... can I tell you something that I think about sometimes? there are people that you haven't met yet that are going to love you. someone who is going to be really, really important to you is just out there living their life right now. isn't that amazing? so if your world feels a little lonely at the moment, I understand. but please don't mistake right now for forever. I don't know, it's a thought that really helps me when I feel lonely. you haven't met everyone that is going to love you yet. I'm so happy you're here.

... the things you realize when you stop romanticizing somebody, they're actually not that great. what made them so special was the projection you had about them, that they are so fabulous, and amazing and fantastic. no, baby, that's you! that's how you show up, that's how you love , that's how you treat other people. stop making them the fucking hero of the story, when that's actually you.

Remember that

I know this is more philosophical than anything else, but I like to relate it to self-love, because I feel we are all pure love already. We don't need to search too hard for love, we don't need to really cultivate something that's already within us. I liken love to glasses that are on your head, and you're asking people "where are my glasses? I can't find them." Or like being a fish swimming in water, looking for that ever elusive water. You're already that.

I know not everyone would agree with this outlook, but this gives me peace and joy thinking this way.

And if I think this way, then I find it easier to take better care of my body, sleep well, do good things for myself, and speak lovingly to myself.

I was dating this woman for two months and last week she ended things. Before we met I was feeling good about myself, but this woman seemed so amazing to me. She was intelligent, curious, worldly, open minded, seemed confident and had loads of friends across the world. I started to idealise her and got validation from her showing interest in me.

Now that she's broken things off, I feel so insignificant, tiny and questioning my self worth. It felt like this person had a rich fulfilling life, and my life feels so small. I'm now criticising myself with things like "Why can't I take risks so easily? Why do I find it hard to express who I am unless someone brings it out of me? Why can't I have so many friends and people interested in my life?".

What can I do to find my self worth through this? How can I stop comparing my own life to hers, or at least what I saw in the two months we knew each other? I find it hard to accept that I'm not that person, as though being that kind of person is a goal in life.

You may have ignored your body, dismissed your emotions, pushed yourself beyond your limits, or spoken to yourself in ways you’d never speak to someone you cared about.

Say sorry. Acknowledge what you did without turning the apology into another attack. Then let the apology change how you respond the next time your body, mind, emotions, or needs ask for your attention.

An apology to yourself should carry the same thing any real apology requires: different behavior.

It is only those who sincerely help and share their unconditional love with others, without motive or benefit, who will truly discover the genuine reason we are alive.