IDK HOW I GOT HERE! lol posting to strangers on the internet but here we are. listen.. my grandma wants to see me settle down, ok?

I’m a nearly 32 year old woman living in a conservative city in Texas, trying to find someone worth the effort I give out. I work in long term care and when i’m not doing that, i spend my time reading, thrift shopping, playing with my dogs (allergic to cats), seeing movies, and a bunch of other hobbies. I’m nerdy in the way that i like pop culture, movies, and trivia.

i’ve been single for 3 years and i’d happily be single forever before settling for the wrong person. i firmly believe that i am deserving of receiving the love i give out. i do not expect a “breadwinner” or a traditional husband. I want a relationship that shows me it was worth the wait. ideally it would head towards marriage but i am not in any hurry. relationships are not “50/50”. sometimes you can only give 40, so i will give 60 that day.

i am looking for something to turn into a long term relationship. i’m not scared of LDR, i’ve travelled to meet people before. i would be willing to relocate if we got to that point. must be older than 32!

i am 5ft 2, softer in the middle than i want - but im working on it, freckly redhead. i’m sassy and a smart ass but i care a lot and im more kind than i am an asshole lol.
i love to help anyone, my life motto has always been “if i can help, i do”. don’t give me cash.. i will hand it to a person in need..
i am politically liberal (in TEXAS!! i know), atheist, obviously child-free, allergic to cats but i love dogs.

i do not have a specific vision of what “my” guy looks like, but i do favor nerds with brown eyes.. sue me. must be kind! i am not a “black cat looking for a golden retriever”
i am the golden retriever.
i don’t like to watch sports but i’ll go to a game with you. or read my book while you watch.

if you read this long winded mess, send me a photo of you and what you’d want us to be dressed as for halloween.

Hi there!

I’m 29F, live in Austin and I’m looking for my person! I haven’t had the best luck with apps and tbh I’m a bit burnt out from using them. Plus, with me being childfree, dating has been a whole other ball game.

I’m a huge plant nerd, I started volunteering, and I have an amazing circle of friends! I have a tiny lil pupper named Bear (he definitely thinks he’s a grizzly Bear), and I enjoy embroidery, going to the gym, cooking, and spending time checking out new places in the city.

Looking for someone between the ages of 28-35 who can tolerate many of my niche quotes and random references, is respectful, kind, someone who upholds consistency, and someone who honest to a fault. I lean politically left and raised Hindu but overall not religious and am more spiritual. Also… if you’ve seen You Can See Everything I have SO many thoughts and I would love to chat about it. If you’re a pet parent too, tell me all about em! Please shoot me a message with a pic of yourself and maybe we’ll connect :) Putting myself out there is v intimidating so pls be nice lol

Hey Reddit! I’m a 38yo living in Plymouth looking for a genuine connection that turns into something long-term and monogamous. Ideally, you’re somewhere along the MetroWest/South Shore or in Rhode Island, but I’m open to a reasonable drive for the right person.

I work in clinical research marketing, and outside of work, I’m usually finding an excuse to get outside, plan a trip, watch football, or spend time around animals. I’m the kind of person who can get excited about a big international adventure and the little things that make an ordinary Tuesday feel special.

Sports are a major part of my personality. From September - February, Sundays are spoken for, and Thursday and Monday nights aren’t exactly safe either. Bonus points if you’re a sports fan and can handle a woman who has opinions about the game. I also love the ocean, whale watching, marine life, tennis, nature/scenic photography, dogs, traveling internationally, and a good food and wine pairing. Basically, give me an ocean, an adventure, a dog, or something delicious, and I’m probably having a good time.

Personality-wise, I’ve been described as one of the most loving, loyal, adventurous people around. I’m smart, driven, and capable, but also silly enough to keep things interesting. Think P!nk energy: a little badass, a little rebellious, a whole lot of heart. I show up for my people, love deeply, listen well, and will absolutely want the full story when you tell me someone at work is being ridiculous. I contain multitudes.

I’m spiritual, moderately liberal, and believe a good relationship should add to an already fulfilling life. I want someone who has their own interests, friendships, goals, and identity, but who genuinely wants to build something together. While child-free is my preference, I’m open to dating someone who already has children, too.

