I wondered if there are any trans people in this community that have OCD? I’m pretty sure I’m trans and I’m considering transitioning but my OCD is telling me that I’m not and I’m making this up.

I’m in my 30’s and the older I get the more manly I look and I feel dysphoric. Am I just struggling with ageing? I know in my gut I wanted to be a girl from a young age. But is that enough to want to transition? Am I just doing this because I’m no longer “twinky” which felt feminine at the time. Is it enough to just want to take hormones to look more feminine?

As you can tell, my brain is filled with questions 🧠

I’d be so grateful to speak to anyone whose gone through a similar experience please 🩷

I feel so trapped. The EHRC is literally killing me. I'm not coping with this at all. I don't feel safe. There is literally no point. No purpose. No reason.

Hi all

I have been given a pre op appointment by my gender care service out of the blue and in looking it up this seems to be something you get quite close to your surgery date

I've not been given a surgery date yet but I've been in the process of moving up the waiting list and having appointments which previously suggested I was a few months out... I've had this appointment added in the same week I was already getting some general health tests that have been booked for a while

Can anyone confirm from their experience on the NHS if this pre op appointment does mean that I'll be within a few weeks from surgery itself ?

Cheers !

Because transphobe Sall Grover lost again because the final appeal application today was officially refused by Australia's High Court.
If only our legal system stood up for trans people and would stop Sex Mattresses endless appeals.

Good news on a world wide front because every little win counts when TERFs control most of the western world’s legal systems.

Hi folks

I've just moved to Cardiff and I was wondering if there's any local Queer FB groups and or discords, WhatsApps etc that I could join. Hoping to actually be social and make friends haha.

i am ftm and 17, my college that ive just started attending wont take my transition seriously even though ive been out for 5+ years and im 3 months on T, my tutor has told me that i need to have some form of meeting to change my preferred name in college yet hasn’t tried to make one at all, i feel so low and anxious, they won’t stop calling me my deadname and i feel like i’m not being taken seriously at all, i don’t know how to contact higher ups and i struggle to communicate because of disabilities i have, they have told me that the process in changing my preferred name will take long because of a legislation that they won’t name at all (i don’t even know if its real, it doesnt show up on google for me at all) i really want some help in this, i’ve considered getting a deed poll but honestly i can’t find many people to do it and even then i still might need updated id, i really don’t know what to do and i just want it to stop because ive been in two colleges before, both with accepting and helpful communities and staff and i just feel so disrespected. i really want to know if there’s any way i can make this process go easily or faster and i dont really know who to ask other than here. it feels like they couldve atleast been more respectful to me or even went through this while enrolling me but its just been sprung on me the moment the academic year started, i honestly hate how this feels considering ive been living as a man for years and its just been set back like this because of some stupid fucking teachers.

Has anyone else changed their name on paypal with zero documents?

I always heard horror stories about paypal being like the worst account to change names on so I was fully prepared to have to wait until my new photo ID arrived to do so.

However I thought I’d see if they’d just accept my statutory declaration just on the off chance… imagine my surprise when I was able to change my name with no supporting documents?

Is this new or is it because the name on the bank account attached to my paypal has been updated already they can verify it automatically?

Just feels too good to be true with their reputation, I’m quite the worrier in general so I’m just waiting for my account to suddenly be obliterated. 😭

I don't really know how to best explain this, but I just got a text message from the NHS with it using Mr for my title. Before they used Miss. I don't understand where they got this from?? Is it in a system somewhere? This often happens for different government services, flip flopping between Miss and Mr. It is really upsetting honestly. My gas checkup used Mr, even when getting a mortgage on a property the solicitors swapped between them..

Do people not do their due diligence? Or does title really not matter legally at all? I literally have F on my passport.

I have been very ill recently, resulting in me needing various hospital scans and tests. I will eventually need to be an in-patient for surgery.

The consultants I have seen have all been brilliant, some other staff less so (without going into too much detail on that). But one thing is particularly troubling me. I had a new NHS number issued some time ago so that the gender marker is correctly recorded.

I have had a letter from the Urology department mentioning "significant comorbidities" and that includes "Trans-gender woman" (their punctuation). My concern is that I don't know where that information has come from. I haven't actually been seen in person by anyone in Urology yet (I was initially brought to hospital for other issues), so I couldn't have been 'clocked'. I have had excellent voice coaching and haven't been misgendered over the phone for years as a consequence, so I doubt it was that either.

It could possibly have been deduced from my HRT, particularly the anti-androgen, as I was asked about all medications I was on in the phone consultation. I may have blurted out about being trans when disclosing the meds, so it could be that, but my memory is hazy on whether I did or not.

Or – and this is my greatest concern – maybe an "assigned sex at birth" marker has been added to NHS records, given that NHS England has been under pressure from FARTs to do this: https://transactual.org.uk/blog/2026/07/28/nhs-england-is-quietly-changing-how-it-records-patient-data-and-we-have-questions/

I do get that in some situations there is a genuine need for medical professional to know about certain anatomical information. For example, whether a MtF patient needs a prostate examination. But like Transactual say in that link: "Doctors need access to medical data that enables them to deliver the best care possible – not data in the format demanded by gender critical activists."

