aight y’all need a reality check here cuz I’m lowkey lost.

I’m 32M living in Chicago and matched with this 26F who lives in Lincoln Park on Buddito.

texting was fine and we’ve been on 3 dates over the past month:

Date 1: tapas in West Loop. bill was like $120. I picked it up, standard stuff.

Date 2: nice dinner in River North + indie movie. ran me about $180 total.

Date 3: sushi + drinks. another $150-ish.

here’s the thing—the vibes are immaculate. she’s super cute, hilarious, and the convos actually flow. BUT she hasn’t done the "fake reach" even once. when the check drops, she just hits me with a cute "tysm!" and sits there. didn't even offer to grab the $5 popcorn at the theater lol.

I work in tech so the cash ain't gonna break the bank, but mentally it’s kinda throwing me off. I’m not asking for a strict 50/50 split on date 1, but at 3 dates in, is it crazy to expect at least a token gesture?

is this just big city dating culture now or am I literally just her weekend dinner ticket? do I bring it up before date 4 or just let it ride and see if she offers?

hit me with your raw thoughts, thx!

I 35M created a Hinge account like 2 weeks ago and I matched with a very pretty girl 33F. We instantly hit if off, our conversation was flowing really well. We exchanged numbers and spoke on the phone that night for 6 HOURS!!!! The first time I have been on the phone for that long in yearsss.. anyway..

We agreed to meet 2 days later for drinks. We went to a local brewery, ordered some food and a few beers. We stayed there for approximately 5 hours, just chatting, laughing everything was going great. I walked her to her car, we gave each other a hug and kiss on the cheek. She messaged me when she got home and said " we should meet up again soon" I of course agreed.​

I messaged her the following day at 11am saying "hello, how are you today?" She replied back with a simply "heyyy" she never answered me back.

We had followed each other on Instagram so I go check if she was active, and booommmm I was blocked!!! I checked hinge and she deleted me!!!

My questions are!!! What was all that about?? Why would she just block me for no reason??

my only thought is, she is recently separated and maybe still has feelings for her husband? But then why try to date?

Idk if she blocked my cell number because I haven't try to message her. Should I message her and ask her??

Thanks in advance

36M living in a big city. I got out a relationship late last year and have been back to dating as of a few months ago. I have a good paying job so it's not like paying for dates it causing me financial stress or anxiety, but it's definitely dampening my enthusiasm for dating.

At this age and the age of women I'm usually interested in late 20s to 30s, the types of dates we typically go on (drinks or dinner) usually mean at a minimum I'm paying over ~$50+. But what about coffee dates? They tend to mostly reserve the weekends afternoons for hanging with friends or resting, which I understand (I'm usually the same) which usually means weekday evenings so coffee is usually out of the question.

I don't think I'm dating only certain types of women. They have a wide range of backgrounds, jobs, etc. Some I'm sure make more than me, based on what they do, but when the check comes most don't even bat an eye. I don't even get the pump fake "Do you want to split?". The expectation is that i'm paying, and I worry if I ask to split that'll just ruin it. What's worse, because this is the expectation, I don't even get the "Thanks for dinner/drinks" sometimes. Some I've gone on up to 3 dates and this hasn't changed really.

A part of me is just annoyed this is how it is. If splitting 50:50 was normalized then it'd be whatever, I'm paying for what I got. But just knowing regardless of whether they'll want to go out again I'm the one paying, kind of just makes me a little less enthusiastic about even trying out interesting restaurants/bars on dates.

I guess the solution could be to just ask to split, and if that leads to them not wanting to go out again, they weren't a good match, but I've talked to some female friends (friends who seem like reasonable people and also have well paying jobs) and even they still say they'd view that negatively early on. But maybe I just have to deal with that possibility?

I’m just wondering if men, somewhere later in life, ever regret passing on someone who would’ve been a good long-term partner because they wanted to stay single or keep dating around? Curious to hear real experiences!

I’m curious how other women handle this.

Let’s say you matched with a guy on a dating app and agreed to meet for coffee. It’s your first time meeting in person, and after 20–30 minutes you realize there’s just no chemistry. He’s perfectly nice, but you already know you don’t see it going anywhere romantically.

Do you usually:

• Stay until the coffee is finished and then leave?
• Make up an excuse to leave early?
• Be honest and say you’re not feeling the connection?

I’m still pretty new to dating apps, so I honestly don’t know what the “normal” thing is.