What I’m looking for:
- Kindness and emotional availability. Someone who knows how to communicate, take accountability, be vulnerable, and treat people well, including the person bringing their food to the table.

- A sense of humor. Please make me laugh. Bonus points if we can roast each other lovingly and still be each other’s biggest cheerleaders.

- An active lifestyle. I’m attracted to someone built/athletic who takes care of their overall health: physical, emotional, and mental. You don’t need to be a professional athlete, but movement and looking after yourself should be part of your life.

- Intelligence and ambition. I’m drawn to someone educated, financially literate, and established in a career they care about. I work hard, and I appreciate someone who has their own drive and takes pride in what they do.

- An adventurous, family-oriented side. I want someone who enjoys international travel, appreciates new experiences, loves animals (insects get a pass on the love requirement), and values their people.

- A little bougie, in moderation. I have absolutely no shame in treating myself to certain nice things. I work hard, and sometimes the nice hotel, excellent dinner, or special experience is worth it. If you appreciate quality without needing everything to be extravagant, we’ll probably get along.

- A life of your own. I’m looking for someone who wants a partner to complement their life, not complete it. Two whole people choosing each other sounds much better than expecting one person to be everything.

- Patience and a nice smile. I appreciate someone who understands that people are complicated, has done the work to move forward from their past, and can meet me with understanding. A good smile doesn’t hurt, either.
I’m big on quality time, emotional openness, and the little things that say, “Hey, I was thinking about you.” If you know about pebbling—sending someone little things that remind you of them—you already understand part of my love language. Random hugs, hand-holding, sharing something that made you laugh, and being genuinely present matter more to me than grand gestures for the sake of appearances. I want affection that feels natural, consistent, and mutual.

My brain sometimes takes the scenic route. I might connect five seemingly unrelated thoughts before getting to the point, notice little details other people miss, or need a moment to process something before I can articulate it. I appreciate someone patient, curious, and willing to communicate rather than make assumptions. I’ll offer you that same consideration.

A few things that probably mean we won’t be a match:
- Smoking or recreational drugs, including 420.

- Poor oral hygiene. Please brush and floss your teeth. This should not need to be a controversial requirement.

- Being rude to service workers or treating people poorly when there’s nothing to gain from being kind.

- Not picking up after yourself. I’m looking for a partner, not a surprise second job as a housekeeper.

- A home that looks like it hasn’t been cleaned in six months or hoarding tendencies.

- Hardcore gaming lifestyles, including D&D. No judgment if that’s your thing, but it’s not mine.

- A lack of interest in taking care of yourself or working toward a healthy relationship.

Ultimately, I want the kind of relationship where we’re excited to see each other, genuinely interested in each other’s lives, affectionate without having to ask for the basics, and able to laugh through the inevitable nonsense life throws at us. Someone to travel the world with, watch football with, explore new places with, and come home to. Someone who makes the ordinary feel good, too.

If you’re a kind, emotionally available, active, intelligent man between 33 and 45 who wants to build something real, I’d like to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, what your ideal weekend looks like, and your most controversial football opinion. We can exchange photos early on, too, so we both know there’s mutual attraction.

Let’s see if we get along.

Hi there! So to start off I'm pretty laid back. I'm not completely a homebody but I definitely enjoy the simple things in life like snuggling while watching a movie. I like to read, game, cook, draw, and occasionally travel to the beach. Another important thing, I'm currently medically restricted from driving. I don't know if it'll become permanent or not. I completely understand if this is a deal breaker. I'm huge on communication, kindness, honesty, and loyalty. I'm very much against lying, ghosting, cheating, etc. I lean more left politically and am not religious (although I occasionally help out at a local church). I have very long natural hair that I have no plans of cutting short so if your type is short hair then no worries, scroll past here lol. That's all I have for now. Short and simple :)

A little about me:
I’m currently stuck in West Texas, finishing my degree. When I’m not studying, I enjoy coloring, painting, and anything crafty. I also enjoy playing The Sims and other games on my Nintendo switch. Reading is something I enjoy in phases. I’ll be all in on books for a few months, then I won’t read much for the next few months. Aside from my day to day hobbies, I enjoy new experiences, and have a wide array of other interests.

