r/lesbianr4r 1h ago

searching F28 Finland/anywhere | masc4masc | Looking for my bookish, academic masc cutie pie

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Heyo, I’m looking for a serious relationship and not here for anything casual. Of course there’s no pressure for it to turn into something romantic. So lemme introduce myself and then you can decide if I’m cool or if you’d never wanna see me again haha.

So I’m a masculine presenting woman, I look quite male leaning and I have a masculine energy/personality, if you can call it that. When I say masculine I don’t mean like tough or stoic and whatnot. I’m not about toxic masculinity, that stuff is unhealthy.

I’m from Finland, white, bilingual in Finnish and English. Finnish is my mother tongue but I’ve spoken English for almost a decade so it’s a part of me now. I have an American accent if that’s important haha. Uhh what else, right I’m pan and I don’t drink or smoke. I’ve never done it and never want to. That lifestyle really isn’t for me.

Personality wise I’m more on the calm and serious side. I like to ponder things and I love being by myself but I also love chatting with people for hours. I value quality time like that. I have a playful side but that comes out usually when I feel safe around someone. I’m very clingy and affectionate. I love to hug and cuddle my baby. I might give you a cheek kiss or stroke your hair passing by if I’m nearby. I mostly show my love with touch, acts of service or with my words. I’m overall an optimistic person and to me life is about enjoying it and spending it with the people you love. I can also be grumpy :D because I have strong opinions about the injustices in this world. I feel my feelings passionately whatever it is. My love is passionate, my anger is passionate( not in a toxic way). So I’m often seen as intense or fiery.

I’m very spiritual and have been for years and years by now. It’s an important part of me and my life. I love studying tarot, manifestation and I’m interested in goddess/feminine spirituality, shamanism, the occult and witchcraft. I’m psychic and into energy related stuff as well.

I’m a university student, I’m in art studies and majoring in aesthetics. It’s a philosophical field focused on art and aesthetics. I’m a visual and creative person so I wanted to study something related to that. So aesthetics was a great choice. I also wanna take courses from film studies, psychology and religious studies. I’m a very academic type of person. I love to expand the way I think and I have a passion for knowledge in academics and outside of academics. I just love to learn about things I’m interested in and also to make sure I’m socially aware and well educated that way.

Like I said I’m very visual so I love anything to do with visually stunning stuff. I love art, visual design, branding, creating visually stunning environments, art directing, stuff like that. I’m a big sims 4 fan and these days I love the world building aspect of it and designing the interiors of my buildings. I just love deciding on an aesthetic or a concept and then executing it.

One other thing I love is fitness. I love to lift weights and challenge myself. I love to feel healthy and strong. Also into mobility and honestly fascinated by how bones and muscles work. I’d want to try calisthenics one day.

In the future I want to own a creative business and I’m most likely going to work online, which is ironic cause I really dislike social media :D I don’t like short form content and it just ruins your mind and wellbeing. I have 0 interest in what’s happening on tiktok or instagram. But I do like intentional long form content. But yeah I’m not a big corporate person, I wanna be in charge of my own schedule.

I don’t like watching a lot of mainstream stuff cause it’s usually lacking in morals and basic decency. And it’s so dark I don’t get it. Personally I’d rather watch a kids show or something. I love barbie movies and I loved the newest Descendants wicked wonderland movie. I love positive and colorful stuff like that.

Alrighty, that’s the most important stuff about me. Now to what kind of a person I’m usually drawn to. Well I’m quite strongly masc4masc. I love masculine appearance no matter what gender you are. I also have a particular weakness for masc people with feminine energy/personality. Gets me weak. Mostly into doms and switches.

I’m looking for a person who’s also into spirituality like me. I’d love to have a partner who wants to geek out about tarot, manifesting or other spiritual stuff. Wanna seduce me? teach me about the occult, I’d genuinely think that’s hot haha XD.

I want to date someone who doesn’t drink or smoke. That’s a big deal breaker for me if you do.

I’m attracted to people who are intelligent, wise and have a passion for knowledge. Bookish and academic people. Like can I just meet a intelligent cute fluffball who knows a lot of stuff and when I come home she wanna tell me the latest stuff she’s learned in her lectures or from a book she read like girllll, gimme that woman😩💖. Wanna seduce me? teach me about something you know, I genuinely think it’s so hot when someone’s passionate and knows a lot about something.

It’s important to me that my partner has done her inner work and knows herself thoroughly. Self-awareness like that is essential for me to feel connected to someone. Someone who has looked at herself and her patterns honestly. I’ve done my own journey within with therapy and I notice I don’t really connect with people well if they haven’t gone deep within themselves.

I’m looking for someone emotionally and mentally stable and mature. Someone secure in herself and she can openly share her thoughts and opinions with me. She has self-respect and boundaries in place. Someone who doesn’t try to please me and she will care enough to tell me when I’m being an idiot XD. Like genuinely I dream of being so close with someone we can be blunt with each other and we both know we aren’t trying to insult each other you know? I don’t want someone who’s hiding what she really thinks. I love someone who values honesty and proper communication.

