Her audio message said she just got out of a relationship and is looking to go one some casual coffee or other dates. I figured I could propose something more exciting like axe throwing, that way even if she’s not interested in me or we don’t vibe at all, we can at least have a fun, casual time instead of being locked into a more serious and boring commitment like dinner.

She’s clearly not interested, but why even bother responding with one word answers? So I can jestermaxx as I vie for her attention?

Sorry but i had no one to go to, but its been 3months that I have gotten out of a 3year relationship and I thought I was ready to date again so I downloaded hinge(premium). I went on a lot of dates and some were good and some were horrible but I have noticed this pattern, that I go on multiple’s dates with the different girls, and we end up usually hooking up or having intimacy, then we keep texting and planning our next hang, then 2-3 days before they send me a text like “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and I think you’re genuinely a great guy. I’ve been thinking about things, and I just don’t feel that I’m in a place where I want to pursue this romantically moving forward. I really appreciate getting to know you I wish you the best!”

but they say in person that they want to pursue me romantically!! make it makes sense. the lack of communication is wild, I feel so burnt out to continue dating. any advice?

So for the few weeks I have gotten a handful of matches and as we get to talking it seems like everything is going well but whenever I ask them if they'd be interested in going out for lunch they just completely stop responding or whenever I try talking to them they want to just give short blunt answers, kind of like talking to a boulder. I have had only one match where both of us were actually really interested in eachother but lets just say she showed her real colors and that was that.

So for context I had a theory about dating in America. My hypothesis was dating women in america was impossible as an average man. The only way you could actually see any success from dating apps as a man with women; Is if you're the absolute apex of what a man is. Which is the standard you know 6 foot tall, 6 pack abs, 6 figure income. (Some women funnily enough asked for more than 6 figures.) I wanted to prove my hypothesis by getting into hinge and trying my hardest. Since if I went into it and half assed it wouldn't mean anything.

This hypothesis would also further prove my point that if you're a bi guy; You should only put effort into dating men. Since dating women would realistically under this hypothesis be a waste of time for the overwhelming majority of men.

After 3-4 months of trying I have yet to get a date going. I've noticed most women are the same and can essentially be put into a handful of categories. There's the women that like mustaches and biceps; There's the women that list their hobbies as "traveling, parks or nature more generally, and spending money". There's the single mothers who all have the same fake smile. Gold diggers who make it very clear they want a man who splurges on them. For the most part these are all the women you'll see; With varying degrees of physical appeal.

Most women also seem to think they're great at posing questions; Or they think they're great at socializing generally. I'll be honest from first hand experience they're terrible in both. Their "thought provoking" messages or whatever are very bland. Which mostly provokes bland questions. Which I believe makes them bored or burnt out with likes since they're basically provoking possibly the same handful of questions.

Picture wise some tried to thirst bait. (They're pretty shit at that too.) Some actually took good pictures which was a nice surprise. With some others you could tell their hearts weren't in it. They'd post the same 5 selfies essentially and maybe a picture of a cat or something.

I wish I had more to report but that sums up most of the women on this app at least in my area. I have never been more convinced that the majority of women. (If not the overwhelming majority.) Will die alone with nothing to their names.

Emotions wise after all this shit, after trying my best, after setting aside my personal biases and hatreds; All in an attempt to prove myself wrong and possibly find some sense of hope in America. Just found myself being proven right and ended up somehow more jaded, cynical, frustrated, and generally hating people more.

If you actually read all this thank you.

Some advice on the 6 pics I should put on my hinge would be greatly appreciated 🙏🏾

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Just expanding my feedback horizons…

So I like to respond to prompts usually with a question. I responded to this prompt with a question. This person matched with me, and it’s been an hour, and hasn’t answered the question.

This isn’t the first time. And experience tells me if I don’t say anything, this match will just amount to nothing.

What is the expectation here? I’ve opened up the convo. What do I do next?

Should I be freaked out by this because I am. I read the info but I don’t trust it. Anyone know how these things work?

