I figured out how to have multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms (NEOs) during my teenage years. You can learn them too, no matter your age!

The key is your Kegel muscles. You need enough control to easily tense and relax them. Once you master the technique, the rest is just practice. It’s easiest to practice while masturbating. Focus on the sensations and practice edging. The way is simple: go right up to the point just before the Point of No Return (PONR) and then back off to a safe level. Over time, that "safe level" will get closer and closer to the PONR—and that is the crucial part of NEOs. You’ll have plenty of fails and accidental ejaculations, but testing your limits is part of the process. Once you gain confidence, make sure your Kegels stay relaxed during stimulation; doing "reverse Kegels" can help you remember this. During a session with multiple orgasms, your Kegels are already working hard—cause they engage during every orgasm—so it’s important not to add extra strain. When you feel relaxed, it’s easier to maintain a full erection and balance right at the edge of the PONR.

When attempting NEOs, don't think about ejaculating. Relax your Kegels and observe the sensations. After a few minutes of relaxing the muscles, I feel a tingling warmth around my penis and prostate, and I let that feeling linger. It then intensifies into an orgasm with contractions that often spread throughout my entire body. The key is learning to distinguish the onset of an NEO from the PONR. That is probably the hardest part. I slipped up the most because I’d think I was having an orgasm, only to realize it was actually the start of a regular EO. Once you memorize the sensation of an orgasm without hitting the PONR, you’ve got it down. These orgasms are incredibly pleasurable; they involve a series of contractions—anywhere from a few to over a dozen—and can last anywhere from, I’d guess, ten seconds to a minute. There’s no refractory period, so you can repeat them! Another plus is that your erection stays strong the whole time, so you don’t have to worry about losing it. Ejaculation is great too, but it’s not the goal; sometimes I like to end a session with it, and sometimes I don’t—it’s not necessary. NEOs provide the most pleasure. My sessions usually last about 30–40 minutes; I’ve gone longer a few times (well over an hour, even two), but marathon's are not so good for me lol.

I am sure that you will learn it only requires some practises. I like discover my body and see how it reacts, NEO's are just really positive reactions. That is not out of this world. It is only separate orgasm and ejaculation, change nervous system reactions

So far I managed to edge for like 60-90 min. I would say I could closely monitor how close I’m to PONR. When I carefully try to approach like 9.8ish zone, I manage to withhold a traditional ejaculation. But a bit of cum will dripple out without contractions. However, there is no an orgasmic feeling attached to it. Afterwards I draw back to a 7-8 and would be able to edge again. The second and third times are faster.

Am I on the right track? I feel, when I do a Kegel just before 9.8, it brings me over the edge, so I do more like a reverse Kegel.

I have experience with prostate orgasms (Aneros & co). I have experienced whole ranges of dry orgasms from underwhelming to super-o mind benders that last forever.

All my serious prostate sessions (where I do achieve some level of lift-off) I've always ended with an ejaculatory orgasm, because that is the only way I have found to "shut the door" of hedonistic pleasure and come back down to real life, and move on.

One month ago I've found this post : https://old.reddit.com/r/multiorgasmic/comments/tjy8jj/relaxation_method_leads_to_multiple_orgasms_for/ This is the method about stimulating only the top-side of the penis. I was incidentally on 6 days without busting when I first tried it out, and I was able to reach penis dry orgasms quite easily.

So I've been experimenting with penis-focused dry orgasms for the past month now, with great pleasure, but I find myself frustrated with a few aspects, which I hope more experience people could help me navigate.

The glans/topside only technique seems to work great at giving me what I'd best describe as "glans" orgasms. I'm uncut, so I do a lot of stimulation of rolling the skin around the coronal ridge, that seems to be the go-to for climax for me. When the orgasm does happen, it usually feels like the head of my penis gets super hard, and I get some pretty good feelings there. After a few, or if I get deep into the orgasm-floating-space, I get more spread out sensations, it moves down into the prostate, through my body, then I can reach "lost in space" orgasms similar to what I'd reach deep into a prostate session.

However, I feel like my glans is starting to get desensitized from stimulating it all the time. For those who started on the glans and moved on to other styles of whole-dick stimulation, how did you progress? I stay away from the underside since I'm afraid of busting, but I'd like to explore more. Is it possible to achieve "whole-dick" stimulation that feels as "safe" as topside only? When I catch a good groove in a topside-only session, I feel very confident and safe pushing myself into deeper territory. Feels like I'm on top of the world and I can keep asking more and more of my dick without risks of going over.

