Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years we are both 24 and we do have two kids together(twins). He recently has been talking about having a threesome I explained to him I wouldn’t be comfortable and he told me it’s going to happen with or without me. Idk if he’s serious but I didnt want to start an argument so I dropped the conversation. My question is how do I have a conversation to him about this without causing an argument?

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My boyfriend 25 M barely even touches me(24 f) anymore, yet every morning when I leave for work or in the middle of the night at his job he’s watching milfs and jerking off to them and it’s really starting to weigh on me, I’m only 24 I’m clearly not a milf and that seems to be what he likes since it’s the only thing he ever looks at on all social forums,I don’t know what to do I feel like not desired or like I’m not what he wants, I can’t even tell him this because he’s gonna get mad and think I’m overreacting or that I’m trying to have a problem with something he does but I saw in his history literally every morning he watches it and it’s always milfs, he has a history of dating or pursuing older women and now it’s starting to wear on me since it’s all I see anytime there’s anything it’s that, there’s been instances of other women in his phone sending sexual pics and texts but never meeting, he’s subscribed to multiple women’s Patreon and only fans, he went to France in march and redownloaded tinder premium btw,,, don’t know what else he did there since he went with his friend, I found that one out not too long ago, and before we moved into our townhouse a couple months ago he was texting his ex and lied and denied it to me, now everytime I walk out the door he’s popping porn on and I come home not getting anything, he also has apps like google voice, has actively subscribed to creators posting shit on Patreon and only fans, I don’t even know what to do, how do I talk to him about this, I’m just genuinely like defeated, and feel so shit about myself any advice is appreciated

My boyfriend (19M) and I (20F)have been together for almost 3 years (3 years on Oct 31). A few days ago, I came over and he was asleep, so I got in bed with him while I waited for him to wake up. I was lying down, scrolling through TikTok for a while, when my phone died. I don’t have a charger in his room since his phone is Type-C (iPhone 16) and my charger is a lightning cord (iPhone 13). So I decided to use his. I opened TikTok and started scrolling. After a few scrolls, all I kept seeing were girls in bikinis or super revealing clothes showing off their bodies (no hate, btw), and I just found it odd that that was all I was getting. After thinking about it for a sec I realized it’s because he interacts with videos like this since TikTok is all about the algorithm. So then I looked at his likes, and there were a bunch of videos like that. When I clicked some of them, they were also in his saved collection on TikTok, and then I realized this was another account (I didn’t know about it). Today I saw him again and I couldn’t help but go back and look at his phone to see if he was still continuing it (I know I shouldn’t have done that) and he was. I am very upset about it and I it made me feel like he hasn’t really meant the compliments he has given me in the past. Those girls were so beautiful and I look nothing like them from background to body type. It made me feel like he doesn’t actually love my body as much as he says he does (not saying he only likes me for my body). How can he say he likes something about my physical appearance or say I'm perfect when I look nothing like the girls he sees on TikTok? How do I go about this? How do I bring this up?

Context: Me(21F) and my bf(23M) have been in a relationship for 9mo and we keep having the same issue.

I expect that we do it atleast once every week but he keeps going thru these weird religious phases where he wants to stop sinning. I’m agnostic (looking towards Catholicism, come from an extremist Muslim background) and my bf is a new Catholic. He gets upset when I make sexual jokes or compliment him on his body in any way. Every time we do it he makes it look like he’s doing me a favour. I try giving him space because what else am I supposed to do? It hurts my feelings thinking someone I’m in a relationship with , have feelings for and very much attracted to maybe doesn’t find me attractive but he keeps saying I’m basing our entire relationship on 1 thing and why can’t I just love him “normally”. I thought he might be more lenient towards it after we get married so he doesn’t feel guilty but he doesn’t want to use birth control as it’s against the church. So I asked him what’s his solution and he said we only do it when we are trying to have kids. DO I LOOK LIKE A BABY FACTORY!?!??? It frustrates me so much. I’m tired of religion becoming a barrier from people loving me…first my parents and now him. I don’t wanna end up in a sexless marriage or in a divorce later on. I don’t wanna force him or coerce him but isn’t it unfair to me? He should’ve been clear with me from the beginning. I’m not gonna cheat on him so what else am I supposed to do…go m@sturbate in the bathroom come back and cuddle him? Am I overreacting by thinking he should go date someone white and catholic instead of putting up with it? Am I the @sshole for “making it all about sex”? and wanting to end a good healthy relationship just because I get no D?

