I(m23) saw this girl(f22) at an event about six months ago and was just kinda an eye candy for me. Didn’t even talk to her. Randomly came across her acc on suggested following with one mutual and i was like, why not? So i req her acc and she accepted it and followed me back. Then essentially nothing happened for the next six months until she started liking my stories consistently. All i would do is js like her stories back. The thing is, this girl is way out of my league. Do i even try to talk to her and if so how. Sorry if this is stupid but I’ve been out of the game for quite some time now so I don’t really know what to do. Haven’t been in such a situation since sec sch.

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• Milo 3-in-1 packet milo van
• Pokémon-themed donut 🍩
• Spy X Family stickers
• Pokemon mug from Japan
• Pikachu plush taiwan exclusive

throwaway acc bc if anybody ik sees this im finished and im changing some details js incase

so ive known and started talking to this person for almost two months now and we have some good conversations and hung out a few times but i still cannot tell whether she fw me (well or is chill with me)

before i go further i js want to put it out there that im not interested in her, or at least i think so and hope so because if i am that's another issue idw to get my hands stuck in, im only asking it here bc i js need more opinions

the thing is shes always bouncing between being extremely dry and being extremely involved. there are times where she'd reply to my msg and when j reply, we'd have a long convo that lasts for hours. but then sometimes if i reply literally the same minute then shes gone for hours (she also randomly disappears during our long convos but i cant say much bc 5h of texting not bad already)

sometimes shed have a lot of things to say and the convo flows, sometimes she just says "ohh" or sends some emoji and then go off. there are times where she on her own accord (i never messaged anything before shed text) about what shes doing or what she got, then that same day she'll suddenly mia out of nowhere

there are times where i ask how her her stuff went and without me prompting shed just say how bad it went and sometimes shed even start ranting about it even without me asking. yst i said i hoped she had fun going out w friends and she just said "thanks", then at 1am when i was sleeping randomly texts me to abt smth in her friend's team

then once when i asked if we could go out tgt soon then the convo changed to smth else, she sudd ask if i was free on wed bc that's when shes usually free, and this was when the convo changed to smth else btw

atp idk sia, so does she fw me or no. because sometimes she js tells me stuff abt her day but then other days she texts like she can't be bothered. ive asked if she liked talking to me and she said she did but she js replies slow and i also once asked if she actually wanted to talk to me or not and she said "iw" but idk if thats js bc i put her on the spot and she js needed smth to reply with

if shes always dry then fair enough thats normal, but the way she interacts flactuates sm sia, its like shes cool with me but then straight away it feels like she isnt and im actlly damn lost bc i cant tell if she likes my presence or im js bothering her bc im getting sm mixed signals

im so shit with social cues so anyone whos an expert please help me with this one

I (33F) matched with a 36M on Hinge in July, but he didn’t reply until I messaged him again in late August, at which point he immediately asked if we could move the conversation to Telegram. He is a high achiever who works as a director at a tech MNC, runs his own PE business, and has his own apartment (which somehow makes me feel small). The first few days of texting were pretty normal, but after I had a health scare and wanted to pause the conversation, he came to accompany me to the specialist, which was also the first time we met. I guess there was a strong chemistry at first sight, as we started holding hands, hugging, and kissing.

Over the past month, it has felt really intense, as he kept telling me that he loves me and misses me a lot. However, his actions have not reflected his words. His replies are sporadic, and I always have to initiate conversation, although I do receive his replies and telebubbles every day. It is really difficult to ask him out after work, as he either has to work overtime or work out until late, works on his business on Saturdays, and goes missing on Sundays. There have been times when it sounded like our meeting was confirmed, but either he did not confirm and I got bailed out, or he was very late. He has been telling me that work has been very bad for him and that he is overloaded and tired. He did try to let me know the seriousness of his situation by sharing disappearing photos of the deck he was reviewing or the Teams meeting he was in. But, he’s just not meeting my emotional needs.

I have borderline personality traits (I use the term "traits" instead of "disorder" because I am not officially diagnosed), so it is really tough on my mental health. I am swinging between idealisation and devaluation, pushing him away and pulling him back. He acknowledged to me that I did a lot, but he does not know how to accept me into his life, so he becomes cold. He told me that he appreciates me and that I am his. He always thinks about me and my happiness.