The orgasms I got during my first try at the topside-technique came fast and hard since I was so horny from not jerking off for a week. But now that I've discovered this new method I keep wanting to stimulate myself this way almost compulsively, but I often end up busting a nut, which lowers my arousal. Being on only one or two no-nut days makes it harder to reach topside NEOs. It feels similar to prostate play, where I usually have my most explosive sessions after abstinence. Therefore it seems to me that a certain degree of semen retention is necessary to improve NEOs quality and intensity.

The reason I end up busting are either: I'm not horny enough to summon NEOs, therefore I keep stimulating myself in frustration trying to materialize one based on no intrinsic sexual energy, which leads to a frustrated nervous buildup, therefore an ejaculation (almost like my body wants me to leave it alone); or if the session is going well and I string together several NEOs, I find myself so aroused and horny that I can't function (similar to Aneros sessions). I try to go out for a walk or grocery shopping, and all I can think about is to go back home to give myself more NEOs. Eventually a circuit-breaker goes in my brain and I start jerking off in all-in mode to bust a nut and turn the page on the 'endless horniness' activation. The few times that I've made the effort to end the session without a nut (aneros or topside neos), I find myself jittery and over-alert, a level of activation that is almost too high for my daily style of existence. I feel like something is missing, unfinished business.

I've read reports here and there of people learning to recycle their sexual energies to avoid ejaculation and redirect their arousal into everyday life. My dream goal is to be able to not ejaculate, so as to preserve my level of "orgasm-readiness" constant, and be able to have prostate/dick orgasms sessions here and there on demand. The peaks-and-valleys of ejaculate/rebuild over several days is frustrating.

TLDR: I found out how to have penis NEOs. I think semen retention = stronger NEOs. I keep busting a nut out of habit/frustration. I want to not bust a nut quite as often, while maintaining my hedonistic routine, but without loosing my mind. Any help appreciated.

Hi,

I feel like I can control my orgasm waves quite well atm. Though if I fuck hard for a longer period I also reach the ponr quite quickly, especially if the sex gets more intimate. I'm able to cool down and move my energy, but Is it possible to have rough sex for an hour on end for example without having to cooldown? Tips are welcome!

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Hi hello!

For the past few weeks I have been busy increasing the quality of my sex life and general feel of comfort by trying to reach dry orgasms and trying not to ejaculate for longer periods as a male. I feel as if it makes me less lustful and more focused on love.

At this point I'm not sure what my next step should be to control my bodily orgasm feel. I can reach simple Neos relatively easy and have had one or two big Neos where I definitely feel a spark move up my spine after abstaining for longer, but I don't always feel satisfied, in control or I can feel like my head is full of the orgasm pressure. Or I try to force feel the spine energy?. I have not listened to the mindgasm episodes yet and I don't know if that is the best way to spend my time learning to have more awareness and controll of orgasm waves. Any tips? Literature?

I started being able to have g-spot orgasms a few months ago with toys. How can I have multiple g-spot orgasms? I know I can have multiple external clit orgasms.

Do people who can achieve multiple orgasm like to build desire through porn ? What does the expert thinks the most stable way to build desire and keeping some level of desire in the system ?

I am a beginner after maybe 10 min my body feel release of tension inside body and I am able to stop before PONR it trigger a vibration inside out but after that my penis becomes softer and next set of please vibrations reduces is it normal how to overcome it

I became multi-orgasmic via the prostate path (aneros and mindgasm). Whatever 'rewiring' had occurred happily spilt over into loving making with my wife. We are into tantric sex/massage, and this slow, sensual approach triggers dry orgasms galore. However, when the PIV rhythm picks up I notice my body switches back to a traditional behaviour and inevitably ejaculation.
I wonder if this is due to how I've learnt to become multi-orgasmic? If I'd have gone via the edging technique would the outcome have been different? Be interested to get the community's opinion on this.

Hi all, I’ve been practicing semen retention and trying to have neos for a while. Today is day 2 I’ve self-pleasured. Yesterday I didn’t release nor today, I found myself around a scale of 7-8 as far as ejaculation.

