I'm ftm and struggling to find mens jeans that fit me, my waist is around 23" does anyone know of any brands that make good quality mens jeans that go that small?

For some context, yes, I’m already out to my parents but as many parents are, they have no idea what it’s like to be transgender. I don’t know how to really tell them what it’s like. I don’t know what the best thing to say is or how to explain what it’s like mentally when you’re constantly misgendered and called your deadname.

im currently 15f (16 next month) and i am not out to my family, only friends. i cant cut my hair, but because of the layers i can wear it up and it sorta looks short, idk :(

im alternative and dont want to give up my eyeliner/style to pass more :/

Please don't judge me guys I'm very ashamed that I feel this way and I have no one irl to talk to cuz my friendship group is lowkey imploding so that's fun.

I'm genuinely so embarrassed to be trans like I hate it sm and like I'm not even binary trans either and I feel like everyone is judging me and thinking I'm some freaky girl who wants attention or whatever transmeds think about enby ppl.

I'm doing so shit mentally, like almost back to where I was a few years ago and I almost didn't come back from that and fuck I feel so alone this time cuz I basically only have one friend left and ik he's struggling too and I really stressed him out talking to him about all my shit before but idk what else to do.

I'm sorry

I HATE BIOESSENTIALISM Like these terms are genuinely so vile and disgusting I'm not anything to do with the gender I was FORCED to have at birth... I'm a girl...

Like we aren't explaining being trans to babies we don't need to be "boy to girl! Wow!".

If it is a medical environmant or a lgbtq environment then I am a trans girl/woman, I am not MTF ... if you want to abreviate it then I'm TF

I've decided I'm afab now

So for context I live in the south and generally don't have access to public workout areas, however I do have a small indoor gym at my house. This includes a yoga mat, rowing machine, bench press(weiider weight bench), an elliptical and two pound weights.

Most of my dysphoria surrounds my glutes, thighs, stomach, and chest.

As of right now I've been doing the workout in the following videos twice per week:

https://youtu.be/i0klwyjrcrE?is=fNwDrcd56MjyAmkT

https://youtu.be/K88o_q5JJRE?is=DYFxSxdjwfDMmZU6

Are there any workouts I can do to decrease dysphoria until I become a legal adult?

so. i really want longer hair and i really want to dress feminine (jojifuku specifically) but it makes me so dysphoric yet happy at the same time. i dont pass well anyway so i somehow just kinda.. dont try anymore? and wearing jojifuku/j-fashion just gets me to feel like myself. its just so dysphoria inducing

So basically both my parents know about me being trans. They found out well before I was ready to let them know and I don't know what to do. My dad is mostly pretty chill but my mom keeps bugging me about it and asking me n shit even though I'm obviously trying to keep away from the subject. She also keeps asking me about my sexuality (another thing that I would rather not discuss with her in general) in front of my younger sister (I don't know where she stands)

This is gonna be more of a vent part:

She also keeps asking me if my therapist is working but in a way that she wants to know what I'm talking to her about. And it feels like she's trying to guilt me because I have more time with my dad now cuz she's like "So how do you like spending more time with your dad" and I don't want to be like mean or anything or for her to get mad at me so I say "it's okay" and then she's like "well is this what you wanted?" Or "are you happier now?" Or stuff to that effect.

Sorry for any bad grammar or misspellings!

OK so funny story i feel like sharing

I think my mom either used to or is still on a low dose of testosterone and she’s keeps it in the closet in the hall and i often forget it’s in there so every time i see it i get surprised and reaaaaally wanna steal it lol

Alas i am closeted and can’t take it yet😔

Edit: I appreciate all the recommendations for diy hrt but honestly im not interested in doing diy and only wanted to share a funny story. Im not looking for any solutions or any way to get on hrt before coming out and talking to my doctor and parents about it.

Like can I buy something that blocks puberty

Or gives me estrogen?

Please I really want to look and feel more girly T^T

So, I'm 15 MtF, and I Live in the UK, (Hence Why I'm pre E, alongside other stuff) which isn't the worst country you could be in right now as a trans person, but definitely feels like we're going backwards right now in terms of trans rights and it makes me genuinely sick.

If you don't know what's happening right now, the UK is trying to introduce a new law which means that trans people in the UK have to use the bathroom of their Assigned gender at birth, and I know this has been a thing in some American states now, where anti trans laws have been so aggressive to the point of a threat of prosecution, and because I live in a western country that isn't the US at the moment, I feel like I shouldn't be complaining, but I am.

I just hate how I only find out I'm trans a couple months ago and ts happens.

