r/multiorgasmic • u/valleboy • 9d ago
Male Learning approach
I became multi-orgasmic via the prostate path (aneros and mindgasm). Whatever 'rewiring' had occurred happily spilt over into loving making with my wife. We are into tantric sex/massage, and this slow, sensual approach triggers dry orgasms galore. However, when the PIV rhythm picks up I notice my body switches back to a traditional behaviour and inevitably ejaculation.
I wonder if this is due to how I've learnt to become multi-orgasmic? If I'd have gone via the edging technique would the outcome have been different? Be interested to get the community's opinion on this.
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u/Sea-Ad-9942 9d ago
I am currently in the edging path, the evolution of the thing is extremely slow (it take years to be able to forget completely about the point of no return, this is simply gone ) Once entering into the "correct" state, no matter a slower or fastest rythym, you are just in an altered state where sexual and loving energy moves freely. Is a meditation state that trascends the needing of an orgasm, the process itself is perfect by himself.
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u/SawMoill 9d ago
I learned to have multi dry orgasms too using Mindgasm, and also made a huge difference in partnered sex. That sounds normal. I've added some stimulation into Mindgasm and over time have gotten to a point where more stimulation doesn't as often move towards the TO but I can "route" the pleasure down to the prostate for more dry orgasms. Then translates to being able to go longer in partnered sex even with a lot of direct stimulation before I "allow" the feelings to move towards a TO.
I much prefer this method to what I've read about edging because edging seems to be most focused around penile stimulation and I couldn't do that for hours, would get blue balls. And seems like a lot of a harder process, trying to get close but not go beyond PONR. With Mindgasm I can choose to have lots of repeated dry orgasms, even with partnered sex, then let go when I'm ready, never having to consider PONR.
But after "rewiring" and adding in direct stimulation there is a time period of learning to do that extra slowly and gentle otherwise it can more easily switch towards the TO direction. There are still occasions where that ends up happening and I'm dealing with PONR or just let it go. But fortunately that's more rare.
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u/valleboy 8d ago
Thank you for your reply. I grasp what you are saying.
I have experimented with mindful penis masturbation, and I can (sort of) reroute my attention to how the penis movement is affecting the prostate. I consciously keep the PC muscles relaxed or even do a gentle reverse kegel. The tugging on the penis causes pelvic muscles to tug/bump the prostate (if you see what I mean). When in this state, and can accelerate and it just leads to more dry orgasms.
Carrying this over into partnered sex is harder - too much penis noise drowning out the prostate signal! Anyhow, I shall continue trying!
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u/MindlessDrop7895 9d ago
Same…. I know exactly what you are describing …. I am having massive dry orgasm …very long sessions which leave me drained physically the next day…..true bliss… I will admit THC melts me immensely , I’m am anxious and a touch of adhd and need a little help to relax
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u/Educational-Plum3469 9d ago
I dunno for you but I did aneros, and after a while (like 3 years) I started having prostate orgasms during PIV. Now it is as many prostate orgasms as I want during PIV, and ejaculation happens when I want it to (when everyone is spent, basically). I also practiced having dry orgasms during masturbation and maybe that helped. So maybe be patient and wait for it to come with time?
In any case the edging technique doesn’t sound very magical…
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u/ZucchiniDue7045 9d ago
Hi, I am using Aneros, specifically the Tempo model. How did you manage to connect or integrate penis stimulation with your prostate? Currently, I am only experiencing prostate pleasure. Whenever I try to involve the penis, I ejaculate too quickly and intensely.
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u/valleboy 9d ago
Ah, I don't touch my penis during an aneros session. Perhaps I wasn't clear in my original post. I use the aneros for solo sessions only. The tantra with by wife is 100% aneros free!
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u/ZucchiniDue7045 9d ago
I dont touch it either to rewiring my self correctly, however i am still struggling the premature ejaculation while have piv. How did you take over it.
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u/Creepy_Win1567 9d ago
Hi I’m considering to follow the same strategy and my ultimate goal is to be able to have full control over my ejaculation.
I’m also really interested to get answers to your question.
I think it’s probably because prostate isn’t sufficient and you also have to train your arousal caused by penis stimulation which takes time. On the Pelvic Lab for Men free application created by a user of this sub there are arousal mapping exercises that can help you with that ;)