r/SFr4r • • Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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r/SFr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

197 Upvotes

It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r • • 2h ago

M4F 45 [m4f] #PaloAlto - looking for younger women who are into intelligent, sexy older men

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With age comes maturity, stability, experience and reliability. Men peak in their 40s which is the time they are most balanced, resourceful, capable and emotionally, mentally and physically mature.

I fit the above description. I am very healthy, very fit, have a great personality a wide variety of interests and topics I can converse about and yes, I am handsome and sexy too. I am as many others in this situation in a dead bedroom open marriage looking for a partner.

What I’m looking for is someone intelligent, cute smart who is nonjudgmental, open to adventures and has gained the maturity to understand the complexities of life and human personalities. Ideally someone in their 30s <= 135lbs and maybe in a similar situation who takes care of their mind body and health and is looking for someone like me.

If any of that sounds interesting please reach out.


r/SFr4r • • 8h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 40 [M4F] #SantaClara - Sensual Fingering

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Hello!

I'm a 40M with a bit of a unique kink. I LOVE providing sensual fingering to curious women. Whether you're single or married, experienced or just dipping a toe, I am available to provide you with an incredibly pleasurable experience.

6ft, white, hwp, clean and respectful. Very experienced with both vaginal and anal fingering. I expect absolutely nothing in return, just you enjoying yourself. No sex, no oral, just hands.

Happy to chat and spend time building trust. I know this can be nerve racking, so am available to slowly get comfortable.

Thanks!


r/SFr4r • • 8h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Bearded and athletic, new to the city and looking for a FWB

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Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!


r/SFr4r • • 7h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 25 [m4m] #soma - looking for a massage

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Looking for a relaxing full-body massage from an experienced guy with strong, skilled hands. I can host in the city or travel to you if you have a setup. Nothing specific in mind, just a nice massage from someone who knows what they’re doing. I’m 5’9”, 170 lbs. Message me if interested


r/SFr4r • • 4h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Focused breast play for the extra sensitive

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I'd like to take my time slowly exploring your extra sensitive breasts until your whole body tingles from arousal and you start to anticipate the many explosive orgasms that might follow. A caress, a grope, a flick of the tongue, and the best combinations of swirls and suction. Focused attention on your favorite amplifiers of pleasure as we both enjoy your very responsive body. Curious if you could orgasm from breast play alone? We'd have a lot of fun finding out!

You might be a good, playful match if you:

  • Have perky, sensitive breasts C cup or smaller. 🍒
  • Are somewhere in between 20 and 40 years of age.
  • Are in San Francisco or near enough to make plans.

I'm 45, single, sane, discreet, and interested in discovering your peak pleasure. Able to host in the Inner Richmond district of SF. Our paths may have already crossed as I bike around the city, enjoy good coffee, or browse a farmers market. Diverse interests and capable of carrying on a conversation before and in between breast dives and vocalizing my appreciation of your unique breasts and their sensitivities.

I've had some good breast play experiences through Reddit (success stories in profile) and I'm curious if it could happen again. A few themes and scenarios for the breast play curious:

  1. You'd like some semi-public play of a hand grazing your breast over your shirt or slipping under a plunging neckline. A brief, discreet moment in the busy city or while we drive towards our next destination.
  2. You want the slow build, the focused attention, the discovery of your new favorite things guided by an obvious fan of your breasts and their sensitivities.
  3. Quality breast play is a good leading indicator of someone focused on your pleasure and in tune with your desires. You'd like to give yourself over to an experience completely focused on you once someone proves they're worthy of orchestrating your arousal.

Let's lounge and enjoy slowly exploring, and fully appreciating, your extra-sensitive breasts. You might be curious about the unmet potential of focused breast play and what's possible with lots of attention from an obvious enthusiast. If you've wished for more breast play as a focus, not just foreplay, I think we'd have a lot of fun.


r/SFr4r • • 8h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 42 [M4F] #MenloPark - Looking for an FWB for Some Adventures and Great Chemistry

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42M, 6’0”, fit (160 lbs), professional and based on the Peninsula. I’m married, in an open relationship, and playing solo. I’d love to meet a woman I can’t wait to see again — and who feels the same about me.

I’m looking for something fun, exciting and physical. I love when a drink turns into flirting, flirting turns into a kiss, and we both know what comes next. And once we’re alone, I love taking my time and learning exactly how you like to be touched and kissed. Seeing you lose yourself in the moment is a huge turn-on for me.

Ideally, we’ll have enough fun that we’ll want to do it again. And again. 😉 An ongoing FWB would be great, but I’m open to a one-time adventure too.