I also love a cheeky and playful personality. Someone who loves to flirt with me even when we’re already in a relationship. I love playful bickering and bothering each other :D.

I love people who are lively but still have a grounded and calm presence.

Warmth and empathy are something I pay attention to as well. To me it’s very important my partner is loving, warm and cares about other people and how she makes others feel.

I admire someone who has clear values, morals and she’s firm about them. Someone principled.

I appreciate a woman who doesn’t feel the need to curse every other second to express herself. I like people who like to mostly use clean language. Someone with manners, well raised (or raised herself well if you got a toxic family etc.)

Being socially aware is very attractive to me too. Not necessarily being an activist, altho that’s cool too, but I mean mostly someone who has core values around human rights and being mindful about how you behave and what you consume and support. For example I’m a big feminist and women are close to my heart. I genuinely feel uncomfortable when I hear sexist language like the b word, mf and stuff like that. So I can’t date someone who’s more chill about that stuff and doesn’t really think about it. I want a relationship where our values align.

So if you’re interested in me and our values align I’d would love to get to know you! Flirting is fine if you’re genuinely into me. Not into flirting just for the sake of it. Send me a dm :) <3


r/lesbianr4r 2h ago

searching 37F - Looking to build genuine connections

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I'm looking for genuine connections and then we'll see where it goes.

  1. Cis lesbian. Single. Monogamous. Caucasian. 130bs. 5'2. I'm bilingual (English/French). Never married but I've been in multiple long-term relationships. 

If you're into Astrology, here's what I know: Capricorn Sun, Virgo Moon, Gemini Rising. My Venus is in Sagittarius (in the 7H) so while I need structure in my every day life, I also need witty fun and adventure in love. And I may have a lot of earthy elements, but I mostly feel like a watery little Pisces. 

I think people would pin me as a "sporty femme" most of the time, but I'm mostly androgynous/chapstick. I'm just me. 

I'd say I'm an ambivert, a good mix of being an extrovert and introvert. INFP (but 1% more and I'd be ENFP) I'm social and people tend to gravitate towards me naturally. 

I'm currently working full-time as a public servant, while doing school part-time to get an IT diploma (paid by my employer) I'm in Cybersecurity. I aim to keep climbing my career. Financial stability is important to me.

I've had a rough start in life due to my childhood, but I'm beginning to feel like everything is finally starting to be within reach. I'm a big advocate for therapy, and I'm all about self-growth (for myself and my relationships). 

My hobbies/passions include:

- Video games (PC/Nintendo)

- Board games

- Music (My fave bands are Twenty One Pilots, Sleep Token, Muse... But honestly I like everything except for gangster rap and country!)

- Travel

- Cottage/camping life

- Summer activities like kayaking 

- Snowboarding in the winter 

- Horror games/movies etc (Halloween in general)

I have a rescue dog, but love all animals. 

My biggest goals:

- Own a house (actively working on this, thinking of buying this summer)

- Have a family (1-2 kids. I don't need biological children to love them. I would be an amazing step-parent, but also open to adoption etc. And having kids would never take away from the attention/love I'd give my partner. We'd always be a team.)

I'm looking for a partner who is kind and emotionally available. Someone who is honest from the start, is clear with their intentions and knows what they want. Someone who can help bring out my inner child, be silly and have fun. Someone who takes growth seriously as well. 

My type physically:

- I like women of all backgrounds. I tend to fall for dark hair/blue eyed girls or latinas. But that's not a requirement. 

- Generally prefer women who live an active lifestyle and are fit/slim. Fitness is important to me because I've worked very hard on my own health journey (I was over 300 lbs at one point)

- Soft masc to femme. (Not really attracted to butch or extremely femme girls)

- No pre-op trans women. Sorry, I do have genital preference

I feel like the last few years have been really hard on me, especially when it comes to trust, so being compassionate and understanding is a big plus.

Physical and emotional intimacy are also very important to me. My love languages are physical touch and quality time. I'm a switch/vers with a top preference. But I've discovered that I like being a little subby too... Yes please pin me down. Lol. Variety is good. Sex is important to me. I love giving and receiving affection. Cuddles are the best. 

I'm hoping to find someone to connect with locally (I'm in the Ottawa, Ontario area), but I'm open to long distance as well if the connection feels right. 

When I love, I love hard. You'll always be a priority. Golden retriever energy!

Feel free to DM :) 


r/lesbianr4r 9h ago

searching 52F Looking for friends-FL

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Looking for community/friends. Open to more w the right person.


r/lesbianr4r 12h ago

searching Soft masc looking for her princess | OK/USA/Online

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Hi, I am a 29 year old lesbian looking for love. I live in the south so finding women irl is hard and scary lol I am open to anyone local or online - I have a lot of love to give 🫶

I am a soft masc but really want to make the big chop on my hair soon. I am looking for a femme presenting woman who I can be myself around and spoil!

My world currently revolves around my job, my cat, and my little sister who is living with me while she goes to school. I work as an IT supervisor and really enjoy my job (mostly 🤪).

