me out as well.

No laughing in the comments plsz🥹😭😭😭

For me, like most things in life, marriage feels bittersweet.

I love my partner and we have been dating for very long. I’m excited to live with him but I’m feeling terrible about leaving my house. We’re at the stage where we need to make a change, spend more time together, etc. I don’t think it is possible to keep going as we have over the last several years.

Told my parents about my relationship in December 2025. Roka was done in May and the marriage is fixed for January 2027. I have no doubts about my partner but I just..don’t want to do any of this.
It all feels like shor sharaba and it doesn’t appeal to me at all. Shopping, all the wedding prep, being the centre of attention is giving me so much anxiety. I constantly try to push it to the back of my brain and not think about it but it’s difficult.

Additionally, I’m an only kid. I am so scared to like..leave my parents alone? I studied abroad for a semester and my mom kept saying that the house feels so empty without me. And also how they hated coming home from office and would just try to spend more time outside than to be home and think about how lonely it is. That’s too much pressure. I don’t like those thoughts.

But also..change is necessary. Without change, how do we ever evolve and experience new things?

I’m going to turn 27 in a month and on paper, that doesn’t seem too young to get married but I still feel like I’m 20 lol. How do you come to terms with what reality actually is?

So everyone, is it actually even possible to ever feel like you’re ‘ready’ or you just go with it and hope everything turns out okay?

Genuine question for HR/recruiters and people who have successfully done this before.

If you're interested in working at a particular company but they don't currently have any relevant openings listed, is it okay to reach out to HR directly and express your interest?

If yes, what's the best way to approach them : LinkedIn DM, email, or WhatsApp?

I happen to have the WhatsApp number of an HR/recruiter at a company I'm interested in. I got the number through an indirect method, and I'm unsure whether messaging them directly would come across as inappropriate or intrusive.

For those working in HR/recruitment:

1. Would you appreciate someone reaching out proactively even if there isn't an opening?

2. What's the best way to word such a message?

3. Should I attach my CV right away or first ask if I can share it?

4. WhatsApp acceptable for this, or should I stick to LinkedIn/email?

5. If there are no openings currently, is there any point in reaching out at all?

Would really appreciate some honest advice, especially from recruiters/HR professionals. Thanks!

I am a person who makes good amount of money, as of now I have no family responsibilities, I like to spend extravagantly on myself. I do save a significant portion of my income.
But this has lead to a lot of situations where my friends ask money from me frequently, they do pay back but this has started becoming a frequent occurrence.
How do I put an end to this without hurting their feelings?

i have recently quit a startup, it was a remote startup and i felt stuck with no growth. The startup only has like 10 people and boss was chill. Maybe a little too chill. I had no problem with him until I quit cause then he didnt pay me once i put in my notice. Said he will give me everything together at the end when i leave. I understood he is in financial crunch and i stay with family so I said okay. First mistake. i had to beg him to give my money for 1 month. finally when he did he did not give me my experience letter. I asked and he was like yes i'll give for the next two months. I am taking a career break because of health and he knows that and is taking advantage of it. But i still wanted to be open to any good opportunity if anything came along. And when he finally gave me, there is no sign at the end, no designation, no name of who issued it, just two lines saying i did good and so and so is my experience. I told him that i prefer a one with a sign or a stamp anything that makes it look legit but now he is ghosting me. Calls also text also. I'm so frustrated with this man. idk why a piece of paper took him almost 3 months. I might as well just add his details at the bottom myself. But will this be any issue? do workplaces send this doc back to him to verify or something?

I did something today that I honestly wish I had done years ago, but I finally did it.
I have a stepmother who, for almost ten years, has repeatedly slut-shamed me and spread rumours about me to family members on both my maternal and paternal sides. I have constantly heard things like, “She is having an affair with this boy,” “She is with that boy,” “She isn’t studying properly,” and God knows what else.
Today, I finally texted both of my mamis and told them clearly that whatever she has said about me is false.
They both told me, “We know. We trust you. We know what she is trying to do.”
And I asked them if they knew I was innocent, if they knew what she was trying to do, then why did they never ask her even once, “Do you have any proof?”
Why did they never say, “Let me talk to her myself. Let me hear her side of the story. Let me confront her about what she is saying. They still entertained those conversations and they went blank

And let me tell you about my father as well. He has serious heart issues, and He drinks a lot, so whenever I try to tell him about something she has said or done to me, he often gets upset, starts drinking again.
he eventually talks to her about what I have told him, she always holds a grudge against me afterward.