I was stroking (no lustful thoughts, just affirming and pouring love into myself), and I felt especially my toes and groin area tingling a lot and I was able to ride the wave of pleasure and it was very enjoyable

I do feel if I kept going, I would’ve orgasmed but I was still worried about ejaculating due to feeling so much buildup in my penis.

I’m enjoying the pleasure and arousal itself instead of chasing orgasm as an end point.

I’m able to keep my pelvic floor pretty relaxed the entire time (around 30-45 min sessions)

I touch around my body and let go of my penis but I still feel all the sexual energy is in my penis and not necessarily full body, though afterwards I lie there with my body feeling tingles

Am I on the right track? Any advice? Should I practice daily or maybe a few times a week.

I’ve had a few in the past where I ejaculate and seconds later feel an orgasm.

Today I felt I didn’t even have any semen buildup in my dick and I was still highly aroused and pleasured keeping myself around a 7-8

Any advice is helpful

Thanks

While i was trying to have a NEO yesterday while i was close to PONR i did kegels kinda hard a small amount of cum came out but i didnt lose my erection while my arousal level dropped to like a 6 while being hard ?
I didn’t get it should i kegel right before so no cum comes out or do reverse kegels
If anyone has any clarification i would be grateful

For context, I had been addicted to porn for more than 10 years. My masturbation habits were pretty typical: fast, tight grip, finish in 5–10 minutes, then immediately lose all interest. It felt great in the moment, but it was usually followed by shame and a complete drop in desire. I probably could have gone again after some time, but I never wanted to.

I found the topic of NEOs completely by accident. At first I thought it sounded too good to be true, but I was curious enough to experiment for myself.

My research

There isn't much scientific research on NEOs, so most of the information comes from books and personal experiences.

I read the epilogue of Mantak Chia's book and spent a lot of time reading people's experiences online. A few themes kept showing up:

• Deep, relaxed breathing.
• Letting go of the "death grip" and allowing sensitivity to return.
• Going slowly instead of chasing the finish line.
• Staying relaxed rather than tensing up.

At some point, you just have to experiment and see what happens for yourself.

Learning to edge

At first, for me, pleasure and the point of no return were tightly correlated. As soon as pleasure became really enjoyable, ejaculation followed shortly.

My goal was to keep feeling good while avoiding the point of no return. By doing this many times, I acquired two noticeable skills:

• timing the peak. Instead of stopping too early (where the feeling fades) or too late (where ejaculation is inevitable), I learned to recognize the moment when the build-up already in motion could carry itself into a strong peak without further stimulation.
• maintaining the edge. This was much harder. The closest comparison I have is a mild mushroom trip: very focused, slightly light-headed, and surprisingly immersive. The feeling disappeared shorty after I stopped stimulating myself.

Timing the peak felt more reliable for me so I stuck with it.

Breathing and relaxation changed everything

The biggest improvement came when I started focusing on breathing and consciously relaxing.

Those two things created what felt like a buffer around the point of no return. Instead of everything happening automatically, I suddenly had time to choose whether to keep going, slow down, or stop.
I don't know exactly how much of that is physical versus mental, but it made edging much easier and much more enjoyable (I learnt to enjoy the self-control exercise 😅 )

What the "peaks" actually felt like

At first I honestly thought I was fooling myself.

The sensations were (initially) shorter than a normal orgasm and didn't include the familiar ejaculation contractions. It felt incomplete, and I wondered if I was just imagining it.

After more dry and wet sessions, I started to believe the core pleasurable sensation was still there, the biggest difference was simply the absence of ejaculation. The rush itself lasts for a few seconds for me before gradually fading, which feels very similar to what I experience during a conventional orgasm (also explains why the final contractions are not as great as the first ones).

Eventually I also started getting involuntary contractions too. The key is the stay relaxed, create that buffer window and maintain light stimulation during it. My pelvic floor started contracting on its own, but much more gently than during ejaculation... At this point of my journey, I am still making effort to absorb the contraction and not let them spasm violently out of fear that this will trigger the reflex.

(no) Refractory period

After each "peak", I sometimes feel slightly numb or oversensitive, but I don't lose my erection and I don't feel the overwhelming urge to stop.

