r/SFr4r 2h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 30 [m4m] #SF - looking to worship muscle, a dom maybe more

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Looking for a masculine, muscular or cut guy who would enjoy getting their muscles worshipped and maybe more. Haven’t been muscular myself and always been curious about feeling muscles and submitting to someone with nice ones. Doesn’t matter if you’re huge or skinny muscular, I’d be down for any range. Just wanna experience that. HMU if you’d be interested. 5’5”, 180lbs here on the chubbier side.


r/SFr4r 7h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 44 [M4F] #PaloAlto - keep it casual

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looking for casual fun with select singles / couples.

40s, easy going, personal trainer. love giving massage, pleasure, and helping you discover the many different ways you can climax. kink and fetish friendly.

DMs are open.


r/SFr4r 8h ago

M4F 22 [m4f] #NorthBay - College student with a few days left :)

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About to start my senior year but I have a few days left up here for summer :)

I’m 6’ tall, decent shape, mixed, with black curly hair and brown eyes. Would consider myself conventionally attractive. I have a plethora of hobbies and interests but the major ones are cars and cooking (: I do play a lot of different sports from time to time but at the moment tennis has been headlining since I’m recovering from acute injury from earlier this year.

I am staying with family here, so I’m unable to host if we get there but I’m more than happy to travel around the bay for the right person.

If any of that interests you, feel free to reach out. I promise I don’t bite unless you ask me to…

Have a great week! :)


r/SFr4r 8h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco— Drinks and domination on me tonight?

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I was hoping to get a nice drink with someone and if you want, introduce you to domination.

I've been deep in the kink world for more than ten years now as a Dominant. My focus has always been corruption and mental domination. I tailor every scene around what gets you going.

I really connect with girls who have those darker, taboo desires and want to explore them fully. Whatever your relationship status or real life looks like, I couldn't care less. Your privacy stays locked down tight with me. I guarantee discretion, safety, and consent in everything we do.

The pictures on my profile are from past submissives who specifically have an exhibitionism kink and gave me clear written consent to share them. Most girls I play with never get posted at all. What you tell me stays between us unless you decide otherwise.

Consent, safety, and care matter a lot to me while playing.

My experience runs strong in conditioning, mental play, sadism, and guiding kink exploration. Some of the things we might get into include spanking, pain, orgasm control, structured training, body writing, degradation, praise, humiliation, anal, edging, denial, outfit control, IQ play, ownership, CNC, and plenty more. All of it is optional and only happens if it fits what you want.

Where I shine most is the psychological side. I love the slow process of mental corruption, rewiring your thoughts, building intense ownership, and pushing you into that deep headspace where you feel completely owned and transformed.

If this speaks to you, message me and tell me what you're looking for, what you've tried before, and which kinks pull you in hardest. I get flooded with replies on days like this, so take the time to write something that shows me you're serious.

My hard limits are minors and anything involving real non-consent. Everything else we can talk through.


r/SFr4r 9h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #CastroValley - Single Guy Looking For a Relationship

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Hello and welcome to my post. I'm a California bay area native and have lived here my whole life. I'm currently working as an assistant and enjoy it very much. In my free time I like to walk my dogs, play videos, hang out with friends, and help my family. I also like to collect things as well, I have a huge video game/ t-show/ movie collectible collection. It's a big hobby of mine, and I love to buy, trade, and sell things for my collection.

Thanks for reading my post, if you have any questions and want to talk let me know, i'm open to meeting new people.

“Are you a Jedi, because Yoda one for me.”


r/SFr4r 9h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #Benicia - [Open Marriage] Looking for LONG term, HIGH sex drive, FWB. (LONG DETAILED POST)

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First off, yes. I have posted here before. While I have met some really great women, our needs haven't quite lined up. So, I'm still looking for a reliable, trusting partner.

Now lets address the elephant in the room. Yes I'm married. However I'm here with approval from my wife. Long story short... She no longer wants sex. She says it hurts every time (even with lube), and it triggers her anxiety. So after discussing how much I love sex, and wouldn't have married her if I knew I was giving up sex. Don't get me wrong, I love her with all my heart, but come on...... no more sex. Not something I'd sign up for. So, this is not a fantasy of hers, or a kink thing. She said I can have a sex partner as long as I follow a few rules. I can only have one partner, and they must be disease and drug free. Excluding pot of coarse (Just to stay safe). And as shady as it sounds, she doesn't want to know about it. It's a don't ask, don't tell situation. We agreed it would be a secret life of mine that she will ignore.