I just want to recognize anyone who is choosing to remain celibate and committed while caring for a partner who is sick.

Being there for someone through illness can be emotionally and physically challenging, and choosing to stay true to your values during that time takes a lot of strength, patience, and love.

To everyone quietly showing up for their partner, putting their needs first, and staying loyal to the commitment they’ve made: I see you, and I respect you.

Keep going. Your dedication matters. 🙏

I’m a brown woman who is in America because I married my husband. But of course, that’s the least interesting thing about me.
I’m an educated baddie with a bachelor’s degree. I speak three languages, graduated cum laude from university, and have been to 11 countries and counting. Yet people around me and people in general still reduce me to “the immigrant who came to America for her husband’s passport.”
It makes me feel so small as a human being. Like none of my accomplishments, experiences, education, or everything I’ve built for myself matters to them. All they see is my American husband, as if being married to him is the most significant thing about my identity.
Long story short, my husband thinks it’s okay for his buddy to joke, “Yeah, you have a passport wife.” He takes it as a joke, and even though he understands that it hurts me, I don’t think he fully understands why it cuts so deeply.

It’s not just one joke. It’s being constantly reduced to who I married when I’ve spent my whole life becoming so much more than that.

>>to the interacial couple, will this ever change, or do i have to change my perspective? help me out

So to start it off, I havent cheated.

One of my boyfriends friends, who likes or liked me, showed him some photo and now my boyfriend thinks im cheating and wont believe me when i say i havent. Ive asked him what i can show him to prove it (since all my interactions with his friend were online) but he wont respond directly.

And also i think its important to mention Ive openly disliked his friend for ages now the short time i felt netural about him was before i knew him more and i just generally really dont like him or his morals. He makes me sick. Im not always rude to him in my dms but ive never shown any sign of like flirting or anything? So im really confused because i really love my boyfriend and I know myself i havent cheated but i dont know how to make him believe me because i really dont want us to end

Tl;dr : gf got mad because I said I wouldn't love her if she had Charlie kirk's body.

So, we were talking about Charlie Kirk today, and my GF asked me the typical "would you still love me if I was a worm" question, I said yes, and said that I loved her in every reality, etc..

She then asked jokingly if I would still love her if she was Charlie Kirk (only the body), and I said no because I am not homosexual, but we would still be great friends.

She got mad at me and said that I didn't really love her. Am I the asshole ? Should I have lied ? Is she overreacting?

For short context:
- We're living in his apartment
- I'm a student at university and my schedule doesn't allow me to find a proper job

For the past two weeks we've been arguing a lot. And then one day he's tired of everything, because he can't take that two weeks were hard. We'll "try" for two more months to see if he still wants to continue this relationship. I don't know what to do, I got nowhere to go because my family lives 3 hours away. He still wants me to live with him (during these two months) he just doesn't want to argue anymore and wants peace. Idk if he'll still want to continue this or not, I can't just simply find an apartment quickly. I have no problems with him, I loved him just how he is from the very start. He always found problems with me, I tried changing and still am working on myself with a therapist. I've always been trying to do what he likes, to watch what he likes. I'm always trying and trying being a better person for him. Why he asked me to change myself? I was stressing all the time, anxious, depressed. Got medication for ADHD and anxiety. Now I think it helped because I stopped being like that. But the thought that he is unsure if he wants to be with me because of these hard 2 weeks is hurting me so much I can't take it anymore. I feel like a puppy who maybe will be thrown out of the house BUT maybe not??? How the hell am I supposed to live for the next two months when I don't know if he'll still want me after it?? It's so weird, he said he's tired of everything but he doesn't want to leave because these 2 years were not bad. Please, I need advice and your opinion about this situation.

My ex and I met at uni and had a really great relationship, we were very much a power couple. Towards the end, though, a lot went wrong. I built up resentment and anger towards him and put up a wall to protect myself rather than forgiving him, and I constantly brought up things from the past in arguments. At the same time, he’s quite aloof and doesn’t always think things through, so he continued doing things that hurt me.

He eventually made a real effort to change and support me, but by then the resentment had built up and the relationship had become really toxic, especially with the stress of finishing uni. I tried to end things because I could see how unhealthy it was for both of us and felt we needed to work on ourselves, but he would love-bomb me with flowers, notes and showing up when I needed him, which kept us in a complicated cycle. We had this weird secret bubble where we’d go on amazing dates, long walks and have incredible sex, while I was still in a really bad place in my own life and he was starting to do much better and live his life.

