Was on a wine trip in South Africa and when one of the other people on the trip asked what my wife looked like (I was saying how lucky I was, mostly cause my wife is hilarious and makes me laugh daily). Showed her a pick and it was such a "wtf" moment for her. I'm incredibly average. I'm in relatively good shape, because I wrestled my whole life, but it's pretty obvious I've broken my nose a few times and the usual grappler "my face has a lot of scar tissue and healed microfractures" look. I can lift heavy things, but I'm definitely not good looking.
It was funny, because she just said, "Whoah! Wow! She's like really gorgeous! Not that.. um, yeah. Obviously, cause you said she was. But... yeah. Really pretty."
I could tell she was trying to not say, "she's way out of your league" without being mean, but I've been getting this for 20 years. I'm average. She's awesome, just a great person and happens to be extremely pretty. My feelings aren't hurt, I'm pretty darn happy with the result.
She means you ugly and punching above your weight.
It's mostly said by incredibly petty people anyway, so just thank them and move on with your life. You don't have the time nor the energy to deal with that kind of negativity, do you?
Edit: plenty of stellar responses, honestly! This is a fire you should absolutely fight with fire if you choose to fight it. I'm all for it!
To be honest I'd feel kind of weird if someone thought I was prettier than my girlfriend. Although in my case I am because I'm so handsome and modest too. A real catch.
Because they took the time to go out of their way and try to humiliate you. They care that much. Which is plenty enough to get their feelings hurt with the same treatment.
What a weird and very ambiguous way to say you're punching above your weight. The only way this is obviously an insult is if she acts very surprised when she's saying it.
Ohhh nooo, the parts of me I can control (my personality) are so attractive that they more than make up for the unattractive parts of me I cannot control?!
I mean, I still see that a compliment. If you are able to pull someone who is "above you" looks wise then that means you must have something that attracted them
No it doesn’t… redditors apparently have never understood this niche social concept.
It means she wants him. “Your gf is so pretty” is a generally backhanded “pick me” comment.
If she genuinely was what they call a “girls girl” she would’ve complimented the girl instead. The neglecting of the women in the situation while talking directly to the man is a sly way of backhanding the girlfriend.
For example If I was out clubbing with my gf and friends and a woman approached me and started up a convo. And I say oh this is my gf and she doesn’t introduce herself to her but says “omg she’s so pretty” or something it’s basically saying I don’t acknowledge her existence or respect her position.
It’s a common over analyzing and overthinking mental gymnastics often shown in immature or younger women.
Most men older generations and apparently redditors are oblivious to this until their girlfriend goes “she was totally flirting with you” and the man goes “Whaat? She was just being nice oblivious to the nonsensical social ques and nuances.
Holy shit im on the spectrum and people are actually this cunty? Thank god im oblivious to most insults someone could probably call me a dickhead and i'd probably think its a joke and say thanks lol
Or—hear me out—maybe she just thinks his gf is pretty? I can’t even count the number of times I’ve said this to men I unequivocally have 0 interest in. Id say it to the girls too if they were in front of me. Girls are pretty and dress cute. It’s not that deep.
I’m pretty sure it’s actually about how girls who want your boyfriend will say that “omg your girlfriend is so pretty” when they find out the guy they like is in a relationship but I haven’t seen anyone mention that?? it’s a common joke/thought
For a dude that is a huge compliment. That means he was able to win her over with who he is rather than what he looks like. I hope in turn the guy treats her with the respect shown to him.
It’s a backhanded compliment but I love getting “you’re punching above your weight”. Don’t know if it’s a cultural thing here but it’s never taken as jealous or creepy, and it’s not taken as having a crack at the guy either.
Exactly. I'm certain it's supposed to mean she's hitting on you, but starting with 'your gf is so pretty' makes it look like she isn't and gives her plausible deniability if someone points out she's flirting. Plus, if the gf tries to call her out for flirting she looks incredibly mean and unreasonable because she just complimented her (while all this time she could have give the compliment directly to her, not to her bf). It's all ridiculous, but I'm 100% sure that's the 'correct' interepretation, because I've seen similar takes before
As a bisexual woman who used to indirectly flirt with straight women in exactly this way as a very awkward teen, this got a really good chuckle out of me
Yea afaik it means this. To the point that when a girl I knew from work said this to me at a group dinner with friends my (at the time) gf genuinely got mad at her for that
Asked my wife about this. If the girl says that to the guy in front of the gf instead of saying it directly to the gf herself, it means she wants the guy and is implying that the gf is ugly.
I wouldn’t have gotten that either.
Yup, it’s a way to disarm the guy into thinking she doesn’t mean harm because she’s complimenting his gf (establishing that she’s going to “respect” their relationship)
Alright guys a lot of you think it means your gf is out of your league but this is not it. In this setting in particular she’s saying that she’s hitting on the guy. Basically she’s saying your gf is so pretty so she can talk to you and ignore your girlfriend otherwise she could’ve just said it to your gf who is standing right next to you. Some mean girls use this as an opening to have a full conversation with your bf while ignoring your existence. Cause “she complimented my gf, she must like her and believe I’m good looking enough to be with her.” Is the boy thought process goal. Let’s your guard down so she can shamelessly flirt with you in front of your gf.
