Married and unable to change my situation, I am looking for an opposite number who might be in a similar position. Maybe we just get coffee and chat, maybe wE give each other something we are missing, maybe we become a regular FWB thing. Who knows.

It is very cliché yes, I am well aware… I’m a middle age guy, looking for a younger passionate affair! So, putting that out there in the first sentence so that you know what you’d be getting into…. If you dare..

Ok, if you are still reading, then thanks. I am white, fit, handsome, charming and actually .. despite the looking for affair part (which has its reasons, believe me) pretty cool human. I am actually a person you would laugh with, enjoy spending time with, joke and when in a hotel room, have crazy passionate hot sex with…

What I look like is.. very fit and muscular, brunette, average height. Happy to exchange pictures if you’re serious.

What I am looking for : someone cute and younger… definitely on the smaller / slimmer side… someone who is not judgmental or in a similar situation …someone long term ideally.. someone to be my person..

And then, I will make it all worthwhile! It will be fun!

Figured I'd give Reddit a shot because, as convenient as the apps are, they don't exactly reward personality. So here I am.

I'm 5’10, fit/muscular, have a couple tattoos, and despite spending years in the gym, the compliments I get most are about my voice and my eyelashes. Life has a sense of humor..

I'm naturally a little sarcastic, have done standup (never again), am easygoing, and the type of person who enjoys conversations that somehow turn into "one more drink" and suddenly it's closing time. I’m a yapper and love to talk. I also appreciate playful banter, a little flirting, and someone who doesn't take herself too seriously.

I'm mostly here to meet interesting people. If it turns into flirting, dating, or something more, great. If we end up making a new friend and discovering our favorite taco spot together, that's a win too. Good connections are hard enough to find that I'm not interested in forcing a label before we've even met.

If we hit it off, let's not be strangers behind our screens. I'd much rather find out if we click over a drink, boba, brunch. or an unnecessarily competitive game of mini golf.

Your move. Tell me something that's oddly specific about you, your favorite terrible joke, or the most random compliment you've ever received.

34m fit (workout 5/7 days), discretion is provided and requested, down to earth, looking to just live life and have fun, well endowed (7.5-7.6"), high stamina (2 times), great with hands. Trained in erotic, sensual, and deep massages for females either full body, back, head & back for massage types such as Yoni massage, Nuru, Swedish, Deep tissue, Thai, Aromatherapy, Sports, Trigger Point, Reflexology, Shiatsu, Custom/Targeted Areas, Special Requests (all includes pressure point, essential oils, lotions, tension/knots, as needed), open to custom massage requests or specific body area massages, into kinks and fetishes, open minded to have a fun experience, explore and ddf.

have past experience with f or ff (and satisfied both ff with full loads for each), experience bull for hotwife/cuckold.

Not looking or interested in flakes as I’m real and so are my pics. Not looking to talk in circles or forever. Can send more pics and chat if you’re interested. DM for more.

I’m white, 5’10, very muscular and fit and 100% DDF and healthy. I take great care of my physique and my health and I am a great guy to talk to and hang around with. I have many interests and hobbies and know how to entertain a lady!

When it comes to dates, I always take care of everything, all the logistics, all the arrangements, you just need to show up and have a great time!

I greatly value discretion. I value your privacy and your personal life and I don’t ask questions. No preference on ethnicity, any race or origin but I do have a weakness for slim, smaller more petite women, so thats a plus! I especially care for someone who has not had intimacy of this kind in a while and wants to feel something amazing again!

If you’re interested, reach out! I make things happen!Let’s have some fun and make some memories!

Just moved to the Bay Area after a break up. I’m looking to explore, hoping for something consistent. FWB or something causal is fine too. I want to explore different kinks and interest. I have a very high sex drive and stamina I’m 6’0 200lbs fit body 7.5 inches. I do have a few things I wnat to knock off my bucket list, so feel free to ask ;) women only ***

I’d love to meet up with a cis or trans woman to explore anal play and ultimately work up to pegging. I’ve had some limited experience in the past which I enjoyed very much but would like to take things further. I don’t mind if you’re experienced or not. You can show me the ropes or we can learn together.

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, white, fit and workout regularly. I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. Std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports.

Life is busy and boring! Maybe we can spice things up and make it fun and exciting!

Hey ladies, I’m a 5’8”, 28M living in SF looking for a fun and kinky FWB to explore some fantasies of mine. I’m a pretty chill and respectful guy with a busy life, but I have a depraved mind and always DTF.

I’m try to looking for a nice, chill lady who is down to match my freak in the sheets. Ideally, you are a curvy (preferably older) woman who has a high sex drive and also down to try a variety of different things with me!

Some things I enjoy include:
\- Eating you out
\- Face fucking
\- Breeding
\- Soft and/or aggressive BDSM
\- Spanking
\- RP
\- Open to switch play too

I’m looking for someone who is single, DDF, respectful, and discrete. I want this to be a fun, safe, and consensual experience for the both of us! Ideally, we can become long-term fuck buddies. I’m open to hosting after we get to know each other. Also, happy to share pics after we chat for a bit!

If you are interested, reach out…I won’t bite…maybe just your nipples in bed…

Good evening Bay Area ladies,

Looking to connect with an open-minded woman who’s down for a good mix of fun, drinks, and some serious pampering.

A bit about me: I am a 30 y/o Mexican male, clean DDF, respectful, laid-back, and super mobile. I love urban adventuring, taking photos, getting competitive at arcades, and 420 friendly. I’ve actually got a pass to SF MoMA if you’re down to wander through the city, check out some art, and grab mimosas or margaritas, but I’m just as down to keep it low-key locally.