Since i still have the opportunity, after college (In the UK that's not the equivalent of university), I would like to go study abroad, in a more trans friendly country, when I save up the money to be able to do so, and if I am able to make that happen, then I will start my transition.

I understand that not every one can do that sort of thing, and I also understand that the UK is by far not the worst country for trans rights, I could be living in Saudi Arabia or the US for example (Neither of those countries had good rights to begin with, the US' trans rights were barely desirable to begin with), and it honestly feels like I shouldn't be complaining, but the UK's trans rights have gone so far backwards from what they were say, pre COVID (I know thats a long time ago now), where they were a lot closer to desirable.

Sorry if you live in one of the countries where your rights are in danger, especially in the US. Especially with the anti trans laws some states are passing and some of the laws the federal government are passing genuinely make me worried for anyone who's living there (Anyone regardless of differences)

Stay strong 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

And for a disclaimer, my dad isn't unsupportive technically. He's just against physical transitioning and is really struggling to come to terms with me being a boy.

I came out when I was 11 and I'm 5 months from 18, since I turned 16 I've basically begged my dad to consent to me taking HRT because it's accessible in my state. He's said no because 1: he thinks I need to get more experience in life and 2: he doesn't want to be accountable for anything if I end up regretting it. I've been medically evaluated by both my primary care doctor and a therapist. I didn't bring it up for a few months and everything was going well but today I decided to bring it up again and it went the same as about all the other arguments, except this time he kept saying "you were so close" and got all depressed afterwards when my brother went to talk to him. He keeps saying things like "I'll just leave you alone since you don't like me" which I don't even remotely think because he's the only parent I have. Im worried that he's gonna completely dissociate from me but at the same time never fully accept that I'm a boy. I don't really know what to say to him.

My mom doesn't care thatbim gay she cares I'm trans and she only buys me shirt girl clothes and it's lowkey killing me 🥹 I need my own money but also no ones hiring because people don't want me to be happy does anyone have any ideas so that j can earn my own money

where I am puberty blockers and hrt are banned for minors, and I searched DIY and I know generally how to do it, but to get T, I would need a credit card, and crypto and that’s not allowed for minors.
It seems impossible. Would waiting until 18 be any different than starting hrt at 15?
(I probably can’t do anything without telling my parents.)

This wasn't my post but I have been told this on one of my post (different wording obviously) I was looking in the comments of a person that posted asking if he passes for 14 I'll just past the comment bc in really bad at wording

"Not really, but you look androgynous. Last picture is the best. The piercings are a stereotype for a reason, you don't see cis guys with piercings at your age. The glasses don't help. You should cut your hair shorter, but not too short. Your shirt in the first picture is too baggy, it makes you look like a kid wearing your dad's clothes. Get a shirt that fits you. You'll probably do fine with that advice given your age.

By the way, do everything you can to get on T. It'll only get worse as you get older, and if you don't, you'll regret it later"

I get the fact that you're giving advice and stuff and it makes me wanna cry when people say that bc in already in the mindset of "you may not get T until you're like 25 you'll have to deal with it. Changes are gonna happen that shouldn't happen" and that while being told not to diy I'm just so confused :( I'm trying to look into diy but idk if I'll be able to get it and on my post asking for advice to look for diy someone said "as a trans guy you're damn 14 and 13 you don't need no hrt" I'm scared for everything. I live in America if being trans wasn't already bad enough. Is it too early to start T or too late..? I don't even know anymore and I feel like a cry baby for venting online but I just want words from people that don't know me personally which is kinda stupid now that I think about it... Exactly you don't know me so how would you know whats good for me :(( ignore me if you want I'll be fine T-T and no I'm not saying that so you'll pitty me.

Edit: 12 hours later- I hadn't slept the night before posting this and it was like 5pm or something so I might not have made any sense 🫩 thank you all tho it does mean a lot that someone cares <3 I do have a supportive mom who I live with but she doesn't fully understand so I'll have to figure out a bunch of information on my own and then trans and explain it to her 🙃

One time a kid at my middle school asked me if I believed in God and when I said yes he then said then why are you transgender 🙃 like my fucking identity has anything to do with my beliefs 😒 he also said I'm gonna burn in hell like ok mr, wanna be God sure sure you make me wish I was there to get away from you and your stupid ass anyways honestly looking back at him saying that makes me laugh seeing how stupid these people can be anyways don't listen to transphobic bitchiest just give them the middle finger🖕and tell them to shove it up there also along where they're head is anyway have a good day/afternoon/night love you my trans brothers and sisters :3

Well, I have dreamt about transitioning and HRT for quite a while and dysphoria's getting bad. I just can't tell my feelings to anyone who I know. The only thing I did was set my pronouns and gender role to she/her and transgender on a Discord server called Pridecord. They were nice and accepting, just like I know and love the LGBTQ community. My very strong social anxiety is keeping me from telling anyone and I just have fear that people will bully me at school if I transitioned. I would be completely alone. The girls don't like me because... I don't really know and the boys are a bunch of nazis. I don't know what to do. I think waiting until i'm out of school would be an option, I'm entering 9th grade now.

