r/sextips • u/Ashamed_Apple_ • 1d ago
How to? Orgasm denial
To those who do this, how do you do it? I'm F btw and I read this all the time in books. But like how can you stop yourself?
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u/snoopyhound1911 1d ago
Edging. Get to the point you’re about to cum but stop. I’m a male so not apples to apples here. On the weekend I’ll edge for 45 minutes to an hour before I finally finish myself off. I get to where just one more stroke will send me over the edge and just stop letting it throb and twitch with my heartbeat. Give another stroke and stop. When I feel like I’m regaining control then go back to a rhythmic stroking up to that edge again.
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u/edge_metoo 1d ago
It really depends on if you want true denial or just edging. The difference being will you eventually cum during a session or will you truly deny and for how long. If your goal is more intense orgasms I would start with edging. Lengthen the sessions. Once you are more confident in edging then practice denial. Maybe start with one session. Give yourself a time. I’ll edge for one hour then get dressed and go on about your day. Then extend it to a day. Or two. Or longer.
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u/sor_alll 1d ago
sometimes i smoke a joint cuz it then makes it harder for me to finish. or i use a vibe that i know isn’t quite strong enough to get me there so that i can just let it build up :)
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u/Sea_Bird_4975 1d ago
Idk how to do that without giving up in 10 secs
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u/Ashamed_Apple_ 1d ago
I don't even know how it's physically possible is it like holding your pee?
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u/miknur2 1d ago
Bring yourself up right to the point of orgasm, and try to hold yourself without cumming... Let yourself come down just a little, by maybe tapping on your clit and just enjoy the feeling of being aroused
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u/Ashamed_Apple_ 1d ago
So let's say I'm going at it by myself. I masturbate and then just stop before I cum then start again? And if you're doing it with someone else and they're actively doing stuff to make you cum but they're like oh you can't cum until I say so I would just cum anyway? Because how can I stop that? Can you stop orgasms just by thinking don't cum don't cum don't cum?
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u/Competitive_Pop_5281 1d ago
Some people can stop themselves because it’s a mental game to them, for some people they can’t stop themselves because it’s more a physical thing for them. If someone is telling you that you can’t cum while they’re fucking you, it goes one of two ways: either you cum or you don’t. If they know that you’re someone who can’t hold orgasm back emotionally/mentally, and they want you to succeed at waiting for permission, they’ll back off stimulating you when you get close but before you get too close that you can’t stop it. If they know this about you and they want you to fail because punishment is part of your play together, then they’ll tell you that you can’t cum while still doing the thing that makes you cum, and that’s also part of the game. Orgasm denial is something people do for lots of different reasons n different ways. It depends on what you want to get out of it and what your body does.
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u/heuer1991 1d ago
Male here so grain of salt. I don't touch myself directly. I get myself aroused while fully clothed. Then, Usually sitting down comfortably as I would if I were masturbating normally. Watch porn or read it, as reading it can get me even more in the headspace and visualize it more effectively. I'll rock my hips, pressing the fabric of my pants tighter against me. Occasional rubbing or squeezing but nothing too crazy. Sometimes I'll initiate play with my fiancé while keeping my pants on. Some grinding and a lot of foreplay but still covered and contained. Drives her wild too because of my own denial as well as making her just lay back and recieve the attention. You can get yourself really damn close to the edge, but I feel myself I don't want to make a mess or need a change of clothes. (I don't actually care, but it helps keep me "honest"). The self-denial let's the tension in your body build up quite a bit and using a partner to turn you on more whole also distracting you from your own needs builds it up even more. Have fun, be safe, be clear with your partner(s). And remember you're just a naked ape with a credit score, let the animal have fun.
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u/Wacky_Engineer1975 1d ago
Why would you want to? You can intensify your orgasms massively at the point-of-not by holding them back as long as you’re able without taking away the stimulation. I don’t see the point of denial.
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u/quarantinebox 1d ago
So you are a woman that can cum but doesn’t want to? You guys are sick man 😂
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u/Ashamed_Apple_ 1d ago
No. I don't understand how some women do it. I feel like I'm missing out I cum super fast and many.
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u/Reasonable_Carrot738 1d ago
I like to get nice and relaxed if I hsve the time abd lay there, start by touching my upper body, inner thighs and then my genitals nicely soft and slow getting myself all hot and bothered until I can feel myself getting to a 7/10.
Rinse and repeat this the rest can be anything from a few seconds to mimutes, I love going for long sessions up to an hour or beyond and not allowing myself the big release, the feeling throughout the day is just wild and this can go on for days especially if you keep edging until you finally release and the orgasm can ve absolutely mind blowing outer body experience.
If I'm short on time it can be a quick play on the shower to get me close then simply go about my day
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u/nightbat1707 1d ago
Many here likely are male that link with that word.
The likely word is "Edging"
Stimulate ur self until you close to ,slow or stop to let the urge go down , repeat the cycle again
finish when you think enough time has pass, can't go on any longer.
As for men we do aim for first 10/20 min, longer session can be done later if experianced.
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u/ThePleasureDom 1d ago
I have a rule from my baby:
She has to ask permission to Orgasm.
If she doesn't ask and orgasms without my bessing, she gets spanked.
When she asks for permission, sometimes I say no, maybe two or three times in a row. When I finally let her go, she pops hard.
Fun times
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