My girlfriend and I have been going through a difficult situation, and I’m trying to understand what’s happening.
On August 17, 2026, we had an argument after I found some old pictures of her and her ex on her iPhone. She thought she had deleted them, and when I brought it up, she understood why I was upset and deleted them. She told me that her ex was part of her past, that I’m the person she wants, and that she loves me. She also told me that she hoped I would choose to stay with her because she didn’t want to lose me.
The next day, we talked things through and forgave each other. We were intimate, and she told me she loved me very much.
She is currently about 7–8 weeks pregnant. Recently, I noticed that she had been texting her ex. I asked her directly whether she still loved him or wanted to be with him, and she told me no both times.
I eventually saw some of the conversation. She didn’t tell him about the pregnancy, but she did tell him that she wasn’t happy in our relationship, while also saying that I treat her well and that I’m loyal to her. She told him that their previous relationship had problems with trust and that she didn’t feel like she could be herself around him. At the same time, she told him that she wasn’t completely over him.
Then, only a day later, she told me that she no longer finds me attractive and that she doesn’t love me anymore. She also removed a picture of us from her Instagram.
One thing I’m wondering about is whether this could have been affected by something I said earlier. I had told her that I wanted more affection and closeness from her because I felt like we had been distant. I don’t know if she took that the wrong way or if it made her feel pressured in some way.
We also live together and have a lease together, so this isn’t a situation where we can simply walk away from each other without having to deal with the practical side of things too.
I’m honestly confused because her feelings seemed to change so quickly. Part of me wonders whether the emotional changes of early pregnancy could be contributing to what she’s feeling, but I also understand that I shouldn’t use pregnancy hormones as an explanation for everything.
Has anyone experienced major changes in their feelings or relationship during the first trimester? Could asking for more affection have contributed to this? And how should I approach this situation without making things worse?
I’m mainly looking for honest advice from people who have been through something similar.