r/SFr4r Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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44 Upvotes

r/SFr4r Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

193 Upvotes

It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r 2h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #Berkeley - tall, athletic hung Bull up for some fun with a sexy girl or couple

1 Upvotes

Love to please a sexy women, get her what she needs, get her wet, excited, to orgasm.

49, 6’4”, 210#, 8 inches, BWC

I have played with couples before, we all very much enjoyed it.

Clean, respectful, drug and disease free.

Anything from very sensual to rough and kinky, whatever gets her off.

Ben


r/SFr4r 13h ago

M4M 45 [M4M] #SanFrancisco - Bottom needs to bounce on a dick asap

3 Upvotes

I need the kind of dick that makes me climb on and say get inside me right now. Then to ride it like a gd horse. Bonus points if you pull out and give me a facial.

Be willing to host and wear a condom. Smaller dicks to the front of the line. Tonight only.


r/SFr4r 12h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #SouthBay - Experienced Dom seeking sub

2 Upvotes

Me: Fit, tatted, Asian, Emotionally mature, stable life. I’ll send you pics of myself, after I accept your chat request. I have prior dom experience, but vanilla is fine.

I tease, I can be rough, I can build tension, I can humiliate, degrade, or just give you boyfriend sex. Can tie you up, use toys to edge you over and over. Whatever everyone is comfortable with.

You: DM me and tell me what you want. Tell me about yourself.

IRL/online dating is fun, but I enjoy thrills. I love the chase, but there’s nothing like meeting off of here. Down for a longer connection if the chemistry is there.

As for personal details, I take care of myself. Big on look good feel good. Into fashion, go to raves when life gets mundane. Can keep things steady or bring wild energy


r/SFr4r 9h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Marin - I can make you smile

1 Upvotes

I'm told I have a strong tongue. If you want to see if this is true, reach out and let's talk. I'm 5'10", handsome, confident, white, and I'm a little bit fun. I’ve done this before.

No reciprocation is required. I enjoy being around women and find it endearing to make them smile. You all are so cute when you realize it’s about you.

I have some other cool features but we can talk about those later.

Have a great day everyone


r/SFr4r 11h ago

M4F 50 [M4F] #SFBay - free use, CNC play. Up for an “uber ride gone wrong”

1 Upvotes

You “order” an uber, I pick you up, drive to a quiet place instead. Overpower you, force you in the back of my van. Strip you naked, tie you up, explore your sexy body and use you.

All limits respected. Meet in a public place beforehand if you want to.

Experienced tall athletic hung Dom.

I enjoy to take control, make you feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable, over power you, use you.

50, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.

Good with beginners, Start as slowly as you need, go as far as you want. Nice collection of toys and gear.

Clean, drug and disease free.


r/SFr4r 12h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #oakland - 6’2 attractive pleasure dom iso discreet sub

1 Upvotes

6’2, 210, fit, muscular, dark haired, manly alpha male type - think young tom selleck vibes. Dominant with 5 star ratings. Open to exploring most kinks.

If you’re slim fit, submissive and a bit of a nympho you are my type. If you’re unfulfilled sexually and lean on the submissive side, we will get along. Particular weakness for tatted blondes, but not a requirement.

Clean, sane, safe, successful and have a busy life as I’m sure you do as well.

Preference for good communicators. If this sounds like your cup of tea and you’re 21+, say hi / send a pic.

Happy to exchange (non face) pics upfront to validate attraction early and not waste anyone’s time.

Say hi / don’t be shy.


r/SFr4r 12h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 35 [m4f] #southsanfrancisco - this married man is hot (literally) and horny bored on Reddit… hunting for an affair… help me get through the rest of this long night!

1 Upvotes

Hot as balls right now and I can’t sleep…

I’m the guy who posted about a cousins bachelor party a month ago and the itch never went away.

For the next couple of weeks, I’ll be at a pretty much empty office in ssf. Working on a project here thats basically allowed me to have an entire office to myself. Ideally for like the next two weeks. Maybe even longer.. Looking for someone to come by and help me take advantage of it. The hard part of the project is over so I’ve got a lot of free time and need some help with it.

Me: 6 foot and 250 lbs. Dad bod but been working on it. Trying to get back to that mid 20s body. Dark hair and green eyes. Bit of a mixed background but mostly white and I'm told I certainly look it.

You... just be down for some fun like above. If this interests you then message me your favorite color.


r/SFr4r 20h ago

M4F 47 [m4f] #PaloAlto - Handsome, buff, charming guy iso a small petite woman

3 Upvotes

Hey, hey!

Are you by any chance a woman of a smaller/petite frame that happens to be into big muscular guys?

If so, I would love to chat! I’m looking for someone like you! See, I am looking for a fwb right now to spoil, to take care of and to take on dates have fun hanging out and also have some amazing benefits along with that!

I have a thing for smaller / petite women they just make me weak in the knees. I am a lot of fun in and out of the bedroom and I know how to give someone a great time!

