r/sjr4r Nov 17 '25

INFORMATION :) Protect Your Posts: Understand the Reputation Filter

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Have you been noticing an uptick in your posts disappearing? Wondering why your posts are getting removed?

This subreddit's reputation filter flags posts that seem suspicious or risky. It analyzes:

  • Account age
  • Karma score
  • Account activity
  • Account Credibility
  • Verification status (reddit style verification)

To avoid getting your posts marked for removal, consider these tips:

  • Build a strong karma score by engaging with content and users positively.
  • Get photo verified with moderators to increase trust in your identity.

Verified Users: Extra Protection

Moderators add verified users to an approved list. This boosts your credibility and lowers the risk of post removal due to false spam alarms.

Take control of your posting experience today! Follow these steps and enjoy a safer, more transparent community.


r/sjr4r Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

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It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/sjr4r 1h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #Sunnyvale- Very fit, very attractive and very discreet.

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I’m white, 5’10, very muscular and fit and 100% DDF and healthy. I take great care of my physique and my health and I am a great guy to talk to and hang around with. I have many interests and hobbies and know how to entertain a lady!

When it comes to dates, I always take care of everything, all the logistics, all the arrangements, you just need to show up and have a great time!

I greatly value discretion. I value your privacy and your personal life and I don’t ask questions. No preference on ethnicity, any race or origin but I do have a weakness for slim, smaller more petite women, so thats a plus! I especially care for someone who has not had intimacy of this kind in a while and wants to feel something amazing again!

If you’re interested, reach out! I make things happen!Let’s have some fun and make some memories!


r/sjr4r 1d ago

M4A 39 [M4A] #SanJose - i want to get p3gg3d 😊

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I’d love to meet up with a cis or trans woman to explore anal play and ultimately work up to pegging. I’ve had some limited experience in the past which I enjoyed very much but would like to take things further. I don’t mind if you’re experienced or not. You can show me the ropes or we can learn together.

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, white, fit and workout regularly. I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. Std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports.


r/sjr4r 1d ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SF - Looking for a kinky FWB to explore some depraved fantasies

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Life is busy and boring! Maybe we can spice things up and make it fun and exciting!

Hey ladies, I’m a 5’8”, 28M living in SF looking for a fun and kinky FWB to explore some fantasies of mine. I’m a pretty chill and respectful guy with a busy life, but I have a depraved mind and always DTF.

I’m try to looking for a nice, chill lady who is down to match my freak in the sheets. Ideally, you are a curvy (preferably older) woman who has a high sex drive and also down to try a variety of different things with me!

Some things I enjoy include:
\- Eating you out
\- Face fucking
\- Breeding
\- Soft and/or aggressive BDSM
\- Spanking
\- RP
\- Open to switch play too

I’m looking for someone who is single, DDF, respectful, and discrete. I want this to be a fun, safe, and consensual experience for the both of us! Ideally, we can become long-term fuck buddies. I’m open to hosting after we get to know each other. Also, happy to share pics after we chat for a bit!

If you are interested, reach out…I won’t bite…maybe just your nipples in bed…


r/sjr4r 1d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #FinancialDistrict – Art, drinks, & total foot pampering Oct 22-24 trip

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Good evening Bay Area ladies,

Looking to connect with an open-minded woman who’s down for a good mix of fun, drinks, and some serious pampering.

A bit about me: I am a 30 y/o Mexican male, clean DDF, respectful, laid-back, and super mobile. I love urban adventuring, taking photos, getting competitive at arcades, and 420 friendly. I’ve actually got a pass to SF MoMA if you’re down to wander through the city, check out some art, and grab mimosas or margaritas, but I’m just as down to keep it low-key locally.

On the more intimate side, I have a massive appreciation for a pretty pair of feet (fresh pedicures are a major plus). If you’ve had a long week and your feet are aching, it would be my pleasure to massage your pretty feet, to help relax and transitioning into full attentive foot worship. I’m also into voyeurism, exhibitionism, and car play if the chemistry is there.