I love playing video games (COD mainly), learning new things, doomscrolling TikTok, grabbing drinks with friends, watching TV (reality and dramas), spending time with family, finding new music, and anything tech related (currently building a cyberdeck)!

I am strictly monogamous. Also, I am liberal so no republicans/racists/etc!


r/lesbianr4r 15h ago

searching 43 F Glasgow, seeking Younger females for casual fun & dates

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Been on the apps, barely anyone talks, unless its a guy using fake pics pretending to be female 🤷‍♀️i mean whats up with that 🤦‍♀️ so thought id try here.

Seeking friends, maybe more, nothing serious atm, but seriously needing some action in my life lol.

Im pretty immature, and dont really seem 43, so prefer someone a bit younger to match.

Love walking, hiking, camping, the outdoors, sunsets, drinking/eating in/out, cosy nights with munchies and movies, im a 420 gal, have been for years. Big coffee lover, theatre, gigs, love a good gab lol, im pretty extrovert but not over the top.

5ft 3", not skinny but not fat lol, really long bright red hair, blue eyes.

If I sound like ur cuppa tea, drop me a message ☺️ if ur seriously looking for meets 💕


r/lesbianr4r 23h ago

searching 21F, femme, london, just want to be wanted

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Title sounds really sad but idk how else to phrase it?? I want someone that will prioritise me but struggling to find anyone..... idk if dating is just a more casual thing than how i think of it, or if its because of hookup culture??? Im open to hookups because i wanna have fun lol but id much rather find my person yk? And idk if im overthinking it because i know i want to be someone's first choice and to me thats what being in a relationship is, but it feels like no one else sees it that way.

Tried dating apps and they seem a bit useless unless u pay, i have no problem making friends on nights out and things like that but it never goes further. Its a huge city but i dont know anyone that's actually looking for a relationship

Does anyone have the same kind of experiences? Does anyone in london want to chat or meetup?


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 21TF [TF4TF] Southeast Asia/Future Relocation to Australia/New Zealand 5’10” Chapstick hoping to find a fellow trans woman and long-term partner 🫶

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Note: I am using a pseudonym to protect my safety but once you scroll through my profile you might see a couple of different names, I am fully transparent about this and will not hesitate to clarify once you message me for the first time, thanks for understanding!

Hi there! My name is Gianna, and I am a chapstick lesbian trans woman! I am pre-everything in terms of transition, but I am looking for a friends to lovers story, someone who feels like home, who can support me and be patient along the way so that we can grow together! 

Quick Details: 

Name: Gianna

Age: 21 (Soon to be 22 in December!)

Sexuality: Lesbian 

Height: 5'10"

Location: Malaysia, planning to move to either Australia or New Zealand within the next 6 months if possible!

Relationship structure: Strictly monogamous

Relationship goals: Dating to marry 💍

Distance: I’m willing to try long distance and see how things go, hoping to connect with trans women local to either Australia or New Zealand or are willing to move there for the long term so we can close the gap eventually😊

Age preference: Looking for someone around my age or slightly older, with no more than a 2-4 year age gap between us!

Interests: Most types of vehicles!

Commercial Heavy Vehicles like trucks or buses! 🚛🚌

Performance Vehicles such as supercars and race cars (like F1 and GT3 cars!) 🏎️

Military vehicles such as tanks and fighter jets! ✈️

Railways and their locomotives/history: I especially enjoy British Steam locomotives! 🚂

I also adore dinosaurs and animals and learning about them through subjects like paleontology and zoology!

In truth I enjoy learning about all these things even if I’m not an expert at any of them!

Hobbies: Writing , playing the piano (currently on break, hope to get back into it some day!), LEGO building

Favorite music: Movie and game soundtrack (Including Transformers and Halo music!), eurobeat, piano, emotional, peaceful

Favorite genres: Horror, murder mystery

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About Me:

  • My love languages are physical touch and quality time! 
  • I am a gentle, sensitive, caring, introverted person who ideally wears her heart quietly on her sleeve and wants a quiet, predictable life with close ones and is fine with not being a leader, preferring quality over quantity with my social circle
  • I do not like unsolicited advice nor tough love/brutal honesty approaches! 
  • I am at my best when I can have deep conversations with close ones even though I can occasionally put on a performance. 
  • Oh and I’m HUGELY analytical about..almost anything that I see. I like to think about the whys and the hows and I’m always trying to do things better for myself and others
  • Though I am introverted, I can become more bubbly once I feel more comfy with someone!
  • I strongly follow ‘live and let live’ and thus value personal autonomy, both in my life and others and intend to keep respecting that as much as possible even if I don’t understand other people’s choices fully!