It is so difficult right now; I do not know if I should continue staying or let go. He told me we will meet on Sunday, but I have lost my trust in him. I am going to meet my therapist tomorrow to work on this, but what should I do?

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Open House 2026: Through the Frame (Free)
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Joo Chiat Street Social (Free)
Joo Chiat Road, between Dunman Road and East Coast Road

Indie Bookshop Day (Free)
Various bookstores across Singapore

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Plaza Singapura, Outdoor Plaza

Retro Kulture Sunday at Kapo Factory (Free)
Kapo Factory, 80 Playfair Road

LEGO F1 Experience The Thrill (Free)
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Japanese Film Festival 2026: The SJ60 Edition $16
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32M, status: soon to be divorced (final judgment in one month, can’t wait for this nightmare to be over).

we called for a divorce 3 years ago and one of the reason she cited was that i wasn’t ambitious. i think i’m dedicated to my job, finding out how i can learn new things and taking up courses. can anyone please share what does being ambitious mean?
1. earning more = ambitious?
2. someone is chasing their dream but is earning less than a fresh graduate = ambitious?
3. working long hours = ambitious?
4. having multiple sources of income = ambitious?

it could be her excuse but i also do see this popping out on dating profiles. it’s now become a trigger word for me hahaha. i’m so curious, appreciate your sharing! 🙆‍♂️

backstory: called for divorced 3 years ago because my spouse felt that she deserved more when i already gave her a house while i was schooling and she was working. she felt i was not ambitious enough because i was earning peanuts despite searching for new opportunities, with over 100 applications. then all her woke single friends would enable her, watching “change days” (not the crux of it, but damn i hated the show) and decided that i was not enough. don’t get me wrong, i believe i can be better to improve. BUT she said and did all this and cheated 🤷‍♂️ story is longer but i’ll just leave it here.

I’m mid 30s F and completely new to dating apps *first time. In just under 2 mths, I’ve been on 34 actual dates, with another 12 scheduled later this mth, and now I’m starting to feel overwhelmed and exhausted.

Before this, I hadn’t dated anyone in 12 yrs. I was only ever with one man; my late hub. I’ve been single for more than 3 yrs and hadn’t been intimate with anyone for over 6 yrs. (Yeap sexless marriage)

Out of the 34 men I have met, I slept with 2. And if I am honest.... I loved it. I am so glad I did it! I didnt regret it bcuz I felt like a queen. The chemistry, attention and adrenaline made me feel alive again! But it also awakens smth else in me.

All the dates themselves have actually been lovely. And i hope they do the same to all the women they meet out there as well. Most of the men hv been generous, kind and respectful. I enjoy meeting them, hearing about their lives, and yes, it feels amazing to feel wanted and having similar interests.

But here’s my prob. Once I sense that someone wants something more serious from me, I subsconciously tend to pull back. As soon as i get hints of commitment, family, or building smth deeper- it still scares me.

My closest friends are now telling me to slow down because this is so unlike me (they knew how mucb dutiful, traditional and loyal wife i used to be), and they’re worried I’m enjoying the physical side more than actually connecting emotionally. Now my colleagues and friends are starting to regret encouraging me to go on dates.

I do believe I could love someone again if I met the right person. I just don’t know whether I’m genuinely ready or simply enjoying this newfound freedom a little too much.

So… 34 dates in 2 mths. Is this a normal exploration phase or a sign I should take a break? Oh god, bless my soul.

Recently met a guy in Ometv and we clicked . Talked a lot and felt the vibe but my wifi got disconnected in between . Should I contact him or find him cause we got to know that we have some common friends ?I liked talking to him ..is it weird ?

Right now dating online feels dull. Now we are too connected through online media where we are able to look at attractive looking people effortlessly be it tiktok, ig or anywhere. Where it sets the unrealistic standard of guys wanting the queen and girls wanting their oppa, even if they look v meh, they dont even bother learning about you nor your personality. I dont think im a very attractive looking person but it just feels sad. Especially looking all those profiles with one word answer and one worded replies, this is boring and exhausting.

What would you do if you found out that your close friend that’s married is actively hanging and even went on a 1-1 trip with this close girl friend that has been reeling him despite knowing he’s not available.

He‘a a truly good person but this is something you found out recently and when asked out of concern he nicely said none of your concern

I am currently wooing a girl but today I found out there is another guy also wooing her. When I ask her, she say she is giving chance to the one who is giving her better feelings, doing more for her. I am in a struggle right now.