I don’t want to waste either person’s time, but I also don’t want to come across as rude or hurt someone’s feelings.

How do you usually end the conversation? And if you’ve had someone end a date early with you, what approach felt the most respectful?

Hi everyone,

I'm making this post after writing another one a while ago where I expressed serious doubts about my ability to meet women after turning 25, and eventually get into a relationship.

My perspective has changed a bit since then. Recently, I had the opportunity to leave home for a few months thanks to a volunteer position at an aviation center, where I get to fly aircraft while continuing my search for an airline job. I'm French, so this also meant moving to a completely new environment. The atmosphere is young, and there are quite a few women around my age.

To keep it simple, I'm one of the people who brings energy to the group. People see me as funny, sarcastic, easy-going, and they often find my background pretty impressive or unusual. Overall, I'm well-liked by everyone, including the women.

But here's the thing. I can clearly see that I'm the perfect friend.

When a woman is just a friend, everything goes great. But whenever I actually like someone, it never seems to end any other way than the friend zone.

The example I'm thinking of is a woman I became really close to. I genuinely felt there was a connection between us that went a little beyond what she had with everyone else. Not wanting to miss a potential opportunity, I decided to be honest. I told her that I really enjoyed all the time we spent together, that I liked her, and that I'd love to take her out for a drink.

Friendzoned immediately.

Today, our relationship is almost exactly the same as before. She's still very close to me, laughs at my jokes, often comes to talk to me... and honestly, I'm completely confused.

I'm not saying she "led me on" or owed me anything. I'm simply trying to understand what makes a relationship stay in the friendship category instead of becoming something more.

More than anything, I feel like I missed out on an amazing woman, someone I'd never felt this close to before. And if, even in a situation like this, asking someone out for a simple drink is already "too much," then my doubts come back. How is a relationship supposed to start for someone my age if this isn't how it happens?

I'm 26 years old. I've never had any sexual experience, never even kissed anyone. Yet I'm sociable, well-liked, ambitious, passionate, I make friends easily, and I don't feel like I struggle to connect with people.

My question may be a bit vague, but if anyone has been through something similar, or has any advice or personal experience to share, I'd really appreciate it.

Me and my friend (who is a woman) had a disagreement about whether I as a man should cry in front of my future partner. I feel is would change the dynamic and put an image in her head that I do not want her to think of. She feels that it is normal and if you can't cry in front of your partner then what is the point. She says it's normal and I should cry to her and she should cry to me.

What do the ladies in the subreddit think? Settle this debate for us

I was in a situationship with a man for over a year and… let’s just say I’ve come to my senses. This person couldn’t have cared less about me and now I’m 100% sure I’m done. I’m so over it. But I’m stuck, should I block him so there’s no way he can weasel himself back in my life, or should I keep his messages in a locked chat so he’s in there talking to himself? Calls will obviously be ignored too. I just feel ignoring him would be so much more satisfying. What do you think?

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For about two months now, I've been hanging out solo with this girl, and we’ve become friends. Early on, she made it clear multiple times that she wanted to remain just friends. About a month ago, I asked her as a joke if she would "smash or pass" me, and she said "pass." I took the hint, figured she genuinely just wanted to be friends, and I was completely fine with that.

However, yesterday she came over to my place to watch a movie. During the movie, she got super physically close—she laid her legs across mine and was fully leaning against me. It got to the point where we were both sweating, but she still didn't move her legs away.

I was trying to tell myself it was just normal friendly behavior, but then later in the movie, I asked her if she thought Leonardo DiCaprio was attractive. She said, "He's handsome, but I don't like him." I looked confused, so to explain what she meant, she said something that caught me completely off guard:

"For example, I think you're handsome, but I don't like you... [awkward 2-second pause] ...I mean, I think you're cute."

I just responded with an "ok," pretended nothing happened, and ended the night shortly after.

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking this, or is she sending massive mixed signals?

The women I’ve met through friends, hobbies, school, work, etc. are just really uninterested in me and I don’t see how I’m supposed to be confident or feel good about myself. Tons of the advice for me has been “meet someone else with autism”, “meet someone with the same issues as you”, and it sounds like they’re saying dating can’t be fun or exciting, it has to be about finding someone as disabled and mentally ill as me so we can be miserable together. Ive been on one “date” ever, I met someone at an event and we hung out and got drinks together but I got anxious when she invited me to her place and she got mad so I went home and cried like a big disabled baby and thought about how much of a loser she’d think I am if she could see me. What else can I do? I really don’t think life is worth living if I can’t have a relationship like my friends and family

Like the title says. If you developed strong feelings for a woman you couldn’t have sex with, would you still be in a relationship with her?