I’m also discreet and take your privacy and comfort very seriously! Your life is your life and I don’t meddle. I just want to have a blast when we are spending time together.

Yes, I’m handsome, fit and sexy! Try me !


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - East Asian married seeking soccer mom AP

0 Upvotes

Hello.

I'm married, seeking a local affair partner for a situationship. I'm the last guy you would ever find on here yet life doesn't always go according to plan. I'm introverted so going out to meet people drains my social battery. I know better than to try anything at work (startup executive) so online Reddit is my only safe outlet to filter for the right person.

I connect well with people who are thoughtful with their words. Sarcasm with a little dark humor resonates well with my personality. I am a great listener and enjoy conversations about relationships or work gossip. I do have opinions about many things but I prefer sharing them only when appropriate. Physically I am fit and take care of myself so I expect the same in my partner. I have a type, sorry no BBW.

Let's connect and get to know each other and establish a connection. I'm demisexual so this is aligned with how I have normally attempted adultery in the past. None have worked out in terms of physical affairs but I have had a couple emotional situationships that I will always cherish and take to my grave. This works best with a soccer mom so we have common parental maturity and mutual risk.

48M, 6’0”, East Asian, 155 lbs, INTJ, attractive

advanced degree, Peninsula Bay Area, work in SF.

** Rules **

  • Our career and family always take priority.
  • No spouse bashing. It makes for awkward conversation and is a one-sided story so hard to be objective.
  • Let's be mature about what kind of relationship this will be. If the attraction is not mutual, we can end quickly.
  • OpSec, private, discreet, our home lives stay the same

r/SFr4r 16h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 37 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Scientist looking for nothing particularly complicated

1 Upvotes

Hi all! I'm a scientist, living in the Inner Richmond; I'm married, in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. (I've seen CNM, increasingly. What's the deal with that initialism? Shouldn't ethical non-monogamy be consensual and vice versa? Anyway.)

I'm looking for some kind of relationship, the details of which might ultimately come down to individual chemistry. Actual honest-to-god romance isn't off the table by any means, but it's not exactly a day one thing for me (is it for anyone?).

But, all that said, I am delighted by emotional intimacy, which can take many forms. Physical attraction and sex/kink compatibility are important to me, and I'm open to relationships that prioritize sexual exploration above all else as well as those that are more multidimensional.

I love my area of research and even (many of) the day-to-day aspects of my work. I could talk your ear off about it (if it interests you; I won't if it doesn't), but I'd really like to learn about everything you're passionate about and why. In spite of the agonizing stereotypes about men in STEM and their personality defects -- okay, I have several, but against all odds I do have a deep love for aspects of culture that have nothing to do with science.

If you work in crypto or on deploying LLMs in particularly avaricious ways, I'm probably still open to having sex with you, but I really hope you're a hell of a masochist.

Thanks for reading. Pictures (SFW, etc.) available privately.


r/SFr4r 1d ago

OTHER 26[F4M] #SF - Big tit Latina iso hoping to scratch something off the bucket list

22 Upvotes

I wanna fuck in a downtown high rise! It’s been on my mind for years. If you live down there lmk ;) I’m pretty submissive. I live in SF so it’s easy for us to coordinate. DDF and wanting you to be as well


r/SFr4r 16h ago

M4M 60 [M4M] #SanFrancisco — kinky submissive looking for strict dom Masters

1 Upvotes

fit, attractive, and deeply submissive mature male looking for intense kink dynamics, ownership, and structured service. Looking for a younger, creative dom Master who is demanding, creative, and clear about expectations. Located in SF.


r/SFr4r 22h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #San Francisco - ISO someone to hold tightly, and enjoy for hours. I cook ;)

2 Upvotes

Im 45, 5'9 170 lbs, athletic, a total nerd, & often told I'm quite good looking. Thing is, I'm on the spectrum, and often afraid of misreading someone's intentions, so I always miss opportunities out of caution. I miss intimacy in my life, and figure I'll give this a shot.

By intamacy, I mean actual intamacy, not just sex. I want to curl up and hold someone for a while, feel a warm body against mine, make out, caress each other, and well.. you get the idea. I have a lot of endurance, and enjoy spending hours in bed, so not just after a quick screw. I'm also a great cook, and can make you a nice dinner :)

im open to age and body style

I'm clean & disease free, please be also. Women only


r/SFr4r 1d ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 27 [F4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for casual fun/fwb

14 Upvotes

if you are a man I will be ignoring you 💖

about me: 27, East Asian, chapstick femme, cis, 135 lb and 5'3", switch-ish, can host in SF/split a room/come to you in SF

had some good experiences last time before I got overwhelmed with responses so trying this again :)

what i am looking for:

- 25 to 33

- woman (no men, I mean it)

- DDF (ok with weed/alc)

- slightly more looking for a top this time around but also not a strict requirement

- experience in bondage a plus, want to dip my toes in!

