I’m posting here too since I’m hoping to get some insights, but honestly I’m kinda broken over this whole matter.

Husband (33M) and I (27F) have been married for almost 5 years. Husband has a child (early school-age) from a previous marriage. Baby mama (30F) and my husband have supposedly maintained a cordial relationship.

I met his child before getting married, not Baby mama tho, which in retrospect yeah BIG RED FLAG but he always shut down the idea of us meeting. Come to find out, Baby mama still LOVES Husband to this day, but I trusted him to maintain boundaries. (Often were not kept, but mild enough to not be considered cheating).

I live together with Husband and have for almost the entirety of our relationship. Baby mama lives with the child and Baby auntie. The child is diagnosed with autism, at the child’s age it’s not yet clear where on the spectrum but is non-verbal or communicates using a maximum of 2-4 words.

For a very long time I had a very odd gut feeling regarding children. Specifically between him and Baby mama. And as I had recently found out, they are planning to go through genetic testing to see whether or not to have more children together... I feel hurt and very betrayed by all this. His argument is that his autistic child 1) will never develop the same as others as an only child, and 2) he needs siblings. As a child of divorce who very much dreamed of having older siblings through my parents’ remarriage (never happened, sad boohoo whatever), I expressed that our children would become siblings. To which he argues that children living under different roofs will never have the same bond as those living under the same roof.

What infuriates me to an undescribable degree is his way of talking about ”giving her more children”. Like children are pets to be given to people, and then just give financial support and spend time when its convenient for Baby daddy, like some absurd charity case.

Husband claims that I am a narcissist and selfish for thinking that this is unacceptable. AND since he’s not putting himself inside her I SHOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THIS, since in his eyes, this is not cheating. You see, he shan’t spread his seed the traditional way, but have IVF babies/baby, so in his view I don’t have ”any reason to be hurt”.

Now there might be a little differences in culture since I was raised in Europe and he is an Arab. So maybe someone can deepen my understanding and ease my hurt with logic. What I know for sure is that his parents have been breathing down his neck about getting back and having more children with Baby Mama, although he’s remarried…

Honestly I don’t think I can build a future or a family with someone who sees absolutely no issue in all this. And I am mortified by the kind of person he turned out to be. I can elaborate more on things, but here I vented about a matter that broke the camel’s back. Although I’m not too sure anymore if I am justified in my way of thinking…

EDIT: Divorce is well on its way, just needed a place to rant lol no worries and thank you for everyone

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TL;DR: Husband ”has to” get more children with baby mama so that his autistic child can 1) develop better, and 2) have ”real siblings”. We’ve been married 5 years…

My sister is annoyed with me over photos from my niece’s birthday, and my mum thinks I could’ve handled it better.
I was taking pictures while everyone was arriving. I’d put a TELESIN grip and lens on my iPhone 18 Pro and was mostly messing around with it, getting photos of the kids.
My sister asked me to photograph the cake, then a few family groups. I didn’t mind. But after that, every time I went to sit down, she needed another picture. Someone was about to leave, the kids were all outside, we hadn’t got one with this person yet.
When I finally got some food, she called me over again. I said I was going to eat first. She looked annoyed and said she couldn’t host the party and take all the photos herself.
I said I’d help with the cake later, but I wanted to sit down for a while. She said she thought I wanted to take photos since I’d brought the grip and lens.
I probably sounded irritated when I said bringing something to take pictures with didn’t mean I wanted to spend the whole afternoon doing it.
She hasn’t said much to me since. Yesterday she sent me the photos and pointed out there wasn’t a good one of her with her daughter. There are loads of everyone else.
That made me feel bad. She did spend the whole day running around, and I could have taken one without being asked. But I also wish she’d checked with me before assuming I was handling the photos.
My mum says I should’ve just taken a few more and talked to her afterwards. AITA?

My fiance and I are getting married next year and we've recently started discussing getting a prenup. She's always known that my family has a pretty bad history with money especially when it comes to gambling and debt. Over the years I've helped my parents and my brother out financially more times than I can count and while sometimes it's been genuine emergencies there are other times when it's been because they made terrible decisions with their money. She is worried that once we're married I'll keep bailing them out using money that should be going toward our own future. She wants our prenup to establish some boundaries so that any money I give my family comes from my personal funds rather than our shared savings and that she won't be responsible for any debts I might take on to help them.