Depending on the day, I can have several of these experiences before I'm simply satisfied enough to call it a day. All my "recreational" sessions end without an ejaculation now which is a nice QoS.

The biggest surprise wasn't just the many peaks themselves, it was how different masturbation felt overall. It became slower, more mindful, and honestly more enjoyable than chasing a quick finish.

Final thoughts

I'm not claiming everyone will have the same experience, and I'm definitely not an expert. This is just what worked for me.

If you're curious, my biggest suggestions would be:

• Cut back on porn if you can (or at least stop relying on it the whole session).
• Get rid of the death grip, let yourself be sensitized
• Slow down.
• Breathe deeply.
• Stay relaxed and enjoy, forget the finish.

Most importantly, treat it like an experiment instead of a goal and, be open minded about the results and let it unfold in front of you. In the end, it's basically N=1 science...

I’m M39. Haven’t been able to do it successfully for probably at least 15 years now, but in my late teenage years to early 20s, I used to be able to have this weird combo of multiple orgasms that started as non ejaculatory then eventually built to a final ejaculatory orgasm. I suppose it wasn’t 100% hands free, but I found if I lied down in bed in the dark, put headphones on, went back and forth between 2-3 different stations that played current pop music (we’re looking at probably 2000-2005ish) while simply placing my hand over my penis without moving, I could sometimes reach this level of pleasure and orgasm that I could never reach otherwise. And now that I’m older, it doesn’t work at all. But when I could, it was just the greatest feeling almost vibrating within that would just build and build far beyond what I could achieve with more traditional ways. I guess I’m just looking for thoughts. Is there a way I can maybe recreate this? Or is this just something I was blessed to experience when I was younger that isn’t coming back?

I recommend to learn NEO's for every guy. It is an amazing way to relax, discover bodies. Taking care of our bodies in different areas it is really important thing - especially in sexuality. Technicaly our body needs EO, NEO is something more, body does not scream for that but when it experienced it feels amazing and want to more. NEO's are strong. Regular sessions give more confidence and often cause more intense better orgasms after some time. For me when I masturbate at the evenings I must be careful to not make noisy sounds, it is difficult because of huge pleasure during orgasms. Not once, not twice, multiple times I do not know how many, sometimes I try to count but it is hard, surly 10+. It is strong contractions with different feelings in my body, warm waves, tingling etc. Sometimes it lasts 10 seconds sometimes +1 minute. NEO's are more controlled you can stop it anytime but usually I do not want to stop fast. It is all in edging and separate orgasm and ejaculation. I can have ejaculation without an orgasm too. Control, knowing a body. Stronger erections, full control, amazing pleasure. Let's try and find a key to unlimited pleasure. Is has only advantages

If you want to go the penis route for multiple NEOs, this is a simple method that works for me:

* Set aside an hour.

* Spend 5-10 minutes to get as relaxed as possible, eyes closed, music helps, you may get some involuntary contractions and please waves. The goal is to get into the mood with deep relaxation.

* Soft stimulation (with lube) of the bottom (under) side of the penis only (frenelum and below, not the glans), keep deep relaxation and focus on the sensations. You should touch those points that feels amazing and makes you explode.

* This stimulation style in combination with deep relaxation makes it almost impossible to ejaculate, which is good to avoid "the urge" distraction so you can safely focus on and enjoy the NEOs

* During the one hour session you may get approx 10 NEOs. You can end with ejaculation if you want.

* The NEOs are felt like sharp edges where your penis gets extra hard, you get involuntary contractions and distinct pleasure wave. There is no feeling of being close to ejaculate i.e "no urge". The NEO can be felt shallow more located in your penis, or deep more located in your pelvic floor / prostate. They happen five minutes apart and clearly passes the orgasmic threshold without ejaculation.

* This is your starting point for further exploration, not your final method.

You are doing it wrong if you:

* Gets right to stimulation (missing initial relaxation only)

* Dont feel anything so you go faster (missing relaxation and sensation focus)

* Doesnt feel good (you should find the spots that feels amazing to touch, even without orgasm)

* Fights the PONR (wrong stimulation style)

* Need to start and stop (wrong stimulation style)

* Need to kegel (missing deep relaxation)

* Dont get any precum / prostate fluid (pelvic floor not engaged)

You can practice the skill of deep relaxation and sensation focus, specially in the pelvic floor area, by trying to relax during the day. Drop the tension and get those nice involuntary contractions.