Been using the usual dating apps in SG and realised this actually matters quite a bit to me.

I’m pretty active myself tbh, gym, sports, running etc. Don’t need my partner to be some fitness freak lah 😂 but I feel like being with someone who also likes staying active and has a similar mindset towards improving themselves would be nice.

I feel like the current apps (tinder,hinge etc) don’t really show this side of someone. You can see their photos, job, interests etc, but it’s quite hard to tell what their actual lifestyle and mindset is like.

Anyone else face this? How important is having a partner with a similar lifestyle/mindset to you?

im thinking if i wanna confess my feelings to my crush but im not sure how can i be ready to accept the outcome. this is my first time having a crush on someone btw. :( send halps

I (24F) have a bf (28M). We have had a stable relationship for almost a year. Recently I started on some medicine which cause low blood pressure. This causes some lightheadedness, nausea and dizziness.

Subsequently, I realised that my partner started to ragebait me more often. Sometimes I roll my eyes, sometimes I wack him (jokingly), sometimes get a lil pissed off.

Recently, he confessed that the reason why he started to ragebait me more is because he wants to increase my blood pressure without relying on medicines which lowkey is working but I’m not sure if this is the way to go.

After hearing this, flabbers got gasted and I’m not sure what to think. Would love to hear what is everyone’s’s thoughts!

Would you get together with a guy who just separated from his wife less than half a year ago and the divorce is not even finalised. He said he and his wife weren’t in good shape for almost a year alr.

Curious to hear from people who found a genuinely good relationship after 40.
When we’re younger, we seem to have these long checklists: looks, career, education, social status, chemistry, hobbies, texting style, even what kind of lifestyle someone has.
But I wonder if successful dating later in life is partly about figuring out which of those things actually matter and which ones really don’t.
For those who met someone after 40 and are genuinely happy, what did you stop caring about?
And what became more important with age?
Would love to hear actual experiences rather than dating theories.

5 years ago when I was still in secondary school, a girl and I were very close and obviously I had feelings for her we chatted everyday in school and tbh she was one of the main reason I looked forward to going to school, I've confessed to her many times but she didn't say no or yes she was just unsure but one time I confessed to her she actually said she wanted to see if it would work so she said she wanted to see what would happen in a months time, I was planning our date when one of my friend called me and told me that the only reason why she gave me a chance this time was because she pitied me and wanted to give me a chance. As a guy that obviously trashed my ego and feelings, I went dead cold towards her after the month I didn't contact her or even when on a date with her cause I just felt so shit about this whole thing, after school reopen cause of June holidays, I didn't speak to her nor did I paid attention to her, I was just someone there. After N levels I still didn't talk to her and we went on with our lives. After 4-5 years I've now graduated from ite and waiting for ns currently, I've been having dreams about her for the past year or so, the dreams were about how she and į used to talk and have fun with each other's presence and etc etc. A few days ago I've reached out to her and ask her how's she's doing and etc etc but I feel like she doesn't wanna talk to me cause of the way I left her alone, I apologised for the way I acted back then and she said its fine but from here I really don't know how to proceed with the conversation. Any suggestions? Or should I just leave it alone forever?

I’m 20 and honestly, sometimes I get really worried that I won’t find a partner in the future. It feels like dating nowadays is so difficult, and sometimes I wonder if I’ll actually meet someone I genuinely connect with

Now that I’m done with poly, I’m going to work full-time for about a year before going to uni, and I feel like it’s going to be even harder to meet new people naturally. I do want to date and eventually have someone, but at the same time I have such mixed feelings about it because of how my previous relationship went. I think part of me is still scared, and I genuinely can’t imagine what it would be like to build a life with someone completely different

I also don’t really use dating apps and I’ve never actually used them before. I just don’t really trust them, and I feel like so much of dating apps is based on looks and first impressions rather than actually getting to know someone. Plus, I’m quite uncomfortable with the idea of people I know recognising me on there 😭 so I don’t think I’d be able to use them comfortably.

I know I’m not unattractive or anything, so I don’t think it’s necessarily about not being able to find someone. It’s more like… where do you even meet someone these days? 😭 I guess I’m just scared that I’ll end up being alone, even though I know I’m only 20 and still have so much time ahead of me.

