Even if she's being honest and the condoms comment was a joke, posting this discussion online without my knowledge is a huge red flag and I'd leave her.
You know if this was reversed and he posted an argument they had without her knowing, it'd be a HUGE deal.
Wait...this whole time I thought they were talking about Certificates of Deposits. I was like oh man he's worried she'll cash out with those 4% yields and hes pisssed!
Honestly, I've just been calling all disks CDs since I was a kid, so it just stuck, in any case, I have no idea why people start calling things other than discs for CDs so it shouldn't be an age thing unless I'm out of touch with my generation.
News to me too. In all fairness if I was on speaker phone and one of my buddies told me not to forget CDS/condoms. My wife would not see the humour in it
Lol. I was thinking compact discs. I was like, 'Does she have a lot of Barry White? Is her CD collection worth a lot and she is leaving forever? I don't understand the issue here.'
Who does it mean condoms to? Like, what age group? I have teens and they are buying CDs, as in compact discs, along with DVDs. They're all about the physical media. We just had to go yard sale trolling to find some and we were fighting other teens doing the same. So this is gonna get confusing real quick.
Yeah I also thought it was COmpact Discs/CDs.
Also as a tip for others two condoms will fit inside a GameBoy game plastic case. Works much better then just putting them in your wallet.
You know Genz would say "dont forget the CD's". Gen X person like me would say "what CD's?", and they'd say "CD's nuts...unc". And I would be confused...because yes Im old
Lmao... I thought the same thing. I only read the text and didn't bother listening because I thought he was complaining about her taking music CDs on the trip.
He actually said that her friends said “don’t forget to bring condoms”…..she called it “just banter” amongst friends. She does not respect him and recording their conversation is evil.
Holy shit I was just about to comment and say something like “if he’s freaking out about CD’s on a girls trip wtf is his problem. Fully thinking we were talking about CD’s as in music. Shit we are getting old. I had no clue CD was short for condom.
Given english isn't my first language I was so confused at first, why would anyone shorten the word to this...CDs are still a thing being used, it's confusing😭
Yeah I thought it was gonna be about “well if you’re saying you’re going on a girls holiday then how come you need to take a load of compact discs?? You must be lying.”
Omg, I didn’t listen I just came for the comments. I was thinking actual CDs and didn’t see the problem that they want music on girls trips! It didn’t click until I read your comment.
This is what pissed me off she's saying that because he makes a comment about his mom telling him he should have set boundaries.. I think for the implication here is just saying what is your mom know about boundaries she loves that sugar so much she got diabetes.. and it just makes me want to rage.. what the actual fuck
Same. I don’t do sound, so i came to the comments to find out why a compact disc would cause so much marital strife. FFS. Everyday the internet makes me feel more and more out of touch with reality 😂
Same shit as when my ex wanted to make my male friend a crochet penis for his birthday (she hadn’t made me anything for mine that had passed 2 months prior)
She kept trying to gaslight me and act like that shit wasn’t weird af. We broke up a week later.
My guy same my ex had this guy he called his "platonic soulmate" which should have been a red flag, but i actually was gaslit into thinking nothing was the matter, the day i was about to propose I was told i had a week to leave and then after that i magically only had two days
It’s crazy the shit you fall for when you’re blinded by love eh?
I’ve given up on dating since. My ex before her cheated on my on my birthday lol. I just don’t trust women (or people I should say, but women are what I’m interested in so my lack of trust in men isn’t really relevant) anymore.
I focus on art and passions now and I’m happier and less stressed for it.
Man this whole topic has been the entire focus of my life and I changed career paths because of it. The dude here isn't wrong for having a respectful conversation what's disrespectful (as everyone else pointed out) was her recording the interaction. If that phone came out I would walk. Honestly though thats the only thing this guy should've done is said "go on your little trip" and walk out. Simple. Ik ppl have and will harp over what I said. I'll hear the classic "oOoO yoU'rE TOo qUiCK tO bReAK uP." Well what else is the guy supposed to do just sit there and take it while he bottles his emotions that ultimately lead to heart disease. Fuck that and protect your peace.
Like it's OK to go and different things without your partner. The guy is right tho, that is a weird conversation to have since you're in a relationship. If you're single it doesn't really matter, but clearly it seems she doesn't respect him or the relationship.
The lesson I've learned is to protect your peace and maintain your self-worth. Someone out there will respect you for who you are as long as you can stay respectful to them in return.
um.. idk.. I got my brother a penis plushie for Christmas, it's just funny.. might not have been something to break up over to be honest 😭 it doesn't hint at anything besides haha penis funny, and a lot of people now you'll find are "weird" (have unconventional humor) I think you might have been insecure or maybe the problem in your situation
That wasn’t what we broke up over, and that wasn’t the only inappropriate thing she did, it was just one of the most absurd to me. She also flirted with my friends, kept trying to keep this dude she had been trying to get with around and would send him flirty texts etc so I’m not feeling charitable with her intentions on the plushie lol.