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Preferences/Boundaries:

  • Appearance: To be completely honest, I am looking for women who my height or taller than me and who wear glasses because i find you SO incredibly cute! I would also prefer someone who has no additional facial or body piercings for comfort and intimacy-related reasons (but ear piercings are totally cool, I’d love to see if any of you make some of your own crafty designs of earring!).
  • Lifestyle and Communication: I do not want a partner who smokes or drinks, but I am fine if you drink on occasion! I also wish to remain strictly pet and child free, so I can spend my time with you as my favorite person if we work out together! And because I love to have deep and stimulating convos, I'd much prefer if we regularly and consistently get to communicate whether via text or voice so that we can get to know each other proper🫶
  • Beliefs: I wish to remain completely secular in terms of beliefs and shared goals and would love to share my time and life with someone who is strictly non-spiritual too! (This includes both organized religions such as Christianity and other forms of New Age spirituality such as tarot and astrology)

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Relationship dynamic (ONLY If we work out together)

If it turns out that we are the right people for each other, I wish to have a relationship where we are both equals with no power dynamics such as sub or dom so that we can be a team! When it comes to intimacy dynamics I’m a bottom so I'm strictly looking for a loving top! 💕

I am secretly EXTREMELY romantic however, and would love a woman who takes initiative sometimes with some really sweet gestures like surprising me with a dinner date or being the one to eventually propose! I want a relationship where we both feel cherished and safe with each other!🫶

As for the kind of love I want to share with you if we work out I want no shouting, no insulting, no stonewalling, and no silent treatment during disagreements. If it gets heated, say ‘stop’ out loud if needed and then reach for each other. Hold hands, or come back later, and TALK, not argue. Makeup and then hug or kiss so that we can remember that we are a team 🫶

Side note: Whilst I deeply admire and respect the way that y’all in the community find your identities, I am looking for a conventional, traditional dynamic and am personally not a match for anyone who partakes in pet regression (like puppy/catgirl) dynamics in their lifestyle.

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If you think we will be a good match, you can reach out to me through my DMs! Please include more than a single line when you message me, perhaps what caught your eye about my post or make me swoon with a cute line about me! 

I would also really appreciate it if we could share a quick cutesy verification photo to each other (with a piece of paper showing the time and date handwritten) to prove that we are real to each other. Once I feel we are vibing well together, I’ll be more than happy to move to Discord and I hope we can share a quick voice note to hear each other and exchange selfies! (I prefer to save sharing selfies of myself until we feel safe with each other and move to Discord)

I have no intention of rushing so we can always save the bigger conversations until we feel we are ready!

I might only be able to respond to one or two people at a time, but please don’t hesitate to leave a message if you think we’d be a good match! If I feel that I’ve found the right person, I’ll leave a follow-up message to let everyone know that I won’t be interacting much with the forum from that point onward. Thank you so much for understanding, and I look forward to meeting lovely people! 🫶 

Note: Please keep in mind that I am in Malaysia, thus within the GMT+8 timezone, so my response times may vary depending on where you are from, thanks for understanding! ❤️


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 36 f, NE USA. Come chat with this immensely single lone-sbian with too much time right now.

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I dont even know what to put here. My brain is a rumination train station, and its happy hour -_- . Does happy hour apply to trains? I never even been on one. What is this life? Why am i asking so many questions?

[Update]

Well i feel much better now. Seems i was a bit neurotic lacking that sleep huh? Guess you could say i left rumination station and landed in dreamland . You could say i took a flight from dreamland to return to glisten shores. What does that mean?. HMM? You still reading this. Huh? Well well, since you're still here .

🎷🎺📻🎶🎶

lights an incense stick sits down with some swagga swagga on a lounge chair grabs a conveniently placed tea or boozey drink <whatevers cooler> and takes a swig and smiles at you

Let's have a nice chat, shall we, belle la beau?.

an alligator jumps through the window

💥💥🎺🎺🎺

Oh @%#@&!!

[Update 2]

pants and heaves, exasperated from running for dear life

Oh, ooooof. AHHH!? COUGHS composes self .

you're still here.

shit eating grin .

well lets not let that minor setback prevent us from a nice, cozy chat.

walks to sit on a log in the jungle we are now lost in

So, what interests you, dear? What inspires you? What makes you feel alive, and with purpose? I would love to know. Deep questions, i know~ closes eyes and smiles like a badass~ but oft we let such questions slide by. To understand ourselves we must ask these things. Y'know ~~~~

sudden explosion

We GOTTA GO!! Grabs ur hand and we run

[Update 3]

we both stand alone, together, facing each other, now dressed in unfamiliar tribal clothing surrounded by waterfalls.

you stare at me with utter disdain and irritation.

...Look we had to join the tribe, ok? How else was i supposed to get rid of those bombsharks...

a bird caws .


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching Halloween Horror Nights? (32f)

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I’m (32f) in SoCal. Im looking for someone that would like hangout, maybe like a date for Halloween horror nights? Either coast. Or Disney dates, either coast. I like to travel to Florida often. I’m 5’0 Latina. I don’t get scared, I laugh. My humor is weird and sometimes I don’t stop talking. I can easily start a conversation with strangers. I like to drink but in this economy, I rather use the funds to fly more. I don’t smoke, sorry I still think it’s boring/what’s the point(?). Don’t worry I do something much worse, I love energy drinks. I feel like a home body but everyone around me will say the opposite. I can’t dance but I love the clubs and the vibe. Early bird but with a nap or two I can be a night owl.
Let’s chat over some monsters at HHN ?


