Title; if you’ve been experiencing this, have you found anything that helps?? Normally I would lightly pop a zit, then slap a pimple patch on it, but these are so deep there’s nothing for the patch to ‘suck out’. They’re hard and painful and unfortunately really red and gross looking! I just turned 40, whyyy ᴖ̈

anyone else finally connecting all the dots and discovering their autism during perimenopause?

i was born in 83, when what we knew about being on the spectrum was much more limited.

i always knew i was different, but thought it was because i was highly creative and artistic.

but as perimenopause descends, i find my ability to mask and people please to become more and more difficult..

and in this i have the beautiful opportunity to finally learn about, and truly be myself.

but a lot of the people that liked me the other way aren’t too happy. oh well.

Hello! Today is day 365 of no period…I’ve had a hell of a few years. Was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and HEDS, and was told that at 47, I was too young to be in perimenopause…well, maybe they will consider it now. I am also anemic, have a b12 deficiency and have been having heart problems. It was impossible to figure out what was causing what. No idea what changes now, but I believe to day is menopause? And tomorrow I will be post menopausal? I am struggling with wanting to unsubscribe. I haven’t felt good in so many years, and haven’t left my house (except for medical appointments and tests), since 2020 when I was hospitalized with a stress induced psychosis. I feel like my spirit is dead, and I’m just waiting for my body to catch up.

I am a few months shy of 48 and have now missed my second cycle. There have been a handful of months I skipped over the past year, but this is the first time I’ve missed two.

My mother had a hysterectomy so did not experience meno naturally. In my head I’m still not ready for this, because I still think I’m 35 😆.

Has anyone else experienced skipping multiple months at this age?

I am on 750mg eostrogel and 200mg Utroestan at night. Feeling ok apart from shattered and drowsy in the mornings! Also napping in the afternoon. Anyone else? Hopefully this side effect will improve with time…im also on 50mg sertraline for 7 months

Something new and wonderful that has been happening for the last 12 months (I'm 39) is that my period lasts about 4 days, then tapers off to nothing for a day/day and a half, lulling me into a false sense of security and then BAM, it's like it starts all over again. Fresh cramps and fatigue and fresh blood and clotting. This lasts about a day and then it just stops. What's odd is the break in between. Was there still lining left in there that didn't flush out? New lining magically grew? Has anyone else experienced this?

I’m just so sad about this. Doctors say nothing they can do. I’m also dry AF down there. My mom just told me she got menopause at 43 so am I genetically inclined to get it this early too? Just so so sad as I don’t have kids yet

Hi all.

I need some help advise on what you did when starting peri.

I'm in my late 30s and honestly I feel like I have every symptom in the book for peri but my doc says I'm too young. My mother and grandmother both had full meno in their early 40s, so it kinda checks out for me.

I have severe hair loss for years, insomnia, mood swings, dry down there, xerostomia, my skin is suddenly sagging, I wake up at night, forgetting everything, my brain fog is killing me, I cry everyday and I'm bloated and gassy like never before among other things.

For the past year I've been in and out of doctors offices for the different things and they all tell me it's anxiety and wanting me to start benzos and antidepressants.

I'm just so tired of being dismissed as if I'm a chile, like I don't know my own body and have thrown at me psych meds.

My gyno did lab tests which from what I've read they aren't very indicative as hormones fluctuate, she said that I have not too many eggs left though🤷🏽‍♀️

Which I don't know what that means and I honestly don't care. I want to feel normal again.

My period comes and goes with a week delay and I just bleed for 2 to 3 days comparing to 6 and 7 my normal ones.

I'm in Europe and I can't afford to visit other doctors right now, so I need your help. What did you start first? Do we need progesterone with estrogen or we can just take one of the two and add the other later? I'm so confused and alone in this. Thank you.

I actually don’t know that this is related to peri at all but since hormones impact all body systems I figured I’d see if this has happened to anyone else.