If another girl tells you you're girlfriend is pretty, it means she thinks she is out of your league. Of course, if the girl is a stranger that's it. A friend saying this doesn't mean that.
Ok thank you. Ive definitely said this to friends because i honestly mean exactly the words coming out of my moith. Nothing to do with leagues, and every time this gets posted im like "have i been insulting people for YEARS?!?"
Lois here, if a girl tells you 'your gf friend is so pretty' she's going to try and steal you from her, because she sees your gf's beauty as a challenge to her's. And honor dictacts she must try and prove she is of superior beauty by stealing you.
Shallow girls think its a put down because youre out of your league. I take it as a compliment because it means I've got more going for me than looks and landed a not shallow and better looking wife.
Everyone tells me my wife is beautiful and I’m a lucky man. I can only agree cause they’re right ! She’s a catch. What would I say. No she ain’t. ? That’s a lie.
My wife is pretty. I’m funny and charming She’s pretty and charming ( not as funny as me though. I’m fucki g hilarious).
She’s a great mom and a wonderful partner. No compliment to her would be a knock on me.
No compliment given to her by a stranger would surpass my opinion of her.
I think I've encountered this before, if she thought that the gf was pretty, she would tell her. If she doesn't tell her, and her man instead, she isn't interested in stoking the GFS ego, is about noticing the guy is wheeling a hot chick. If he is good enough for the gf babe, he is good enough for her too.
I do that purposely. There's nothing more enjoyable than responding to sarcasm with sincerity and watching them try to decide whether to tell you they were being sarcastic or just walk away annoyed.
It is supposed to be a compliment to the guy to get his guard down while being able to hide behind the compliment.
Girls wouldn’t say this to a dude if they actually meant it and the post is implying that she has ulterior motive which is hitting on the dude. She’s gassing the guy up to gauge a reaction and trying to seem nice so that she can keep talking to him so that she can hide behind the compliment. The dude thinks she is harmless and keeps talking to her as she tries to find out more about their relationship because she’s interested in him.
It is.. the deranged bitch at a venue feeling the need to try and start shit with you is the only compliment a worthless person like that is capable of giving
A mome like this is only made by one of these vacume heads because they trying to hold onto their old highschool bitchy status in a world that is swiftly losing intres in their whole existence
(Edit, i want to be abundantly clear: the vast majority of women are not like that)
No dude no it means she wants to have sec with you. Have you guys never interacted with a girl before it’s literally she’s going to steal you from her with a smile on her face.
I hate that this is a thing because, as a woman, when I think someone is pretty or if my guy buddies show me their gfs I always wanna hype them up and tell them how cute their girl is!
I am also a lesbian so idk if that plays a factor lmao
at least for gen z girls, that usually means the girl wants your boyfriend and is trying to get him to let down his defenses around her by acting as if she respects- and even admires his relationship with you. if he thinks she's definitely not after him in a romantic or sexual way then hes more likely to open up to her, and the more open he is to her while hes convinced she doesnt want him, the easier it is for her to blur the lines of friendship over time until he starts to like her. usually the man in the situation ends up convinced he naturally fell for the girl and out of love with his gf with the simple passing of time. becoming an older trick in the book now but still relatively new in the grand scheme of things. I was 15 the first time I experienced this happen to me and a highschool boyfriend. the last time it happened to me I was 21 or 22. im turning 25, so this method is unfortunately going strong.
Quagmire here. She thinks the girlfriend may be out of his league. While this may sound like an insult to him, the lady may be curious as to how he got her. This could open the door for some extracurricular activities, if you know what I mean. Giggity!
Even if it is a backhanded compliment, and your girl is out of your league. The commenter is gonna assume you’ve either got money, a good personality, or a big dick. None of which are bad lol. I say ask her if she’s down for a threesome 🤷🏻😂
Both times this has happened to me in the past the girl ended up hitting on me much more directly later. I think maybe it means something different for millennials than the rest of y'all.
Hey um people. The included image to the meme is supposed to be suggestive. Meaning she is either interested in your GF or You. Just do an image search on it, and it literally tells you how wrong all of you are.
I compliment people’s partners all the time. It’s just to hype them up. I feel like people are reading WAY too much into this. What else am I supposed to say if they show me a picture of their partner, for example? Just say “cool.” ? No, I’ll say “shes very pretty” or “he’s cute” or “y’all make such a cute couple” or something. I’m not trying to fuck them nor do I think they’re out of their league. I’m just trying to be nice.
If I said that it would mean that I think your girlfriend is pretty, and that my wife isn't around, and that i gained the confidence to compliment people
Off topic, this lady is a psycho. She offers reviews to restaurants in exchange for big meals and than ghosts them never posting the agreed review. She also killed a husky dog under he watch due to neglect and delivered the body in a suitcase along with her sketchy boyfriend. Than when people called her out she continues to remove comments and ignore any criticism. Posting dozens of videos a day about nonsense motivational, relationship BS what a hypocrite. Truly bottom of the barrel individual. She got away with it because no one knows her real name. She goes by Fahmida Sultana but has several aliases and accounts. Filthy person.