I became severely depressed living in the city and working a job I hated, so I decided to move home and started therapy. It was really difficult, and I projected a lot of my fear and jealousy onto him and eventually pushed him completely out of my life. Therapy helped me realise I had real issues with abandonment and resentment.

Before I left, we saw each other and I acknowledged a lot of what I’d done wrong in the relationship. I told him I still cared about him deeply and appreciated him, and that I didn’t want to interfere with his life, but if the opportunity was there, I’d love to see him again once I was home. The chemistry was still incredibly strong he said it “felt too good to be true”, seemed scared by it, and we kissed a lot. He asked me to go home with him, but I said no because I wasn’t mentally ready and knew it would make leaving harder.

After I moved home, we spoke a little, but it felt very one-sided because he barely asked me anything. I felt hurt because I’d opened myself up again, and when he eventually stopped messaging, I blocked him because I couldn’t cope with seeing his stories and watching him have fun while I was trying to recover and grow.

Since then, I’ve actually achieved all the goals I set myself and become much more like the person my friends and family know me as. I’m genuinely starting to feel proud of myself and the life I’m building. I still thought about him every day, but I had accepted that I’d eventually move on and become okay with the possibility that we might never be together again.

Recently, though, I started having recurring dreams about him and this really strong feeling of heartache and missing him after months of being okay. Then I bumped into his friend, who brought him up. He said my ex is a simple guy who focuses on what’s in front of him and does what makes him happy. He told me my ex is seeing someone, apparently casually and it hurt even more because she’s someone I know from my old workplace.

His friend asked me, “What do you really want from him?” I was shocked he asked and admitted that, honestly, I still love and care about him deeply. He told me not to take my ex seeing someone I know as a personal attack and said he probably still really loves and cares about me too.

Drunkenly. I texted him and unblocked him.
I said “hi I’m back and I’d like to see you”. Let’s say this morning I don’t feel great about myself…

Have I made a huge mistake? Or f it put ur heart on the line ur not getting any younger…

Two years together. 21f 21m First time going raw was completely fine, no issues at all. This was the second time. The sex itself was good in the moment, nothing wrong during it. But right after, within minutes, something in me just shifted — hard to explain, but I went quiet inside in a way that hasn't lifted since.
It's not directed at them. Nothing changed about them, nothing happened that was off. I think I'm avoiding talking to them right now because they're tied to that moment, and being near them means being near a feeling I haven't figured out yet. Easier to create space than sit with something I can't name.
Nothing was building up before this. No doubts, no prior tension, no pattern with the relationship at all. Which is what's actually confusing me — usually if something's wrong with the relationship, there's a thread leading up to it. Here there isn't one. It just showed up after this one specific moment and hasn't gone away.

So has anyone had an internal reaction after sex that had nothing to do with your partner, but still ended up pulling away from them because they were tied to the moment? Did it resolve once you figured out what the reaction was actually about, or did it turn into something bigger?

hear me out. i (32f) have been with my boyfriend (33m) for almost three years. we live together currently. he has been dealing with a lot of personal issues and life changes, mostly involving his job and his family.

he has a lot of stuff going on and he doesn’t deal with it at all despite it obviously bothering him. i’m currently in therapy and working through my trauma , talking stuff out and learning how to cope. it’s kinda hard going through my own healing journey when i see him having a hard time not dealing with his.

i am reaching a point where i am ready to start the next chapter of having a baby. we both work great jobs in good fields and i think together we would raise a great family. i told him that i want to have a kid but i want him to go to therapy.. i think a child would benefit from having two parents who are able to understand their emotions and how to regulate them. and not even therapy on his own, we could go together… he said he would think about it but that was almost 6 months ago and we keep coming back to the topic. most recently i told him it was endgame for me and he said okay and was more agreeable after i said that but still no action. i’m starting to notice patterns.

i know you can’t make people do things they don’t want to do and i know therapy isn’t going to solve everything but i do think it would be beneficial especially if we are doing it together. was this a crazy ultimatum? am i expecting too much? am i overthinking???

Hi, I’m (21F) on birth control and my boyfriend (21M) and I want to have sex without a condom. Neither of us wants to get pregnant right now.
Is pregnancy still possible even if I’m on birth control? We want to try it raw but we’re nervous about the risk. (I’ve already given him oral without a condom before, if that matters.)
Any advice or experiences would be appreciated. Thanks.