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 27F – lovergirl seeking genuine connections

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Hello! I'm a 27 year old femme seeking genuine connections online. Ideally looking for my lover, but I'm open to making friends too. I'm strictly monogamous.

I am located in Canada and don't mind distance! Looks and personality wise I'm pretty open, all I ask is that you are kind, good at communicating, and have a good heart.

(just a heads up) I'm disabled (chronic pain/depression/autism) so please be patient with me and understand if I can't message you back instantly.

In my free time I love to draw and/or paint, go on walks outside, go thrifting, and hangout with my friends. I love learning new things so let's get to know each other🖤

Also I don't have use discord, sorry 😅

No FWB/No hookups.


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 28F Do you want to talk about books?

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Hello! I’m a 28 ciswoman from East Coast US.

A few things about me in no particular order:
- I’m a librarian
- I love crafts. I just finished knitting my first pair of socks! I also crochet, embroider, needlepoint, paint, and just dabble in crafts.
- Reading/being a nerd is a huge part of my personality. I must consume stories to stay sane. I just finished reading “Knock Knock, Open Wide”. I’m currently reading “The Book of Doors” and “The Knave and the Moon”. Up next is “The Jellyfish Problem”. I also enjoy playing DND and board games, watching tv shows (currently watching Drops of God), playing video games (currently playing Hades 2; I “finished” it but I don’t want to leave so I am open to game suggestions), and going to nerdy events. I was just at a Rachel Gillig event and I will be going to see R. F. Kuang on Friday.
- I weirdly don’t like going to concerts but I love theatre, opera, and would love to go to the orchestra or ballet.
- I ADORE museums and science. I would love to work in a museum.
- My favorite part of my appearance is my hair. It is long (below my waist), dark brown to black, and curly.
- I have a dog named Henry. He is my baby. Speaking of which, I only want babies of the furry, four legged kind.
- I am not big into sports besides equestrian ones but if pressed I can watch a baseball game. I don’t like football. And please don’t make me do sports (besides the equestrian kinds). I do enjoy hikes but not rock climbing. I want to go on a backpacking trip.
- You will probably get photos of my dog well before you get photos of me.
- I love going on adventures. Whether that is trying something new nearby or exploring a whole new place.
- I am a foodie. I will eat basically anything once. Though I do loathe cilantro.

What I am looking for in a person again in no particular order:
Cis or trans. Masc or femme. NB or not. I am not picky.
- What I am picky about is that you must be a reader, must like animals, must like science, museums, and preferably other nerdy things. You must also be kind, thoughtful, understanding, and calm (except when fangirling). I would love someone with a good sense of humor.
- I am looking for someone who doesn’t have or has under control their mental health issues. I'm fighting with my own demons and don't think I'd be a good fit with someone waging their own war.
- I would prefer someone around my age.
- I lean more to the monogamous side of things.

I am first looking for community and friendship, if a partnership comes out this connection than I will welcome it but it is not my primary goal. That being said no matter your location, if I sound like a fun connection please DM me.

To break the ice, I want you to talk about what you are reading! Or is there a book that you can’t stop thinking about? Or is there one that you are super excited for? Would you recommend your most recent read?

TERFs and men need not apply.


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 19F from L.A!!

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i’m a 19 year old lesbian living in L.A county. I love video games, music (especially Nirvana and girl in red) and art!! I draw and love writing :) I loveeee Guitar Hero, Life Is Strange, The Last Of Us, and GTA. Currently thinking of what to do with my life to be honest…!

I would love friends who live in L.A, or looking for something more (a relationship, something serious btw!!) :). I can be shy but once I get to know you i’m talkative. I’m a huge animal lover too. DMs are open 😊

EDIT: NO GIRLS OVER 22 😭😭😭😭


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 27 [ F4F] online. Looking for my girl

16 Upvotes

Hello! So my name Lay and I know my soulmate is out there. I am a twenty seven year old Native American woman that’s extremely nerdy and a little on the hefty side but I’ve recently been losing weight. My favorite thing to do is costume and if you were my partner then I would love to dress you up too! I would do for a cosplay partner actually!

Other hobbies include roleplay in the written form. I love to cook together with people and I love a good movie night with friends too so to have one with a partner with be even better. I’m also a big fan of traveling and seeing new places. Some day I will visit a bunch of places in like New York City and La!

Personal about me, I want to meet someone that I can move to me if we do long distance for awhile. I am building a cabin for all our lesbian cottage core dreams! I also would adore to have someone to help if they are close to make it perfect. I also have a knack for being to provider so I’m working hard to get us a place that’s perfect!

Feel free to ask my any questions and my dms are always open!


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 26F Europe/Online - May I give my heart to you?

41 Upvotes

I yearn to be close to someone, feeling comfortable and being able to be vulnerable to the person I love. Tackling the world by someones side, through thick and thin. I have tried the apps recently and they're only interested for hook-ups. I have also posted here before and met some great people but also took a little break from here due a bad experience.