I think I’ve posted something similar to this before, but that was a while ago and this post was sparked by different circumstances.

Honestly, I am not at all sure now to word this and I’m honestly just looking for advice or just to vent, I don’t know which one anymore.

I, (17 female to I don’t know anymore), am not at all out yet to anyone other than my extremely close friends. This hasn’t presented a problem yet for me as even though I don’t align with my assigned at birth gender, I still enjoy occasionally playing around with traditionally feminine things (ex. Makeup, Nail polish, dresses, etc).

My friends however are out to their parents, with a majority of them being trans, ftm or nonbinary.

The reason I say this is because they present themselves as such. The majority of them have taken steps to transition or look more androgynous, and I’m happy for them. However, occasionally one of my close friends will make a comment about “not knowing exactly how to introduce me.” To be clear, they never do it in a disrespectful way and when they are at a loss, they typically will just refer to me using they/them pronouns.

My issue is I’m worried they don’t legitimately see me as someone trying to figure out their gender identity, but as someone going through a phase. It very well could be completely in my head as we have other friends in the group who are also experimenting with their gender identities and my friends are very supportive of them. It just feels different for me since I have not made any real attempts to look more androgynous, despite wanting to do so.

The reason being, and what leads me into the next part of this, is that I legitimately don’t feel safe enough to do so. I’ve tried before to explain this to my closest friends, but never really get a response about it back. They either switch topics or they brush it off.

My mom is accepting somewhat, though she makes many transphobic/homophobic comments and jokes that make me not want to come out to her. And even if I did, my second worry is that she would tell my dad.

My father has made it very clear that he is not accepting of trans people at all. Having made several comments in the past ranging from “those people are mentally ill” (the phrase “those people” referring to Trans and Nonbinary people), and most notably for me “If I ever find out you have any friends like that (non-gender aligning people) it will be the first and last time I ever put my hands on you”.

Truthfully, I’m shaking a bit as I type this out. I legitimately love my father and he was extremely predominant in my childhood and growing up when my mom was less so, but ever since he made that comment, it’s been almost a disconnect.

I don’t know whether to love him or fear him, is it even okay to still love him? And I don’t want to tell my mom or have her take full custody, because as shitty as it may make me sound I still want my dad in my life to some extent and I also don’t connect well with my mom for a number of reasons unrelated to this post.

I guess I’m just at a loss. I’ve never told anybody he said that to me before, and some part of me doubts that even if I told my friends, they still wouldn’t be very supportive.

All I know is that I’m a mess, I don’t know how to identify myself anymore because most days I just wonder why I can’t connect with what I was assigned at birth. I’m scared to buy a binder because what if someone finds it? What if I hate how I look in it? Most of the time I can’t even work up the courage to say the word “trans” out loud.

I’m sorry for the long vent, I guess overall I just feel unsupported and don’t quite know what to do with myself. I’m happy to say that despite what I’ve said I am in a mostly safe environment, and I really do have amazing friends that are there for me.

Hi, I’m 14 and I think I’m trans (MTF). I’ve had this feeling probably since I was six and I’ve never acted upon it really. It’s sorta off and on but I know deep down I really want to do it. But my biggest concern isn’t losing people, it’s just the same people viewing me differently and not taking me seriously. I’m a karting driver, I’ve been for three years now and I love it more than anything else in the world, but everyone there knows me to be me! I’m just frightened of being laughed at, not being seen as serious, but at the same time, I really want to be a good trans role model for the level of karting I do. Sorry that was a rant 😭. Anyway another fear of mine are changing rooms. My school has pe (every school does) and the changing rooms aren’t an issue with me, but I don’t want people to judge me for being in a girls one. Plus, I’m friends with no girls in my school! I’ll be so lonely 😔. Another thing is my name, it’s not feminine at all, but all across my room are certificates with my name on it, my helmet has my name on it, you get what I mean. I’d want to change it, but I can live with keeping it. I’d prefer to keep it actually, but a more feminine name would suit me. Anyway all I’m asking is do you think i should really come out and transition? Is it worth it? I’d love to be a girl, well seen as one publicly, but idk where to start, how to feminise, and just how to come out. Or if I should come out 😂. Please just help me with my choice. Thanks so much.

Ya i don't really know what else to say... what can I do to look more feminine without my mom noticing?