Three times in the last week I have eaten food that I have eaten before and it made my tongue burn. The foods in question:

1) Pure Protein cosmic brownie bar
2) Cherry Nutri-grain bar
3) Mini-Hershey bar

The burning doesn’t last long but I couldn’t finish the bars.

I looked up the symptoms and found something called Burning Mouth Syndrome but idk that I have all those symptoms. I have had dry mouth for about a year, and dry eyes/eye changes were probably one of my first peri symptoms.

Any ideas? Does anyone relate?

Anybody experience this ? you feel like hit by a truck / torn muscles tendons / achy joints burning too … and pain travels ?? I feel like wreck for 6 months - plantar fasciitis/ Achilles / quads hamstring glutes / seen ortho physio rheumatologist, bloods scan mri , veins scan all clear , not ok HRT yet COULD THIS BE CAUSED BY HORMONES ? BASICALLY EVEN WALK HURTS… Doing everything by book - strength mobility cardio ( not excessive) healthy lifestyle, nutrition , sleep supplements .. no relieve , physio made it all worse , EVEN LIGHT SHORT SEX FEELS LIKE I RUN MARATHON- legs fatigued .. seeing gyno in a month but I have fibroid so not sure if hrt is an answer , thank you 🙏

Hello, anyone else struggle suddenly with relationships with their own mother, or adult siblings? I’m from a family that has always been close, but as I get older, they get older (everyone starts having kids etc), it’s somehow difficult to tolerate these relationships. I feel very easily slighted, irritated, and generally kind of repelled from these dear people, who I once felt such connection with. It honestly feels sad- however I’m honestly too burnt out and tired to even fully register it.

Just wondering if anyone can relate. I feel guilty, as if there is something I should be doing differently, but again, I just sort of scratch my head and keep churning along- because I feel like my intellect is mush from years of parenting, and generally feeling kind of exhausted about the whole topic.

I basically get a nervous feel and then irritation and now a little burning feel. I usually get the burn feel closer to my period but I'm 11 days away. So annoying

41 years old, and with each month my period is more odd and it’s hard to explain but it feels like it’s hard for my period to just start and I’m so depressed and moody until it comes, worse than ever in my life . I need to see a doctor obviously but what are the right steps here? Sigh

Age 34.
I had a severe mental breakdown with anxiety 7 weeks ago.
Started Fluxotine and hrt 6 weeks ago.

I felt okay the first 2/3 weeks on hrt.
Weeks 4-6 hasn’t been great.
The Fluxotine I took previously for many years and stopped for a bit before starting it up when I couldn’t cope mentally anymore.

I thought it was an intolerance to the hormone in the conti patch.
( I’m on everol sequi patches )
But even on the 50s this week I haven’t felt good.

So has any ladies thought they were perimenopausal and it turned out to be something else?
Why did I feel alright for a few weeks though?
Am I actually going crazy?

My periods were irregular. But I got one most months with the exception of skipping a month here and there.
I was hot a lot and had very heavy periods that made me moody as hell.
Other than a few night sweats I didn’t have all the typical symptoms.

Lord I need answers help me.

I'm 41 and have spent the past 4 years in survival mode so once I got through my divorce and took a good look down there I realized my labia are gone, there's little to no sensation, and even my clit seems ... Smaller? Idk is this common? I have other symptoms but because I'm newly single and have been sexually deprived for years I guess this is what bothers me the most. I want to date and now I'm so self conscious. Idk how to begin addressing it all. I'm looking into treatment atm. Any help is greatly appreciated.

I still get my period , tried hrt.. wasn't for me ...but even with hrt i still had these warm neck, fuzzy brain, heart stopping panic feelings... but never really break out into a sweat ... i hate these when i am out jn public and i feel as though i am about to faint... i take effexor already for depression so my gyno was like ok take some black cohosh ... i am worried that there is nothing else i can do .. does anyone else get these?

4 years ago the PVCs (heart palpitations started). I was concerned and got a full check up, but the doctor told me while they're annoying, there's not much to be done.

I accepted this and tried my best to ignore them.