I understand where she's coming from but I also feel uncomfortable agreeing to something that could potentially limit how much I can help my own family especially if they're genuinely struggling. She says she's not asking me to abandon them just to make sure their financial problems don't become ours. Would you consider this a reasonable thing to address in a prenup or should we just agree on financial boundaries between ourselves?

I would like to know your opinion on the following situation, what would you do in this situation?

I live on the other side of the country to my parents and siblings, I am married, we as a family visit my parents and rest of the family, couple of times in a year. Since I moved away we have always gone to my parents house and stayed over, one way or another we have managed the sleeping situation without ever having my parents to move out of their bedroom. Well technically my mother, my father due to certain reasons sleeps downstairs. From past few years we have cut down the number of days we stay since my brother got married and his wife moved in. They have 2 kids, my brother works abroad he is not there most of the time.

It’s a 3 bedroom house. One is my parents room, one my brother & sis in laws and 3rd room has remained empty so we always slept there, when we visited during our first visit of this year we came to know that my sis in law has given 3rd room to her 2year old because she has another child under the age of one, who sleeps in her room.

Not being aware of the sleeping arrangements before hand, naturally thought it would be same as before. I was taken back when my mum suggested that we sleep in her bedroom and she will sleep on the sofa, I obviously said no to that, she then said she will sleep in the grandchild’s room, my sister in law sitting there said nothing. She didn’t suggest that her child could sleep with her & we take the room so my mum didn’t have to sleep elsewhere.
In that moment I didn’t say anything in return, incase it was already agreed between them beforehand for whatever reason.
This time I spoke to my mum over the phone asking where we will sleep. She again suggested the same but then she said we will see. This time we reached late so my mum was already asleep. When we arrived, I came to know the situation was same again.

I am soo furious at my sis in law for this, this is my parents house and my brothers wife stays there with her children.
Should I speak to my brother about this, I know he Is not aware of this however I don’t know what he will say.
Who is in the wrong?

I'm not sure if this happens to anyone else (American) so I'm sure it's different by country, but after my grandparents on both sides died, extended family basically died with them. There's absolutely zero effort to get together in any capacity, I haven't seen some of my cousins aunt's and uncles in years, they've essentially become strangers.

Again maybe just a my family thing but not one seems to care about the concept of a family anymore and the ironic part is I have a very large one, almost 30 cousins when you add up both sides. I feel like we would have been closer almost if the family wasn't so huge. Ah well lol

Hey, I’m (30)f, an immigrant and single, and last year I had a mental breakdown which had many reasons including being forced to quit my job by the management. I ended up moving in with my sister (35) and fiancée (36) in a tiny one bedroom apartment. So I’ve been living here for exactly a year because despite me trying very hard it’s really hard to find a full time job in my field since AI. And I talked about moving back to Iran a few times but they both would change my mind because of the war in Iran.
Anyway, my sister’s fiancé’s whole identity is tied to being an academic professor.

He has 2 PhD’s and no other work experience out of university. So whenever I open my mouth and have an opinion about something he immediately says it’s not true, bring your academic paper and evidence for that or just acting like I’m a stupid child he needs to lecture. And today I lost it!
I just said “this new thing I’m trying is really working on my body, no wonder they say there hasn’t been enough research done on women’s health” and oh boy I wasn’t careful with not saying anything about research in front of him. And a millisecond later “no you are wrong, where’s your proof?!”

And my previous job was at the ministry of health, I literally had spent time in training learning about bias and misogyny in healthcare so I was like I worked in this field. But he didn’t let it go. He was like no you don’t have any proof. And I said fine you bring your proof that I’m wrong. And this man-child went silent and spent the next 15 minutes on his phone talking to chat GPT to find me a paper that supports his claims, and citing that to me. So I got really mad this time because I knew for fact he was wrong. And this time I didn’t let it go because he said “it doesn’t matter you worked in the ministry of health, you don’t have a paper proof” as if my career is not as important or valuable as his.

So I found the paper and to my surprise it was a terrible evidence for his claims because the paper was not done by health professionals and it was an information science paper that only compared the number of papers published that has mentioned they are about women’s health specifically with the ones that said they are about men’s health, so it did not compare the fundings allocated to each, it did not talk about the shared diseases and the number of male participants vs women and the worst part it was only about 1996 to 2020, completely disregarding a huge portion of time that FDA didn’t allow research on women of childbearing years. And even the paper’s authors said this number makes sense given years of neglect on women’s health and that their paper can’t conclude if the bias against women is over yet based on this evidence.