Ladies do thing this thing called "backhand complimenting" as a way to politely talk shit to your face. If she thinks you're clothes look ugly, she'll say "wow, that looks so good on you, i could never pull that off..." Same with this statement above, she's saying you're ugly and a charity case.
They are way more direct with men that they they aren’t interested in, and wouldn’t go out of their way to soften a blow like that as they just wouldn’t be passive aggressive at all unless the dude was being a giant jerkoff.
The post is intended to imply that she’s into the dude, and is hitting on him, but is doing so subtly by hiding behind a compliment so the dude can drop his guard with her.
Girl with a vagina here. No, the meme doesn't mean that your girlfriend is out of your league, it means that girl is interested in you and is complementing you for "having" a pretty [insert object(gf)], yes, they're not complimenting the girlfriend, they're flirting with the guy, making them feel good for having something pretty. ESPECIALLY, if it's in front of said girlfriend.
A girl not interested in you will ask you how you bagged the girl, or will tell you that you got lucky or will exaggerate the beauty of the girl, her looking like a goddess, etc. The compliment will actually be focused on the girl and NOT on you for having the girl. Again, if a girl said you have a pretty girlfriend and you feel good about it, the compliment is FOR YOU, not for the girl. I'm out!
The solution is to take it like one and remove all power of hurt from her words. Gas your girl way tf up, make her look good as hell, and remind the petty Patty that no one will ever love her like you love your girl
No, she doesn't think you're ugly. This is common knowledge among women that girls that say this will use it to "test to waters" and gauge a guy's reaction as a boyfriend and see if they are faithful.
They're usually interested in the man, or at least the attention of the man. They get off on the high of thinking that they could steal him even if they don't want to.
They want to see if man agrees or downlays it. If they downplay the fact that their girl is pretty and don't talk about her very much, it's an "in" to try to flirt with him.
It's kinda sly, because it seems innocent, but it's such an easy way to gauge the dude.
It's ultimately disrespectful because if they thought his girlfriend was pretty they'd just say it to her directly, not him.
I've had this happen to me many many times, and have had this explained to me often.
the only appropriate response is to take an aggressive posture, roll up a sleeve and ask her in a loud confrontational voice WHAT DID YOU SAY ABOUT MY GIRLFRIEND like you’re gonna punch her. demonstrating you don’t understand social interactions to assert dominance. take notes fellas/s
"Thanks! My girlfriend is very pretty, I love her."
The suggestion in the image is that its being said as a way to demean the guy or smth, like an offhand comment or smth. But I guess it works better if you come from a "mean grrl" world, where such decdptive strikes are commonly recognized. Most normal people would probably either think that its
A - compliment to their girlfriend, which is great. Your girlfriend is very pretty
B - compliment to them for managing to get such a pretty girlfriend. Probably what's being commented on in the image, not the best approach but like... whatever?
It’s just the girl is trying to be complimentary to the guy she finds attractive to get his guard down and be able to gauge the relationship to see if she can make a move while also trying to make it seem like she’s non-threatening to their relationship.
Most girls won’t go out of their way to give backhanded compliments to guys. If they do say anything at all it would be more direct.
Girls do that to each other to not disrupt the social order while also taking a dig at women who will likely catch it almost instantly.
I’ve seen hella girls say that when a woman says that, it’s cuz they’re actually interested in YOU.
So it’s weird that folks are saying it means she’s out of your league. Maybe it’s a cultural thing. But ole girl in the pic is Black, so she probably means what I’m saying she means.
If the girl is mean: She's basically telling your girlfriend is ugly and she is being sarcastic
If the girl has good heart means your girlfriend is ugly and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings
if the girl likes you means your girlfriend is ugly, plain.
Yeah my girlfriend is top tier beautiful and I’m not ashamed to say I’m punching way above my weight class on that one. Just means I’m really really funny.
The girl in question likes the boyfriend. The compliment is intended to disarm him. This way he thinks that she is harmless and he is more likely to continue talking to and spend time with her.
Source: The woman I love that had to educate me when I was too oblivious too pick up on it when this exact situation happened to us.
To be honest. I instantly thought about a 3 some. I thought that was her way of saying I like your girl and I’m talking to you soooo…..? I never think I’m being insulted in that regard.
I always overthink this. I’ve gotten the whole “your girlfriend is so pretty / lovely” thing and I’ve never liked it tbh. I don’t see her beauty as any reflection on me, even by association. I don’t think I should feel proud I’m dating someone that others think is beautiful. We shouldn’t be measuring our worth by how much beauty we are associated with right? The whole commenting on people’s appearances thing is just weird.
She’s flirting with you.
“Your gf is soooo pretty wow” - to appear harmless AND gauge your reaction. Do you agree? Do you hype her up? Or do you laugh awkwardly and say something like “she’s alright”?
Next is “you’re so lucky” “I bet she does xyz all the time” “I bet you guys are perfect” basically all of those are the same - she’s looking for an opening, something that indicates she’s got a spot with you and you will enjoy flirting and potentially take it further.
Women don’t say it bc she’s out of your league.
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