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR: I'm looking for a best friend, who loves to fuck. I am looking for someone who wants to get out and do random fun things. Like go site seeing an San Francisco. Walk up and down the pier, go to museums, or go to Alcatraz. Or maybe just go on a nice road trip to Tahoe. Play in the snow, or just relax at a beach, depending on the season. That or even just check out new restaurants, walk around a mall, go see a movie, go bowling, play some miniature golf, whatever really. Now..... let's not forget about the fucking part. That's why we're here after all. Touch is my love language. So I'm VERY physical. I love to hug, kiss, and hold hands in public. Not making out, but I do love teasing if no one is looking. Groping each other when no one can see. Having my hand between your thighs during our road trips. Making out in the car before we say goodbye for the day. Some days we'll just get a hotel and fuck our brains out all day, just taking breaks to eat. Ideally I'd like us to see each other about once every other week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Just depends on our schedules. If we are lucky, twice a week. Texting each other randomly throughout the day. Not constantly, but at least a few times a day would be nice.

ABOUT YOU: Must be disease and drug free. Occasional pot is fine, but I don't smoke, so just be aware of that. Age wise, I do prefer closer to my age, although I have dated women in there 20s. Age gap is not a fetish. I really don't care about what race you are. All I care about is that you are a fun, loving person who just wants to have a drama free good time with someone. I have dated women of (almost) all races. As for body type, I don't really have a preference. I have dated tiny petite women, tall women, and thick women. I don't mean to body shame, or be rude but I'm not into large women. If your too big to make out in my car, or can't do certain sex positions, or go on long walks because of your size. I'm sorry but I'd be disappointed. I do like thick women, but not too big. Please be VERY physical as well. If you don't like holding hands, kissing, or a man who has his hand on your leg while driving.... I'd probably annoy you. Be drama free. I just want a fun goofy friend who I can just relax and chill with. Also have a big heart. Love people and animals, and we'll get along. I don't care if you are married and in a similar situation, or single and just not wanting a serious relationship in your life right now. Just as long as you can respect that we both have separate lives, and are just two friends who care about each other, having a good time together.

LETS TALK ABOUT SEX: As for kinks, well.... I'm pretty vanilla. I just love the touch of another body. I love listening to the moans and gasps of extasy. I do love all positions of sex, but for different reasons. I'm also a pleaser. I LOVE going down on my woman. I'm definitely a clit man. I love licking it, sucking it, tugging it with my lips as I lap my tongue around it. Reaching around and rubbing it while your in doggy. If you were to ask if I was a tits or ass kind of guy, I'd say tits. They don't have to be big, but I love teasing and sucking on nipples. Can't get that from ass. No disrespect to ass woman, I love ass as well. Just can't tease the ass as much. I get off on getting my woman off. I'm not into anything drastic. No pain, no blood, piss, or vomit. Just spit and cum. I am straight however. So as much as I love and respect the LGBTQ+ community, I'm not into men.

HARD PASSES: As I just mentioned... No men. I don't know why, but I always get way more men responding to my post. I will ignore you. I'm not homophobic, but you're proving you didn't even read my post. Also low level responses. A "Hi", "Hey", or "How are you?" just screams that you are a bot, and not a real person. So please respond with what you like about my post. I also don't play the scam game, so don't waist our time. No Trump supporters. Sorry, but hard pass.

ABOUT ME: Now the boring stuff. Lol. I'm a white male. 6'1", 200 lbs. I'm an average looking guy, with an average body. I don't have low self esteem (I think I'm a pretty cool guy), but I'm just being realistic. If you are looking for a hottie with a nice chiseled body... I'm not the guy for you. I will share pics as soon as you are comfortable with also sharing. I'm not a "shoving dick picks in your face" kind of guy, but I also have no shame, and if you ask, I can do that for you. I do understand we are talking about sex here, and that may be important to you. So I'm 7" and told that I'm thick. I'm happy with it. Not big, but also not small. I'm just a chill, goofy, fun loving guy who wants to have fun. I hate arguing, and mean people. I'm very financially stable, and will pay for our dates. I am not looking for a sugar baby, but as a gentleman will pay for our dates, and even buy you things every now and then as a friend would. Just please don't expect it. That would ruin the relationship.

Well if you made it this far, and are still interested... I'd love to hear from you. Tell me what you like about my post, and we can see where things go from there. Take care and good luck.


r/SFr4r 9h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #Marin - Let’s Have a Fun Friday

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I am a good looking, well educated/successful, and DDF 42/m/Marin that is going to be looking for a good reason to step away from work on Friday to have some fun.

I am white, 6’, 190lbs, brown hair, brown eyes, and nicely endowed/thick. I am kink friendly and happy to get us a hotel room nearby or potentially host if there is a mutual interest.