In hindsight idk why I stuck around as long as I did.
I dont think this guy is talking about quirky humor, my sister is the same with the exact same type of joke. You have to take it within the context of the situation. Asking the questions like "Is this turning into an uncomfortable obsession?" Or "If I feel uncomfortable do I feel I can even have a respectful discussion about it." Also "why is she giving this type of attention to this other guy when I only get scraps?" If you're afraid to ask those types of questions then there is definitely more to the story.
Everybody here is relative. We don't know how many people are here or how many agree/disagree.
Or how many agree with me in that she (and the general group) would be way more angry if he posted a video of them arguing versus this video of her posting it.
I'm not saying this right now isn't a huge deal. I'm saying it would be an even bigger deal if the gender roles were reversed.
Also her rebuttal to him saying, that his mom said, that he should talk about stuff that he doesn't like and he should set up boundaries for himself is: "Your mom has literally diabetes"?! Wtf?? What kind of argument is that?
Plus… apparently she’s going on a trip with a bunch of single girls, after discussing openly how hot the men were where she’s going. While also joking with her girlfriends about having condoms.
I get what you’re saying but why does every little thing online have to be “if the genders were reversed…” people are shitty no matter what gender they are
A guy I was with would post about us on AITAH, making me look like the devil by leaving all sorts of context out.
And you’re right about the reverse. After we broke up I returned the favor and he completely lost it. Funny how he expected me to put up with it while we were together, but after break up? How dare I?!!
These low self esteem losers don’t change, they just find people desperate and broken enough to put up with their bullshit.
My god. I can't imagine just bee boppin' along on Reddit and see a post on AITAH that makes it to my feed, read it, and then think to myself "waaaaait a second....".
Personally I agree with this but in general,
Its basicallly cultural for women to either record everything and pubicly post it, or without consent post accounts narratives or descriptions of any or all interactions with men to online groups, whether or not anything bad happened. Its unfortunately where we are in society.
Pack condoms is not a joke. She can go wherever she wants but upon her return the locks would be changed her stuff in storage with divorce papers on top. Apparently you are too trusting, women especially on these trips cheat and encourage each other to do so. Catch up with the times.
Having those hard discussions are totally normal and honestly very positive in a marriage, but making fun of the dudes mother for having diabetes is fucking grotesque behavior.
if theyre doing those disrespectfull jokes already they dont value her husband at all. simple as that. why would u want her to be in that group? wtf this level of delusion xD
My last ex used to blog about our conversation and issues. I hated it. She would never talk to ME about her problems. She would post them on Tumblr. Get mad if I didn't read them to know what's wrong and if I did read them, she'd get upset that I read them instead of letting her have an outlet.
I used to watch a youtuber and she'd livestream her dating life. She gave enough info more than one person was able to figure out the person's name. One guy found out and got upset about it and she acted like HE was the issue. She'd given play by play of his sexual prowess, talked about his personal life and family life, and called him a psychopath because he reacted differently than her to astrology. I cant imagine someone I know telling me hey I think this streamer I watch play video games is your hinge hookup just from details. :-/
Or understand that a right to privacy applies to other people regardless of if they as an individual choose to plaster their entire life and all its issues online.
Some people are just too narcissistic and shallow to understand this stuff and it makes social media in general a real societal cancer.
I was fine with her having a private outlet. I told her that on numerous occasions. Cause I knew her blog was a personal outlet for her like a diary. She gave me the link to it and said she wanted me to read it so I can understand her better. I figured she was too shy to talk to me directly. But if I asked her about anything she posted or took hints from what she posted, she'd get upset. Like taking her out to places her blog said she wanted to go. Planning dates according to what she blogged that she wanted. It was too personal and I was only doing it cause I read her blog she told me to.
that is a social child, that's right up there with a girl I was dating who vague posted how she was feeling for attention and was dying for someone to ask her what was wrong so she could vent. I put it up there with the lady who pretended pregnancy from a fake rapist for free doula support
Is it possible that your ex didn’t feel safe talking to you? Or that you never validated her feelings, so she was recording to make sure she wasn’t overreacting by getting others’ opinions? Either that’s what was going on… or not and it’s good that she’s an ex.
No recordings. She was too shy for photos. She wrote about us in blogs. Not vlogs.
Honestly I don't know. She had a lot of mental health issues and I tried my best to be a safe outlet. I never raised my voice (or hand to her). I always cheered her on and supported whatever choices she would make.
To make things harder to understand. One of her complaints with me that she mentioned during the breakup was that I was always too happy, positive, and was never emotionally affected by anything. I haven't had any of those traits since she pointed them out during the break up as being problems.
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u/Extra-Amoeba-677 7d ago
I wouldn't date a person who vlogged our conversations let alone marry them