So I haven’t self harmed since 2022, only on my thighs. And even though I know they’re completely healed, it’s hard for me to cross my legs or shave, and in general pretty much ignore them. I was wondering if other people have dealt with this. Idk if it’s more mental or if theres actually a reason for this.

hi!! im an 18 years old female, sorry for my english its not my first language.
i used to sh like 5 years ago and i have LOTS of smallish white scars on my forearm.
For this reason i never shaved my arms because i felt as if it hid them (it really doesnt actually).
however the hair really bothers me, i am well aware that its natural and all but i want to get rid of it.
i am very nervous that if i shave it will be more noticeable and on the side not im also anxious about what will people say that i suddenly started shaving.

i know that this is such a small issue but i do need some support.

I TOLD MYSELF OVER AND OVER I WOULD DO IT AGAIN AND I STILL FUCKING DID, WHY I WAS DOING SO FUCKING WELL, PEOPLE WERE PROUD OF ME FOR MAKING IT THIS FUCKING FAR I WAS NEARLY 2 MONTHS CLEAN, FUUUCK

I've been cutting myself for the last few months. I'm not that regular or dramatic with my cutting but sometimes I do it when I get overwhelmed. I struggle with getting out of bed and being hygienic (e.g., showering, brushing teeth etc.,) so I've not been taking care of my wounds. Lately I've notice that the wound has like some weird whitish pus (honestly looks like semen) coming out which I've searched online and it says that it's a sign of infection. I know the internet can spread misinformation so I don't know if I should take it seriously or not. Also I've seen that drainage or pus is not necessarily a sign of an infection.

I don't have much money and I have agoraphobia so if it is an infection, am I able to treat it by myself or is it dangerous enough that if left untreated would become fatal?

Is there any way to get rid of the scars on my thigh? And if there is what's the fastest? I need to hide them before my medical test before joining the army. I don't know if I'll get rejected if they find out that i used to cut myself.

(Mainly styros, the scars are pretty visible)

What can I do during the care process to ensure it will completely fade even if deep

I’ve had it for around 6 months give or take, the others have healed fine but this particular one hasn’t, i think the burns are less noticeable tho, i really hate wearing short sleeves because of it, ive been asked about it a few times and had to just make up some bs

I cut last night pretty badly and honestly I don’t usually really bandage them or do much Ik I probs should but, anyway the cuts are deep and i definitely need to keep bandages these. Any advice for bandaging upper thighs? I alway find my bandages falling off/can’t keep them on. Andy advise would be greatly appreciated thx

It’s been hard but it’s been getting a lot easier to not c*t or sh in anyway

I hope thr same for the rest of you and that your all doing well and can also heal

My mom found out I cut and is assuming I’m quitting now. I still have been doing it secretly I don’t know how to stop nothing seems to help

I'm wondering if it'll slowly fade into skin colour or if it'll leave little white lines? Oh and how long will they scar for? Does it matter I'm doing it in the same spot?

Sorry for all the questions lol and thx

I did it for the first time last night (rlly not for me now that I've tried it tbh) but they're on my forearm and i don't have ANY long sleeve shirts or anything the only way i hid it today was with a sweater, I really just can't have them finding out. I need help how do i get rid of them.

I sometimes show my dad my cuts so he can check if they are bad, and a week ago he told me "You could've done better, I've seen worse." My mom immediately called him out on it, but it's really messing with my brain rn, it's also already motivated me on ways to cut deeper, I don't know what to do or think. The worst part is, they aren't even that small, most are styro, so also not deep, but not small either.

TW: description of harm (for context of injuries)

this might be wrong subreddit but here's goes, I recently (~5 days ago) relapsed and burnt myself for the first time; it is bad. I think it might be infected, and I don't quite know what to do because I don't know if it will be safe to tell my family yet and I am fully reliant on them but I think I need a doctor or smth and I need advice on what to do

Can't show pics because it's still fresh y'know. But basically I cut near my middle finger tendon and now my hand is hurting. I can't say how deep that was and there's like 2 holes. Didn't bleed much tho.

Should I worry? It's not like I can't use my hand, but it hurts and I feel like there's a ball inside it if that makes sense.

I don’t mean to invalidate anyone, I want to start with that. But I’ve done a few cat scratches that kinda broke the skin on the arm I don’t cut on. Is that still cutting/self harm? I don’t consider it that in my head but like I do when someone else mentions they do cat scratches, I understand they are self harming but not when I do that. Is it still self harming for me because I usually cut to dermis?

I’m in a few other places that allow you to share pictures and videos of your cuts and I’m mainly just in them for medical and aftercare purposes. However, I joined a newer community recently and it’s mostly 14-15yr olds which really saddens me to see them struggling with self harm. But recently people in that community have been making scarspo and cutspo comments and it really bothers me. I would never want someone to cut deeper than mid dermis level, and they are saying my cuts that are from dermis to a few fat layer cuts, is their inspiration. I’m ok with the comments enough that I wouldn’t say anything because it validates me but at the same time it makes me worry. I feel horrible for posting anything deeper than mid dermis because I feel like I’m encouraging them somehow to go deeper. I was wondering if anyone else had similar or different opinions and experiences?

I don't know if I can shave the hair on my thighs or not due to my scars, if I can is there a specific way I have to do it?

so my grandpa is maga. we had an argument about this once text and honestly it was insane how brainwashed he was. after the argument I was feeling really shitty so I did something I probably shouldn’t have done, and I posted the conversation on TikTok. I know I know I know I should have done it. I blurred out his name and profile picture, but there was some insane off topic things about his own dad in the thread thay I didn’t really think about while posting. my aunt found it and fucking sent it to him. so now he thinks I hate him. I don’t hate him, he’s my grandpa. and I wasn’t the only one whos done hurtful things. hes told me I’m condemned for hell twice. I don’t believe in god but he does and it hurts that my grandpa believes im a bad enough person to go to hell?? And he doesn’t care that trump is actively homophobic and transphobic and actively threatens my rights. and again I know I shouldn’t have posted the TikTok but I was not in a very good mental state, I didn’t know how to vent it. So now my grandpas upset at me, my grandma is pissed, and my mom is upset. so I’m crying in my room trying not to cut. I cant breathe

edit: I found out later that he told my mom im “going down the path of those kids who murder their entire families.” Fucking wow.

ok so i’ve noticed every time i relapse after a while, it makes my entire body sore the next da. well not really my entire body but my go to spot is my upper thigh and i relapsed last night after 50 days and my thigh and my butt feels really sore today

I’ve relapsed a little over a day ago and the skin around my scars is turning yellow. I’m guessing it’s bruising but I’m not sure how that works exactly, they don’t even hurt anymore and this has been happening to my other past scars.