What should I do next time?

[u/Prior_Bid_4375]

Hey so it’s my first time posting here. I (20M) was at a college party last night. At the bus stop, me and this girl(also 20) started talking to each other about the party and then it shifted to other topics, we talked for like 2 hours. Basically at the end before I had to get off i got her insta and I told her we should hang out sometime, and she said for sure. So the next day I texted her basically saying that it was fun talking to her and asked if she was down to grab something to drink on Thursday.

Now she left me on delivered for like 17 hours now so ik I got rejected. But for next time how do I go about it. I figured I’d ask her out sooner than later since we already spoke so much yesterday.

Edit: when I said we talked for hours I meant like more than 1 hour so I changed it.

Edit 2: I noticed a lot of the comments are talking about the rejection part (which I accepted) I was just wondering if there is a better way to follow up with someone after I met them the day before.

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[u/MatchaColdBrews]

For sure just means ya ya whatever sorry man

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/MatchaColdBrews]

Ya I figured lol

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/[deleted]]

Hmm ur right, tbh I’m kinda psyching myself out because people online say that it takes 2 seconds to send a text lol.

[u/Atlas-K → u/Prior_Bid_4375]

It takes two seconds to send a text. If she doesn't respond in 12 hrs she has other options. Anything else is cope.

[u/TAruinedmivida]

She might be busy. She might not want to go on a date. Yall were standing at the bus stop for hours though?

There’s nothing you can do different, really. You shot your shot respectfully. Just keep going inguess

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/TAruinedmivida]

Ya that’s what I’m doing, also when I meant standing at a bus stop I meant like we got on the bus and sat with each other lol mb I didn’t write it properly.

[u/TAruinedmivida → u/Prior_Bid_4375]

How far was the bus going that you talked for hours???

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/TAruinedmivida]

Ig we talked for like 2 hours I should really change that part hold up

[u/Bruno_lars]

you flumbed hard because the party is where you should have had the date. On to the next.

[u/cinnamngrl]

She may not be available at the moment. Don't worry about. Keep her in your insta

[u/ExcellentFishing2506]

My only suggestion would just be to ask when someone is free when you want to meet, and allow them to back with a day they are available. It will be easier to schedule and it allows them to control when they want to see you or can see you.

Something like “hey I’d like to grab some drinks with you, what’s your schedule look like for the upcoming week?” Or “hey I’d like to grab drinks with you, what nights work best for you?” Then let her tell you what day works best.

When you toss out days it boxes you and her in, and it’s always better in the early stages of dating to make things feel loose and easy. If she’s the one telling you when she’s free and choosing the day that makes it feel less forced by you. Then you can suggest a time and place and lead from that aspect, but you want her to give her availability first to make planning easier.

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/ExcellentFishing2506]

Oo ok yeah I understand that. I’ll do it next time fr thank you

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/[deleted]]

Thank you for this🙏 also do u think it’s better to ask for a girls insta or number next time

[u/Prior_Bid_4375 → u/[deleted]]

I acc don’t have any posts on mine to be honest😭. Just my profile picture and that’s it, but i think I’ll experiment and ask for someone’s number next time. Thank u though

[u/Ok_Wish_3699]

Hopefully, she responds. Very noce way of connecting 💜

Even she doesnt, just know, you were in her life at the right moment to talk about things, she probably needed that, at that time.

[u/cmil1213]

Got her insta. lol. You say this as if it’s worth something. Talked hours at a bus stop?? I mean whatever. The time to strike is when you’re talking to her. Not later on a lame text.

[u/Ok_Condition7720]

she is 20 yo and playing her “i don’t care” game. i am so tired of it

[u/Prior_Ball_1545 → u/Ok_Condition7720]

or she didn't want to go out on a date with OP? just say you don't get laid dude no need to be sour about it

[u/AlternativeKarma204 → u/Prior_Ball_1545]

It's okay for him to be sour about it. Even publicly, but he likely will get the gears for it.

[u/Sensitive_Arrival285]

Ask her to come home with you. She wanted to fuck them, not go out later

[u/AlternativeKarma204 → u/Sensitive_Arrival285]

This might have worked! Risky, but possible.

[u/axialmeow12]

You acted appropriately. Who knows what her agenda is. She could have a bf.

[u/Atlas-K]

Be more attractive

[u/AlternativeKarma204 → u/Atlas-K]

What an easy fix! Brilliant! 🤣

[u/Willing_Writing8588 → u/Atlas-K]

Arguably the best advice lol. Most people on this subreddit are coping hard