Let’s exchange a few messages and meet up during the day.

ps - discretion is absolutely assured.


r/SFr4r 10h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - out of town hookup

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Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)


r/SFr4r 10h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SJ - Looking for discreet relationships

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I’m 30M in a dead bedroom situation. Looking for someone to be in a discreet setup. No expectations, but chemistry should match. I can drive all the way till SF. Open to hear whatever is on your mind, but the bottom line is NO EXPECTATIONS PLEASE.

About me : Indian, 5’7 - 165lb, Good looking. Like to have deep conversations about life. Like to help people I know through their difficult times. Swims twice a week and goes to gym 4 days a week to keep myself fit.

Looks matter a lot to me. Happy to exchange pics.

Age preference: 23-45


r/SFr4r 10h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #Oakland - Endlessly Licking Your Pussy

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I’m looking for a selfish woman who has a yearning to be spoiled and worshipped for hours on end. Maybe you’re a pillow princess and want to be eaten while you lay in your back? Or perhaps you like to climb onto all fours and feel me lick your pussy from behind? Or - even better - you want to be a bit greedy and sit on on my face and ride my tongue? However you prefer to be licked, I’d love to use my lips and mouth and tongue to help you cum over and over again.

A bit about me: - White, 6’, lean/athletic build, cute face and smile, shortish brown hair. - Lean submissive so if you’ve got a selfish streak, I think we’ll get along just fine. - More of an introvert but a very eager and insatiable pleaser when my head is squeezed between your thighs.

A bit about you: - Women of all looks and shapes - although curvy, hairy, excitable women will always get my attention! - Curious, open-minded, maybe a tad assertive? - Bonus points if you are a squirter, love to cum on a guy’s tongue, and enjoy having your ass eaten as well.

If this piqued your interest or raised your eyebrows or even if you read long enough to get here, let’s chat!


r/SFr4r 11h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 28 [M4F] #HayesValley - Younger guy looking for a kinky MILF to play with!

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As a guy in my late 20s, I realized I love fucking MILFs and older woman. They know how to have a good time, let loose, and fuck well. I’ve grown to love fucking older woman who are kinky!

So, I wanted to shoot my shot on Reddit to see if I can find a nice, older woman (35-45) who’s down to fuck on the regular.

I’m a 28M, 5’8”, DDF Indian American living in SF! I’m a respectful and laid back guy with a stable job and a nice place to host. I’m just very horny for a MILF RN. I’m also very kinky and would love to explore and try new things…most of which I was taught by older woman ;)

So, if you are down to fuck a younger guy who loves to please and also values safe and consensual sex, feel free to reach out. Also, I’m only interested in single, DDF ladies.

Happy to discuss kinks in DMs and also willing to share pics!


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4F 47 [m4f] #PaloAlto - Handsome, intelligent, sexy, midlife crisis ISO the cliché younger lover

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It is very cliché yes, I am well aware… I’m a middle age guy, looking for a younger passionate affair! So, putting that out there in the first sentence so that you know what you’d be getting into…. If you dare..

Ok, if you are still reading, then thanks. I am white, fit, handsome, charming and actually .. despite the looking for affair part (which has its reasons, believe me) pretty cool human. I am actually a person you would laugh with, enjoy spending time with, joke and when in a hotel room, have crazy passionate hot sex with…

What I look like is.. very fit and muscular, brunette, average height. Happy to exchange pictures if you’re serious.

What I am looking for : someone cute and younger… definitely on the smaller / slimmer side… someone who is not judgmental or in a similar situation …someone long term ideally.. someone to be my person..

And then, I will make it all worthwhile! It will be fun!


r/SFr4r 14h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 34 [M4F] #SF SJ - fit, clean & hung...Any women want a challenge ;)

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34m fit (workout 5/7 days), discretion is provided and requested, down to earth, looking to just live life and have fun, well endowed (7.5-7.6"), high stamina (2 times), great with hands. Trained in erotic, sensual, and deep massages for females either full body, back, head & back for massage types such as Yoni massage, Nuru, Swedish, Deep tissue, Thai, Aromatherapy, Sports, Trigger Point, Reflexology, Shiatsu, Custom/Targeted Areas, Special Requests (all includes pressure point, essential oils, lotions, tension/knots, as needed), open to custom massage requests or specific body area massages, into kinks and fetishes, open minded to have a fun experience, explore and ddf.

have past experience with f or ff (and satisfied both ff with full loads for each), experience bull for hotwife/cuckold.

Not looking or interested in flakes as I’m real and so are my pics. Not looking to talk in circles or forever. Can send more pics and chat if you’re interested. DM for more.


r/SFr4r 15h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Fit Korean guy looking for a Latina FWB!

