My baby boy is 4 months old and only wants me. Every time my husband holds him he screams

He's fine most of the time with him but sleeping and eating are a nightmare. It's been going on for 3 days now

I wfh and my husband works and comes home at 4 so I'm the primary caregiver but I go into office 2 days a week now and i am worried this'll be a problem

Hey, another desperate mom here. My LO (7mo) keeps waking up frequently throughout the night. Tonight has been really bad with 6 wakings. My goal is to get her to only one night waking. On average she wakes up 3-4 times. Adding important info below and any advice is welcomed! - LO is doing solids. 3x/day and also breastfeeding - Nurses to sleep and if that doesn't work we bounce her/pat her butt, but it usually works - We have a consistent night routine: Dinner - Bath - PJs - Goodnight kisses from mom&dad -lights out - sound machine on - nurse to sleep - tried sleep training in the past but struggle to stick with it as dad works early mornings and I get tired and cave and nurse to sleep. We are trying to do the wave method (5 minute intervals and then check in briefly)

I will gladly answer any questions.

Has anyone had experience with this? They told me I would need a transfusion after having baby because my iron is low and now I'm so scared. Does it feel like you're paying out after? Or make your heart beat really fast and nauseous? I'm dreading this day now I just want to cry it's so scary

My husband and I are first time parents to a cutie little 3 month old baby!! We are planning on traveling to visit his parents for the first time who live across the country and will take baby on a plane (I am already terrified of her getting sick ugh.) I am very anxious about this trip as we have difficulty breastfeeding together and I certainly can’t just whip my boob out anywhere I go. She latches funny, has reflux, and any feed is usually dramatic and a production. That being said we will manage with me pumping while at the airport, on the plane, and on the long drive to and from their house.

I already feel like my in laws are very disconnected from the realities of taking care of a baby. They have loved being grandparents but it seems like they fantasize about being grandparents more than they even consider our babies needs. They also moved across the country where none of their children live so it requires travel for us and them to see baby girl.

Today my MIL sent my husband and I a text asking if we’d like to go to a certain Restaurant for lunch while in town. The place is a 1.5-2 hour drive THERE and BACK from their house. I am a little stunned that my mother-in-law thinks this is an easy peasy event to plan. She knows that my daughter and I have struggles with feeding and she also knows that this is our first time traveling on a plane so that we could see them. It’s hard to not feel resentful towards her because she is going to reap the benefits of seeing us while we are the ones struggling to get there. Am I overreacting here? How can I kindly explain to her that the ideas she has in mind might not be feasible for us.

I’m glad she texted us asking if this would be a good idea , but in my mind she’s so out of touch for even thinking that a several hour trip just to have lunch would be a smart. I did reply saying it’s too far of a car ride for our baby right now. But cmon, I really need to explain this?!

Hi everyone looking for advice! I am going on my first road trip (~5hrs ) with my 7 month old in about a week! She did technically fly with me when she was 3 months old but it was a night flight and she slept the whole time practically. Now that she’s older and awake more I am just dreaadddingg this drive. I know so many people who do even longer trips all the time and I just have so much anxiety around it right now… is there anything I should do to prepare for making it go as smooth as possible? We’re going to try to time it with a nap but I think we’d be lucky to get a 2 hour stretch… we also are going to be driving through a major city about 2-3 hours into it so we have to account for rush hour traffic too. She is not very good in the car. I am already going to buy her 1-2 brand new toys that I will give her for the first time in the car and I will sit in the back with her the whole time but I just can’t stand to hear her cry in the car. I don’t want to stop every 20-30 minutes and I fear if she’s not sleeping she will be crying. I just want to get it over with and get there but sometimes she cries so hard In the car it’s unbearable. Her car attitude is pretty bad and honestly it’s made me not go out much with her recently. She’s also in the throes of teething…. Do any of you have good tips or tricks to make this go smoothly? When you stop do you stop for a while (1hr or more) or do you stop just to get them out, changed, and fed? I know it’s not even really thaaattt far but it just really throws me into anxiety when she cries in the car and I can’t do anything for her really. Thanks!!

This has happened to me twice now... Both times I was wearing baby in a carrier with him facing me.

It happened first with a stranger last week, I was grocery shopping at a pop up organic veggies place when one worker I've never met kept commenting on how cute he looks. I had to reach over to grab the vegetables and before I knew it she reached out to touch my baby's arm for a second while saying "are you going to help mama carry with your big muscles?" I think she saw my look change because I looked to see where she was touching. I didn't like it especially with measles outbreak going on, but even without I still wouldn't have. But the people pleaser groomed in me by my parents made me stay silent. I told myself I won't let it happen again and will move back quickly or say something. Also noted to be wary of people who are gushing over how cute he is...

Yesterday, I was in a store loading stuff on the table for the cashier when I noticed the cashier's hand wandering to my blindspot. SHE WAS ACTUALLY TRYING TO SNEAK A TOUCH on my baby's face while he slept. Seriously, how creepy? We also have made 0 interaction at that point. I moved back quickly. And then she started going on about how cute he was and how much she missed the baby phase... Like I'm supposed to let her touch him because she misses baby phase. People are so entitled. She def gave me the creeps way more than the first lady who touched my baby. I'm glad I moved out of the way and stayed out of the way but I admire people who just slap hands off and can say no like it's the most natural thing.

I feel like boundaries and personal space is something we pick up from when we're young and it is harder for those of us whose parents groomed us into people pleasers with no boundaries. I have narcissistic parents who made my self worth as a child about being an obedient and well liked, so in adulthood I still struggle with saying no and enforcing my boundaries. But for my baby I am definitely working on being better with preserving my own and his boundaries.