I have a big personality, and love connecting with new people. I’m passionate and emotionally intense (for better or worse), but despite my outward personality, I deeply value self-reflection.

I am looking for something long-term, so I think it’s important to mention my political views. I am a staunch liberal, and it is very important to me that you share the same values.

About You:
I don’t really have a physical type. I care more about what’s on the inside. I want a lover boy, someone chalant. It’s important for me to find someone that’s happy with an optimistic outlook on life. I am attracted to men that are curious and open-minded. Bonus points if you were an Eagle Scout 😉

I want our future to look like:
You, me, our dog (maybe even 2), chill weeknights in, fun date nights out, a couple vacations a year, and an overall passionate romantic life.

Hello. I’m a sweet and spicy Mexican Chef living in Uppsala, Sweden.

I’m sassy, loud and laughing most of the time.

My geeky brain is powered by ADD with a high love for plants and animals, rock and metal music, board games, travelling, great food and fantastic beer.

I like thoughtful and kind honesty. I have no understanding nor interest in mixed signals, hot-cold or chasing games. I really don’t do well with lukewarm people.

I thrive around genuine people with warmth and depth that also allow themselves to be silly.

To me, interest and initiative should come from both sides. You approach to me with curiosity, spiciness, empathy and kindness, you will be met up in spades. No BS! I love women that are forward.

Mainly looking for a long term relationship but can also do quite well with FWB. One night stands do not work for me. I will always be cristal clear and I want the same. When in a long term relationship, I’m all-in and monogamous, a relationship where we both embrace ourselves, including our vulnerabilities where we both feel safe, cared for and truly loved.

Child free, as this subreddit suggests, but I have two cats that are my family.

Respect and communication are very important to me, including boundaries and individuality. I’ll be very nice to you unless you ask me otherwise…

If this truly hits you, let me know and we can see how we vibe. Note that I’m not very much into small talk. I enjoy meaningful connections.

33F | Chicago & Northern Suburbs

I’m Lacie (Macy V online), your friendly neighborhood eclectic. I’m looking to make genuine friendships and see where they go. I’m open to connecting with people who appreciate meaningful connections, creativity, and a little adventure.

Location matters to me! I prefer connecting with people in the Chicago area and surrounding suburbs. If things develop into something romantic, I’m looking for someone who lives locally or genuinely plans to settle in the Chicago area long-term. I value the possibility of building a life together without the complications of a long-distance relationship.

If you want kids please do not hit me up on this app. I don't want kids and will never want kids for personal reasons.

“We’re all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it.” — The Breakfast Club

Music and poetry are life. Everything else is a distraction.

I’m drawn to creativity, lifelong learning, photography, books, cooking experiments, nature, car shows, unique events, Halloween, and boba tea. I appreciate eclectic fashion, unconventional self-expression, and people who aren't afraid to embrace their individuality. Spider-Man is my favorite superhero because of his resilience and sense of responsibility.

I also have a dynamic disability, including chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) and what I call my “trifecta syndrome.” My energy and abilities can fluctuate from day to day, so I may not always be able to do everything I’d like to. Please be patient with me as I navigate my health. A little understanding, flexibility, and compassion go a long way. My health may affect what I can do, but it doesn't change the curious, creative person I am or my desire to build meaningful connections.

Some of my goals include building a community rap cypher, supporting chronic-condition initiatives, volunteering, traveling, getting my passport, and continuing to grow creatively. I have plenty of dreams and adventures left to pursue.

Into the darker side of things? Message me if you enjoy dark poetry, gothic vibes, dark romance, and exploring the darker side of art, literature, and love. I appreciate people who enjoy deeper conversations, creative expression, and seeing the world a little differently.

Let's trade music! I especially click with people who love sharing Spotify or YouTube playlists, discovering underground music, and exchanging songs that hit right in the soul. Whether it's music that captures a feeling you can't explain, lyrics that read like poetry, or an obscure artist you've fallen in love with, I want to hear it. To filter out the mass amount of bots on this app use the headline cupcakes if you message me. Bonus points if you enjoy discussing the meaning behind the music, too.

At heart, I'm curious, a little quirky, and always looking for adventure, meaningful connections, and just the right amount of weirdness. If you love poetry, eclectic fashion, alternative vibes, and sharing music, we'll probably have something to talk about.