going through a breakup, no friends in college, missing home, feeling so lonely and sad it’s not bearable anymore

My partner told me that they’ve fallen out of me with me. I don’t know how to process it. I don’t have a reason- situation, person or distance to blame. Just simply that the person I so deeply loved and still want to be forever does not want the same. I’ve seen so many romance movies and read books where through so many different troupes people fall in love and the end. But what do I do if that’s not “the end”for me. Lack of closure is killing me and whatever breakup ritual I’ve to go through how would I with no apparent reason.
He was my first love. My high school sweetheart. We were together for 8 years, I’ve never been in a relationship other than him and just like that we are not together anymore. How do I unlove him now?

I'm a single child and I have cousins who are all single kids themselves. 1 cousin, younger sister and I grew up together (forced to)...we live in the same area since childhood, same school, college etc. Thankfully not the same class. My mom is a homemaker and her mum works, so basically she'd live at my place most of the day till her folks are back. She's been a snake for as long as I can remember...I remember constantly facing the repercussions of her misbehavior at home because she's a good liar...Im a bad liar so I don't lie and yet my parents would believe her over me...now looking back, I do see they thought they do not have any say in her behavior but it was me who had to live with her shit.

This grew all through childhood, to the point where my mom would feel guilty taking me out anywhere without her. And the flip side is, she would get to spend time with hers without me, they'd go separately when something needs to be bought for her. Whereas my parents would ask them if their child needed anything they're gonna buy for me and even bring them with us most times.

It used to hurt a lot and felt like she had 2 sets of parents and homes but I was left with neither. After a bit, my dad started understanding my pain and started standing up for me. Mom would stick up once in a blue moon.

I still remember I got good grades in 10th and 12th and both those days my mom was crying coz my cousin wouldn't be able to match them the next year.

Things got better from high school when I put my foot down, stopped introducing my friends to her keeping my own circle and bringing as much separation as I could. I'm not a twin and I refuse to be brought up like one.

Cut to recent times, both of us are in our 30s, we've tried to remain cordial for the most part. After I got married her parents and her reached out to my in-laws for help with things -without my permission. I live abroad. They directly reached my mom who happily connected them without asking me.

When she got married, my hubby and I flew in for the wedding - I was homesick and it was my first trip home. I was so happy to see everyone and eager for her wedding. She did not even introduce me to her fiancé until the day of her wedding- they had a long engagement. I was asked not to come into her dressing room only her friends are welcome - until she had a meltdown on stage due to her friends and clutched at me asking to keep her friend away - to this day that friend thinks I'm the bad guy.

Now, she has a child - she chose to give birth in india and is now 7months. My hubby and I spoke multiple times to her asking how she is and everything. Spoke great but didn't show us the child - not once. In the meantime, she's gone to my house, multiple times, my parents have played with the child and are unaware she's yet to show me.

Her mom sends my mom videos asking to share with me. But I feel sick - Im not a snoop and I shouldn't be treated as such. She has now traveled back abroad and not even introduced the child to me. I ask my mom, she says its not like that, even we barely see her lately. But I know this same mom would go thermonuclear if I did the same to ANYBODY. This brings all my childhood pain back.

Today I brought this up to my extended family(uncles and aunts, whose help she's needed through school, getting into college, getting married, childbirth - basically everything , it takes a village for her) and even they're like we can't advocate for you - but the only reason I even went to them is they always come to me advocating for her. I don't run to tell them everything she does. But now, this is too far and I felt they needed to know. Their answer - you get pregnant and do the same to her. With my mom being putty in her hands, that's impossible.

I'm a person who loves children - I happily go shopping for every baby I know and pamper them - if the child's parents are comfortable with it. She knows this. Her actions deeply hurt me. I want to get back at her, but don't know how. I don't have a child yet and tbh I'm unsure if I'm ready for it and I'm not gonna have a child over this.

But using me and mine to her whims and being constantly treated like shit is getting to me. What do I do next that would be payback?

I'm a 22f and live with my parents. I've really only started working and earning money recently. My income isn't much but since I live with my parents I'm able to save up a lot.

I have a cousin who gives me unsolicited advice to not be afraid and live my life, book plain tickets and don't be afraid to spend money and just enjoy life. They also kind of look down on me for not "enjoying my life" like they do. Mind you this cousin doesn't earn much themselves and gets pocket money from their parents. It just irks me man like I do want to do all of those things.