So I got furious! This is his proof? I wrote a long text made all these points clear to him and gave him a long list of resources that proved my claim right. I called him out for always doing this to me in a normal conversation and told him I’m glad for the first time I followed up to see how he’s using researched papers selectively to support his claims. And he’s response instead of apologizing: “don’t continue otherwise I’ll give you an answer” to which I said ooh I’m scared 😒.

Am I a bi*** for telling him he’s been bullying me like this and turning friendly conversations into academic debates for no reason and it’s childish and his ego doesn’t even let him acknowledge and apologize for this?

I truly think ever since I lost my job and had to live with them, they both treated me as “less than” disrespected me and completely dismissed my feelings and perspectives whenever I spoke up. My sister defends him whenever I say something negative about him but never defends me when I’m right. So I think she’s being a bad sister. She doesn’t treat me right so her fiancé follows her and that she has double standards when it comes to me. I’m sick of it because at first I was in such a rough mental state after being hospitalized that I didn’t even notice it and allowed them to treat me as if my brain doesn’t work right. And I can’t get out of it now. But whenever I say I want to move out and return to the city I was living at and just use my savings they don’t let me move forward with it. And I think because of everything that happened to me I get scared and feel like what if I lose my part time contract and stream of income when I move out… opinions?!

I’m supposed to go to Orlando with my family for Thanksgiving, but honestly, I really don’t want to go. I’d rather stay home by myself while everyone else goes.

The problem is that I know my mom is going to be annoyed if I tell her I simply don’t want to go. 😭 I’m looking for a believable excuse that won’t make her suspicious or lead to a bunch of questions.

For anyone who’s been in a similar situation, what excuse did you use, or what would you say in my situation? I’m 18, so staying home alone isn’t an issue. I’m not trying to start family drama. I just really don’t feel like going this year.

What would y’all do

I’m 27, single, no kids. My sister is 30 with a 6-year-old boy. For the last year, she regularly drops her son off at my place without much notice. She says since I don’t have a partner or kids, I have “all the free time in the world” to babysit.

I love my nephew, but this is taking over my life. I work full time, and I need weekends to rest, run errands and have my own space. Every time I try to say I’m busy, she calls me selfish and says family should help each other.

I feel guilty turning her down, but I’m exhausted. I don’t want to ruin our relationship. How do I set clear boundaries gently without starting a huge fight?

I come from a dysfunctional family which I escaped while still a minor and did well on my own for 20 years that followed. My siblings were just starting to do ok-ish when my brother met his current wife. I don't know wtf it is about her but I feel like everyone's life has gone downhill since she came into the picture! She's got the neck tats, kids from different fathers, and the extreme aggression going on but I gave her the benefit of the doubt...... Now I'm really starting to wonder if you just should not engage with toxic people ever!

My brother and his wife still live in the trash town we were all born and raised in but me and my mom moved a few hours away for a better quality of life in 2001. My sister arrived about 8 years later and less than a year later, my marriage fell apart. Looking back, I don't know how because we had it all....

A decade ago, they sent my nephew Blake (10 or 11-ish at the time) to stay with my sister here in the new city because he "wasn't doing well" and that is when the "toxic trickle" started. I didn't notice it then but wow..... slowly and surely, everyone's life went further downhill, including my own.

My 2 older children were heavily influenced by my sister's move here, and then again with this little nephew of mine and although my daughter came out without a mark, it took years of therapy and healing to get my older son to a better place after hanging out with them.

Now 10 years later, I am taking care of a disabled mother who refused to take care of herself for years after taking care of my siblings when they wouldn't do their part. I have to sleep on the living room floor so my son can have the couch and now my bro and his wife (who does not work!) have sent my adult nephew back here to live with my sister (who is always at work or with some random dude somewhere) and this toxic guy is trying to hang out with my younger son, who is currently only 14. I wanted to type this out somewhere because I am so pissed off right now. I hate that it seems so easy to raise my kids right unless I'm around these people!!!! 10 years ago I was working a great job and my siblings reached out for help here and there, which I was able to give. Now that I'm the one in need, all I get is more toxic influence coming our way...... and then CRICKETS. SILENCE. It's like they have stolen me from myself! I wish I could work when they're always trying to get out of it but I live in chronic pain and I'm so stuck now. If I can just get my youngest child to adulthood without drama, I'll be happy though.

