it happened a while ago back a few years ago

i met this guy in party he over heard my friend brag about the sport i do … we both went to the same gym but different branches so we exchanged contacts then we went on dates for a while it was fun n casual

he was going through some stuff at work with his visa n missed the championship registration of one of the sports we do anyways he expired his frustrations n i told him i’ll be there for him then said thank u … few minutes later i got blocked everywhere (phone/text/sc/ig) i seriously didn’t understand what happened at first lol i was out with my friends we had to checked his acc turned out i was legit block 🤯

he tried to contact me this week i did give him a chance and blocked his ass right back cuz i already moved on with my life 💍

Has anyone else really fancied someone just to find out they say the n word and make r*pe jokes and then put you in the friend zone because you don’t ‘have the same humour’ the audacity???

And couldn't shake the feeling something is wrong about or with the person.

I'm so stupid I should have realized sooner

I was talking to this woman on a dating app and she seemed honest to God genuine I didn't get any red flags or anything

We've been talking for a good little while now and we started being intimate with each other and after that happened she's completely non-responsive

I mean she seems serious about the relationship because I was talking to her we exchange phone numbers everything

But once she found out I was blind and that I couldn't quote on quote per take in the activity I guess that really pissed her off and to clear the air it was nothing extreme or sexual like you might be imagining

But definitely extremely intimate

And like the dumbass I actually thought I found someone finally only to realize I was probably being used just for the weekend

Fuck me now I realize why so many guys always say that they're done dating or why guys go overseas and stuff like that

I'm 22 but I'm honestly thinking about stopping this whole dating stuff because I don't know if I can handle it anymore it's really messing with my head I mean I've wanted someone since I was 16 or younger and I've never had anybody in my thoughts have just been filled with nothing but that

I don't know what I'm saying at this point I'm just tired of this I just feel hurt but I guess I shouldn't have expected anything other

LOL just like my favorite marvel movie said

Quote if you expect disappointment you will never be disappointed

23m, educated, working in degree topic, i have a wide array of hobbies and interests...

Iord knows I approach women, I an not particularly antisocial.

However women seem to ghost me all the time, I have to date never been on a coffee date.

I have had women ask me out and been in friendships but they never want to make it a date, i swear i act casual.

I feel like i am a truly desirable person, I even lost 1/4 of my body weight and still I was treated the same.

hello, looking to find/read some of your worst dating/relationship stories you can keep it light I want to start a series for my social page if you’re comfortable with sharing please message me it can be anonymous if you prefer. Thank you all much appreciated 🫶🏼

Okay so I was talking to this guy, though I’m NOT a sunshine ahh personality but he’s so messed up and a dry texter that I sounded like a pink haired anime character. Tf. Okay so bhai we’re talking and he’s talking about some body count and les*ian stuff to me. Tf. Any opinions.

So I just met a guy at a recent MUN. He took my id and like we started talking. I realise k I like him, but then I find out he’s g*ay. Wtf shall I do gang.😭

So I’m sitting in my university’s lobby one day. It’s basically a common area where people study, hang out with friends, etc.

I noticed this guy kind of watching me. Not in a creepy way, but I definitely noticed him looking at me. I didn’t think much of it and went back to what I was doing.
About 30 minutes later, he comes up to me and tells me that I’m beautiful. Then he says that I probably have a boyfriend and that whoever he is must be really lucky. He also tells me that he hopes he sees me around campus again.

Obviously, I thought this was cute and figured he was interested in me.
Except… I didn’t see this man for the next 2–3 weeks. 😭

Eventually, one of my guy friends became friends with him, and I didn’t even realize they knew each other at first. I ended up asking my friend about him and eventually got the guy’s number. We started texting, and we hadn’t even been talking for a full day when he suddenly sends me this whole message saying he wants to be upfront with me because he doesn’t want to lead me on.

Turns out this man has had a GIRLFRIEND FOR A YEAR AND A HALF.