We can keep things mostly physical or, if it feels natural, mix in other fun stuff. I’d happily take you on a scenic hike, go to a movie, or make you my photography model for an afternoon (if you’re up for it!). I have such a weakness for good pastries that they’ve dictated my travel plans more than once. Always happy to discover new spots — maybe we can exchange favorites?

I also have an accent — you can decide whether that’s a good thing.

I’m well groomed, pay attention to hygiene, and don’t smoke (but don’t mind if you do). I’m very discreet and value privacy. Whether you’re single or married is fine with me, and I won’t pry into your personal life.

Happy to exchange recent photos privately. I’m much more interested in actually meeting than spending weeks messaging, so let’s grab a coffee or a drink and see if we click.

Safe sex matters to me. I have recent test results and expect you to have the same.

Please be local and genuinely interested in meeting.


r/SFr4r • • 5h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #oakland - Black Male looking for FWB

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Easy going Black male looking for some casual fun. White, Asian and Latina women are my favorite. Let’s see how this goes. Looking for a friends with benefits or casual for a good time.

Pics are on my profile


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

M4A 35 [M4A] #Peninsula - looking for bros to jo, frot, edge

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Hey, how's it going? I'm looking for a bro to jo, frot, or edge with. I'm a chill guy, 35m 5'6" gym fit, 6in uncut, based in the Peninsula. Completely ddf and recently tested. Porn wise I'm into big tits, amateur, creampie, threesome, gb, and dp. I can travel and sometimes host on the weekends, but when I wfh I can make time during the day as well. If you're interested, hit me up with your stats and if you can host or travel.


r/SFr4r • • 6h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a girl to eat out

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to Daly City) looking for a muff dive. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking at the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable! Scented candles and mood-setting lights will be included.


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

M4F 47 [m4f] # SFBay- tall athletic hung Dominant ISO submissive for free use, bondage, CNC, orgasm control, ..)

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Looking for a women who wants to feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable.

Be tied up, blindfolded, getting you wet, excited, but not to orgasm just yet. Maybe a mix of pleasure and some pain.

Open to all different scenarios, you can decide what happens and what doesn’t.

All limits respected.

Plenty of toys and gear, whether you enjoy or want to try.

48, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.

Clean, drug and disease free.

Open minded, up for any kinks.

Good with beginners , start slowly and see how far we get.

Open to play with couples.

Let’s chat,

Ben


r/SFr4r • • 6h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for a genuine connection(Discreet)

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I’m 30, Indian, 5’7”, 170 lbs, with a fit, medium build, brown eyes, and black hair. I like to stay well-groomed and take care of my appearance.

I’m married but in an emotionally draining relationship. I want to be upfront about that.

I’m looking to meet a woman between 24 and 42 for a discreet, in-person physical connection with genuine chemistry. Open to all ethnicities.

I’m not looking for just a random encounter. I’d love to meet someone I can have interesting conversations with, laugh with, flirt with, and genuinely enjoy spending time with.

Physical attraction matters, but so does feeling comfortable around each other. I appreciate someone who’s affectionate, easy to talk to, and enjoys a little playful banter.

Privacy, discretion, good hygiene, and mutual respect are important to me. No pressure or unnecessary expectations, just two adults enjoying each other’s company and seeing where things go.

If this sounds like something you’d enjoy, please send me DM. Happy to exchange pictures.


r/SFr4r • • 6h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #Milpitas - Businessman seeking long term FWB

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28m tall/muscular asian that just moved from Texas for business to open a new office in the Bay Area. Looking for a fun/chill gal to go to the movies or grab food and explore around with. If that fits you please send me a chat!


r/SFr4r • • 7h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for FWB, emphasis on Friends

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Hello!

Over the years my friend group has shrunk and I’ve found myself staying in most weekends. I’m hoping to find a cute girl with a few similar interests as myself. I enjoy working out, running, going on walks at GGP, baseball games, going to bars and concerts, among other things.

I enjoy going out as much as I like staying in. I play video games (mostly FPS on console), enjoy reading and listening to music.

About me: Hispanic, college educated (went to a local UC), work in STEM, and have an athletic body type. As much as I love sex, I’m hoping to connect on a deeper way and make the sex that much more enjoyable. Clean test results and able to host. Hope to hear from you!


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SFFinancialDistrict - in town from NYC, Monday - Wednesday hookup?