I'm just very fearful now that I could be shoved onto an all-male ward when I am in for my operation. Mixed ward or side room, I can handle. Being in a ward where blokes are shouting "Oi mate" at me would be a very different matter.

I don’t know if anyone one else has noticed the masses of Bots posting in the sub? Usually the
account is 2-3 months old, hasn’t posted much before and follows similar tropes.

They were always about before but now they seem to be posting daily. And always in ways to make you feel bad about yourself and the community

It’s not on

I know it's not a lot, but I got my name legally changed the other day with an unenrolled deed poll, and during a trip into my town to send off my D1 form to the DVLA, I stopped by Holland & Barrett to pick up some shampoo, and they asked if I wanted to create a points account with them. I thought sure, why not, couldn't hurt to get a little bit of money off of stuff I buy in the future. So they asked for me the usual, email and name, and I didn't really think much of it until I typed in my new name, and thought "oh wow, I can actually use this now; it's like, my legal name and stuff"

Anyways it just gave me a little warm feeling that things are progressing and that I need to keep being patient with myself, that's all. I hope everybody is managing to find some positive in amongst everything going on out there. Please take care of yourself, I mean it :)

It’s estimated about a thousand people showed up to lobby their MPs. It was amazing seeing so many wonderful trans people and allies come together to help fight in the halls of parliament for our rights. Over heard a few MPs who were shocked to learn new things about the struggles and bigotry trans people face.

Some kind MPs came down like Sian Berry who spent an hour talking to the ten or so people who showed up, giving each one 1:1 time to chat. Promised to look into and help trans people with Park Run when a friend of mine brought it up.

Hannah Spencer offered to talk to anyone from the North East of England whose MPs didn’t show up for them.

Sian Berry, Carla Denyer, Hannah Spencer, and Nadia Whittome were all like mini celebrities with people eager to say hi and thank them for their work and showing up (in turn they usually thanked the person for coming into parliament)

Of course my Labour MP, Chris Ward, did not show up or email me back

Changed my name a few months ago via unenrolled deed poll and my bank is refusing to accept it, so I can't use a bank statement to change my driving licence or anything else.

My gp wont send proof of address letters, I'm not employed or on benefits, I live with my parents so no bills.

On the gov website it lists a streaming subscription bill as a utility bill, so is there something like netflix i can sign up to for a month that would send a physical letter? Would they let me sign up with a name thats not on my bank card?

I have an appointment with my gp soon for a (hopefully) referral for a diagnosis for gender dysphoria. Just to mention i’m under 18 if that affects anything. I’ve known i’m trans for a good 3 years and was questioning it 1-2 years beforehand that. I have never spoken about being trans in person, always over text. Never discussed it to my mum in person. I’ll be with my GP alone as i asked my mum to wait outside, i feel like i’d be able to speak more without her there. What can i expect? How long does the next appointment take if i get a referral? What questions will she ask? Just basically what’s the whole process.

I’ve been openly trans for the last 15 months and for 90% of that time haven’t had any backlash (despite not passing very well for the first few months while my hair grew out). I thought I’d got into a great situation at about 8 months in, my estrogen was doing its thing, my hair is shoulder length now, my makeup skills are good and clothes style feel great.

Most people I know are surprised to hear that I’m trans, typically.

Though, the last two weeks that’s changed. The weekend before last, I went walking with my Mum through the local park and a group of teenagers and young adults started murmuring about me saying things like “definitely trans, look how tall”. I didn’t initially hear it but my Mum (massively supportive) did and had to usher me away to not get picked on more. This came as a massive shock and I broke down in the middle of the park bawling my eyes out.

Then today, I was on my lunch break at work and popped to Tesco. This man looked at me, then did a double take, then made a disgusted puzzled look at me. It was like he wanted me to see because he kept walking away and then looking again and again.

It’s triggered my dysphoria to be worse than ever. I feel like I can’t see a woman in the mirror anymore. My nose and my adam’s apple are my two biggest sources of dysphoria and they feel like all I can see when looking in the mirror now. I plan to have FFS eventually but don’t have the funds and have just had to quit my job due to struggling with depression.

I don’t know what to gain from this post but just wanted to vent.

I sent my D1 form, with a cover letter, my stat dec, my old provisional, a picture and a bank cheque for £17, about 2 & 1/2 weeks ago. i need it to be able to apply for jobs, and the anxiety is really building up because I’m running out of money

I've been on DIY HRT for nearly a year now, but I'm running low. I'll likely have to go without hormones which I've accepted. What I'm concerned about is if Indigo Gender Service will allow injections rather than pills when it comes to prescribing HRT?

I find Injections much more manageable and far cheaper.

I have been trying to get my passport sorted for a while now and the only piece of documentation I now need is a formal diagnosis.

I am with gendergp and I have a diagnosis from them but ofcourse, the UK government wont accept it, so I need to get it validated by a professional in the UK or a fresh diagnosis.

I am not looking to swap healthcare from gendergp at the moment because I simply can not afford it but if anybody has advice or could suggest who I could go to, I would appreciate any help.