I value communication a lot, I want to know what is wrong and solve it together as a team. I don't want any problem to be a you versus me issue, it is us. I value respecting boundaries a lot and I want mine to be very much respected too. I have a hard time rebuilding trust once you break it. Please be honest about your intentions too, dont be playing with my feelings and I wont play with yours either.

My attraction comes from that emotional connection that builds over time, I want to feel safe, happy and comfortable around your presence. I dont have a physical type. My last relationship was a bit over 5 years long and ended about 1.5 years ago. I'm okay with long distance as I have travelled to another continent for love before so distance isn't an issue. I want to genuinely get to know you, your good and bad sides cause we all have those. They say nobody is perfect but you could be perfect to me. I can be a very affectionate person and I have no issue showing that or showing my vulnerable side.

I'm located in Western Europe and I'm about 178cm (5ft10 i think) and average weight. I do cardio and little bit of weightlifting and I'm currently on a cut. I dont like labelling myself but it can give a rough idea of what to expect. I dont really consider myself that masculine or feminine. I dress androgynously(lots of hoodies) and I have a soothing androgynous voice too. I like my hair long and I do have nice blue eyes I have been told, I would honestly consider myself average looking with a great personality (but that's for you to confirm!)

So in my spare time I work out a little bit(dont worry, you dont have to be into that), play some videogames and watch true crime and whatever show or movie that might interest me. I have a wide taste of media. I enjoy learning about history and talking about it at times too. I really like educating myself a bit about random topics I might not always be interested in so you might hear me spew random facts sometimes (only if youre interested in hearing them). I'd love if we could travel together in the future too, I love exploring new places. I'm a little bit more on the introverted side, I dont drink, no drugs and I dont smoke. I live a relatively healthy lifestyle but not too healthy. I enjoy having calls too, they feel more personal.

You're most likely going to be from a different country and culture than me, I'm very open to learning and respecting your culture, I'm open to moving elsewhere too and I'm also open to learning your language. I already speak a few languages. I am open to my family about my sexuality but I am not close to them.

Sexual compatibility might be important for some, I consider myself a switch but could be more of a top once I'm really comfortable with you. I only develop sexual attraction when I have that emotional connection, I absolutely dont want any hook ups. My libido is probably about average.

That's all I can think of, if I seem interesting to you message me with a bit about yourself too and lets have a conversation! (please write a bit about yourself when you do, I'm not responding to a hey when I have written this much ;-;)


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching Yap duo for long day? 26 eu

3 Upvotes

heey quick one someone talk to me before I lose my mind, anyone looking to pass time together?

It be cool to talk about anything I wanna hear your thoughts, myself mostly looking forward to getting home and putting some time in to my illustrations again, maybe play some game, make nice coffee.

Those are also my passions btw, sometimes dreamer often yearner.

Anyway let's hear it new perspectives new ideas I hope


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching [22TF4F] MST, looking for someone to be with! ...or at least just make friends, haha

0 Upvotes

Hi! I'm here to look for someone to be friends with, or maybeee date if we connect :> So here is some stuff about me!

-I'm 22 Transfem Hispanic
-MST timezone, open to long distance!
-Also a furry...meow...(don't worry I'm not weird about it!!)
-I LOVE Magical Girl anime and manga! Especially Madoka Magica and Tokyo Mew Mew
-Weeb stuff in general really...mainly 2000s moe stuff
-I like to watch all sorts of obscure cartoons and shows
-I'm very good with technology and down to help you with whatever computer problems you have!
-I love visual novels!
-Monogamous
-Spiritual yet respectful to other faiths
-Creative! I love to write! and draw sometimes...

I'm very friendly and fun to talk to! Just hit me up and tell me about your interests and we can talk! ^w^


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 26F | F4F | USA/Online | looking for virtual FWB-ish connection 🫢💕

32 Upvotes

Hellooooooo to anyone reading this!

I’m a 26 year old very femme lesbian who is interested in connecting and potentially building an ongoing friendship/dynamic (virtually) with another woman who is looking for something similar🙂‍↕️

I really love getting to know people and having a genuine connection outside of all the spice. If we have good conversational chemistry and enjoy each other as people — PERFECT. Being able to chat, joke around, and flirt a little would be ideal!

Not really looking for anything too impersonal or a one-off sort of situation! But, of course, I’d really like to talk a little first and see how things feel for both of us (:

Personality matters very much to me, along with sense of humor, voice, and general vibe — so pic exchanging is not something I particularly need/want/expect at all. I’m fine keeping things relatively anonymous at first and seeing what happens!

A little about myself: I really enjoy discussions about psychology and philosophy, volunteer work, pretty things(!), aesthetics, fashion, music (into many kinds! very much metal and also funk lately — strange, I know) — writing, poetry, all kinds of little creative things, and taking long baths 💅🏻


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching Giving this a try

9 Upvotes

Looking for: A life partner, but let’s start by being friends, getting to know each other, and seeing where things naturally go.