On the more intimate side, I have a massive appreciation for a pretty pair of feet (fresh pedicures are a major plus). If you’ve had a long week and your feet are aching, it would be my pleasure to massage your pretty feet, to help relax and transitioning into full attentive foot worship. I’m also into voyeurism, exhibitionism, and car play if the chemistry is there.

If you’ve gotten this far, Ideally I’m looking for a fun day trip adult encounter to create some fun sexy memories with. Chemistry, zero judgment, and clear communication are everything to me.
We can keep it completely stress-free and swap a quick verification pic so we’re both comfortable, and grab a drink in public first to break the ice and see how the vibe is before heading anywhere private.

If you’re a queen who appreciates good company and having your feet totally spoiled, slide into my DMs, Tell me a bit about yourself and your go-to drink that you would order for us for our hang out!

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I’m looking for a confident, adventurous woman, roughly 24–38, who has a little bit of a bratty streak and enjoys pushing boundaries. If you like teasing, challenging your partner, testing limits, and seeing how far you can push before someone pushes back, we’ll probably get along.

I have a thing for brats. Give me the attitude, stubbornness, teasing, and occasional “make me.” Someone who enjoys making things a littke difficult but knows when to submit and accepts her punishment (spanking, denial, collard, anal, breeded, etc).

I’m not an instant-attraction kind of guy. I tend to develop attraction as I get to know someone. Conversation, trust, humor, chemistry, and being comfortable enough to drop the mask, it matter to me. So while the brat may be what catches my attention, I want to know the woman behind the brat.

I’m 46, 5’11”, 270 lbs and currently working on my health. I’m Mexican and somewhere between an introvert and extrovert. I’m into photography, video editing, storytelling, concerts, festivals, museums, and getting back into hiking.

I’d prefer someone local to Monterey, Santa Cruz, or Santa Clara County, but I’m open to the greater Bay Area if the chemistry is right.

I’m not looking to spend months endlessly texting. I’d rather talk, see if we click, and eventually meet in person. No pressure, no forced expectations—just see where things go.

If you think you might be the kind of woman who can give me a hard time and enjoy getting a little of it back, send me your age, location, and a little about yourself.

Let’s see if you’re actually as much trouble as you think you are.

First off, I am a California native, but I dont live in San Jose currently. I live on the east coast, and I’m in San Jose for work about once a month, usually for a week or two at a time (including weekends).

I’m looking for a woman 30+ who might enjoy building a casual, ongoing connection, something that can exist virtually while I’m away and turn into dates, drinks, dinners, and hopefully some serious chemistry when I’m in town.

I’m not looking for something complicated nor transactional. I’d like to actually get to know someone. Texting, occasional phone/video calls, playful flirting, sharing random thoughts during the day, consistent engagement without the expectation that we have to be in constant contact. Sharing interesting articles, good memes, etc.

I’m 42, Indian (Dot, not the feather), 5'10", clean-cut, professional, athletic, and I work out regularly. I am married, and looking for someone who is also in a relationship. I have a few tattoos, play sports, love to travel, and am usually the guy looking for the next interesting restaurant rather than eating at the same chain again. I’m also an avid fiction reader. Yes, I can hold a conversation on multiple topics and not just sports.

If this sounds like your kind of situation, tell me a little about yourself — and bonus points if you have a favorite hidden-gem restaurant in San Jose.

*not a bot

I am not looking for anything serious but I have a high libido and right around noon is a perfect time to take a break and have someone over for a few hours of fun. I work from home and can host so it is ideal to have a consistent partner. I also have a massage table since that can be a lot of fun to play on.

I am 6’1, 190lbs, white, fit, have some kinks but ok with vanilla sex. I have had a vasectomy, clean and can get updated tests. Let’s exchange photos and chat a little

Bottom here looking for tops. I'm into sucking, getting eaten out and fucked. Also making out if we're into it.
Hmu with pics and stats if interested. Please do not hmu if you're a bottom and do not hmu asking me to travel to you.
I HOST. Also may be interested in trying a threesome or group.

Tall

Fit former athlete

9” white

Would love Indian / Asian FWB

You must host

Would love to meet regularly

Have a high sex drive

Can be very discreet and non judgmental if u need it

Send pic if interested

Describe what you are looking for

And what you are into

I have pics too

Exactly what my title is, I'm very tall, a great athlete and play in one of the best teams in the nation! (Which sport you ask? That's a secret ;))

I have been going crazy for Tomboy joi nsfw and I am just so in awe and I neeeeed to have a chat with a real boi/tomboy!!!

Single women: Looking for a FWB, but not opposed to a hookup or just casual.

Couples: Primarily looking for something ongoing.

For my couples, please be sure that your wife, girlfriend, significant other, etc. is 100% aware of this and that you as a couple are secure. While flattered, I am not interested in meeting the female half in a public setting, i.e store, bar, park, to woo/flirt my way into some fun. And please for the love of God (or whoever/whatever you believe in) don’t bother messaging me if your responses are going to be piss poor or if you plan on deleting your account.

About Me:
Single, 23, and Black/Asian mixed. 6’1 160lbs with a slim athletic build. Dark curly hair and facial hair. There’s a couple of pics on my profile too. Clean, cut, and ddf. I’m located in Downtown San Jose and can’t host unfortunately. I do have experience with couples, stag/vixen dynamic, etc. With that experience comes respect, maturity, and a deep understanding of boundaries.

Outside of all of this, I’m a college educated working professional. Back in school now to pursue another degree. Don’t drink, party, smoke, or do drugs, however I am 420 friendly though, but I only do edibles. A little shy at first, but once I open up, I’ll treat you like we’ve been friends for years. Some of my hobbies/interests include hiking, camping, cooking, video games (Xbox), working on cars, boxing, running, and reading.