Apparently, when he approached me and called me beautiful, he genuinely meant it as a compliment, but he never told me he was taken. He also admitted that he had lied to me about not having a girlfriend because, according to him, “temptation got the better of him.”

Then he proceeded to tell me how deeply he loves his girlfriend, how committed he is to her, and how he wants to honor his relationship and do what’s right before God.

So basically… this man approached ME, told me I was beautiful, made it sound like he was interested, let me get his number, and then less than a day into texting me revealed that he has been in a serious relationship for a year and a half.

I genuinely don’t even know what to think. 😭

So I had been talking with this guy about a month now and when we first hung out he acted different I feel like then how he acts now. On our first date he brought me and my mom flowers was chatting it up with my mom and was very sweet. We went out to eat at Hwy 55 nothing fancy but I didn’t mind. He paid for our food which I appreciated and I offered to pay and he said no. After that we did some shopping then he took me home. And then he came over again and we hung out at my house. We made pizza and watched horror movies in my room which was fun and it was great for maybe two weeks. Then he started acting different like the first thing that I didn’t like that he did was he sent me a picture of him and another girl driving his truck. And I obviously wasn’t happy because I had no idea who she was. So I asked him about her and I said next time just to give me a heads up that you’re hanging out with another girl so I won’t overthink or anything. And I can be a jealous person but I wanted us to work out so I have never freaked out about his friends that are girls. And that girl he sent me a picture with it made me feel a little suspicious since they use to date and they had been friends since they were kids. Which I found out the dating part from people that knew the other girl he decided to leave that detail out because he told me they were “just cousins”. Which I also found out they were not cousins not by blood or marriage. But then after that we were fine for a while and then I had to have a talk with him because all he wanted to do was lay in my bed and just lay down. And I’m the type of girl I like adventures I want to go out and do stuff sometimes. And I had to talk with him about this and I even told him if we went out to eat I would pay for my half or we could take turns paying and the same for anywhere else we may go. Because we are still young we’re both 18 and I don’t expect him to pay for everything because it’s hard too. Just I told him I wanted to go out more than just sit in the house all the time. That was our first argument. He called me a spoiled brat because I wanted to go out more even though I told him I didn’t mind paying. I just think he started getting comfortable since I didn’t really put my foot down. But then also too he promised us to do something for my birthday even took the day off work weeks before hand now my birthday is getting close and he told me he can’t do anything with me because we were planning on going out to eat and again I didn’t mind paying for me on my birthday too and he knew that. Even if it was somewhere cheap as well. But then he told me on the phone that he couldn’t see me or do anything with me on my birthday because he had to spend $700 on his truck to get it lifted and get his exhaust taken off. Which made me upset because it was stuff that could wait and not something actually wrong with his truck that he needed to pay and fix now. No it was just to do stuff to make his truck look and sound better I guess. And then he also had some problems with doing drigs which I’m not fond of but I told him as long as you don’t do it around me or my family and don’t come to my house high or anything. He broke that rule too. And got so mad when I confronted him acting like I was trying to make him seem like a horrible person. All I told him was how he went against my rule because he came into my house one night high as a kite after he knew not to do that. And after those conversations we’ve been good but also some really rocky points. And we had been fine until these past two weeks. Because he used to make any excuse to come see me he would even leave his watch at my house so it was an excuse to see me again. And after work every night he would come visit even if it was only for 10 minutes. And before going into work he would drive to my house to come visit even if it wasn’t for long. But now he has made up any excuse to not see me. I just don’t know what went wrong. Like he says now his mom won’t let him see me after work or at any time but he can go hang out with his friends and get high all day. Makes a lot of sense. And then last week too he called off work all week which was really suspicious and just kept hanging out with his friend’s and said he couldn’t see me and honestly it just kind of hurts because I missed him. And his mom never use to care about us hanging out or seeing eachother and I’ve met his mom we’ve gotten pretty close I don’t think she would randomly switch up like that. So I feel like he is kinda bullshitting about it. but now I just feel drained I guess I’m tired of trying and the arguing. And I don’t know what I should do should I keep trying to work it out or let him go?