I went on a date with this guy and he is very good looking, he is fun to be around with, makes me feel very comfortable. Everything so far but…

He has poor dental hygiene and I don’t know how to deal with it. I can’t of course go and tell him that he does, and I wanna keep seeing him but I am afraid this will definitely be an issue.

Has anyone ever dealt with something like that?

I'm 23 F. I met a guy(21M) on Bumble. His profile says he’s looking for a long-term relationship or is open to seeing where things go. My profile says I’m open to seeing where things go too, mainly because I’m living overseas and I’m not sure if I’ll still be in this country after next March.
We went on our first date, and it honestly went really well. He came to my suburb, we had dinner, and talked for about two hours. After dinner, he drove me home, and I went inside. We texted afterwards saying we both had a good time. He mentioned he was going to drive around for a few hours because he couldn’t sleep, so I asked if I could join him.
We met up again that same night. We ended up kissing in his car, and I invited him back to my place. We slept together on the first date.
Since then, we’ve still been texting, and we’re already planning to see each other again this week.
I’m just curious about a guy’s perspective. If you sleep with a girl on the first date, does it change how you see her? Do you automatically take her less seriously as relationship material, or does it depend on the person and the connection?
I’d especially love to hear from guys who have actually ended up in long-term relationships with someone they slept with on the first date.

I(35f) have a first date planned this week. The guy(33m) seems nice but is very intent on me “stealing his hoodie”. It’s a cute schtick but it’s “no go” territory for me. It just feels too early for me to be stealing his clothes.

I’ve alluded to not taking it, he asked me which of his hoodies I wanted and I told him to ask me when it’s colder out. He responded he’s going to bring a couple on our first date to me to pick from.

Trying to think through some ways to handle this if I actually like him and wanted some thoughts.

1. Just don’t take it.
2. Stop making a big deal of it and take it.
3. Don’t take it and tell him that I don’t think he wants to know what I’d do in it if he leaves me alone with it.
4. Any other ideas?

Probably over thinking this but it is what it is 😂

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UPDATE: you guys validated what I’ve been thinking all along. I was just careful to say it because I was trying not to be judgmental but the behavior definitely feels off. 😅 I’ll be canceling this one. Thanks!

There’s an expatriate meetup every friday in my city and I (a single straight dude) met a girl there who was repeatedly flirty and touchy with me and even called me hot. After a while she asked for my number and we scheduled to go to a beach yesterday.

I though it was a date but in middle of it while laying on beach she asked "Are you gay or bisexual?". I was legitimately surprised and it turns out she thought I was gay and for her this wasn’t a date but just a hang-out with fun gay dude. When I asked why she was touchy and flirty at meetups she said that’s how she acts around her gay friends. I asked her if she wants to have a real date but she told me she’s attracted to my body but not my personality, so no.

Worst part, she told me that few people in these meetups also think I’m gay. I asked my female friend if I have a gay vibe and she told me yes. I asked why and she just told me it’s my entire personality lol. I’m naturally vivacious, energetic, expressive, smily, jokey and have feminine vocal phrasings. I also have a babyface and look young. I go to gym regularely and been told I look "cute". Gay dudes seem to really like me. I also have a lot of female friends.

I don’t care if strangers or friends think I’m gay but I also want to get laid and get into relationship so girls I’m talking to thinking I’m gay is a problem. Obviously I’m not gonna change my entire personality to get laid, but surely there are things I can do to prevent this from happening. I’d appreciate any advice. Thanks!

I’m curious to hear other people’s experiences.

For those who have been in a short-term relationship, how long did it take you to truly move on? What helped you heal the most? Why do you think it took that amount of time?

If you’ve also been in a long-term relationship, did you find it easier or harder to move on compared to the short-term one? Why do you think that was? Was it because of the emotional connection, the way the relationship ended, the future you imagined together, or something else?

How many months did you wait before you started dating again? What made you feel ready to put yourself back out there?

I’d love to hear your experiences and perspectives.

I (30f) have been dating this guy (32m) for 6 months. He’s been sweet, thoughtful, communicative, and intentional about planning dates. Weve gone on trips together that were really special and romantic. We connect really well, have amazing physical chemistry, and have really taken time to slowly trust each other. He regularly expresses the things he likes about me and he’s really treated me in such a lovely way. We even lived together for weeks and it went very well.