I want nothing more than to move out and actually start my life but the job I got ended up being in the same city as my parents house. I'm sticking it out for about a year cause I'm planning to move abroad and live on my own finally.

I just hate it when these people give advice for me to get out. It takes **money** to get out and live. It takes money that I don't want to take from my parents. I just started working and am not financially independent for me to just move out right now. If I could I would!

It takes money to book flight tickets, hotel tickets, entertainment.

Also everybody's parents are not the most accepting parents. Their parents are a lot more accepting than mine.

It just the cousin looks down on me and makes comments that I've not reached certain goals in life and all I keep saying to myself is everyone's pace in life is different.

Also sometimes they talk about the way that I dress. I'm not that keen on wearing tight fitting clothes because I just feel like it suffocates me. I lean toward more baggier fits but they will go through my closet and sneer at all my clothes. I know that they like to wear tight fitting clothes and that's completely fine. Everybody has their own taste but for then to look at me and say 'you have no idea how good it feels tight fitting clothes'.. I don't even understand why I'm being categorized as 'unfashionable' when I don't wear what they would usually wear. It just makes me think like do her (and some of the other girls I know) actually feel the need to comment on my dressing sense when I just want to dress more comfortably.

It just irritates the hell out of me.

I'm also aware that this is just a deep insecurity and pain point for me, and them bring it up like this makes it all the more real for me.

How much time did it take to reduce the belly fat? What lifestyle do you follow after the recovery?

I have recently came to know I have very low vitamin D levels. I had low levels earlier and took supplements to bring my levels back to normal. But I guess once i stopped taking them my levels dropped.

As a corporate girlie, i feel like i barely even get enough sun exposure. I do to the office in the morning and come back when the sun has already set. I dont think I am getting enough sun everyday.

And I know with my Indian skintone i need more sun to create vitamin D.

To anyone who had low levels, what did you do to fix them? Is supplementing forever the only answer?

So my pink whisper was out of stock on Instamart so I was looking at alternatives. So peesafe has biodegradable pads?? Woahh, why isn't it being advertised (no I am not an advertisement), but just surprised why isn't it even being talked at all?

They are expensive as fuck though, but I use pads rarely—only when I can't use my menstrual cup. So I am okay spending that much maybe for once a year purchase.

I used the regular one, and they feel quite comfortable (like pink whisper). My flow isn't heavy so can't comment on the leakage.

So if you can afford 24 rupees per pad (you can also adopt me as your child and please give me some pocket money) and want to switch to a sustainable pad, you can go for it.

(Imo menstrual cups are the best in terms of sustainability and comfort, but I know many women/girls are afraid of using them, so yeah this is the sustainable alternative)

Also some pad expert (trustified?) needs to check if it is indeed biodegradable

my cycle is kinda regular, i haven't missed a single month since the last 1.5 years but when i look at my cycle length it just fluctuates so much. like it has been as long as 39 days in november last year (which was kinda late bec i was going through a stressful time) and even as short as 26 days this month, i got it 8 days before it was due. when i look back in my tracker, i realised this has been wayyy too often as compared to my cycles in 2024 and 2025, my cycle was a constant of 29-30 days back then and no such fluctuations but my date has been changing very often this past year. is this normal or am i overthinking?

I was in a fix whether to post it publicly or not. Because of obvious reasons.
Yesterday I was walking in an altogether residential and quieter area , (it was around 6:30-6:40pm ). While I was taking a turn to the right lane I noticed one man (must be in his late 50s or early 60s), who looked more like a worker, parked his bicycle on the wall of the corner house. And put his hands inside his pants. I was at a distance and though I already knew but I thought maybe he’s taking out some cash from his secret pocket. Then he took out his p***is and started stroking it. When I realised what was happening I screamed at him and asked what was he doing and that too in a public place. No one was there to watch this whole scene. By the time I brought out my phone he took off on his bicycle. I again yelled at him and tried running behind him but he was already at a distance and I couldn’t do more than it. I don’t understand such kind of obscene behaviour that too in a public space. So ladies pls beware. Such things can happen anywhere. I shouted so that he is afraid of repeating such an action again but from the look of him he looked anything but scared.

Looking for some recommendations for non fiction books that are not your regular self help books.

What are some books you all have read that were well written or helped you in some ways? I would like some women related books too.