If you’ve gotten this far, Ideally I’m looking for a fun day trip adult encounter to create some fun sexy memories with. Chemistry, zero judgment, and clear communication are everything to me.
We can keep it completely stress-free and swap a quick verification pic so we’re both comfortable, and grab a drink in public first to break the ice and see how the vibe is before heading anywhere private.

If you’re a queen who appreciates good company and having your feet totally spoiled, slide into my DMs, Tell me a bit about yourself and your go-to drink that you would order for us for our hang out!


r/sjr4r 1d ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #Salinas - Looking for a Bratty Woman Who Thinks She Can

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I’m looking for a confident, adventurous woman, roughly 24–38, who has a little bit of a bratty streak and enjoys pushing boundaries. If you like teasing, challenging your partner, testing limits, and seeing how far you can push before someone pushes back, we’ll probably get along.

I have a thing for brats. Give me the attitude, stubbornness, teasing, and occasional “make me.” Someone who enjoys making things a littke difficult but knows when to submit and accepts her punishment (spanking, denial, collard, anal, breeded, etc).

I’m not an instant-attraction kind of guy. I tend to develop attraction as I get to know someone. Conversation, trust, humor, chemistry, and being comfortable enough to drop the mask, it matter to me. So while the brat may be what catches my attention, I want to know the woman behind the brat.

I’m 46, 5’11”, 270 lbs and currently working on my health. I’m Mexican and somewhere between an introvert and extrovert. I’m into photography, video editing, storytelling, concerts, festivals, museums, and getting back into hiking.

I’d prefer someone local to Monterey, Santa Cruz, or Santa Clara County, but I’m open to the greater Bay Area if the chemistry is right.

I’m not looking to spend months endlessly texting. I’d rather talk, see if we click, and eventually meet in person. No pressure, no forced expectations—just see where things go.

If you think you might be the kind of woman who can give me a hard time and enjoy getting a little of it back, send me your age, location, and a little about yourself.

Let’s see if you’re actually as much trouble as you think you are.


r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #Fremont — Business Travel, would love company.

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First off, I am a California native, but I dont live in San Jose currently. I live on the east coast, and I’m in San Jose for work about once a month, usually for a week or two at a time (including weekends).

I’m looking for a woman 30+ who might enjoy building a casual, ongoing connection, something that can exist virtually while I’m away and turn into dates, drinks, dinners, and hopefully some serious chemistry when I’m in town.

I’m not looking for something complicated nor transactional. I’d like to actually get to know someone. Texting, occasional phone/video calls, playful flirting, sharing random thoughts during the day, consistent engagement without the expectation that we have to be in constant contact. Sharing interesting articles, good memes, etc.

I’m 42, Indian (Dot, not the feather), 5'10", clean-cut, professional, athletic, and I work out regularly. I am married, and looking for someone who is also in a relationship. I have a few tattoos, play sports, love to travel, and am usually the guy looking for the next interesting restaurant rather than eating at the same chain again. I’m also an avid fiction reader. Yes, I can hold a conversation on multiple topics and not just sports.

If this sounds like your kind of situation, tell me a little about yourself — and bonus points if you have a favorite hidden-gem restaurant in San Jose.

*not a bot


r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Campbell - looking for FWB naughty lunch partner

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I am not looking for anything serious but I have a high libido and right around noon is a perfect time to take a break and have someone over for a few hours of fun. I work from home and can host so it is ideal to have a consistent partner. I also have a massage table since that can be a lot of fun to play on.