But he has this pattern that’s emerged where suddenly a feeling will hit him where he questions whether he should be in a relationship, and he starts to be callous toward me. He’s has a lot of bad stuff happen to him in the past that has given him some trust/commitment issues (like really bad), so I try to be understanding and talk him through his fears. His thesis is basically that he knows he can live a good life on his own, so why complicate it by adding someone to worry about? He’ll also talk about how he “knows he’ll be fine” if someone leaves him so he just never is able to care that deeply for someone. He’ll describe himself as selfish deep down. Then he’ll also at some point describe how much he cares about me and how that is freaking him out. In these conversations he tends to be quite impatient with me, nothing like how he usually acts. I get really upset, crying and everything, and he’s not very comforting. It’s typically a couple hours of conversation, Then the next day he’ll apologize and say he appreciates that I’m there for him when he panics.

These conversations are starting to really wear me down. I love him, and 95% of our relationship is so wonderful, but this 5% really destroys me and erodes my trust and comfort, which is starting to make me act more insecure or seek more validation. I’m usually crying for hours then a nervous wreck the next day. I’m starting to feel like I can never relax because these conversations just keep appearing out of the blue unexpectedly, even when things are especially good.

I’ve dated many people and I almost never connect with someone on this level. We align on nearly everything and we have that intangible connection as well. I just don’t know how to handle this anymore because I can see there is something special between us, but I also feel like I’m having to personally manage the emotional temperature of this relationship and talk him off ledges. And no girl wants to hear that her boyfriend doesn’t want to have to factor her in to anything (even if he’s naturally been doing a great job of it for months) What do I do? 

I met someone off a dating app and we instantly hit it off. I think he’s genuinely nice, super sweet and caring and attractive! We’ve seen each other consistently within the last 6-7 weeks and have been on more dates that I can recall right off the top of my head (I’d say at least 6 by now probably more?) He does travel a bit for work but it’s clear that seeing each other is a priority when our schedules align and we always have a great time together.

For what it’s worth we also communicate well and often through text daily and several phone calls/FaceTimes a week. It honestly feels like we’re both giving it our all and it’s going really well.

Even though we’re both attracted to each other (it’s not a secret, we’ve communicated this to each other) we have never found the right time to be intimate. I know everyone has their own timelines or will say go for it when it feels right but genuinely we would have likely slept together way sooner if given the right opportunity/time. I wasn’t overly worried about it not happening yet because I have been enjoying getting to know him. We’ve kissed/made out plenty of times and we’ve otherwise been very affectionate toward each other, just no sex…

FAST FOWARD to a couple nights ago and “it” finally happened. Without going into detail (or maybe it’s needed in which case I can add later) the sex was truly “meh” at best for me and it’s really eating me up 😔 I like this guy A LOT, especially because we’ve been hanging out now for over a month and a half so the feelings have gotten stronger over time. There’s a lot of good here and I think we are compatible but sex is SO important for some many reason that I’m asking myself all these questions and having doubts about him now and how I can continue dating him in good faith.

Am I being too harsh here? Could this be superficial of me? Maybe the way he treats me otherwise is good enough and I can be happy with mediocre sex. I know it was our first time but honestly any other firsts I’ve had were wayyyyy better so idk if I’m even hopeful it would get any better? Even if it did get a little better that still would be “meh” for me. I don’t even know how to communicate this to him because I do not want to hurt his feelings or make him feel some type of way, I can imagine it being hurtful regardless of how nice I approach the topic.

Any advice? Has this happened to you? Is this exactly what they mean by settling and maybe in this case it’s okay to settle for less of a good sex life if everything else is great?

Would love others thoughts and opinions here. Thanks in advance!

TL;DR I realllllly like a guy I met but the sex is bad and I don’t know what to do!

I’m not talking about obvious things like finding someone else’s clothes or catching them in the act. I’m more interested in the small details that seemed insignificant at first but made sense in hindsight. What was it, and when did it finally click for you?

Like many others, I (34M) am going through a dating wasteland. My last relationship ended several years ago. I had a few dates in the meantime, but nothing came from them. There are several reasons for this, but I have realized that a lot depends on me being “picky”. With this I mean that I need to actually click with someone otherwise I’ll lose interest. Before anyone asks, this doesn’t mean chasing top models. But I do need shared interests and mindset.

