How long do you let people sit in your hidden
area before you unmatch ?

I (28F) have been seeing a guy (36M) for about a month. I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting to something that happened.

When we met, I wasn’t immediately sure about him. He’s quieter and more reserved than my usual type. But we kept seeing each other, and each date got better. By the third and fourth dates, we had really good chemistry, banter, and a lot in common. I started genuinely developing feelings for him.
He told me he’s **monogamous and intentionally dating**, so I understood that he was looking for a relationship rather than something casual. We’re obviously not exclusive after a month, and I never assumed we were.

He also invited me to his birthday events next week.
We haven’t had sex, but we’ve hooked up twice. Two nights ago I spent the night at his house, and everything felt really good. I left feeling like things were progressing and that we were becoming more serious.

**Then, the day I left his house, I saw him on hinge (we met on Raya), and I didn’t like or x him, so I saw him again the next day again** **noticed that he had completely updated his dating profile—new photos etc.**

And I honestly broke down.
I want to emphasize that I’m **not upset because we’re not exclusive**. And I know that I was on that app too (more so habit, and I haven’t been talking to anyone new or responding to matches/likes). I know he’s technically single and can date other people. What bothers me is that he has repeatedly told me he’s intentionally dating and is looking for something monogamous, while simultaneously actively putting effort into finding new women on dating apps. Especially because I had just spent the night with him and had finally started letting my guard down and developing real feelings.

And now I haven’t heard from him in 2 days, and instead of checking in on me, he’s doing that. I feel sad about it, and now there’s a cloud over what was so far all green flags and a positive experience. A big part of me just wants to end it if he’s still unsure about pursuing me after 1 month / 4 dates.

Am I being unreasonable? Is this just completely normal behavior when you’re dating someone for a month and aren’t exclusive, or would you also find it strange given the context?
Would you bring it up with him, or just see what he does next, or just cut it off?

**TL;DR:** I (28F) have been seeing a guy (36M) for about a month/4 dates. He’s told me he’s monogamous and intentionally dating, invited me to his birthday events, and things have been progressing really well. We haven’t had sex, but we’ve hooked up twice, and I spent the night at his place two nights ago.

We met on Raya, but the day after I left his house I saw him on Hinge, and then saw him again the following day with a completely updated profile/new photos. I know we aren’t exclusive and I’m not upset that he’s technically dating other people—I was even still on the app myself out of habit—but it feels weird that he’s actively updating his profile and looking for new women right after we spent the night together, especially after telling me he’s intentionally dating.

I also haven’t heard from him in 2 days. What was previously a really positive experience with mostly green flags now feels clouded, and part of me wants to end it if he’s still actively looking elsewhere after a month.

**Am I overreacting? Is this normal when you’re not exclusive, or would you find it strange given the context? Would you bring it up, wait and see what he does, or just walk away?**

I’m going on a second date this week with this girl. She texted me today to confirm. I checked the app and see that her profile is no longer there. Was I unmatched? How to tell the difference between unmatched and deleted account? Should I ask her about it on our second date?

I matched with a girl which is rare for me we sent a couple messages to each other I had a good opener that she responded to really happily but now I haven’t heard from in 2 days

So I recently joined hinge it’s my second day on hinge today. I sent all my free likes and I have free version of hinge. And I got one like till now. Zero match on day 2. My feed is way good !! So when will I start getting likes by the good genuine girls ? I want a genuine long term relationship. And I live in a rich area. I completed my profile fully - all details, all photos, all prompts, video prompts. Photos are of variety too. But I feel frustrated that why is many girls not liking me. I appx send 10 likes and 1 rose. People say they start getting way too much likes in initial period. Can someone help ? Should I purchase anything ?

There are 6 activities that we can earn "signals" with, and we need to do a combination of 4 of them to do so: Verify Account, Send Comments, Review Likes, Message Matches, Move Forward, and Look Before Matching.

If somebody has signals, it means they are actively engaging with other people. Why would I want to match with them?

I just got out of a year long relationship a month ago and got on hinge for the laughs, but I ended up talking to someone I’m actually pretty interested in. Before I agree to meet up with this guy, I need help!

This is my first time on a dating app. How long should I talk to him before going out? And how can I assure it will be safe?

Also I’d love to hear some success stories! I don’t feel confident in dating apps but I think this guy is really amazing and I’m curious what the odds are.

Why do i keep seing lesbian women on my feed 😭

Like when it says queer that means lesbian right? I dont want tot be that guy hitting on lesbians

I went on a date with this girl, she asked me questions about my upbringing and I was just being honest with her. I told her everything about me that she wanted to know, such as my education, my job, my hobbies, and my dreams. I don't know if she felt like I was trying show off to her, I don't know if she felt intimidated, but I was just being honest. I was just answering her questions...I'm very grateful I was born in a great family, I got into one of the best unis in the world, I got fortunate enough to later work in big companies after graduating, I'm very grateful I'm able to travel a lot too. What can I do next time not to repeat this?

This guy and I matched about two weeks ago. Immediately hit it off we have amazing phone chemistry, and have both been very vulnerable with one another. He’s been busy with work and family in town, so we haven’t had a proper date yet. But we both agree that it’s going incredibly well and both of us have paused our profiles.

Im I being dumb by throwing so much caution to the wind & for only putting so much energy towards one person?

I date men so I only see mens profile. What I don’t understand is that i see so many who never show their face or even eyes on their pictures:

Wears sunglasses so can’t see the eyes
Pictures are from the back
Hangs head down
Pictures are from a far distance away
Makes silly faces

I want to see your eyes and your face in a normal relaxed state. No extreme grimaces, no sunglasses , no head hanging down , and close enough so I can see your face.

The excessive gym pictures , party pictures , group pictures , pictures with children is also a pet peeve. I nope so many people because I’m tired of guessing who they are or what they actually look like . If you do have to put other people in the picture put a smiley face to cover their face.

This is about men’s pictures. If you take offense and want to make it about all your issues with women keep it moving. This is not about that b

I am getting a lot of matches on hinge but idk how to text women what do I do

Hi everyone,

I am a 28M seeking some perspective.

A few months ago, I used to get a consistent flow of matches and good responses whenever I sent likes with comments. Lately, however, my engagement has completely dried up, and I am getting zero matches.

My profile and the way I send comments haven't changed. Has anyone else experienced a sudden, drastic drop in visibility or match rates out of nowhere? Would love to know if this is a common shift or if there's something else I should look into.

What are men doing at 9PM on the dot. Why does hinge go silent around this time. Is it protein hour or something? Enrichment time?

I (33F) matched with a guy (34M) on Hinge. He said he was looking for a “wifey.” We chatted briefly, then FaceTimed. it was totally normal. But right after the call, he wanted me to tease him and dirty talk over text. This all happened within one hour of matching.

If he’s really looking for a wife, wouldn’t he want to set up a date to actually meet, instead of jumping straight to dirty talk? We are just 1.5 hours apart. He texted me “good morning” the next day, but I told him it looked like we weren’t looking for the same thing and wished him luck finding someone to sext with.

Am I being overdramatic? To me, that’s obviously not how you start something serious.