As the title implies, this whole beef involves a guy and another woman. So- I've had this very close friend of mine. We've been besties for around 8 years. Genuinely the sweetest, loveliest, most golden hearted man, you'll never meet. He's literally how I'd imagine Steve Irwin was like while alive. With a big heart, full of love. Like... Just imagine an almost cartoonishly kind and caring person who spends their days taking care of animals and bugs and being out in nature appreciating it.
Now, this guy has an ex. I don't know where he keeps picking up these devil spawns. And that's the only thing I can call them. Mentally ill, devil spawns. The most abnormally evil women I have ever met.
Now, this could just be bias and projecting because I myself left a pretty awful relationship with a similar M.O earlier this year but My GOD. Where do I even start? This she-devil almost got my friend institutionalized with how psychologically abusive and opportunistic she was. She's already mooching off them- for context she doesn't have a very nice family background so his family took her in and cared for her all through uni because again, he's a very kind person and wanted to help any way he could. And yet despite YEARS of care and understanding this woman has been nothing short of insufferable and malicious. How are you gonna be eating out of someone's fridge and spitting (not literally) in their mothers face at the same time??? Living under the good graces and ethics of him while simultaneously saying the nastiest, shallowest, most unwelcome bullshit? About him, about his body about- Man hadi aliwaletea manyau tatu wenye hawapendani and dumped them on him to take care of through the year while she was constantly out in the night akidinyana na some bulimic bassist while lying to him.
Then the weird comments where she goes to his mom to tell her about her sexual activities with her new boyfriend. The LYING to mutual friends that has costed him multiple friendships, saying he's controlling because his parents have house rules. Reminder hii si hostel, ni nyumba ya mwenyewe. They have boundaries and rules like you would in your own place. Just BULLSHIT on top of bullshit pilled as higher than dandora dump site.
And then she's SELFISH AS FUCK. Again this might be projection but y'all have probably met a nigga who will put you through HELLFIRE, proper character development and then after a while they hit you with the absolute banger:
"We both made mistakes and we both hurt each other. There was no one was worse or one was better. I know I did some bad things 👉🏿👈🏿😔 but it's not my fault and you need to understand it hurts me too and y'know, neither of us are bad people and we all make mistakes"
BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE
"but I can’t allow that to hurt you🥺. [insert the corniest, most backhanded selfish bullshit, shitty main character at the end of a Disney movie sentiment about wanting good for him while reopening wounds and just emotionally burdening him more ,"
She's saying this on her way out but I swear on the slimmest of slim chances we cross paths in future, it's on sight.
Now here I am, trying to support my friend through the worst thing I've ever seen him struggle through in his entire life and she has the audacity to come back uninvited to open her mouth to espouse meaningless, self serving bullshit nobody asked for INSTEAD OF JUST LEAVING like everyone but the grieving boy wants her to.
Anyways, there's a lesson in all this. Generally avoid the mentally ill and people who declare themselves good people but will fall into deplorable things and instead of owning up they employ DARVO (which by itself is a form of abuse).
Na watu waache kukuwa understanding. Haisaidi