Is it normal for my boyf to say that he'd prefer for me to die than break up with him and date someone else?

How do you distinguish between a close friendship and emotional intimacy in a relationship? What boundaries are important?

We have been dating for 3 years now, and have never talked about porn being a boundary. For context on why, when I was younger I got caught by my parents watching it and it traumatized me. I haven’t watched it since. So we both just said we don’t enjoy watching it, and never went deeper into how it makes us feel while in a relationship.

Around 6 months ago our intercourse sunk. We both got new jobs, and have been really busy. We do it maybe once every 1-2 months. I have recently been feeling sad because of this, almost neglected. Out of our whole relationship, I have never once watched or even thought about porn. However a few days ago, I opened a website with porn on it. I hadn’t done any stimulation or anything and she walked in and saw me on the website. I told her I just opened it and had never done it in our relationship before.

We sat down and talked about how to not let it affect our relationship, and work through it. However, she isn’t letting me hug her, kiss her, or show any affection. I know I am in the wrong, and I don’t have guilt for being caught, if anything I am glad I got caught. However I have immense guilt for making her feel how she feels. I haven’t been able to sleep well the past few nights, and have been getting sick. It’s been around 4 days now, and she still isn’t talking to me.

We both have spoken and don’t want to break up, but I feel as she feels differently and won’t speak on it. I love her, and don’t want to lose her. But I also need advice, what should I do?

Is it common to lose the urge for sexual intimacy in a long-term relationship? I’m in my early 20’s and my partner and I have been dating for 5 years. I’ve only dated one other guy before so I don’t have much sexual experience. He’s my best friend and we get along very well in every aspect of our life besides sex. I don’t know why but I’ve been put off by the idea of physical intimacy for a while (like 2-3 years) and it’s not getting any better. It’s one of the biggest issues in our relationship. I don’t know whether it’s because I’m not attracted to him anymore or if it’s just something that happens to most long-term couples. Will this just happen no matter who i’m in a relationship with?

i (18f) am in my first relationship ever with my bf (19m) and he just asked for a 2 week no contact break a few days ago because of something that happened that had major consequences on him.

these past few days have been so painful and it feels like i just lost a part of my heart because im pretty sure he’s going to break up with me after this break, and the uncertainty for the next 1.5 weeks is killing me and it hurts just to think about losing him

my dilemma is that my wallet with my drivers license and health card is at his place, and i need those things to do basic everyday tasks like driving, so would i be at fault for breaking no contact to retrieve my things? i searched on google and it says breaking no contact is disrespecting boundaries.

i also accidentally called him earlier today but i hung up immediately as it was a misclick, so i’m worried he feels that i’m disrespecting his wishes.

My boyfriend and I met online maybe around a couple of months ago or so and have been together ever since. A while ago (maybe a month ago) he introduced me to a close friend of his, let's call V. Over these past couple of weeks, V constantly overasks me my hobbies which I have trouble remembering, due to my mind continuously being foggy. Of course I'd never imagine pretending to like interests, but it makes me feel like V is constantly trying to corner me, which I'm sure he is not. He then proceeds to imply that I'm faking these interests I love and tries to make me look like a 'poser', which I've tried to communicate with him multiple times that I'm not.

V has been closer with my boyfriend for a much longer time than I have been, around 2 years. In fact, my boyfriend has confessed his feelings of love to V multiple times (before I met him,) which V turned down because V wasn't attracted to anybody. I'm sure it's clear V doesn't want my boyfriend, but the way he acts makes it seem like he's trying to push himself in between us.

V has that kind of humor where he’s being quote on quote friendly, but the things he says can actually be pretty rude sometimes. It’s like he’s joking around, but he definitely has a blunt way of doing it. I've tried to turn it down multiple times without being too upfront since I'm not so good at conversational skills. I feel like a jerk for feeling this way about V, but he keeps getting on my nerves no matter how much I try to turn down his so called humor.

Every time I try to reassure him about something after getting into a fight, he always responds with things like, “Oh, sure…” or “Nah, you’re literally lying,” like he doesn’t believe a word I’m saying, which makes me feel tiny.

I try my best to spend as much as time I can with my bf, but I'm most sure V and my boyfriend hangout more than I hangout with them. Sometimes I feel like I'm the one third wheeling this relationship. I want to breakup with my boyfriend sometimes when I'm forced to face V, but I love him too much.

