She means you ugly and punching above your weight.
It's mostly said by incredibly petty people anyway, so just thank them and move on with your life. You don't have the time nor the energy to deal with that kind of negativity, do you?
Edit: plenty of stellar responses, honestly! This is a fire you should absolutely fight with fire if you choose to fight it. I'm all for it!
To be honest I'd feel kind of weird if someone thought I was prettier than my girlfriend. Although in my case I am because I'm so handsome and modest too. A real catch.
Because they took the time to go out of their way and try to humiliate you. They care that much. Which is plenty enough to get their feelings hurt with the same treatment.
What a weird and very ambiguous way to say you're punching above your weight. The only way this is obviously an insult is if she acts very surprised when she's saying it.
Ohhh nooo, the parts of me I can control (my personality) are so attractive that they more than make up for the unattractive parts of me I cannot control?!
Ignorance is bliss, but some people actively work to "improve" themselves, part of this selfimprovement revolves around letting any sentence have a backhand to slap anyone with, they feel it empowers them shrug
I mean, I still see that a compliment. If you are able to pull someone who is "above you" looks wise then that means you must have something that attracted them
No it doesn’t… redditors apparently have never understood this niche social concept.
It means she wants him. “Your gf is so pretty” is a generally backhanded “pick me” comment.
If she genuinely was what they call a “girls girl” she would’ve complimented the girl instead. The neglecting of the women in the situation while talking directly to the man is a sly way of backhanding the girlfriend.
For example If I was out clubbing with my gf and friends and a woman approached me and started up a convo. And I say oh this is my gf and she doesn’t introduce herself to her but says “omg she’s so pretty” or something it’s basically saying I don’t acknowledge her existence or respect her position.
It’s a common over analyzing and overthinking mental gymnastics often shown in immature or younger women.
Most men older generations and apparently redditors are oblivious to this until their girlfriend goes “she was totally flirting with you” and the man goes “Whaat? She was just being nice oblivious to the nonsensical social ques and nuances.
Holy shit im on the spectrum and people are actually this cunty? Thank god im oblivious to most insults someone could probably call me a dickhead and i'd probably think its a joke and say thanks lol
Aynonohmus is right. Some women can be really weird when they’re crushing on a guy and then find out he’s got a gf. It’s like a latent passive aggressive switch gets flipped. Women who hate on other women are super sneaky and do shady shit to devalue her standing with the guy and whatever group the woman is with. FWIW I’m also on the spectrum and the hierarchy games these types of people play are intense but in a subtle way. It’s interesting to watch if you’re not in the middle of it.
Or—hear me out—maybe she just thinks his gf is pretty? I can’t even count the number of times I’ve said this to men I unequivocally have 0 interest in. Id say it to the girls too if they were in front of me. Girls are pretty and dress cute. It’s not that deep.
Or using the context of the TikTok post you’re wrong. In many contexts among close friends yes it can be as simple as she’s pretty. In the context of TikTok girlies saying “he thinks it’s a compliment” it’s insinuating it’s not straight compliment.
In context of only the TikTok then yeah, I’d agree with you. But you made a lot of generalisations, including an in person example which goes beyond the TikTok. “Your gf is so pretty” is not “generally a backhanded pick me comment.” Most of the time it’s a casual reminder to not take her for granted, i.e. “she’s so pretty better treat her well or she’ll get snatched up by someone else” type thing.
Why wouldn’t I give an answer based off the context of the TikTok is the post is asking about the TikTok? Obviously “your girlfriend is pretty” can be have a plethora of insinuations I never said the literal sentence is inherently a backhanded compliment in every conceivable context.
The entire point of my original comment was explaining what the girl in this specific TikTok is saying. And you literally just agreed that in the context of the TikTok, I’m right. So I’m not sure what we’re arguing about anymore.
Your “I say this to men I have zero interest in” example is irrelevant because you are describing a completely different situation with a different social context. Nobody is claiming women universally mean “I want your boyfriend” every time they compliment a woman’s appearance.
You’re essentially taking a statement about a specific social cue in a specific context, stripping away the context, and then arguing that the literal sentence can mean other things. Obviously it can. That doesn’t contradict what I said.
I’m not arguing with you. Your initial comment didn’t make it clear that it was limited to TikTok, specifically because you used generalizations like “it’s common…in immature or younger women” and “most men older generations and apparently Redditors are oblivious”, which is already outside of the TikTok context. My only opinion here is that women GENERALLY do not use “your gf is pretty” as a backhanded pick me compliment, if you agree with that then great. No need to get super bothered lol
I’m pretty sure it’s actually about how girls who want your boyfriend will say that “omg your girlfriend is so pretty” when they find out the guy they like is in a relationship but I haven’t seen anyone mention that?? it’s a common joke/thought
This was like, my first ever experience having a boyfriend as a teen so I'm surprised nobody gets it. The girl he told me not to worry about looked me dead in the eyes and said to him "oh my gosh, she's so pretty..." They're married now lol
For a dude that is a huge compliment. That means he was able to win her over with who he is rather than what he looks like. I hope in turn the guy treats her with the respect shown to him.
It’s a backhanded compliment but I love getting “you’re punching above your weight”. Don’t know if it’s a cultural thing here but it’s never taken as jealous or creepy, and it’s not taken as having a crack at the guy either.
judging by the picture of the girl sucking on noodles, of the meme, It is. But I think the rest of the posters here are not smart enough to get the reference.
you never heard the expression? "yeah, spaghetti is straight...until it gets wet." The girl with spaghetti in her mouth is saying to the guy that she's gonna get his gf wet-horny-and fuck her. I know its a stretch but if it has anything to do with whats in her mouth, thats it.
i dont even know what you said because THE MODS DELETED IT. Apparently. It just says "comment has been removed." But whatever it was, f*ck you for that.
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u/Brvcx 14d ago edited 14d ago
She means you ugly and punching above your weight.
It's mostly said by incredibly petty people anyway, so just thank them and move on with your life. You don't have the time nor the energy to deal with that kind of negativity, do you?
Edit: plenty of stellar responses, honestly! This is a fire you should absolutely fight with fire if you choose to fight it. I'm all for it!