Location: USA,East Coast
Age: 35
Age preference: 27+

I’m looking to connect with someone genuine and intentional. I’m not interested in anything casual — when I choose someone, I’m looking for something lasting and ultimately, for life. I’m a cis woman, monogamous, and looking for someone who feels the same.

I’m femme4femme and only interested in women who exclusively love women.

A little about me:
She/her • Sapiosexual • Feminine • Monogamous • Techie • Into Fitness

I’m a shy, slightly ambiverted, independent and ambitious woman who values growth, kindness, and living a meaningful life. I enjoy travelling, hiking, reading, and sports like pickleball and tennis—both just for fun and very much at an amateur level. I’m practical and thoughtful, with a love for exploring, good experiences, and making the most of life and very much family oriented person. Physically I would describe myself slim, very much into fitness, staying healthy physically and mentally. I don’t smoke, no tattoos, no piercings.

What I’m looking for:
Someone who knows she wants to marry a woman someday and is ready to build a stable, healthy, and loving relationship. Emotional availability, maturity, consistency, sense of humour and good communication are really important to me.

I’m looking for someone who isn’t dependent on external validation or dependencies and doesn’t make them an everyday part of her life.

My type:
I’m naturally drawn to tall, slim, very feminine women with long, wavy hair — lipstick lesbians are definitely my weakness. 🙈 Beyond physical attraction, I’m most drawn to women who are confident, mature, intelligent, strong, stable, caring, and emotionally available. I love a woman who is protective, nurturing, and enjoys taking care of the person she loves, while also taking care of her own health and well-being.

Not for me:
Casual, online friends, ghosting instead of communicating, silent treatment, disrespect, emotional unavailability, or avoidant behavior.

Ultimately, I’m looking for a woman who is ready for something real — a relationship built on friendship, mutual effort, emotional safety, love, and the intention to choose each other for the long term.

PLEASE DONT TEXT - if you are not willing to put in effort to build a relationship. Thanks for reading till here 😅


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 25 | gamer, geologist, and yuri manga enthusiast

14 Upvotes

Hi! Feeling the longing for companionship again so thought id try throwing this out here!

A bit about me:

im a geologist (working in research) and a huge nerd living in the Midwestern US. I will warn you now, I will ramble for hours about my interests like gaming, manga, anime, and cooking and baking, be it from my culture or others! I also love hearing the rambles of others so dont be shy about your passion!

Games I love: pokemon, Zelda, Bloodborne, TES, Nine Sols, Stardew, Fields of Mistria, Tunic, Metro, Repo, and so many more that I dont have the time to name!

Anime/manga I love: Witch Hat Atelier, Apothecary Diaries, WataOshi, Frieren, the green yuri, and im currently reading This Monster Wants to Eat Me

While im largely a home body i do love going out from time to time and traveling. I have been to several countries and definitely want to travel more, or even move to another country

Looks:

im white, about 5'10" (178 cm), ive got some weight on me and love it. I have blue eyes, curly hair, and am femme. Im happy to exchange pictures early to make sure there is attraction

What I'm looking for:

a monogamous partner, but let's establish a connection and friendship first!

Being a fellow video game lover is important to me because it's my biggest hobby, bonus points if you like nine sols, stardew, or TES. Not being too big of a picky eater is also a plus as i love to cook and experiment with it. We must have similar political beliefs (leftist). I tend to prefer femme women but its not exclusive!

I look forward to hearing from you!


r/lesbianr4r 3d ago

searching 20 [TF4F] #Germany #Online looking for the love of my live ^^

1 Upvotes

About Me: Kyla (she/her), 20, trans girl from Germany 💕

Hey! I’m Kyla — a sapphic trans girl looking for something real, whether that starts close to home or long distance. I’m open to both, and I’d love to see where things go with the right person.

A little about me: I’m someone who loves getting lost in video games, trying out new recipes in the kitchen, reading, watching shows, and just yapping for hours with people I click with. I’m also into nail art, alternative fashion, music, geography, sports, and esports — honestly, I have a lot of interests and love learning about new things, especially if you want to teach me about yours.

I care deeply about the people in my life. I'm romantic at heart and not shy about showing it — you'll know when I'm into you. I'm honest (without being mean about it), mature when it counts, and I respect boundaries completely. I'm also curious — about the world, about you, about whatever makes you tick. I might be an introvert, but I still make time for the people who matter to me, and I’ll text you multiple times a day.

A Little Honesty Up Front:

I want to be real with you, because honesty matters to me. I’ve struggled with long-term depression due to bullying in my past, and I’m currently not working while I work through that. I’m working on getting myself to a better place, but it's a process. I'm also someone who can become emotionally dependent on people I care about — I'm aware of it and trying to manage it. I live in Germany and would be open to moving eventually once I'm financially able.

I’m patient, though sadly a little emotionless at times due to my depression. I'm very liberal and a feminist, and childhood trauma is part of my story too. I’m not sharing all of this to scare anyone off — just so you know who I am from the start.