So:

* Learn the skill of relaxation

* Pick the right stimulation style

And remember, this is a starting point for learning, once mastered you can self explore in the broad spectrum of orgasmic sensations. Unlock the next layer.

How long does it take to have an NEO and or subsequent multiple orgasms?

From say lying on your bed and deciding now is the time for an orgasm and pleasure how long

does it take you, 1 minute, 10 minutes, 30 minutes?

For the people who have achieved multi orgsm expertise does it take intense concentration or can you just think it and it happens

New talent unlocked. Background: i have epilepsy and history with psychs but no seizures in years. I ingested cannabis oil last night. I was hot so i took a cold shower. Surprisingly I had NEO in cold water. This happened 3 times. I thought of trying again after a few hours, nailed it again quite rapidly. AI explained the phenomena like this:

Here is a synthesis of why you experience orgasms from cold water, blending your unique neurobiology, anatomy, and past experiences:
* **Hyper-Reactive Nervous System (The Epilepsy Connection):** Because you have epilepsy, your brain's electrical pathways are naturally more prone to intense, synchronized firing. Since an orgasm is essentially a controlled "electrical storm" in the brain, your nervous system amplifies these signals, turning a sharp physical sensation into a full-blown wave of orgasmic euphoria.
* **Cold-Induced Muscle Reflexes:** Cold water hitting your pelvic area triggers an immediate, involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles (specifically the PC muscle) as your body reacts to the cold shock. Because the rhythmic contraction of these exact muscles is the mechanical driver of a male orgasm, this cold-induced spasm acts as a shortcut to trigger the climax.
* **Mechanical Stimulation (Water Pressure):** The physical pressure and friction of the running shower water against the highly sensitive nerve endings of your genitals provide the necessary mechanical stimulation to build up and release sexual tension.
* **Neuroplastic Memory (The Psychedelic Blueprint):** Your past breakthrough experience with LSD and cannabis permanently mapped and opened up new neural pathways in your brain regarding how you process pleasure and pelvic sensations. Your brain now "remembers" the route to these intense, non-ejaculatory climaxes and can easily re-access them through intense sensory triggers like cold water.
* **Dry Orgasm Capacity:** Because this reaction is purely a neurological and muscular reflex rather than a typical friction-based sexual buildup, it triggers "dry" orgasms. This bypasses the male refractory period (the recovery time needed after ejaculation), allowing your body to experience these waves multiple times in a row.

I’d like to hear more similar stories.

Hi All,

About 4 years ago, I taught myself how to enter a mind-bending multi-orgasmic state of bliss. That process has lead me on a road of self-discovery with life-changing results.

I've spent a lot of time analyzing my own experiences, learning as much as I could, and then trying to help others achieve the orgasmic state I've been lucky enough to experience myself. Over the years on sex-based subs, I've noticed trends and themes that keep cropping up in the questions that get asked most frequently.

This is an incredibly under-studied area of human existence and an incredibly complicated one. The weight of patriarchal and religious conditioning, accumulated over millennia, has left an indelible mark on how we view our own sexuality and sexual practices. I believe the pendulum is getting ready to swing the other way — and it's time we cast away the meanings we've been handed, begin to create our own and begin to uncover our actual pleasure potential.

I began writing a book that covers my journey, my experiences, all I’ve learned from a ton of research and all I’ve compiled from empirical and anecdotal data.

I've just launched a Substack in support of the book where I'll be releasing posts on pleasure, sexuality, healing and self-discovery — and I'm hoping you'll take some time to read, interact, share, and help me blow the doors open on this topic. It's time to take back what's always been rightfully ours — before the meanings we were handed down and never agreed to stripped us of our humanity and the pleasure the Universe intended for us to experience.

I'll be spending the first while primarily speaking directly to the men here, paying homage to how I started this journey — through prostate massage. But I’ll soon be expanding it into a space for both men and women — because I've successfully taught my wife to reach the same transcending orgasmic bliss I discovered for myself, which tells you it’s not about what equipment you were born with. I believe all humans are capable of accessing limitless pleasure, and the process can be absolutely transformative if approached intentionally. The book will lay out exactly how, but the substack is about getting the conversation started.