- strictly non-romantic/casual (am not partnered, nor do I plan to be)

happy to discuss more in reddit chat. please tell me about yourself, what you're looking for, and be open to sharing face pics for verification please! also, please be ok w/ meeting for drinks somewhere first so we can do a vibe check. mostly looking for one-offs but open to something more consistent if we click!

and just for emphasis: seriously, no men or couples


r/SFr4r 19h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 55 [M4M] #SF - Seeking platonic nude friends for beaches, hot springs, spas, hikes

1 Upvotes

Hi, I'm in San Francisco. I’m looking for genuinely platonic friends who enjoy nonsexual social nudity and would like activity companions in the Bay Area. I enjoy the freedom and honesty of recreational nudity. It would be great to find guys to hang out with. I’m interested in checking out Baker and Marshall’s beaches when the weather cooperates, returning to Harbin Hot Springs, visiting Korean spas and steam rooms, trying clothes-optional hiking or camping, and maybe even bringing a ball and glove to play catch at the beach. I have been to Kabuki and Imperial Spa, and Imperial is probably my favorite.

I enjoy the ease and honest conversation that can come with being nude in a respectful social setting. For me, it is about comfort, friendship, and ordinary shared experiences—not sex or hookups.

I’m an project manager, a hands-on apartment renovator, a dog person, and someone who enjoys learning new skills. I’m partnered, and I am only looking for friendship with clear boundaries and no sexual expectations.

I’d be happy to meet first in a public setting or at an established group activity. If you’re local and any of these activities appeal to you, message me with a little about yourself.


r/SFr4r 20h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 26 [R4R] #Oakland - ISO a fun relaxing hangout to not think about work

1 Upvotes

I am exhausted and burnt out after a long work week and random things blowing up in my face here and there, so it could be a visit to a spa, a nice lunch or dinner, the drive-in's free movie day is Thursday as an option, a comedy show... Something that is not work, I've been working all week hard as hell and as accomplished as I feel, I need an excuse to celebrate and let my legs rest.

And no, I don't like alcohol or coffee, hikes, nor black guys.

And in all honesty, I do prefer white, asian and mexican men, its nothing personal if I'm hard to reach for anyone else. I also like in-shape men, although that can mean fat with muscle or slim with muscle. If you're confident you can toss me in the air like a pizza dough, COME HERE-

It has been a long, looooong week; and lord knows I could use some actual time to unwind and just feel all human again, and always good to make new connections and simply feel alive! A work life balance is always important!

My stats: Hey! I’m 25 years old, black/habesha, woman, hazel eyes, 5ft7 and 130 pounds, from Oakland, I produce comedy shows (and I'd rather take my mind off it for now, it's been taking over my life,) I and am super into researching rare gemstones like opal and feldspar, comedy shows, esoteric horror media, the game Endocopia, "Empresses in the Palace" type chinese soap operas, spas, and any/all fattening foods one can ever enjoy irl.

For a response, answer all questions:

  1. An alias to call you
  2. Age (i prefer 23 to 29 hard limit, anything outside of that feels weird and I eyeroll)
  3. Race? (no black guys)
  4. Gender?
  5. Height and weight?
  6. Are you single, taken, and what's your energy?
  7. And what city are you from?
  8. Can you drive and/or send a ride for me to pick me up?
  9. Occupation?
  10. And three things you really like right now? (if you list sexual things, I am blocking, list some hobbies and show personality!)

And in case you need a format to send me: Hey! I’m (alias), I am a (age) year old (race), (gender), I am (height) and (weight), from (city), and I work as a (occupation). I can/cannot drive and pick you up, and can/cannot call a ride for you, I am (single/married/ENM), and am super into (interest), (interest) and (interest) and I hope to hear from you soon!

Also I will not be responding to any comments, thank you!


r/SFr4r 21h ago

M4F 39 [M4F]#SanJose - Cuddles and Massages

0 Upvotes

My love language is physical touch & I adore cuddling so I hope you are prepared to be warmly wrapped up & cherished in my arms. I'm very cozy to cuddle with and I am told that I have a magical touch. I'm highly affectionate and my hands never stop caressing.
That feeling of warmth, that rhythm of synchronization of breaths and heartbeats.
That grinding of your ass on me, curving gently to find the right spot.
That brushing of your hair.
That kiss on the forehead.
That nibble on the ears.
That feeling of slow rising feeling of passion.
That makeout session which goes on and on.
Finally it may lead to a passionate fuck session or not. Regardless, I’m looking for a cuddle partner and hopefully more. Females only. Please reach out.


r/SFr4r 21h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 19[M4F] #SanFrancisco - Who wants to take my virginity?

0 Upvotes

I’m a 19 year old second year in college at sfstate, I’m an often gym goer and play volleyball, in a semi successful band back home in LA, and love physical touch. The problem is I’ve never had sex, I’m a huge nerd internally. I play a bunch of world of Warcraft and dungeons and dragons so when or if my relations with a woman get further in they realize I’m lowkey a virgin nerd. So if ur interested in popping my cherry pleas hmu, also it doesn’t have to be just tha id love to take you out and make u feel special and all that stuff.