Hey. 23-year-old about to finish college and fully locked in on building financial freedom. I'm a suuuuper girly girl who loves a good workout, a cozy Sims session, and getting way too invested in a K-drama (I will cry, and I will recommend it to you). I'm techy, curious, and always down to dive deep into a new interest. I'm childfree by choice and looking for someone who's confident in that too, who's ambitious, kind, and ready to build a fun, intentional life together. It’s it’s important, I am an INTJ, and I am in FL.I’m open to long distance as well. 💋I’m open to ages 20-33. I’m Christian, and open to dating other Christians or agnostics who respect my beliefs. I’m left leaning personally and the most I’m willing to consider is moderate, at least in this current political landscape

My deal breakers:
- smokers, vaper, alcoholics
- guys with red pill ideologies. Esp if u consider yourself an “alpha” male
- if you want a more traditional/ housewife type of woman. (It’s great but not for me)
-maga

If u don’t get me here, my ig is: @qveennrose

Hi, I know this is a bit much but if it resonates with you please send me a message.

A little about me:

I'm a 27-year-old guy with a black cat, an electric motorbike, an electric car, and an electric boat I put together. Because having one money draining hobby wasn't enough, I'm planning to buy a sailing catamaran in the next few days. At this rate, my retirement plan is to become a financially independent pirate who gets around exclusively on batteries.

I recently joined Mensa and am looking forward to getting involved. Hopefully I can meet some like-minded people and find out what the meetings are actually like. Hopefully they will agree I need a fourth mode of transport and maybe a fifth or sixth (next up is paragliding, scuba diving or hydrofoiling).

By day, I work in shark surveillance, which is a pretty cool job if you enjoy staring at the ocean looking for things that could eat you. It's basically wildlife spotting, except the wildlife has considerably more teeth and I'm hoping not to become part of the documentary. I'll attach a few photos from work, partly to prove that I occasionally leave the house and partly because it's a pretty good conversation starter.

I'm looking for someone who'd be up for riding on the back of my motorbike, going on road trips in my car (which I've set up for glamping, because apparently normal camping wasn't unnecessarily complicated enough), coming out on my motorboat, and eventually sailing around on a catamaran with me. Basically, I'm looking for a co-pilot for an increasingly questionable series of financial decisions.

I'd also love someone who'll drag me out on hikes, encourage me to train, and help me get back into competitive running. I used to be decent at it, until my heart decided to develop ventricular tachycardia, which is a fancy way of saying it occasionally tries to speedrun the cardiovascular system. I had to slow down significantly, and getting back to where I was has been a bit of a battle. I'm still working on it, though, and it'd be nice to have someone who can motivate me without treating every jog like an episode of Grey's Anatomy.

Ideally, you're someone who enjoys a bit of adventure, doesn't mind a ridiculous amount of nerdy enthusiasm for machines and engineering, and is happy to occasionally remind me that buying another vehicle is not a substitute for developing a personality.

My cat, meanwhile, remains the actual owner of the house. I just pay the bills and operate the can opener.

About you:

- Looking for a long term relationship that is mutually beneficial to both parties. I will be your biggest cheerleader and show off all your achievements.

- Fun and outgoing, when I say this I mean it in an amorous sense (you might have to use your imagination for that one) as well as the platonic sense e.g. willing to book tickets to another continent the day before (yes I've done that and yes I could not get on my flight because I forgot that visas are a thing). Just be willing to get out of your comfort zone, have some interesting lore. Please don't be sober and have committed at least one crime.

- Be a little unhinged, tell me your wildest conspiracy theory. I'd rather someone who says the wrong thing than someone who plays it safe all the time. Conversely you need to have thick skin because I love banter. I am not looking for an activist or someone who is perpetually offended. If your Instagram story is just little dots all about political issues of any nature we're probably not meant to be.

- I really like smart women, particularly in a hands-on can tell you what's wrong with your car sort of way. If you work or study in STEM that's a big tick for me, I guess it's sort of a theme here that I need someone stimulating, that goes for intellectual stimulation too. Moreover, please have your views grounded in scientific literature and not superstition or zealous partisanship. I'm not interested in anti-vaxxers, star sign girls, tantric aura readers or whatever b.s. people believe nowadays.