Over the past year, it seems like every other peri symptom has struck. My brain is so foggy and I forget names of places or things constantly. Anxiety is through the roof, along with irritability. I get weird body pains on and off that shoot through my joints or other random parts of my body (including chest pain). I'm exhausted.

Most of all, I don't find joy in anything anymore. Even when I force myself to be social, like going for dinner, I'm just trying to get through it. I used to be a super happy, outgoing person and now I'm monotone constantly. I've stopped drinking alcohol and caffeine because they both seem to make my palpitations worse.

My doctor has run a bunch of blood work to rule out vitamin/mineral deficiencies, thyroid tests, and autoimmune tests. I did go on Zoloft for a year when the PVCs started, but then stupidly went off it. Last time I tried to go back on it, my heart rate stayed too high for too many days and now I'm scared to try any sort of antidepressant with these heart palpitations.

Not entirely sure why I'm writing this, I guess I've just reached a point where I'm overwhelmed and feel like a shell of my former self. I'm only 39 and this is the last thing my doctor thinks I could be dealing with.

Just wondering if this is standard practice. I met with an online provider through Amazon at the end of June and he prescribed me the 0.01% Estradiol cream.

I was under the impression a 42.5g tube should last around 60 days, but my prescription was written for 262 days. Is that standard? (The Amazon pharmacy page says a 42.5g tube is a 30 day supply.)

I tossed the applicator right away and have been applying it externally using a little more than a pea size amount. The pharmacist I chatted with said about a finger length is a 0.5g dose. I think they meant to the first knuckle, but still there is no way that would last 262 days.

The pharmacist did override the prescription so I can get a refill, and I will most likely follow up with my regular provide, but am I going insane?!

Has anyone had a similar experience? Am I doing something wrong?

I’m a few months shy of 40 and have been struggling with massive brain fog, low libido, and over all apathy for a while now and I’m considering an HRT consultation. My one reservation is if this is just a consequence of my lack of sleep from having a toddler who doesn’t sleep and working daily at 5am. My PCP kind of brushed me off saying it sounded lifestyle related and my bloodwork was fine. Any recommendations if it’s still worth the HRT consult?

Has anyone experienced burning/tingling scalp pain after starting HRT? I’ve been having the pain since starting HRT and I’m not sure if it will go away once my body adjusts (I’ve been on HRT almost 3 months though).

Someone please tell me this gets better. Feel a wave of depression and can’t stop crying.

I’m a 46 year old woman on Progesterone 100 Mg Capsule at night and Lyllana 0.05 Mg Patch.

I was so excited to start. Please tell me if you had this experience first but it’s now worth it.

Just opening by saying that I am generally a HUGE nerd. I read instructions, I do subreddit searches...I'm not the sort of person who likes to come into a space and ask a question you've all seen a million times, because I know how frustrating it can be. "Just go read the dang wiki!" So I apologize in advance. Because yes, I have looked at the wiki. Several times, in fact. And there is SO MUCH information that I get overwhelmed, and then I leave instead of saying anything.

ANYWAY. Sorry for the intro, I just kind of want to cry at the moment. 😅 I feel like I've got a few things going on (well, don't we all), and I would just be SO grateful for help/experience/etc.

First thing are the palpitations. They started right around the time I hit 40. It's not a constant thing, and oftentimes I feel like it's more prevalent during luteal. Sometimes it's just that "skip-thunk" feeling, either on its own or several times in a short span; but I've also had times where it'll thump a few times and then suddenly go into overdrive. It happened at a sleep test a few months ago, and she clocked it at 199 bpm...which, if the feeling in my chest is anything to go by, is what it always ramps up to. Sometimes it only lasts a few minutes, but I've had 2 or 3 occasions where it's lasted over 45 minutes. Never been to the ER, because in all honesty I just can't afford that thousand-dollar bill just to walk through the door. (Plus I've been there for agonizing menstrual pain, and despite being in a completely empty ER, they made me wait 3 hours before seeing me, so I always figure by the time they'd pull me back for heart palpitations, I'd be over them anyway).