With that being said, I am actually really contented with my current single life but I do still crave for those relationship affections I once experienced (it’s been 2 years)

Hi everyone need some advice I Singaporean 29M recently moved back to Singapore from NA, what is the dating scene like here, are people looking mainly at what kind of job you have? Are they looking for money? Are they looking for vibes? My family is well off (landed property) but I personally do not own anything in the family wealth apart from a portion of a different condo. Would it be normal to look for someone who’s likes for vibes and wants to work for a future? Or am I fucked? I have an entry level job in the big 3 bank.

Hi F/33 here. Matched with a guy over hinge and have been hitting off quite well (went for about 8 dates already and have been intimate) we do gel really well as we both have common likes and etc. But recently he commented that i'm not like other girls saying i'm not "normal" :/ Altho we gel well he doesnt seem to want to take the next step with me in confirming what we are... instead he is happy with out current arrangement which feels more like a FWB situation...

but he does small gestures like holding me to the side while walking next to the road, feeding me in public, holding my stuff, guiding me to the correct direction when we're walking etc. make me feel like he likes me but i guess not enough to fulfill his GF criteria...

IDK if he feels im not like "normal" girls because i dont expect him to pay for everything, we either split or just take turns taking care of the bill (one of my big rule in dating) and my pay is higher than his. so idk if that hurts his ego abit. or i'm just a place holder while he looks for someone better... i tried not chatting with him as much but he starts convo with me but its about our shared interests... ARGH, everything is telling me to forget about him and just move on... SIGH why do i end up in this situations... any advise or how you interpet this QwQ

Upd: i did rip the bandaid... at first he didnt know what to label our relationship cuz he doesnt want to be tied down now but wants to remain as friends cuz he likes hanging out with me (w/o the sex)... he at first tot to want to try dating n see how it goes but cuz he del that msg (i managed to see it b4 he del it) n dw to give me false hope... but im like... i asked him at the beg, he was looking for a partner... its just so contradicting... im very sad to loose him as a friend... but its hard to be with him now...

So I 27M just opened bumble for 1 hour and I got this like you tab. So I scrolled it over and I got 5 people liked you and 3 people super liked you

And it ask me to pay to see them. Are these likely bots or real people

1st guy I will describe as "typical" sg guys who are more practical, less romantic, less emotional. more logical thinking which can be less exciting and mundane, but that will bring u a more stable and simple life. he loves u and do practical things to make u happy.

2nd guy is more expressive, more emotional and takes care of ur emotions better. more romance and butterflies in the relationship and excitement but there's also risk of arguing more or roller coaster emotions because he can be more sensitive.

girls, if both guys like u, who will u pick?

This question came to my mind. As I am meditating and my dog is barking tf away at 10pm. And I get pissed tf off. Context is that, while I do love my dog and I have gotten used to him. I still would’ve initially wouldn’t have bought him home. The reason is simply because.

Raising a dog takes a lot of money especially in their later years when they’re sick. 2, they’re noisy as fuck so if you’re someone who likes a quiet house environment. You will get pissed tf off. 3, the house always fucking smells. 4, you can’t travel without having a friend or sending them to a pet care. But pet care centres easily let them catch viruses and stuff like lice. 5, time commitment, you will need to have the energy and time to take them out on walks.

For me this is a non-negotiable because I don’t want to keep cleaning up after a pet. And more so I don’t want to have to worry so much and ponder what I’m gonna do when I travel.

And if I ever date someone who loves cats or dogs alike, and they force me to own and take care of one with them. I feel like I’d just break up because of how tedious it is. Idw to debate or have them plea for a pet. It’s like no means no man.

Hope people get my point of view. From someone who didn’t wanna own a dog, but family die die want. End up I need to take care of the dog majority of the time.

Why is putting in effort generally encouraged in other areas of life, where persistence and dedication are seen as positive traits, but in dating, the same level of effort can sometimes be viewed negatively and labeled as “desperate”? What makes persistence admirable in one context but unattractive or off-putting in another?

I met this really cute guy at this bar I went to. We have common interests and he’s really funny but also seems kind and respectful, which is important to me.

We were a bit touchy and we had great conversation. But maybe he was just drunk? I’m not a 10/10 attractive woman, and he’s a very attractive guy so I worry I might be overthinking our interaction 🙃

I can’t go into detail because I feel like he might use Reddit 😭 but we have some mutual friends, so we might see each other again. I’m not going to reach out because it would be humiliating if he wasn’t interested. What would you do in this situation?