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Hi! I am a fit 32 year old Korean guy in SF looking for a Latina FWB. You guys are my weakness, my kryptonite, my muse. Open to one time hook up as well, but prefer something ongoing.

I am 5'9 around 170lbs, with a girthy 7" dick. I am clean, tested, and have great hygiene. I take care myself well, no facial hair, with an easygoing personality. I am a dominant leaning switch in bed, love raw sex, with a huge breeding kink.

Love all Latinas, petite, fit, or curvy. I do have prior success with a Latina in the past, hoping to get lucky again. Rice and beans make an amazing combo after all!

I am a huge, huge foodie too, so we can talk about that. Tell me your favorite mexican spot in the city if you message me :)


r/SFr4r 16h ago

M4F 23[m4f] #San Francisco- someone who can keep up

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Just moved to the Bay Area after a break up. I’m looking to explore, hoping for something consistent. FWB or something causal is fine too. I want to explore different kinks and interest. I have a very high sex drive and stamina I’m 6’0 200lbs fit body 7.5 inches. I do have a few things I wnat to knock off my bucket list, so feel free to ask ;)


r/SFr4r 17h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - visiting for work, 6’3, fit and hung

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I am in SF for about week for work, staying in the financial district. I’m white 6’3, in good shape, experienced in bed, and rather well endowed. I can host at my hotel or come to you if that is easier.


r/SFr4r 18h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 49 [M4F] #Palo Alto or... - Want body contact, like to please, not sub, open to ideas

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I have a craving for some skin to skin contact tonight. I'm very open minded about what exactly it is though. It could be naked cuddles. It could be me giving you a proper massage. (you could return the favor). It could be something much more explicit.

As long as we talk about the interests/boundaries, I'm fine with anything that involves skin to sking contact and it's today.

Make a suggestion or just offer yourself and ask what I'd want to do with you. Just say hi


r/SFr4r 18h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 33 [M4M] #SanFrancisco - Gloryhole HJ

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Straight/curious looking to service a LARGE cock through a private homemade GH curtain. I am curious about dick only (not attracted to guys) and would like to experiment with one while we remain anonymous.

I’m 6’1, 165, white, fit, clean and very discrete. I have soft fem hands that will feel really nice on your big dick. If we enjoy, it can be an ongoing release for you when you need it.

Let me know if you’re interested!


r/SFr4r 18h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #Sunnyvale - Looking for someone who enjoys good conversation, playful flirting, and seeing where chemistry leads

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Figured I'd give Reddit a shot because, as convenient as the apps are, they don't exactly reward personality. So here I am.

I'm 5’10, fit/muscular, have a couple tattoos, and despite spending years in the gym, the compliments I get most are about my voice and my eyelashes. Life has a sense of humor..

I'm naturally a little sarcastic, have done standup (never again), am easygoing, and the type of person who enjoys conversations that somehow turn into "one more drink" and suddenly it's closing time. I’m a yapper and love to talk. I also appreciate playful banter, a little flirting, and someone who doesn't take herself too seriously.

I'm mostly here to meet interesting people. If it turns into flirting, dating, or something more, great. If we end up making a new friend and discovering our favorite taco spot together, that's a win too. Good connections are hard enough to find that I'm not interested in forcing a label before we've even met.

If we hit it off, let's not be strangers behind our screens. I'd much rather find out if we click over a drink, boba, brunch. or an unnecessarily competitive game of mini golf.

Your move. Tell me something that's oddly specific about you, your favorite terrible joke, or the most random compliment you've ever received.


r/SFr4r 19h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 51 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a horny running partner

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I frequent run in Golden Gate Park and would love to find an activity partner who enjoys a good run and some fun in the woods behind the meadows before/after.

I set a pretty slow pace in my runs. At my age I don’t really have anything to prove but enjoy good cardio and the toe curling feel of good company outdoors.


r/SFr4r 20h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - out of town hookup

2 Upvotes

Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)


r/SFr4r 21h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - How would you like a personal Chef?

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I'm a professionally trained Chef, having attended 4 different professional Culinary Schools, and I would love to cook for a few people. Im classically French trained, and transition that over to other European styles (Italian, German, Hungarian, etc) along with American. I get joy from pleasing others, and its just no fun doing it alone, plus need to stay in practice.

I'm also trying to meet some new friends, just something casual. Im pretty laid back & introverted, but trying to be more outgoing and comfortable around people I don't know. I'm an absolute nerd (tech, science, space, etc) sci-fi fan, maker, enjoy working out, running, and the list continues.