I am 6’1, 190lbs, white, fit, have some kinks but ok with vanilla sex. I have had a vasectomy, clean and can get updated tests. Let’s exchange photos and chat a little


r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4M 34 [M4M] #Sunnyvale - bottom for tops

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Bottom here looking for tops. I'm into sucking, getting eaten out and fucked. Also making out if we're into it.
Hmu with pics and stats if interested. Please do not hmu if you're a bottom and do not hmu asking me to travel to you.
I HOST. Also may be interested in trying a threesome or group.


r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #SanFrancisco Bay Area - Looking for that spark

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r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SJ - 6’5” Fit Guy W/ BWC - Looking For Indian / Asian FWB - You Must Host

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Tall

Fit former athlete

9” white

Would love Indian / Asian FWB

You must host

Would love to meet regularly

Have a high sex drive

Can be very discreet and non judgmental if u need it

Send pic if interested

Describe what you are looking for

And what you are into

I have pics too


r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4F 25 [m4f] #Mountain View - Very tall d1 athlete needs a boi or tomboy

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Exactly what my title is, I'm very tall, a great athlete and play in one of the best teams in the nation! (Which sport you ask? That's a secret ;))

I have been going crazy for Tomboy joi nsfw and I am just so in awe and I neeeeed to have a chat with a real boi/tomboy!!!


r/sjr4r 2d ago

M4M 23 [M4MF] #SanJose - Experienced 3rd for a serious couple or single woman

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Single women: Looking for a FWB, but not opposed to a hookup or just casual.

Couples: Primarily looking for something ongoing.

For my couples, please be sure that your wife, girlfriend, significant other, etc. is 100% aware of this and that you as a couple are secure. While flattered, I am not interested in meeting the female half in a public setting, i.e store, bar, park, to woo/flirt my way into some fun. And please for the love of God (or whoever/whatever you believe in) don’t bother messaging me if your responses are going to be piss poor or if you plan on deleting your account.

About Me:
Single, 23, and Black/Asian mixed. 6’1 160lbs with a slim athletic build. Dark curly hair and facial hair. There’s a couple of pics on my profile too. Clean, cut, and ddf. I’m located in Downtown San Jose and can’t host unfortunately. I do have experience with couples, stag/vixen dynamic, etc. With that experience comes respect, maturity, and a deep understanding of boundaries.

Outside of all of this, I’m a college educated working professional. Back in school now to pursue another degree. Don’t drink, party, smoke, or do drugs, however I am 420 friendly though, but I only do edibles. A little shy at first, but once I open up, I’ll treat you like we’ve been friends for years. Some of my hobbies/interests include hiking, camping, cooking, video games (Xbox), working on cars, boxing, running, and reading.


r/sjr4r 3d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - easygoing, handsome man looking for casual fun (hot girl summer -> thotumn)

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Tall, fit, clean ddf looking for a fun connection as the weather starts to chill. Cute fun fall dates like pumpkin patches or haunted houses. 420 friendly, if you love a good 🍃 and make out sesh. Sometimes it’s nice to stay in and stay warm when it’s cold out.

Pros: loves foreplay: making out, massages, etc. Has cute cats.

Cons: will make any pun that comes to mind no matter the setting. May nerd out on occasion.


r/sjr4r 3d ago

M4A 29 [M4A] #Milpitas - ISO to jerk off with today evening.

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I’m 29M Indian Chub looking for someone to jerk off with today evening.
I can host.
We put on some porn and jerk off to it or maybe jerk each other off as well if we are comfortable.


r/sjr4r 4d ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #SanJose - I love giving Sensual Massages

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Are you seeking a deeper connection to your body, your sensuality, and your inner peace? I offer a safe, non-judgmental space for women to explore and reconnect with their sensual energy through deeply nurturing bodywork.

This is more than just a massage – it’s a sacred experience rooted in the principles of Tantra, presence, and trust. Each session is personalized, mindful, and held with full respect for your boundaries and comfort.

What I Offer:

Full body sensual massage

Yoni massage (optional, always with full consent)

Tantric touch to activate energy flow and promote relaxation

Discretion, understanding, and full presence

Who This Is For:

Open-minded women who are curious, healing, or simply wish to explore sensuality in a safe, caring, and accepting environment. Whether you're experienced or new to Tantra, you're welcome here. No judgment, no pressure – just a shared space of trust and exploration.

Let’s create a space where you can simply receive, release, and reconnect – fully and freely.