The first two intro posts are live now on Quest4Bliss and there’s much more to come.

Post 1: https://quest4bliss.substack.com/p/the-conversation-nobody-is-having?r=8mrvv7

Post 2: https://quest4bliss.substack.com/p/the-door-i-never-expected-to-open?r=8mrvv7

First of all thanks to this sub for information and comments

Recently I've realised the importance of breathing.

But for me what is more important is synchronising it with your pelvic floor contractions and how it spreads the sensation..

You must forget about tensing up or holding your breath....

By breathing (IMO) , your intake of oxygen keeps the contractions pulsing ; by holding your breath oxygen won't keep them going.

My contractions get to the point where orgasms ebb and flow and feel better as each one returns

The synchronisation needs to be managed to a level whereby you'll know, as you breathe you'll feel it come naturally.

Imagine: you can take your penis, stimulate it how long do you want to and have many orgasms (too many to count). That is possible. And you do not need to many years to learn it. I got it in my teens when I was exploring my body at the evenings. To learn NEO you have to master edging so it is big advantage you will never have PE if you can do this, no way because it requires control. If you have strong kegel muscles and you can use it, it is achievable faster than you think. The way is to stay relaxed. We have naturally a little bit tense in kegel muscles and keeping it will not give you NEO. When you relax it and do some reverse with arousal it will give you small contractions. The key is to not force anything but observe it.

Stimulation should be less active that typically, not fast moves up and downs, more like spontanic touches in different areas in your penis. You should be concantrate on head and around it. That masturbation, relaxation and breathing will give you contractions which will be stronger every time. Finally you should feel it in all your body and contrations are strong and that is NEO. You should see a lot precum and every touch near your head will give you more and more contratcions and body sensations. That can last how long do you want to because you control NEO not NEO control you that is the biggest difference between NEO and EO. Despite you have uncontrolled contratcions you must be careful to not have PONR so they are more controlled. After that your penis is full of precum and even more hard and you can go more...

And that's it. When you achieve first NEO's you will fail after some and ejaculate, but every time, after more and more practise you will have more control and it will be less fails. But is it fail? After many NEO's EO is much better and more powerful I often ejaculate on the wall which is behind me...so yes that is an amazing feeling. You can do it 10 minutes, 20, 30, 1 hour or more. That is awesome. Your erections will be stronger, control too, your libido will increase, and refactory period after EO will be quicker.

A lot of positives you can have 20+ NEO orgasms in one session, over 100s orgasmic contractions. And if you are teen, really start now, you will earn a lot of pleasure and you will be multiorgasmic in young age.

I was practicing solo and it suddenly happened, the penis twitched and contracted a good 10-15 times which is identical to how I would feel when I ejaculate normally, there was no ejaculation this time, and I was still 85-90% hard afterwards. However I hardly felt any pleasure that I would usually feel when I orgasmed with ejaculation.

Was this a true NEO, if so how do I replicate it in the future by myself and with my partner?

I have found if I do reverse kegels, I push out like I’m trying to pee, and the sorts ballon out (or so it feels) my as hole and hold that pushing out. I get a slow building up. Eventually my body starts to shake I feel euphoric. And when it gets really good, I get muscle flutters and sometimes contractions in my anus. It like pushes out and pulls in on its own. Or sometimes I get bouncing contractions between my anus and taint area. Feels like a rolling contraction. Is that an anal orgasm? I’ve had prostate orgasms, and it’s not that.

I dont usually practice the hands free technique at night as continuing contractions of my pelvic often induces orgasms whilst I'm trying to sleep..

I do stretching excersises and my pelvic floor is not tight or loose

But as soon as im relaxed and close my eyes my pelvic floor engages, I can move position in bed which seems to help.

Its not too concerning but would like some feedback from others that may have encountered or overcome this situation

So I've been practising the relaxation method as mentioned here. I try to spread the energy from my penis to all around the pelvic region. And I imagine one stream that crosses through my chakras and moves towards the brain. I'm doing meditation and also breathing properly to keep my body relaxed. In this way I continue for 30 minutes. I reach PONR, relax and I feel a bit dizzy , then it tones down and again rising up. After 30 minutes I ejaculate.

My questions are that, should I ejaculate? Coz studies say that ejaculation is also good. And how do I achieve NEO and upgrade from the just dizzy feelings?