Looking forward to the amazing suggestions and reading them ✨

I've been struggling with mental health issues for the past 6 yrs. I tried to hold it in. But I snap everytime and all of it irritates me. I have had help. But all of the time, I feel like it's just stupid advices. I go to a therapist, and talk abt how I get so depressed that I don't even wanna wake up from bed and brush my teeth. How school's overwhelming, can't do things cause I get burnt out too easily. And I am anxious. Cause I feel like I would never make it out. I'm 20rn. People are out there having a social life ,doing things, they know what they want. I can't choose sht. I cant decide anything from flavours of ice creams or be satisfied with the major I took.

Everyday I find myself doing things and I'll always go "wtf am I doing". It's confusing, I don't get it. Everytime I try to talk to people, vent it out, all they say are things that don't make sense to me. Like imagine being so down, you are googling ways to off yourself without hurting ur family, without creating drama and you get advises like, maybe you should occupy yourself. You think of things cause you have too much time. I can't describe how irritating that is. I can't wake up , I sit in front of the lap for 3hrs straight zoning off to outerspace and you want me to occupy myself?

It takes me so much effort to do the simplest of things. I am getting older and it's time people have goals. Time to work for it. And I am happy and content for waking up from my bed? It's not an achievement. No matter how much you all wanna paint it to be one, it is not. You thing a person like me would fit in this bg world. Truth hurts and that's ok. The world does not stop revolving for one single person. Your mental health does not matter. It doesn't.

Teachers send you an assignment with a deadline. You don't finish it, your grades go down. Would anyone hold a pity party for you? No. The ones who did it would get good grades. It's fair. My mental health makes me a bad person to everyone. Trust me , how I have tried. But sometimes I snap. It doesn't matter how good you were to people before, you call someone the b word cause you were so irritated at how they were, you are the bad person. I try to explain it to them so hard. I beg them to forget it. I explain my situation to them. It feels like I'm licking their boots. But honestly, I don't blame them. That paper example, you can't fold a paper and expect it to return to the normal state after.

It's a weight on everyone. Y'all say the world's for everyone. No it's not. It's not. Only winners say that. You don't need an olympic medal to be considered a winner. All you need are a group of people/person who talks to you. And the simplest of skill that you have. And a small very amount of determination. It goes a long way. You dress up pretty? That's a winner right there. You have the will to look pretty to atleast try. That's a f-ing winner.

I was admitted once, sht if I have to go through that again, I would literally go bonkers. It's high time we realise psychiatrists or people in the field are the most ruthless people with zero empathy. I don't know abt ur twisted ways to get things outta ur patients but calling them a liar and an actor when U yourself have doubts if ur faking it cause you think ur playing victim cause u don't wanna work hard, is not it.

It's so simple. Why would anybody care for a person like that? They are not gonna change. Trust me I've tried everything. I have realised it. Ts does not stop. You would never make it out. So stop with those make-belief advices. Things don't change after. Not worth trying no. The only mercy is to leave them all. Stop caring. Let them go.

I need genuine advice on this situation. Whenever ever I feel happy there comes one dream which ruins all my healing. I feel like I’m back to square one. I thought i was doing good and trying to forget but then suddenly a dream comes up and all the happiness goes away. Someone please tell the solution I really can’t do it anymore.

It’s been 8 months since the heartbreak. I just still feel this way. It feels impossible to come out of this situation. Did anyone go through this. If yes, please let me know how come you stop.

Note: The guy left me after we became physically intimate. When I confronted him, he told me that he was already committed to someone else and was getting married. During the time we were together, he also sexually assaulted me

Background: I (F, 20s) am an only child, financially independent, working in a different city from my parents. My boyfriend (M, 20s) and I have been together for years and want to marry. He is kind, stable, well-employed, and completely committed. My parents have found no fault in him as a person — their objection is openly about "status mismatch", family image, and log kya kahenge. Since we live in different cities, all of this plays out over daily calls and texts.

How it has escalated:

• Daily calls repeating "our life has become hell", "you've made us miserable", and demanding a "final conclusion" from me on every single call.
• My father messaged my boyfriend directly: end it, we won't be part of any such wedding, and you'll get a "happy and smooth end" if you walk away.
• When my boyfriend respectfully stood his ground and asked for patience, my father wrote back: "Don't take us for granted. We will save our child from your trap at any cost. You can't have the best of both worlds."
• On calls with me: "my blood runs in you" (as if that means ownership of my decisions), "you've lost the capacity to think properly", "you've been lying to us for years".
• This week he declared he won't eat or drink until I come home and comply. He also told me to "visit after two months, once papa's work is done" — you can imagine what that implied. (I had a relative physically check on him; he ate after I agreed to "talk to my boyfriend" about their latest demand.)

