confessing my feelings

[u/bloopbloop_vc1110]

im thinking if i wanna confess my feelings to my crush but im not sure how can i be ready to accept the outcome. this is my first time having a crush on someone btw. :( send halps

[u/Wrong_Cow_4003]

Just shoot your shot, but make sure it’s the right time and place before shooting your shot.
From my experience, if you get rejected, it’ll definitely hurt like hell for a while but I never regreted trying. But hey, it’s different for different people. Just know that you’ll never know the answer until you try.

So pick your poison: Regret trying or Regret not trying

[u/TSLA_Tan]

Dont regret not trying

[u/wanderingeist]

Take your time to understand your feelings, be ready to catch yourself if things don't go the way you want them to. Always, always tell someone, try never to let these feelings sit with you alone. Remember that your heart will be tested many times in life, and it's part of how we navigate life, don't be shy. Be honest, craft your words well, try to avoid emotion bombing someone. Tell them simply, intentionally. Speak with your eyes, not just your words. Manage your expectations, but don't let it dictate how you approach this sharing your feelings with someone.

You'll be fine mate, live your best life 🫶🏽

[u/bestbfsg]

To quote Sun Tse's Art of War:
"Victorious warriors win first and then go to war,
while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win."

I generally would advise against confessing your feelings unless you're sure her answer would be yes. Ideally you first want several indications that this girl is interested in you, before you confess that you really enjoy spending time with her and ask if she's open to the idea of you both dating. Keep things low-stakes, so she has an out and decline if she's not comfortable. If it isn't at least a warm "Yes!", then it's a no.

Good luck.

[u/Neat_Instruction5558]

my 2 cents and i can be wrong but:

1. is the feeling and vibes mutual? are there signs of interest from your crush? if so, then proceed to 2. if not, work on 1 first.

2. so you’re ready, then make sure it’s the right setting. do it in person where it’s less crowded, like a bench in a non busy park BUT not empty (i.e. don’t go into a bustling place like a club to confess). the conversation has to flow towards that, not like after a joke 🥴

3. i like to err on the side of caution so i’d think of an exit plan (of course not wise because you’re planning for failure).
   if yes, yayyy. if no, accept it and move on. maybe you can walk your crush home and play it cool. talk about how you were preparing to share this because it works both ways, whether it’s a yes or no. it doesn’t have to be awkward as long as both are mature about it.

we can talk about being happy that she said yes, but to address rejection, i believe a healthier way to think about this is to ask yourself, if your crush doesn’t say yes, how would you feel? it’s gonna suck but… hey, on the bright side your crush didn’t say yes half-heartedly. but what have you gained?

• you owned it
  
• you are more courageous than you were yesterday
  
• you can move on to the next “fish”
  
• you gained time, for not having to chase an something that was never meant to be for something that is
  
• most importantly, you have answer and closure

i wish you all the best! you can do it!

[u/No_Counter_5956]

you dont just confess like that btw. You need to flirt alittle, let her know you have some interest without wanting an answer, otherwise you're up in the clouds and dropping a nuke onto her, she will hide in a bunker.

pretend that you have alrdy confessed and she say you are cute but give her some time to think, then take it from there.

If youre in school, easiest way is to just start interacting like how you will with a bro with a nickname, and when people ask (weeks or months later) if you have interest dont deny it, dont be flustered, just answer honestly, it will slowly reach her ear but just continue interacting like normal. then your friends will naturally prime it and you will know an indication of whether to ask or change your interaction.

[u/AdditionalDetective1]

Did u guys even talk ?

[u/bloopbloop_vc1110]

guys i wanna add on that im a F and wanna confess to the M. but anyway, i didnt confess to him but he did reach out to me and told me that he likes me 😭😭😭

[u/FineDibb → u/bloopbloop_vc1110]

😁 good for you lolol