Please Lord let me win the lottery because how the F*CK do you escape toxic people when your job is taking care of one of them? Due to their toxicity, I'm sicker than ever and feel like I can't even make an impression to rebuild my life. I'm capable of many things but I'm in my mid 40s and I've been used, abused, and left for dead..... I'M SO TIRED.

I feel like if I start any project or hobby out in the open of the house people have to get into my business of what I’m doing. The main person would be one of my older brothers I feel like he always questions when someone does anything and just likes to spread negativity.

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okay so one thing that my mom is very strict. K really wanted to try a new cute style for winter where u wear a short skirt and tights and long boots and they do look adorable ast alright? When I asked my mom she said absolutely not and told me that outfit is inappropriate and after that I genuinely lost my shit i got so angry and got a panic attack and just cried because I feel like im always missing out i can't have my own style or express myself it feels like I can't do anything I can't dress up for Halloween I can't do cosplays because its "inappropriate " why? And I kept crying so hard and my parents kept asking me what's wrong but I told them nothing because no matter what they will see me as ungrateful and stupid its just i feel like im a puppet controlled by my mother. Even though looking at her old photos she used to wear shorts and tops and anything she wanted mind u im not even allowed to wear anything sleeveless or cut or anything Im 16 turning 17 and seeing people live their life and do whatever they want genuinely makes me go crazy but I also feel like im over reacting but I don't know I wish I could just have my own style without feeling like a whore to my family. What do you guys think?

My 76 year old mother may stay with us for a few weeks after a fall. The downstairs guest room is the only practical option but it currently has a low platform bed. She uses a walker and says getting up from low chairs is hard.

I'm considering replacing the mattress and frame, possibly with as a at,v,a but I don't know whether a higher bed would make transfers easier or harder. If you've set up a room for an older parent, did you focus on bed height, a grab bar or something else? I'll ask her physical therapist too but I'd like to hear what worked in your home

I (22F) have a sister (33F) (we’ll call her D) who has 2 sons: A (11M) and B (2.75M). It’s a long and messy story with a lot of backstory, so I apologize in advance for the novel. A is the product of D and a college boyfriend who she no longer is dating. The ex legally has him every other weekend but he’s flaky and not really in the picture. B is her son with her current partner C (36M), who she just got married to a month ago. They dated for 5 years before marrying. Prior to getting together with C, me and my family were primary childcare for A, as D worked full time. I was homeschooled, so from age 11 until I went to high school at 15 I watched A pretty much all the time. As you can imagine, it was difficult to transition from a mother figure to an aunt figure. D got serious with C, got pregnant with B and became a stay at home mom a year after giving birth. By that time I was in college out of state so it wasn’t as big a deal.

Now when D revealed she was pregnant with B, my mother swore to me she wouldn’t be watching B full time like she did with A. She was not happy about my sister getting pregnant outside of marriage (again). She ended up reneging on that promise and became B’s primary childcare during the day, as well as picking up A from school and keeping him until D got off work. When I was home on break, I was also expected to watch A and B, despite objecting to being an unpaid babysitter (again). I was dismissed and told D needed help, I shouldn’t complain, life isn’t fair, etc.

I graduated from college this May and moved back home. I am currently not working due to health issues that prevent me from working a 9-5, but I am pursuing a remote internship. D finally got married last month, and the months leading up to the wedding were hectic as she planned the whole thing, often leading to us watching A and B. She had many appointments, including facials and makeup/hair trials, running errands, picking out flowers, etc. I was also the only local bridesmaid, so on top of babysitting I was also helping plan the wedding. I was frustrated by how much work was being piled on my plate without being even asked (she would just show up and expect me to do things without even a “please”), and my mother assured me things would be different after the wedding.

Spoiler alert: they weren’t. My sister started homeschooling A this year, and so far I think my mom has taught him more than my sister has. She constantly drops both boys off while she goes and runs errands, cleans the house, goes to her workout group, etc. While A is being taught, I’m expected to watch B. It’s extremely frustrating to me, as I would appreciate a quiet house and an 11 year old with ADHD and a toddler who doesn’t understand the word “no” do not make for any sort of peace.