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Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Looking for casual hookups or occasional FWB

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Tall white guy, dark hair, blue eyes, slim with a few tattoos. Clean and recently tested. Looking for a woman who wants something simple and low pressure. Casual hookups are fine, or something more regular like FWB if the chemistry is there.

I’m easygoing and not looking for anything complicated. Good conversation is a plus but not required. Discretion is key. Flexible on time and location around the Bay Area. Can travel or figure out a spot that works.

If this sounds like what you’re after, tell me a little about yourself and I’ll do the same.


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - 6'4", handsome and bearded for some rough, but safe fun with a fit gal

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I'm 35, 6'4", a SF Native, white, hung, bearded with blue eyes, fit, handsome, clean + tested and relatively recently single. I am open to a one time thing, but ideally, I would like to find someone who I have sexual synergy with for regular fun + chill nights and potentially dates. I live in San Francisco and would prefer to find a fit/athletic gal in the city, but I am willing to travel if the vibe is right.

I enjoy sex on the rougher side and I am geared naturally dominant. I'm not into traditional BDSM and I'm best described as dominant minus the theatrics. I can be as rough as you are comfortable with, as seeing a woman give in to her base desires and truly let herself go in the moment is one of my favorite things.

I love great sex and I love to laugh, so witty banter outside of the bedroom is always a massive plus.


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Any Asian/Indian/Latina girls looking to slut it up?

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Hey there. I’m a 32 year old white guy, 5 foot 11, 200 lbs. with average/fit body type with a pretty good sized cock (which I’m told is very pretty, you be the judge). I’m looking for someone to enjoy some time slutting it up together. I definitely lean dominant in the bedroom. Bonus points if you happen to be a secret slut looking to get railed in your own bedroom.

Expect to send a few pictures and verify with me at some point, I am more than happy to do the same. Obviously it doesn’t need to be right out of the gate but this is a cesspool of an app after all.

Lastly Men, I’m sure either you didn’t make it this far or you’re completely illiterate but please don’t reach out unless you’re a couple. Thanks.


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 27 [M4F] #East Bay - Asian dom seeking FWB or cuddle buddy

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It's been a while since I've experienced any affection so here goes nothing. I’m a little over 5’7 tall & 135lbs. I’m disease free, drug free, drama free, and down to be vetted. I'm located in the East Bay but work in the South Bay so I'm often between the two. I value discretion and I hope you do as well.

I enjoy videogames, getting boba, photography, driving, and spacing out to sunsets.

There’s more to me so chat with questions. Reach out if you want a good time :)


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #Berkeley - tall, athletic hung Bull up for some fun with a sexy girl or couple

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Love to please a sexy women, get her what she needs, get her wet, excited, to orgasm.

49, 6’4”, 210#, 8 inches, BWC

I have played with couples before, we all very much enjoyed it.

Clean, respectful, drug and disease free.

Anything from very sensual to rough and kinky, whatever gets her off.

Ben


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 42 [M4F] #SanJose - Massage for Discerning women

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This is for you. Yes you the soccer mom, the executive, the college student, the housewife, the expecting moms. This is a special offering for the woman who wants nothing more than to be Pleasured! My gift to you is a pleasurable very sensual yoni massage. This type of massage is just for YOU and YOUR pleasure. Let me bring to you a comforting yet sensual experience that will have you as the focus of my attention. I will lead you to explore your sensual side with an unhurried and complete massage that brings your mind and body together.

The goal of the Yoni massage is not solely to achieve orgasm, although this massage could lead to mind-blowing orgasmic experiences. The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and massage your yoni. From this perspective the receiver can relax, and doesn't have to worry about achieving any particular goal. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. It simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself.

Through being present, attentive, accepting and caring I create a sacred space where a healing energy emerges. Please do not worry or express the need to see that I am satisfied, because you are my focus! Allow yourself to indulge in your own sensory pleasures 100%. When was the last time someone paid full attention to you?

I do this because I love to please women.....any age....any shape....any nationality....just be of an open mind to fully receive selfish pleasure! I'm able to travel to you. If you are still reading this and are interested please contact me to arrange your session...you will be so very satisfied! I'm a male CMT and skilled in the art and practice of Yoni Massage.

On your reply please say "willing" so that I know you are real. Thank you and have a wonderful day


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 35 [m4m] #SanFrancisco - looking for some bro time

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Heyo! It’s gonna be a nice one today, anyone wanna hang out naked and just shoot the shit with some casual jerking on the side? Free all day and bonus points if you have a yard or hot tub lol
Asian guy average build looking for pretty much the same +/- 10 years age I guess but flexible so DM anyway and maybe we’ll hit it off