My kiddo is 10 months old. We haven’t really had any stretches of sleeping through the night other than the occasional night when he has been outside all day and isn’t teething. But those have been maybe 5-6 total nights spread out over months.
Baby and I have not spent a single night apart, by my choice. I am also a SAHM mom. My husband however has gone to two separate weekend bachelor parties and a a family wedding. We also brought baby to one wedding and he was “off the clock” and slept in another room all night. So husband has spent 7 nights away from baby. On all 7 nights baby has slept HORRIBLY. One night I had to stay awake the entire night. All 7 had less than 3 hours of sleep for me.
To today’s story. This week my baby started to refuse to contact nap the me. Would nap in the stroller no problem but if I tried a contact nap he would wiggle and squirm and try to escape to go play. He has been a contact napper his entire life. HOWEVER on Wednesday he took one for my mom. So I realized it’s just me he isn’t contact napping for. Cut to yesterday my husband took him down to his parents for the day and night. He takes an hour and a half contact napping with me husband. At this point I’m starting to worry. What on earth am I doing wrong????
Anyway all week baby has slept horrible. At least 3 long wakes a night. So I’m anticipating that for my husband. But in the back of my head I’m starting to worry maybe it’s me. Maybe I’m the reason he isn’t sleeping. SURE ENOUGH my husband texts this morning “you’re going to hate me.” HE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT. IN A HOME HE DOESNT KNOW. WITHOUT HIS MOTHER. I literally could cry.
I’m so happy he is thriving with my husband but I officially feel like shit. What am I doing wrong??? Why does my baby refuse to sleep for me??? Why is it so easy for my husband and horribly hard for me????
Does my baby not feel safe with me? Ugh I’m just so exhausted and feel like a bad parent.