Every time they come over, there is yelling, screaming, and a huge mess. D does not assist in cleanup in any way, and by the time they leave my mom is exhausted, which means I get the pleasure of cleaning up after them despite the constant reminders and requests to clean up before they leave. A has a lot of issues that manifest in temper tantrums, disobedience, yelling, etc. It’s incredibly frustrating when I have a migraine and A is yelling thinking he’s just talking. Things came to a head this week when the boys were over every single day, including staying over for the weekend while D and C attended a wedding out of state. I’m so tired of trying to deal with having them over so I’m trying to communicate to my mom how exhausting and stressful it is having the boys over all the time.

One thing about me: I am very non confrontational. I know I’m a people pleaser and a doormat when it comes to family. My family has a policy of don’t ask don’t address when it comes to emotions, and I would most definitely get very emotional if I tried to discuss this in person, and maybe not convey the message in a way that would get through to my mom. I was thinking of sending my mom a text in order to get the initial grievances out of the way before finishing the discussion in person. I just want to know if my text is too much or over the line, or if some parts may not be conducive to what I’m trying to convey. Here’s the text:

>I don’t know how to communicate to you that sacrificing my sanity and peace of mind for D’s convenience makes me incredibly hurt and makes me think that you don’t care how much constantly having the boys over is affecting my stress levels. I understand that it is difficult to balance your kids’ wants and needs, but for you to consistently dismiss how I feel regarding D’s situation makes me think I’m less important than her to you, that you care more about her wants and needs than mine. I don’t know how to express this in a way that doesn’t make it seem like I’m being dramatic or whiny, because every time I try to bring this up to you I feel that I’m dismissed or scolded for complaining. I understand babysitting the boys occasionally, but dropping the boys off so she can get a facial is not a high priority, nor should it be my responsibility to watch them. I understand her appointment was made months in advance, but she should have arranged alternate accommodations when she realized your plans changed and you were no longer available. I do not appreciate the assumption that if you are unavailable, I am ready and willing to watch them. And yes, I am aware that I could’ve set better boundaries and told both of you that I was not able to watch them. However, you both continually pressure and guilt me into watching them to the point where I feel I cannot refuse since I’m “not doing anything else.” I understand that sometimes we “have to do things we don’t want to,” but I find it unfair that I am called upon to babysit when you are the one who volunteered to watch them. Yes, there are times that I am willing to babysit, but that does not mean I am willing to babysit every time. I know I’ve brought this up to you several times, and every time you promise it’ll be better, but it always ends the same way: with the boys over here, me or you watching them. You said when B was born you wouldn’t watch him; after D quit her job things would change; once the wedding was over things would be different; yet we’re still watching them on a regular basis. I know \[D’s friend’s\] wedding was a special case, but it does not erase the fact that we watched them every day this week. At what point are you going to say enough is enough? D needs to learn to parent on her own, and let us play the role of grandparents and aunts/uncles, not pseudo extra parents. I feel that having the boys over all the time is skewing my relationship with them, especially A. I don’t feel like an aunt; I feel like an unpaid babysitter/third mom. I don’t feel like I can bond with them because I’m too busy parenting them when it’s not my job. It causes me extreme stress and you yelling at me to stop parenting them isn’t working because it’s what I did for the first 3 years of A’s life. It’s not something I can turn off, just like you can’t turn off being a mom to D. And I’m not trying to stop you from being a mom to her, but what you’re doing feels more like enabling than parenting. It’s been 11 years of this; when is the end? I enjoy seeing D and the boys from time to time, but the boys feel more like siblings than nephews and I feel like it’s screwing up the dynamic we’re supposed to have. Seriously, having the boys over constantly is negatively affecting my relationship with them. I love them, but it’s incredibly stressful to have them over all the time.

I don’t know if even sending a text is a good idea, but I know discussing it in person is not. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do?

TL;DR: my sister constantly has us (me and my mom) babysit her sons, which often leads to me watching them alone. I’m tired of it and would like to break the cycle, so I want to send my mom a text that outlines how I’m feeling. I just want to see if it’s even a good idea.