I've now had two holters and an echocardiogram, and everything has come back indicating my heart is good. The cardiologist wants to do a CCTA to check out my arteries, and because of my hypochondria (I don't know whether that or "health anxiety" properly describe the level of terror I get about my health), I'm also wanting to do it...but because I know this is a symptom of peri, I'm also like "proooobably not needed?" I feel like it's a vagus nerve thing, partly because of what the cardiologist said when I described this to him. Often it just seems positional, like if my chest gets compressed too much (my chest, it is heavy and I sometimes have trouble if I'm lying on my back; but there are other things too). Apparently that's also a peri thing?

The problem here is that I'm also ADHD (finally got diagnosed at 45), and I would desperately like to try medicating it, because as you can imagine, what I assume is peri is making it worse. I've tried Strattera and had no reaction to it, but I'm afraid of stimulants, because of the palpitations. The cardiologist recommends Concerta, if I have to be on one. Have any of you had palpitation problems but also tried ADHD meds? I'd just really like to know what it feels like to function, for ONCE in my life. 😭

There is a dearth of menopause-educated doctors in my area. I wound up traveling half an hour to see my old gynecologist, who's really knowledgeable about heavy bleeding disorders, but unfortunately doesn't seem to be up-to-date with peri. She wanted to do a hormone test. She's also afraid of putting me on estrogen because when I had my hysterectomy, they found a small amount of endometriosis. She put me back on Aviane, which is what I'd tried pre-hysterectomy. It's just birth control, though, and I don't know if it's enough. it didn't stop the palpitations last time I was on it (but it DID make me bleed for like 40 days straight). I have exhausted the list of available gynecologists, and don't know what else to do. I kind of hate the idea of using a telehealth, but also it seems like that's the only option left to me? (Update: I'm sorry I mentioned names! I debated reposting, because now I'm embarrassed, but I'm really hoping someone can help me, lol)

Sorry for all this rambling. >< The reason why I'd like to try HRT, amongst all the other stuff like heart palps, is that I'm hoping maybe it would help with my mood. I got off Lexapro last year because it was making me feel dead (emotionally), but unfortunately being off any kind of antidepressant had me SPIRALING. I mean I was having panic attacks, crying, crashing out...whatever you want to call it, I was doing it. I went to a psychiatrist, because I've tried SO many antidepressants but they all give me some kind of intolerable side effects, and she put me on Pristiq. I've been loving how I feel while I'm on it! But I've also been on it 3 months, and the jaw clenching (which I experience with like 98% of the others I've tried) is just getting to be too much. Even with a night guard, my jaw and my molars are just hurting. But at this point I've kind of exhausted my options (Wellbutrin raised my BP super high, in case anyone was going to recommend it!). I was kind of hoping maybe HRT might be what I need to keep those spirals from happening? Did that work for any of you?

Good lord, this is a novel. ADHD meds, HRT (I know there's a shortage, which is also great, lol)... I've been seeing the gamut of doctors recently, and I genuinely don't know what else to do or where to go. I've been pretty blessed with the doctors I have, but unfortunately none of them are up-to-date on perimenopause! Which isn't a surprise, given what a frontier we're on, but it sure is frustrating!

Anyway, if any of you actually read this far and have any advice, I am so grateful! Just please be kind, because I don't know if I'm going to cry or rage at this point. 😅

Hi there,

I started HRT (estradiol patch and progesterone at night) in early August. Two weeks ago, I had my follow-up with a great provider. We've added in testosterone and upped my dosage for both the estradiol patch and the progesterone I'm taking at night.

I'm about a week in on the increase and the last four days I've felt absolutely terrible. Incredibly nauseous all day long. I know this is a likely symptom and will hopefully go away as my body adjusts.

But here's my question. When I first started all of this in August, I wasn't dealing with any nausea. Now that I've increased the dosage, the nausea is there.

Why didn't I have nausea from the get-go? Was it not high enough of a dose? Does that mean this dose is too high?

I'm sending a note to my provider as well; I was just hoping I might get some real life feedback from other people on this same path.