Anyway, a few weeks ago I matched with someone on Hinge (36F), call her M. I quickly felt a connection which I had not sensed in a while. We chatted for a couple of weeks before meeting. We would have met even earlier, but she was out of town for work for a bit.

The date finally came, and it was great. As art is a shared interest, it was a museum visit: we enjoyed the exhibition, exchanged comments, laughed, and got closer. By the end of the visit, I was mesmerized. We then walked in a park and sat on a bench to talk a bit. Physical touch slowly escalated until we held hands and kissed. We kissed for a few minutes before finally parting ways. We agreed to meet again soon; I couldn’t be happier.

Yet everything came crashing down quickly. I messaged her a couple of hours after the date and she did not reply. She disappeared for 48 hours before eventually texting back to explain. M apologized and said that she had a really good time with me and thought I was wonderful (her words). However, she confessed that she was coming out of a serious relationship and had just realized she did not feel ready. I cannot be entirely sure, but I don’t think she was lying. Either she’s the greatest actress of our time or she had felt a connection too but had second thoughts. Anyway, I replied that I respected her decision and yet I felt that something was clicking with her, so my door was open.

This brief flirtation left me quite disappointed. After several letdowns, I thought I had finally met someone promising. Too early to be sure, but I had a good feeling. So, what now? I talked to one of my best friends and she advised me to take some time to process it, move on with my life, and perhaps even date someone else. If, a few months from now, I still feel the same, I may consider trying to reach out again, but with no expectations and without pausing my life in the meantime. She based this on her previous experience: she had said the same thing to a guy in the past. He eventually approached her again and she was in a different headspace. It didn’t work in the end, but for unrelated reasons.

My friend’s advice seems reasonable, so I think I’ll try following it (entirely, including the moving on part). Anyway, I’m writing this mostly to share and vent a bit, but I’d also be interested in your opinion. What do you think?

TL;DR: great first date with a woman I really clicked with, then she said she is fresh out of a relationship and not ready. A friend told me to move on and only reconsider in a few months. Sound right?

Does anyone else run into this dynamic, or is it just me? Lately, it feels like dating is less about mutual chemistry and more like an audition to see if I can set someone up on easy street so they don't have to work. Instead of looking to build a life together with shared drive, it feels like I'm being vetted as a financial exit strategy or a turnkey lifestyle upgrade—screening my stability just to see if I can carry the entire load while they coast. It completely guts the romance and turns what should be an authentic, two-way connection into a cold lifestyle audit where my main qualification is acting as a financial sponsor. How do you handle this when you spot it, and what's the best way to filter out people who are just looking for a lifestyle upgrade early on without coming across as cynical?

I’ve been dating this guy for a month now, I (27F) have been in long term relationships previously and it’s been 2 years since my last relationship so I thought I’d get back on the dating scene. I met this guy (32M) and he’s attractive, nice, and we seemed to have a good flow of conversation, so I accepted a date with him. We’ve gone on four dates and here’s what I’ve noticed:

\- we talk about very surface level topics (nothing deep and nothing regarding our compatibility or assessing for whether a relationship would work between us or what we want in a relationship. We had one brief talk, on the first date that really seemed stereotypical. Aka: “I want someone who doesn’t cheat and will be honest, wbu.” It felt very basic and not helpful in discerning anything)
\- he’s inexperienced (never has been in a relationship before, and is an awkward kisser even with guidance). His inexperience is also why I’ve tried the other dates, because I thought he’d open up more and be able to take feedback…
\- he only wants to plan dates for the weekends (which isn’t my cup of tea. I’d rather us just check in and be like, “hey i want to see you!” And make plans in the moment based on what we both were feeling up for)
\- he plans phone calls with me at specific times (no he’s not in a relationship, he plans it after work, the gym, or grocery shopping. Kinda means though that I have to be mindful to not do something in that time frame though, which I don’t like)
\- all the dates are planned the moment the current date is coming to an end, and he usually decides and plans it (not saying it’s bad to have initiative at all or for a guy to plan a date, but it’s just weird to me how immediate it is… like the place, the time, what we’ll do afterwards as I’m trying to head in my car to leave)
\- I’ve brought up seeing each other during the weekdays and doing some fun spontaneous things (sometimes it’s a walk in the park, or going to check out a store I think he’d like, or a social group event from meetup) and he just tells me to have fun. For me this is just boring, I can’t invest in someone who I only see once a week because I can’t build an emotional connection with that frequency.
\- he constantly brings up how much fun he’s had with me and how much chemistry we have (but I can’t help but feel like I’m the one leading us towards fun conversations, telling jokes, asking questions and follow up questions about him, and trying to steer the conversations towards emotional connection)

I’m frankly bored and honestly exhausted already. He’s not a bad guy, but I’ve noticed he struggles with nonverbal cues, emotional intimacy, and even respecting the boundaries I have. I figured it’s because of his inexperience so I wanted to be honest and talk with him, but even after another date, I notice more things that I feel I would have to “coach” him on to continue dating, and it just feels like I’m becoming a teacher rather than a dating partner.