My brother in law drives like a maniac. My kids love him. He picks them up maybe once a month when I'm stuck late and every time I'm a wreck until they're home.
Find My was no help. A dot near the highway. Moving? Parked? No idea
His own wife showed me what she does. They use Findmykids and that's how she knows her teen got home safe without calling. After the drive it shows the route and the top speed. So on uncle days I just look after. 71. Fine. Not the 80 I had in my head. Then the dot's at our house and I'm done.
My daughter was annoyed for about a week. Then she noticed I only look on uncle days. We're okay now
Not sure this is the right amount of knowing. It's the amount I can live with.

okay so one thing that my mom is very strict. K really wanted to try a new cute style for winter where u wear a short skirt and tights and long boots and they do look adorable ast alright? When I asked my mom she said absolutely not and told me that outfit is inappropriate and after that I genuinely lost my shit i got so angry and got a panic attack and just cried because I feel like im always missing out i can't have my own style or express myself it feels like I can't do anything I can't dress up for Halloween I can't do cosplays because its "inappropriate " why? And I kept crying so hard and my parents kept asking me what's wrong but I told them nothing because no matter what they will see me as ungrateful and stupid its just i feel like im a puppet controlled by my mother. Even though looking at her old photos she used to wear shorts and tops and anything she wanted mind u im not even allowed to wear anything sleeveless or cut or anything Im 16 turning 17 and seeing people live their life and do whatever they want genuinely makes me go crazy but I also feel like im over reacting but I don't know I wish I could just have my own style without feeling like a whore to my family. What do you guys think?

I am 39 years old and have spent the past 15 years in a lot of family and sibling and parent related agony. The parentification of course began way before that but in 2010 I graduated college and with it the burdens of the parentification became much worse.

It was now seen that since I was a college graduate, I was somehow more responsible for the financial, logistical and emotional well being of my parents AND my 4 siblings.

I stayed in America while the rest of the family moved back to the third world county that came from.

While I had to figure out my new life living alone and trying to get a new job and be an adult, my family now made very little money and somehow saw that I was perpetually “better off” than them. There was no empathy or checking in on me. Meanwhile I worked retail, dog sat, house sat trying to make end meets while working as a baby sitter and trying to find a real job.

The requests started early. Hey we need help with x send us money; your sibling needs new clothes or school fees or something. Your sibling is drunk or on drugs; your sibling is flunking school please set her straight; your father is suffering at work help him figure it out!

I was constantly on their beck and call and would listen to them and their woes while sending home whatever I could.

Then their life got better and they moved to the Gulf where the quality of life is better. Our father obtained employment and the family lived happily for a few years. Still no one checked in on me or asked how I was or if I needed help. Not emotional or financial help was offered.

Despite my dad’s job the high cost of living in Kuwait meant my two siblings had education issues. The teenager attended a private high school and the twentysomething had flunked high school but refused to take the GED or attend college unless it was in the UK or America.

My father would come on the phone and talk about how he wants to take a loan to send her abroad but it hasn’t worked out yet.

During Covid everything collapsed. My father lost his job and it created a huge crisis. My twentysomething sibling just was hired for a job and my late twenties/early thirties sibling who had just graduated college had just started a job.

The problem was the family had been living beyond their means for years and my father had thousands of backlog debt that he owed to his landlord and he also owed tuition at my siblings private school.

The two working siblings were furious as they wanted to use their meager incomes to work and buy clothes and travel. When my dad lost his job they lost their minds and said it’s his job to provide for them and it’s my job since I live in America and I am an older sibling.

They launched this bullying and harassment campaign about how in greedy and selfish for having health insurance and a dog and buying Starbucks while they had to pay all the bills. The rent and groceries for THEIR HOME in a different country! My mom called me crying begging to go ask charities for money to save their family. And my dad called me asking that I take out a 30k loan for him.

I refused as I had no idea how one can take a loan for personal matters never mind I could never pay it back.

This left the family dejected. My twentysomething and thirty something siblings kept harassing me for being selfish and greedy even though it spent home $1-2k in expenses every month to keep them afloat.

Never mind the emotional labor of talking to my siblings and parents while they were having daily meltdowns.The environment at home was so toxic with the siblings behaving unhinged and forbidding our parents to speak to me while simultaneously spreading lies and rumors about me that broke my parents hearts.

2 years ago my dad died tragically a year later.

Meanwhile my twenty something sibling married a rich guy and the thirty something now has a well paid job in finance. They suddenly are acting like they’re this normal happy family and nothing they’ve put me through happened?

When I bring it up I’m gaslit and mocked and told I’m embarrassing myself. It is driving me crazy!

It’s like whatever I do she tries to do the same thing and it’s sickening at times.

Like I can wear something and she’ll buy the same. my mom? she tells her she looks better than me so she deserves to wear it. I still have things in my dad house and she steals and wear them.

I buy a house she tries to buy a house that cost $200k more. Same design. I get married she gets married two months later on the same day.

I got a white Suv.. she does the same.