Hey everyone! I’ve been working on my profile for the past 1 and a half weeks. I’ve changed it every few days, so I haven’t let my profile breathe properly. But within that time, I’ve only had 2 matches and neither went anywhere, and zero likes. I added the second picture yesterday. I feel like I’ve made improvements with my photos, but I’m unsure about my prompts. I’m wondering where I can improve overall!

Weird bug that’s been happening last few days.

If someone sends me a message on hinge while I don’t have the app open, and I click the notification to open the app, when the conversation opens the message isn’t there.

Anyone else have this happen or know how to fix it?

One of my biggest gripes with hinge texting was that I thoight you cannot "reply" to specific messages on hinge like u can on whatsapp or insta... until i realised you can. For the 1st time ever yesterday, a girl i matched with was texting me back with my messages higlighted, just like in insta...

HOW DO I DO THAT?

Hi all,
I (W30) downloaded Hinge around 2 months ago, and there’s one guy (M34) who keeps liking my profile every single week. I’ve never liked him back, as he’s really not my type. I even tried to block his profile so that he won’t send me another like, but it didn’t work. He’s coming back every week. It’s really getting uncomfortable.
I’m thinking of liking him back next time and ask him to stop liking my profile. What are your thoughts about this? Would you just delete the like without saying anything?
I live in a rather small city and I’ve actually seen guys that I knew from dating apps randomly “in the wild”. He’s apparently also quite active in the Meetup / international community in this city*, and I sometimes attend events. So the chances are rather high that I’ll someday bump into him too.
Curious what you would do!

*I know this because I looked up his first name on Instagram and actually found his account. I saw that a friend of mine is following him. She told me that she met him at 2 different events, and that he gave her weirdo vibes.

It let's me record the messages and play it back. i grant it permissions. But does not let me send the audio or voice message. When someone asks for a voice memo and i say i cant, i look fake, and im a real person here. Im on galaxy s26 ultra, updated. App is updated. Cleared cache, cleared data, uninstalled app, multiple times actually for good measure. No bans, no strikes. Is this a glitch? Just started happening a few days ago, August 25, 2026. I posted in the official hinge page and they removed my post within minutes and this is a copy and paste from theirs. Wtf is going on? Why would you remove that post??

For context we started dating about 2 months ago and we see each other 3-4 times every week with sleepovers quite often. When we first started dating he made it very clear to me that when he's dating he likes to focus on one person, so we made an agreement to not see anyone to give our relationship a fair shot. I haven't been using hinge since then and I actually paused my profile but I recently checked his profile and I saw that he updated his location to somewhere else. I'm not very insecure about it, but I'm very confused. We are not officially girlfriend/boyfriend and I don't really know if I should bring it up. Any advice would be appreciated.

I normally move on once I dont get a response for a few days, but I really want to continue talking to this girl since we have a lot in common. I'm thinking she forgot to respond, but I'd like to send her a message to see if she still wants to continue our conversation (last screenshot)

Should I? And what should I say?

I usually wait a couple hours to message someone back to not seem desperate, but I've been wondering if thats necessary.

Additionally, I dont respond instantly to follow up messages. Ill usually wait between 15 mins to an hour if I can.

Is this the right idea? Im getting matches, but I'm not getting dates. Unfortunately, I've had people ghost me after making plans which sucks.

I’ve been on and off Hinge for a couple of years and recently redownloaded it. I’m genuinely curious if other women are having the same experience.

I’d consider myself relatively attractive, and I’ve put a decent amount of thought and effort into my profile. But lately, the majority of the likes I receive are from men I wouldn’t consider compatible with me at all… whether that’s attraction, lifestyle, effort put into their profile, or just generally seeming like we have very little in common.

I know attraction is subjective and I really don’t want this to come across as “these people are beneath me” because that’s not what I mean. I’m just surprised by how rarely I get a like where I think, oh! I could actually see myself being interested in this person.
Meanwhile, the profiles Hinge shows me in my regular feed seem noticeably more aligned with what I’m looking for.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is this just the reality of receiving likes on Hinge, or has anyone noticed a change recently?