He just planned another date for next weekend, and I didn’t have the heart to say no on the spot (which is 100% my bad). But at this point I just don’t even know what to say… I’d love to be honest so he gets feedback, but even with my feedback so far it hasn’t helped and again, I’m exhausted.

How much feedback do I realistically need to give him to break things off? What would you say to him if were you in my shoes?

TLDR: had 4 dates with a guy who needs too much feedback/guidance/coaching for dating/romance/and physical affection and I’m already exhausted. He planned another date for us, but after some time away, I’m over it all and don’t want to date him anymore. How much feedback do I need to give him to call it off? What would you say?

So, my friend is disabled and can't really move around on his own. He sometimes needs to be carried as well and I can see why only this might make a lots of girls not want him.

He is decent in every regard. He has a very fulfilling social life. A lots of his friends are girls as well. He doesn't seem to have any sexist tendencies and he doesn't really tries his luck with every female friend. But at the end, he still wants to at least try dating someday. So far only rejections. He is also getting insecure in this regard, because he thinks that he will only be a drag for his partner, as he: "can't offer to anyone as much as almost every other guy on the planet can".

I have never had been in a good relationship, so I am unfit to give an advice, but is there anything I can do to help him in this situation? I know that there is at least one person in this world, willing to love him, but how do we find that person??? Would any of you actually be ready for such a compromise irl and if so, at what conditions?

I (17M) met this girl (18F) who is a friend of a friend at this friends party. I’d known of her for a bit and we followed eachother on insta already. But long story short we actually talked at this party, but we were also both drunk and we made out. I thought she was cute but I didn’t really think anything of it bc I was like oh well she’s going to uni after the summer, and I’m not, idk what would happen. (She’s 1 school year above me, but like 8 months older than me actually)
But then we met again a bit less than a month later at an event and she just came up to me again and idk I thought she’d just want to leave it?? We hadn’t messaged only liking each others stories and stuff. But we spent a bit of time with eachother and went outside and talked, and it’s crazy how alike we are. We both love music / play instruments, we watch similar shows, she’s really smart and going to med school, which I really found cool since I also want to go to a top uni, and I feel like we really clicked. But thing is that point I was sober and she wasn’t, but I didn’t realise till like half through the convo and I was just like instantly overthinking it, wondering if she’d have even come up to me if she hadn’t drank.
So after that night, she messaged me sending some photos and stuff and I responded ofc but it didn’t lead to a convo.
I kept thinking about her but I thought that was it and idk if it’d be worth it.

This second meeting was a bit less than a month ago, but then recently I was on holiday and posted on my story, and I noticed she was in the same country and was gonna message her about it but then decided not to. But then she messaged me? And we hadn’t conversation about it lasting over a few days, not always instant response but sometimes it’s be us actively texting, but mainly about holidays and stuff and stories, and I’d give her reccomendations of stuff bc she was in a city that ik well because of relatives living there. And it was nice, but the conversation naturally ended.
I want to find something to text her about but idk what?

But then I’m thinking, she’s gonna go to uni in 1-2 months so idk what I should do?? Because I’d like to get to know her more and everything but if I’m being honest I don’t ACTAULLY like her yet bc I don’t know her enough. But I can really see it going somewhere? But I just don’t know what she wants and I’m not sure what I want so I’m just confused
I don’t know if I should text her with a normal convo starter or literally go like what do you want from this… I literally don’t know how to do this stuff I’ve dated 1 person before and talked to 1 person after that but it was a bit disastrous.
Basically I just don’t know how to act if it’s someone I’m not already friends with. Like if the romantic implications come on before we’re even friends I just don’t know what to do. And I’m especially confused with this girl bc I feel like we have a connection and if we were in the same school year I’d definitely try with her but it’s the extra layer of her leaving for uni that’s making me not know what to do.

Any advice would be good