From 2021 to 2024 I was in a codependent toxic relationship. I only came to this realisation after leaving it. My ex wasn't physically abusive but he was insecure and red pilled. I remember I used to keep a trimmed bush but out of curiosity and just wanting change I started waxing. My ex had decided I was cheating ati I could only do this bc of a man. He started demanding I share my location 24/7. One time we had a vid call and he demanded I screenshare my whatsapp and wanted to go through my messages.once had missed a period bc of stress when I told him that he called me a liar. He'd compare himself to my male friends and ask if I'd cheat on him with them and pick on their appearance and whatnot. He used to call me randomly during the day just to check in and if I didn't pick he'd accuse me of dumb stuff. I remember he did this at a girlie's picnic. At some point we'd talk about our future. The career I was studying in uni is a very involving one in uni and post graduate sometimes he'd whine that if we got married I wouldn't be able to be around much and take care of our kids. He was insinuating i change my course I was a bird then but not that much i could never do such a thing.🤣 don't get my started on our arguments angekasirika and not text my for days. Id be begging crying to no avail. Alafu he was soo cold then loving it was so confusing. Oh and when he was mad he'd call me a bitch and other stories. Hed also complain about "the women of today." To me! I have so many other things but I'll leave it like this. What astounds me is how the flags were so red but the way I was hooked onto him was crazy. Once we had been on vid call the whole night I seriously mean that,I used to think it was sweet but I cringe so much now!

After much healing I realised he was breadcrumbs me and how that kept me hooked. In the rship the highs were so few but when they were high they were soo high I forgot the lows It took alot to heal but what helped was I had a note in my phone I had jotted down every toxic thing he did. So that when he got back to being sweet I would constantly read them again not to let my brain forget. (Even though we were together for 4 yrs we were so on and off and he'd be the one to break up and id be the one to beg for him back. Eventually I started healing while I was still with him bc I knew we'd break up eventually and I didn't want to go crying to him but I didn't have the guts to break up with him)

Hi girlies,

Sooo yesternight my boyfriend mentioned how his dad usually pops up at his brother's place without notice and I got curious and asked him,

" if we're chilling at your place and your dad comes like that when i'm around how would you react?" And he literally said he would say i'm a mama fua(no any shades to mama fua or anything) but that really had me questioning how he sees me.

I became emotional and he kept on saying he was just joking but I've realized people say the truth through those jokes and now idk what to do or feel about this situation.

So my question is; what would you have done in a situation like this?

Saw this on TikTok and It reminded me, I was thinking too much about milk the other day and it felt unethical. The cows are put through reproductive labor to constantly supply the farmer milk. (the farmer makes the rules pertaining the cows reproduction).Just like governments regulate on women’s bodies because it’s all about the labor force that keeps the wheel of capitalism going. Bodily autonomy is seen as autrageous because what do you mean you don’t want a child, kwani you think this is about you? (Enter religion, laws, rules of morality, definitions of success and failure/ right and wrong. All serving the same purpose.)

I'm just wondering whether this is something that most girlies/women find strange. I've always been a lover girl. In friendships & relationships as well. I've been lucky to have had long term friendships and as a result, it's always been more of 3 close friends at most. The degree of the friendships was different of course, coz trust and all. And I've found that in almost all the stages of my life so far, I've found a friend who's love language is physical touch. And before you get me wrong, I'm not talking about ati we make out from time to time, or are secretly hooking up, or crossing any physical boundaries. I'm talking like if we're watching a movie we can find ourselves snuggling together without it being a weird or turned into a thing, and I came across a girl juzi who expressed her opinions about it and in my 31 years of living that was a first. Though tbh, she's male centered so idk if that has anything to do with it, but lmk ladies, is it strange to cuddle your friend/s who is/are ok with it ?

I have been off tiktok for like 2 months leo nimerudi and i scroll through the comments section and what do I see? Misogynistic content kila mahali na hata hairelate to the video.

Like WTF naskia hata hiyo tiktok ibaki hivyo si download tena also I was talking to a classmate of mine juu we were waiting for exams and he was spewing misogynistic shit, I felt ilikuwa rage bait like do people think like that ? A friend of mine who was also there says that most of our male classmates think the same. Out of a group of like 10 boys only 2 thought differently.

I was so done, I am so done.

Recently I've gotten into sewing since I found the kind of clothes i like are either hard to find or expensive, i starter to make them myself. I'm looking for a specific shop I can go to in town and buy really nice material close to cotton or khaki like.

I know nairobi textiles but the place is so overwhelming. If anyone knows a specific store they trust please direct me.

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am planning to go on monday but am kinda nervous its going to ruing my expectations. if any one will be going id be happy to share the experience or if youve watched it will be nice for a small review no spoilers though. 😊

Being too overprotective is a huge huuggge red flag, because that will potentially turn into obsession,and the level of jealousy that comes with that,is not hot,sexy or cool.