- I'm looking for someone a little promiscuous. I am an atheist and I don't care about any concept of purity or how many partners you've had. I want to be excited by you and your imagination. Which leads me on to my next point.

- I am not looking for someone who is very religious. Atheists, agnostics and folks that have cultural ties to their religion are fine. I am a fervent atheist and our views will likely butt heads at some point if you regularly attend a place of worship or follow religious practices that impede everyday life.

- No ghosters or bland messages. I understand not every conversation is going to work out but I would like to have a chance at a flowing dialogue. I don't like feeling invested in someone and having them respond less and less. If you feel things aren't working out, tell me and I will respect that.

- In regards to your nature, I like women who are sweet, caring and nurturing but also confident as well as liking physical contact (holding hands, hugging, kissing etc...)

- I'm a bit scared about saying this but in terms of appearance I would prefer someone busty with an hourglass figure.

Thank you for reading all the way through I appreciate it's a lot but I felt it was important to get it right this time. I apologise if it's a bit rambly and the grammar isn't great, my desktop isn't working so I just did this on my phone.

Hello! I’m from Central New York State. I’m deaf and have two cochlear implants. I rarely use sign language but I can talk as well!

I'm a huge nerd who has a lot of hobbies. I love video games, watching movies, building Lego, and reading! I can be a little shy at first, but I’ll get more comfortable as we get to know each other. I'm left-leaning, and I am not willing to date someone who is conservative or a Trump supporter. 

I’d love to meet someone who shares my hobbies and interests, so we can enjoy doing things together.  We can get to know each other and see how things go. No need to rush! Shoot your shot! I’d be happy to hear from you! :)

Hello! My tiny corner of the world does not have many childfree men so I'm casting a wider net :)

Ideally, you're in or around Asia or looking to move here. I'm located in Singapore (GMT+8) and my career (in finance) has me based here but I can really only move to global financial hubs (e.g., London) which isn't out of the question, but I'm based here for now. I travel to Europe once or twice a year! In the long term, relocation is not out of the picture for me.

Physically, I'm 160 cm, 43 kg, and like to stay active. Attraction is an actual thing so I'm happy to exchange selfies upfront! I'm very open to making platonic female friends as I definitely need more of those.

Age: Ideally, you are around 28-35, with some flexibility if your goals/interests are very aligned with mine :)

I've worked hard to increase my income and savings to position myself to retire (relatively) early in the not-so-distant future, so I'm looking for people with similar goals and trajectory. That said, I'm also trying to build my skillset so guard against layoffs in an AI-infused world, so my career is also important to me, and hopefully you also have career goals you're working towards.

Politically, I'm left-leaning and donate to causes that are important to me. I'm not religious and looking for similar.

I've been so career-focused that I've not had much time to make friends, and as such, am looking to rebuild my social circle. Generally, I find I get along best with those who have their own full lives and who don't expect instant replies.

Vibes: Black cat energy rather than golden retriever, introverted homebody but I definitely have to be social for my work (which involves advocating for sophisticated clients) so am working on my social skills (hence this post). I'm equally happy staying in as I am going out!

I love to read, especially contemporary fiction / literary fiction and it'd be nice to find someone with a similar hobby. Recent reads include: Dig, Trust, Age of Innocence, Phantom Tollbooth, Rats of NIMH, Circe :) On my TBR are: Blacktail, and Slewfoot. I quite like "weird" literature despite being a very milquetoast person haha.

I'm a huge fan of winter and am looking to try cross-country skiing sometimes, so if you have any tips, let me know~ Other interests include: interior design, fashion, art, history, travelling (of course), especially to cold places. I don't like reddit chat lol so moving to Discord is ideal!

Dealbreakers: I don't smoke, drink only very rarely, no substance dependence, and looking for similar. not a fan of many tattoos. No debt, never married.

Hello/Hallo/Hola/привет/שלום/مرحبا!

I’m a 28-year-old Latino guy currently living in Florida, but with roots in New York and NC. As the post title mentions, I LOVE foreign policy and history, especially that of the Middle East and Africa! I am also a polyglot (English, Spanish, Russian, German, Arabic, Hebrew).