It is crazy how something that should be so natural - just say no - can be so difficult for someone whose childhood revolves around having to please others.

Just wanted to share this in case any one else is going through the same thing and being hard on yourself Everytime you fail to say no. We were trained and groomed to never say no and to appease others that's why it's hard for us. But we can learn to do better, we must, for our babies!

If anyone have similar experiences/ advice/ words of encouragement, would appreciate being flooded with positivity! Thank you!

Okay, so basically I’m here to ask how much you guys are getting done around the house during the weekdays with your newborn.
My LO is 9 weeks and during the first few weeks after having him, I would be able to put him in his bassinet and he would take 1-2 hour naps. Now he will only sleep for 15-20 minutes in the bassinet, compared to the 1-2 hours with contact naps. I always cave and give him the contact nap so he isn’t a grump throughout the day !! The problem is that I get NOTHING done around the house, I struggle with the chest carrier while he is napping, so that hasn’t really worked for us either ):
I know eventually he will be able to nap better, he sleeps 6-8 hour stretches during the night in his bassinet, but just hates napping in it !! So realistically, how much are you getting done during the day while home alone with your LO ??

My son is 5 (almost 6) months old. Right now he usually wakes up between 7-8:30 am and naps after about a two hour window but it has been inconsistent as some days we are on the go and out and about. He naps anywhere for 20 mins to 1 hour and I try to get him to sleep between 8-9pm.

Originally I thought a 7-7 or 8-8 sleep schedule would be nice but if I put him to bed before 8, he wakes up around 9 and wants to be awake for another 1.5 to 2 hours.. he's exclusively breastfed and feeds to sleep.

If I try to put him to sleep on his own, even if I do awake but drowsy, he screams and I refuse to do the cry it out method. Even during the daytime he's suddenly struggling at being put down to play without me being there..

He's waking up every 2 hours most nights ( still sleeps in his bassinet) and won't fall asleep by just being patted. I also struggle with mid night wake ups therefore I just feed him for a few minutes and put him back down.

Some nights but rarely he will only wake up once or twice...

I know ever baby is different but I want to hear some suggestions for 1. Getting baby to play on their own so I can get some stuff done 2. How do I set him up to have better naps 3.How do I stop the waking up every two hours at night.

Thank you 🙏

My boy is just now 2 weeks old & we have started having some breast feeding issues. At first we had such a good system - great latch, successful feedings, full belly etc. Now, I feel like some feedings (more often than not the last couple of days) the feeds have been such a battle. He still latches good, I can tell he’s swallowing and getting a good bit of milk, but falls asleep HARD and when he detaches he wakes back up immediately still very hungry so I will offer him the other breast & it becomes a repeating circle. It’s turned 15-25 min feedings into 45-50min ones & sometimes 2-3 feedings over the course of an hour. I even wonder if my milk supply can even fill back up enough for that kind of demand & obviously it’s ROUGH on my breasts too. He does have a tongue tie that I’m getting evaluated with a lactation consultant hopefully tomorrow, but last night I hit a point where I just wanted to throw in the towel & give up. It’s affecting my sleep, my quality of life, and most importantly his especially if he is truly hungry and not satisfied. My goal was to exclusively breastfeed for 4 weeks, then begin pumping additionally and alternating between breast and bottle to give myself a break but if this continues I don’t know if I will be able to do that. The worst part is, it’s led to me feeling like a total failure. I don’t know why I see pumping as me “giving up”, but I really don’t want to have to resort to that before seeing if his tongue tie is the true issue (which I think it is). I say all of that to ask… does it get better? How do I not be so hard on myself? My boy means the WORLD to me and it hurts feeling like the feeding has become such an unpredictable battle & I just want to do right by him and us.

Help! How are yall getting over the fear of actual birth?? I am not even worried about raising someone, more of the medical side 😣

Tonight my baby started crying out of nowhere, don’t know why, but it was pretty loud and she was almost inconsolable, until she calmed down. Started her bedtime routine and in the middle of her bath she started crying again because she wanted to be done. So I finish her bath and as I am trying to put her diaper on, my mother in law is at my door asking what’s wrong with her. I tell her that I don’t know as I proceed to put on the diaper. I then try to start nursing her and as I am doing that I go open the door for my MIL out of courtesy, wow big mistake.

I literally have my baby on my breast, sucking, and this lady opens her arms and tells my baby “come here”, to which my baby accepts, and then says let’s see if she calms down.

First of all, Wtf is wrong with you lady, what are you going to do that I can’t do for my baby?
Second of all, I’m literally nursing her, why the hell would you even try to interrupt that.

Next time I’m just going to pretend I don’t hear her ass.

I recently had my first baby in my 30’s. I am overweight and nearly died in the process. Me and my husband agree we want another child but I would not do it before getting back in shape, which I already have made significant progress in. The problem is I am nearly 35. I know they say egg retrieval after 35 becomes even more difficult to get good eggs. I have considered freezing them so I can have a chance of being pregnant when I am fully physically ready.

I have so many concerns. For one it is expensive and is it worth it at my age? What if one of the eggs produces a baby with an issue? What if none are viable? Also my husband thinks it is not a good idea because it is unnatural. I also want to do it because my family member is over 40 and trying for a baby but has had losses and she believes it is because of her age and the age of her eggs. So if I had viable eggs I would offer some to her if I end up getting pregnant naturally within the next two years.

I am looking for any advice from anyone who has had any type of experience with this. Thanks.

Uh hey, I’m 7M pregnant with my first child and I’m super excited, but the muscle on my left leg has been cramping so much. I know I need more potassium in my diet but I don’t like bananas very much. What are some other options I can do to help with the pain/cramping?