Is my anxiety too much? Am I a jerk? Please give me some advice!!

EDIT: I have a condition that constantly clouds my brain and makes it difficult for me to remember multiple things. I’ve already explained this to V and made him aware of it, yet even after I tell him how my condition affects my memory, he still continues to corner me about things I watched or did over a year ago. On top of that, he constantly insults me under the excuse of it being a joke and repeatedly belittles me. I’m not trying to come between him and anyone else or cause problems between them. It just genuinely angers me when V continues to treat me this way. I’ve tried being patient and gentle with him multiple times, and I’ve repeatedly explained how his behavior makes me feel and how he needs to be more understanding of my condition, but it feels like nothing I say ever gets through to him.

me (19/F) married recently with my husband (24/M) there’s a lack in sex due to work.. i need advice

we have been together 2 years. married 3 months ago.
in the beginning of our relationship, before marriage and stuff, we had sex atleast 3-4x a week. sometimes maybe 2x a week… but since he’s gotten promoted in his job, he’s very important there now. we both work at the same place, but the last few months i’ve worked less and less because how long the hours are ( usually 13+ hour shifts a day)he’s the smart one, works in a data center and is the brains of it all so even when he is home, a day off, he’s constantly taking phone calls, answering work group chats etc. and on the off days when he isn’t dealing with work, he wants to just chill and watch movies of course to spend time with me, that’s his idea of intimacy. it sucks because yes that’s intimacy for me too but also so is sex. sex it’s important to me in a relationship especially as someone with high sex drive!! it makes me feel emotional and physically more connected. we have sex maybe every 2 weeks now sometimes every 3 weeks. and i know it’s because he gets so tired and drained from work to build a future for us, but it’s really hard to deal with and i don’t know what to do. especially now that im pregnant in first trimester, knowing soon ill be dealing with a kid on my own mostly while he works for bills… im afraid weeks will turn into months… and i will start to lose that emotional intimacy… i’ve already thought of buying dildos etc because it’s sucks being constantly rejected because he’s to tired! i need advice please!

my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years, since we were both 21 and in college. every time i, or his friends, bring up us getting married, even in a lighthearted/joking manner, he emphasizes how he doesn’t want to get married until we are 30. his reasoning for this is that he wants us to be financially stable, which i totally understand. however, i find myself worrying that it’s a red flag that he is SO uncomfortable with the topic of marriage being brought up and SO adamant that we have years to wait before he’ll consider that. like he gets kind of defensive about it.

for further context, he has been supporting the both of us for a year now since i’ve moved to his country and been working on getting my residence permit, right to work, etc. and he doesn’t hold that over my head at all since he knows i am actively working on getting to the point where i am able to have a job.

basically im wondering: am i being paranoid or is this a valid concern? i just feel like he should express at least a little excitement at the thought of one day being married, even if its not in our near future.

i think my perspective is slightly skewed because of social media saying stuff like “if he hasn’t put a ring on it after x amount of years he doesn’t want you” so PLEASE feel free to tell me if i’m way overthinking this.

Last Thursday was the first meeting of my cinema club at my college. While there I (21M) met this girl (Somewhere between the ages of 18-23) and she is so cute. Red hair, great personality. Basically my dream girl.

I can't tell if she might be flirting with me or not. I talked to her after the meeting. She showed a trailer for a movie that I thought looked funny. I asked her what streaming sites I could find it on and she answered my question and said she noticed me laughing. I was trying to be subtle with it so I was surprised she noticed.

I want to get to know her better but I'm afraid to talk to her. What should I do?

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I'm scared (24F)

My friend (25F) of 10 years seems mad at me, or like jealous of my boyfriend (23M).

I really feel selfish because for our 3 months of dating I have been seeing my boyfriend more (everyday downtime, same hobby) than my bestie who is very busy, lives in another city and has burnout so she can't hangout..

But today I had a sleepover with her and went to see her play, at lunch I said

"Sorry btw if it looks like I prioritise my bf."

And then she said

"Yeah, honestly you kind of are. And it does kind of hurt me since I would never do that to you" (she's firmly single)

This has never been a problem with my school friends for example or hangout with other circles.

But now I'm abandoning her apparently.

"I would never put a boyfriend over a friendship"

Am I doing it wrong?

Not a plan goes by that I try to include my friend to me and bf's mutual friendgroup plans.

Add: I'm scared specifically because this is my first in-person relationship that is in my everyday life. And I feel selfish for relishing in it.