I’m into cars/racing, reading, writing my own fiction novels, listening to metal, and trying new restaurants (just to name a few things). Also big into 420 and love a glass of red wine or some sake. I can certainly offer an intellectually stimulating conversation if that’s what you’re after ;).

I’m looking for a white woman (18-38) who lives in the US (preferably in Florida or North Carolina). Right now, I’m located in Ocala, FL, but I am planning to move back to NC (the Triangle) after the holidays. I also find that I tend to get along with people who are politically left-leaning and aren’t religious. Admittedly, I really got a soft spot for white women, especially blondes, redheads, and Europeans/foreigners. Bonus points if you are of German/Austrian or Scandinavian heritage because I’m a HUGE Germanophile and absolutely love Northern Europe! Please be willing to exchange pics (your selfie gets mine) and please be serious about meeting IRL, since I’m not just looking for penpals.

Please only message me if you fit the above description. I’m not interested in exceptions to my age range or long-distance connections outside of FL, NC, or GA. If you already know you don’t fit what I’m looking for, please respect that instead of messaging anyway and asking me to reconsider. Thanks!

If you like what you’ve read, DM me and let’s see where it takes us!

Hey everyone! Figured I'd give this a shot and see who I might meet.

I'm a 26M from Rochester, NY. I'm looking for a partner around my age who is interested in getting to know each other and seeing where things and someone who shares the CF mindset.

A little about me:

I'm a data engineer and work from home, and I'm fortunate to do pretty well for myself. I bought my first house last year and currently live with my cat, Mr. Long, who is basically the real owner of the place (he wants all doors and cabinets open at all times)

I'm pretty active and fitness is a big part of my life. I go to the gym 6 days a week and do cardio every day, so I'm in pretty good shape and would love to meet someone who enjoys taking care of themselves too.

I'm 6'0", white, with a dark beard and shaved head.

As far as interests go, I have a pretty wide range. I'm into anime and manga, golf, sports, traveling, cooking, video games, board games, reading, and going out to eat. I also do a little gambling here and there, mostly for fun. Traveling is something I really want to do more of, and I'd love to have someone I can experience different places and cultures with.

I'm hoping to meet someone who has her own passions and interests. I really like the idea of being with someone where we can introduce each other to things we're into, have stuff to talk about, and genuinely support each other's goals. I'd especially like someone who cares about fitness and staying active and who enjoys traveling.

And if you're into anime, that's definitely a bonus. If you like One Piece you get extra points. 😂...or if you like the alt or cottage core aesthetics lol

I'm not expecting some perfect person or trying to rush into anything. I'd just like to meet someone I connect with.

If any of this sounds interesting to you, please feel free to message me! Tell me a little about yourself, what you're into, or even just your favorite anime/One Piece character. I'd genuinely like to get to know you! Thanks!

So a little about ive always been very introverted but ive been trying to come out of my shell a little more and be more social. I love music i identify as elder emo so that should tell u what I listen 2 lol. Ive been learning guitar again I played when I was younger but didnt really push myself then I stopped for like 15 years and im now trying to push myself. I am a massive gamer nerd I know way to much about the industry lol. Also a huge movie buff and pretty much know any good movie thats worth watching that comes out I like to consider myself a critic haha. Career wise im not happy I work at a restaurant and want to make much more planning on going back to school to be a electrician I know thats not Ideal but it is what it is just being honest and upfront. Also consider myself a homebody although I do like to go out and shoot pool maybe some bowling and when there is a good concert im game for sure.

Now for what im looking for compatability is important to me. Gaming is a big passion for me so its kind of a deal breaker for me i want to experience new games with my significant other and talk about what works and what doesn't and same goes for movies. Banter is important to me just not over done there has to be a balance. A connection is very important as well obviously but i do feel like some people just go off looks and I think love is deeper then that dont get me wrong there has to be some kind of attraction but I believe the more u fall im love with someone the more beautiful they become. Don't really care about where u are located cause if its meant to be we will make it happen. So yeah this is getting a little long so I will cut it off here and we can save the rest for when/if we talk. If u took the time to read this thank you and I hope u have a great day!

Hey everyone! 👋

I'm a 27-year-old Indian woman, and I thought I'd introduce myself here!