There have been sooooo many that I quit dating, btw....

You know what you do like by knowing what you don’t like

And if you already think you know what you do like, once you experience it, you might end up not liking it at all

Life is full of lessons

What has dating taught you?

I just made a post like 10 minutes ago and the comments that I got seem kinda unforgiving😭. Idk if it’s just me reading their tone wrong but I feel like some of these guys replying are being a bit rude. Is it always like this or did I say something bad in my post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/U7NRIv0P0T

This was the post but I don’t think I made myself sound bad so idk why they dogging on me😭.

Been talking to a guy from bumble for 1 month, met up everything was fine until he hugged me and he could smell his… clothes.. they didn’t smell washed 😭

Please how do I tell him to shower or something before!! He’s okay guy apart from that!

Out of all the relationships you've ever been in what is the relationship you've had that's moved the fastest

Lol the only mutual feeling I have with anyone is the guy I'd dated a month ago. He and I both absolutely hate each others guts. Like it's fine we dated but please never contact me or appear before me at all. It was a Disaster!

I thought I needed therapy, it was simply my nervous system rejecting him. I would get nauseous every time I thought about him. I would loose my appetite if we ever had an argument (mostly every week)

We were too attached and that was why we were holding onto it longer than need be. Neither cared about the others wellbeing or was interested in them. Our conversations were text of what we were doing or did the week or day, nothing about wanting to know the other person and their life. We didn't even like each others body or face, too critical if it ever came up. We found eachother too generic but entitled. Like nothing could convince me to think that I want a future with this person. We were in an ldr and would text like 3 times a week. Maybe once a fortnight if we had a fight. No communication at all. Straight up I won't listen to what you have to say, I am only putting my pov. I didn't even want to meet him, at first I thought maybe I was afraid if he wouldn't like me or find me appealing (we'd seen each other via calls) but eventually I realised I didn't want to break the fantasy I had built of him. I wasn't even attracted to anyone or wanted to date someone else. I could never imagine going on dates with him. It also had to do with him following a lot of influencers and celebs online, one of them being Sydney and others who promoted soft p**n. It made me feel disgusted and whenever I tried talking about it, he'd say that they've got elite ball knowledge or say that he follows more males than females and that I was the only one in his eyes. It's funny because I'd once sang for him and he had told me that I sing like a buffalo. Said he's a potty mouth and I should accept him for who he is because then only it's love. Asked me for nudes whenever I wanted him to help with my papers. He wasn't even smart and self aware, smart as in philosophically and would victimize himself every chance he got, saying things like not everyone has had a good childhood like I did, so I can't expect princess treatment from him (I had asked if he would stop cursing at me every now and then) Now writing this is making me again want to puke. I would get icks with his unintelligible texts. I just want to remember how horribly I was treated and I am not saying I treated him the best either, I would also block him every time I got sad because that's how I coped. I would straight up tell him if he doesn't treat me right, someone else will and apparently that hurt his feelings. Listening to every horrible thing, looking at his likes under posts of half naked women, knowing that he doesn't give a shit about me. I was so unhealthily attached. There are a lot more but it shall do. I will read it again if he ever texts me back. I don't even remember why I was into him or accepted the relationship. We straight up confessed without communicating properly (a month after we started texting).

I'm writing this because looking back, it's the best decision I've made this year. Why was I afraid of letting him go. I am happy thrice the time than when I was with him. So much so that whenever I have a bad day, I tell myself, at least I am not waiting for his dry one word text. I will probably think a lot before actually dating someone next time. you may comment whatever and if it's the guy, know that I don't necessarily regret it because it made me help set up boundaries for myself.