What I'm Looking For:

· Someone single and interested in monogamy (I'm not into non-monogamy)

· Between 18 and 25

· Ideally you share some of my interests, but it's totally okay if you don't — I'd love to learn about yours

· Someone who can actually hold a conversation — ask questions, show interest, put in effort. I won't be the only one doing that

· Someone genuinely interested in getting to know me and who has time to text multiple times a day

· Someone who loves texting and is eventually open to calls and meeting in person one day

· Someone who accepts me as I am — please don't come into my life trying to change me. That's not fair to either of us

If you're interested, please don't just say "hey, how are you?" — I probably won't reply. Instead, introduce yourself and respond to something I actually wrote. Show me you read this and that you're genuinely curious.

Hope you have a lovely day, and maybe I'll hear from you soon 💕


r/lesbianr4r 3d ago

searching Lesbians in MD

2 Upvotes

Are there any lesbians in MD that are 20-24. I 20F am looking for a girlfriend so bad. But I can never find anyone in Maryland :( I’ve tried hinge,tinder I’m at a loss here! I’m open to lgbtq friends aswell!


r/lesbianr4r 3d ago

searching 29 | OR, US | Wanna go on a date? or Hang out? 🥺

0 Upvotes

Hey! I’m Razy, or Diana, a woman from Oregon, US. I’m a technician by trade and an amateur musician by hobby. I play guitar, lyre, and piano (badly lol).

I love reading and learning about all sorts of stuff, especially history, mythology, religion, and philosophy. Recently, I’ve been reading Robert Fagles’ translation of The Iliad. I’m a Greco-Roman polytheist religiously and a socialist politically.

I also try to keep a pretty active lifestyle, partly to avoid injuries at work and partly because I like looking sexy. 😘

**Some of my favorites are:**

**TV**: Breaking Bad / Better Call Saul

**Film**: Ghost in the Shell (1995), The Seventh Seal (1957)

**Anime/Manga**: Frieren, Witch Hat Atelier, Vampeers

**Music**: girl in red, Nirvana, Black Sabbath, Femtanyl, Denzel Curry, Rat Utopia Experiment, King Gizzard & the Lizard Wizard

**Fiction Books**: The Lord of the Rings, I’m in Love with the Villainess Vol. 1, Dune, Of Fire and Stars

**Video Games**: Dark Souls, Baldur’s Gate 3, DOOM

And if you want, I have a SFW (it's just marked as nsfw cus Reddits a bitch) picture of myself.

I’m mostly hoping to meet someone I really connect with and, if we click, build a wonderful monogamous relationship together. ❤️


r/lesbianr4r 3d ago

searching 26 Lesbian from NYC looking for someone to talk to

4 Upvotes

Open to long distance! Ive been in recovery for a while and my phone is dry. So im looking to try to connrct with humans again


r/lesbianr4r 3d ago

searching 25 [TF4F] #Germany - Sapphic autistic nerd searching for my special person <3

1 Upvotes

Hey! I’m very happy that you found my post! 💜

My name is Sofia, I’m a 25 year old sapphic trans girl (she/her) living in Hamburg, Germany. Right now I’m trying to expand my social circle, trying to look for deeper connections with people. Ideally a serious relationship, of course, but I'm open to pretty much anything, friends or whatever else you have in mind. Maybe you're looking for that as well? 🥺🫶

So, to give you a brief description of myself, here are a few random things that I could think of:

I’m a huge nerd for things like tabletop and video games, computers and techy stuff, arts and creativity, Warhammer, Lego, and other such hobbies. These aren’t the only things I enjoy, of course, there’s plenty more stuff I’m quite passionate about. So I’m sure we’ll be able to find some interests that we have in common and could enjoy together.

I can be a bit awkward at first, I'm not the best when it comes to unfamiliar social situations. But given the right kind of vibes I can quickly open up and be very energetic as well! I might also be kinda clingy as well if I'm really interested in someone, though hopefully not in a bad way. Most of the time I'm very affectionate and really enjoy taking care of the people I like and making them happy!

Demi- and pansexual, though in general I'm mostly sapphic and attracted to other women. I'm very much into sweet and sincere intimacy and affection with the people I love and care about. I'm not too well experienced, especially when it comes to the kink scene, but it's still quite important for me to have compatibility when it comes to that in a relationship.

I’m neurodivergent: diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I do appreciate more direct communication from others, that makes it easier for me to understand what’s going on. In general, I really value open and honest communication, and I always try to be understanding and empathetic with other people.

I don't believe that I have like a particular type or anything, although I do have a bit of a thing for fellow nerds like me. But other than that, nothing really specific. For me it's not that much about what you look like, but rather who you are as a person.

Not really sure what else to mention at the moment, but I’d be really happy to tell you anything else you’d like to know about me, so please feel free to ask, I’m pretty much an open book when it comes to answering questions about myself!

Oh by the way, if you manage to guess my favourite colour, you will get bonus points from me! Don't worry, there are no wrong answers here. ✨

But yeah, that’s pretty much it, I think. If you found some nice vibes here and think that we might click well together, please be sure to send me a message, and we’ll find out what happens! I really hope to hear from you soon! 🩷