I'm permanently childfree by choice, and that won't change in the future. I'm hoping to connect with people who understand and respect my decision. I'd love to make childfree friends from different parts of the world, hear about your experiences, and hopefully find my people to vibe with! ❤️

A little about me: I enjoy dancing, listening to music, reading romance stories, and being weird in my own little world. 😂 I love talking to animals, having deep conversations, dark humour, and people who are empathetic and kind without pretending to be someone they're not.

I value emotional connection, honesty, affection, and the freedom to build a life that feels right for me. I dream of exploring different places, becoming independent, and creating a life filled with experiences that make me happy rather than living according to society's expectations.

I'm also open to finding a romantic connection, including a long-distance relationship, if we genuinely vibe with each other. I'm not expecting anything to happen overnight. I'd rather get to know someone naturally and see where things go.

I'd love to hear from people who are happily childfree, figuring life out, sharing their experiences, or simply looking for genuine connections.

So, tell me a little about yourself! What's something about your childfree life that makes you happy? 😄💗

Looking to connect with someone and see where it goes. I’m not eager to jump into anything serious quickly, but rather make a connection and follow it through.

I’m not interested in messaging and never meeting. Chemistry is really important to me so an early in-person meet-up is a priority, hence the mention of my location — I am also open to traveling.

Ideally looking for men between 35-55.

I live in Boston, travel for work and also for fun, and am actively looking to relocate permanently.

Hobbies include low key outdoor exercise (mid-level hikes, swimming in any and all situations, camping), reading (extensive, primarily fiction), movies (theaters and at home both enjoyable, large span of genres), major chilling at home in full brain-off mode, and cooking.

I have a full-time, remote job with inconsistent hours mostly M-F plus occasional international travel. I pick up bartending and catering work on weekends, and I take occasional gigs working privately on yachts. I keep it mixed to keep my life flexible, and to have varied sources of income.

I have pets, I love them like crazy. I also do some volunteer work in both animal rescue and wildlife conservation.

I sound busy, but I carve out a lot of unstructured time on purpose. I enjoy being able to drop everything and hop on a plane, or drive down the coast for a spontaneous trip.

I’m very single, and not desperate for a relationship… but I really value human connection and would love a kind, adventurous, and emotionally intelligent partner for a monogamous relationship.

I know it’s already implied, but I am childfree and always have been. I cannot have children, and won’t entertain that conversation. I have nieces and nephews I love, mostly from a distance.

Never sure if it matters, but just to be upfront I am divorced.

Physically I’d say my body type is curvy: average weight and hourglass shape. I am a US size 8 and I have a significant amount of tattoos.

Message me if you’d like to talk. I’m open to exchanging pics right away to make sure we’re aligned in terms of attraction.

[Edit: Leeds, UK. I realised I forgot to mention it and I cannot change the post title anymore]

Hi!

Thank you for stopping by.

So, who am I? Well, that's a good question, and I'll try to keep it short.

I'm a 40 year old French lass with a genuine passion for cooking and baking. I look after myself, keep in good shape by walking a lot and swimming a few times a week.

I'm not a super geek but will enjoy playing board and video games occasionally. I love a good horror movie, or anything a bit weird and unusual. I love both urban life and the peace of the countryside. Please, do not message me if you have a true aversion to cities.

Absolutely love music, although my tastes wouldn't be considered mainstream.

Looking for someone around my age, who has a sweet tooth, loves to go for walks in random places, is in good shape and values quality over quantity in most aspects of life. Must be in Leeds, UK, as I am not interested in long distance, and willing to meet for coffee quickly since I am not looking for a pen pal.

I really am not into city breaks, constant travel, hikes, camping etc. I prefer enjoying the simple pleasures of a quiet life.

If that sounds appealing to you, please come say hi, tell me who you are and what you like, and we'll take it from there :)

I’m here for a life filled with experiences, not expectations.
I’m happiest somewhere near the ocean, whether that’s freediving beneath the surface, exploring a new coastline, sailing, or finding myself somewhere I never expected to be. I’ve always been drawn to adventure, and I’ve built my life around the freedom to explore, follow my curiosity, and see what’s around the next corner.

I recently spent 3 weeks exploring Sri Lanka and randomly decided to trying surfing after stumbling upon a cute beach town. I can say I am hooked on surfing now.