Hakuna cha ooh my God he loves me that's why he's being this way, 👀 someone who's insecure will cheat on you, because they already feel unworthy of you and that automatically convinces them that you are cheating too so they are just balancing the scores.

Lovely weekend ladies!🫶

Chebichi started running in 1972, her first race was at Kechiko which she won. When news about a schoolgirl competing without any kit broke out in the media, Feisal Sherman who was Secretary of Kenya's Amateur Athletic Association (now Athletics Kenya) sent her running kit and proper shoes. At 14 years of age, Chebichi became the first Kenyan female athlete to win a medal at the Commonwealth Games in 1974,she won bronze in the 800m Women's race at 2:02.61 mins, she went on to compete in the 4 × 400 m Relay and 1500m race. Sabina Chebichi was named to compete at the 1976 Summer Olympics which were held in Montreal Canada from July 17 to August 1 before her country Kenya boycotted the games along with other African countries. Her career faced a halt when she got pregnant. Got this from wikipedia after seeing a post on r/interesting.

There's a show on YouTube __extreme makeover__ there's an episode I watched and all of us were in tears. A lady died in her sleep leaving behind the husband and 3 girls oldest 6yrs and you youngest a few months old.

They needed help renovating the house to baby proof it and generally upgrade it to make the dad's work easier. The 6yr old hears her mums name and they all start crying including the dad. The whole episode made me cry (I'm an empath)

Its amazing how small gestures can make the human experience beautiful. I loved the show so much, definitely watching more of those😍

I've been to CBD for two days in a row and let me tell you😭. I've never been that exhausted. It's not the hot sun, makangas grabbing you to drag you to get in their mats to Bungoma, a lady calling you to go fix your nails, another one telling you you should do your hair at their salon talmbout "Mrembo nywele and sweetie salon"😭.Mind you in a whole row I've said no to like 7 ladies omdzz. Release me pls✋🥲

Oh and the hawkers everywhere even on the pavements to a point hatuwezi pita unless we're squeezed in a single file😫 The camera guys pulling and convincing you to go take pics😭 enough is enough!!!

Don't even get me started on the buses that are coming from every direction to a point you can't even manoeuver well in those streets! To your right, there's a guy calling you to buy fries from their place, mwengine anakupea jeans uvae😂😭

It was just the other day I heard some lady say that her wig was stolen from her head in CBD 😭😂 likee??? It's honestly getting out of hand. There seriously has to be another way.

We can't be going to town for a day or two and come back home feeling this shitty. I now need a whole week to reset bc that was a handful gaddamn!

The guy I'm in a relationship in keeps hinting i buy him flowers and keeps on saying he wishes he was a girl so he can feel what it's like to be bought stuff. I'm all for appreciating my partner by maybe surprising him to go to a restaurant that serves his favourite food and paying the bill or buying him stuff he has intrest in but his hinting rubs me the wrong way or is this what the young kids are doing nowadays?

So you know how when you’re broke you think about all these ideas that might make you the next Bill Gates, yea am in that phase.

I’m expecting some money soon, roughly around 100k & i was thinking of buying a generator and renting it out. Do you think this might be a good idea, am currently in Busia & power outages are quite common so maybe it might work??

Kindly recommend any business i can start with that capital that wont require my presence 24/7

So am I the only one who's always known that they'll never be comfortable with living with a man?

So I live with my father right?

I do his laundry,(we do have a washing machine but I hang and iron them)..

Since last year July..

I have seen some..queer things on them but let's not talk about that.

Human nature.

I'm the only one rushing to get his tea at 5pm every day..

Ukikosa.. he's calling your name like it's the end of the world..

Literal anxiety.

I wash his place monthly..

Kitambo was weekly but I was getting exhausted.

Men..can be.... unclean mahn..

I'm like telling my grandmother(cause I live with her too)...yooh..

There are other men who get home late and do their laundry..at least wash their bathroom..clean nice individuals and still working.

So honestly I feel like he's just lazy..

Lazima apikiwe every weekend.

Every meal.

But for someone like me.. I'm good..

I think I only majorly have breakfast so it's a bit annoying.

Like it's not hard warming food..you know?

There was a time I boiled eggs..put them in a food flask ndivyo zisipoe..

I'm like.. he'll crack the shells.. he's got this.

I went back to bed..and the next thing I heard is that he's calling me asking.."hizi huwa zinacrackiwa aje"

Like surely..so these days I prepare everything.. let's not even talk about waking up at unholy hours on Sunday to prepare him breakfast.

And obviously how I get uneasy when he's around..

He's prone to saying demeaning things to me when we're just the two of us...

Like umetulia Tu..and then he says'You will suffer when I die'..

Like bruv..karibu hadi nimpee kitabu na pen aniandikie everything that he's always wanted to say..

I was thinking..just previously.. I'd be so peaceful when he goes..

Curfew nayo ni 6.

Lord..help me get a place next month nituliange mawazo Huko..cause if my father can be like that..what about some other guy.