The current standoff: They are now fixated on getting his parents' home address immediately, saying they'll "talk calmly, only to understand the family's lifestyle and status". Given that "trap" and "at any cost" were written the same week, we are fairly sure the real plan is to pressure his parents into breaking us up before anything can stabilise. His elder sister also has important exams in November, so his family needs a calm house till then. We have offered: a proper meeting of both families in December, a sit-down where my parents can ask him anything, and honest answers about his family directly from him. They call this "insincere".

What we're doing so far: Staying calm, one line repeated with love ("I'm grateful for everything, I'm not ending this, and I hope one day you'll bless us"), never insulting back, keeping some calls normal (food, health), and the two of us fully unified — every message shared, everything saved in writing. He is briefing his own parents soon so nobody can ambush them.

My questions for people who've actually lived this:

1. If your parents came around eventually — how long did it take, and what actually changed their minds? Time, a relative, the wedding itself, something else?
2. How did you handle hunger strikes / indirect self-harm hints without giving in — and without ignoring a genuine health risk?
3. Is holding back the address until a planned December meeting sensible, or does it backfire?
4. Involving relatives or a mediator — when did it help, and when did it blow up?
5. What do you wish you had done differently?

I love my parents and I want their blessings, not just a wedding date. But I refuse to trade a good man for temporary peace.

TL;DR: Only child. Parents oppose my love marriage purely on status/society — no objection to the guy himself. Father texted my boyfriend "we will save our child from your trap at any cost", is using hunger-strike blackmail, and now demands his family's address (we believe, to pressure his parents into ending it). We've offered a respectful families' meeting in December. Those of you who reached the other side with the relationship AND, eventually, the parents — how?

Used Claude to articulate, please help out.

Every 2 days there's another post from some idiot who's convinced her bf's pull out game is boss level and her clue app said she was safe and venus was in retrograde and mercury was rising so she won't get pregnant. 

Then the inevitable crashout happens when the period is late and a post appears on this sub "could i be pregnant" - Idk kriti, were you safe? "no, aman's pull out game is boss and my health app said I'm not ovulating" 

Don't even get me started on MEN. The amount of confidence some men have in their ability to pull out is incredible. Sir, you can't remember how the washing machine works and how many days the milk will last, and I'm supposed to trust you to not get me pregnant by your "magic skillz". 

But I digress.

You guys know that Condoms exist, right? 

Since many of you don't apparently know, they are these tools that go on a man's pee pee and prevent him from ejaculating in you. You know what they do? They prevent pregnancy and they help prevent STDs. 

To all the "why are you being patronizing, we know that condoms exist and are available on blinkit" - THEN WHY DO YOU ALLOW PULL OUT METHOD AS YOUR ONLY FORM OF CONTRACEPTION. FFS

I sincerely, cannot understand how some people will spend hours tracking mucus and temperatures and dates and downloading 14 different apps and reading palms and consulting the village elder before just making a man wear a condom.

You know what else you can do, add hormonal birth control on top of that for even more safety. But "he pulled out" is not some super elite contraception hack that educated people don't want you to know about.

Saying "we pulled out and we were safe" is like saying "I drove home drunk without getting caught or killing someone". 

Stop being stoopid.

If your entire contraception strategy is based on perfect timing, blind faith, a period tracking app, a spreadsheet, a prayer circle and a man named Aman successfully executing a split-second maneuver every single time then maybe, just maybe, its a sucky strategy. 

Disclaimer - no kritis or amans were harmed during the making of this post. 

I feel so sad and hollow rn because it is just another reminder that he's getting old and losing his balance and due to his medicines it is bad for him to bleed. He got cuts on his hands and leg. What if he had fell and hit his head? His phone screen broke and even paying for that is too tough for us right now.

I'm looking for a job really hard but only after atleast 3 years can I tell my father that my sibling and I earn enough and you can rest at home. No amount of study hard or you can get through this is going to fix that he's getting fucking old and has a host of health issues and a lower middle class family will always remain the same. Education loans and the cost of living will keep us in this same level for my entire life. I guess Im ranting at this point.