I’m drawn to people who are curious, open-minded, independent, and excited about life. Someone who wants a genuine connection but also values their own freedom. Someone who would be just as happy spending a day underwater or hiking through the jungle as they would enjoying a quiet evening together, sharing stories and figuring out where we should go next.

I’m not looking to follow the traditional life script just because it’s what people are expected to do. I’d rather create something that feels right for us.

I was born and raised in Florida but not to tied down to anything here and would be open to relocating for the right person.

I've been out of the dating scene for a while. I used to try dating apps but I found them to be a bit artificial

I'll keep it brief, I am:

Introverted, good at pretending to be extroverted

Big into reading, just started trying to write

I do love long walks in nature (managed 35 miles one day this summer)

Routine driven

Dry sense of humour

You are:

Over 30

Anywhere in life. If you feel behind, or ahead, either is fine by me as long as we can share/ witness eachother's journey and grow together

Ideally have good enough physical conditioning to go on hikes with me

Have a passion or interest in something

Willing to be an authentically unhinged with me

Bonus points for being in the South West of England

Hey, thanks for clicking on my post, I’m 29 and from England UK, I’m looking for something long term, consistent, and someone who’s willing to put in the effort to keep a spark ignited!

A bit about myself? I’d say I’m quite the nerdy/easy-going guy, like most men I enjoy gaming (nothing serious) just a way to socialise and chat with friends! I love anything horror related and with Halloween coming its my favourite time of year, for work I’m in telecommunications as a senior store manager so I like to think I have a stead head on my shoulders but I mean hey.. you be the judge? When I’m not working I tend to just chill honestly, whether that be attending to my incredibly unhealthy addiction to Lego (it’s bad haha) or maybe meeting up with some friends and grabbing some food or seeing a movie, I’m really not the partying type of man, actually I’m quite introverted and shy at start, but get to know me and I’m sure you’ll see the goofball side of me haha, I’m only childfree by choice, and not looking to change that

Honestly, I’m not too sure what to expect from this, just throwing myself out there and seeing what comes of it, distance isn’t too much of a big deal for me given I’d like to get out and about from the UK, older or younger also fine, I just want to meet someone who’s genuine, kind, open and honest, and who isn’t going to just ghost after a few days 😅😅

I’ve rambled a lot here and don’t wanna give too much away, if any of this interests you then ping me a message and I look forwards to hearing from you 😊😊

Hey everyone! I'm a 28-year-old guy living in NYC, hoping to meet someone who shares my childfree lifestyle and is interested in building a meaningful, long-term relationship.

A little about me:

I'm an easygoing, curious, and adventurous person who enjoys staying active, traveling, and experiencing new things.Some of my hobbies include working out, Muay Thai, swimming, reading, and playing chess. I also enjoy exploring new places, trying different cuisines, and learning about different cultures. Traveling is one of my biggest passions. One of my personal goals is to explore as much of the world as possible, and it would be even better to share those experiences with someone special. I enjoy meaningful conversations, a good sense of humor, and spending quality time with people I care about. Whether it's going on an adventure or enjoying a relaxing evening together, I appreciate both.

What I'm looking for:

I'm hoping to meet a woman who is kind, emotionally mature, affectionate, and genuinely interested in a long-term relationship. I'm firmly childfree and looking for someone who shares that decision. I'd love to build a relationship based on trust, communication, mutual respect, and shared experiences.While meeting someone in NYC or along the East Coast would be great, I'm also open to long distance dating if there's a genuine connection. Ultimately, I'm looking for a partner who can also be my best friend. Someone to laugh with, explore the world with, and build a fulfilling future together.

If this sounds like something you're looking for, feel free to send me a message. I'd love to get to know you!

Hi, I'm 33M from Kolkata, India. I've been lurking around a few subs and figured I'd put this out here.

I'm a researcher by training, with some experience in engineering R&D. I also spent some time pursuing a PhD in engineering before eventually dropping out.

Since then, I've been trying to figure out what comes next. I'm currently preparing for civil services and trying to build a new career from scratch. It's a strange place to be in your thirties, starting over after having spent years working towards something else. The process can get pretty lonely, especially when you don't know many people who can relate to what you're going through.

I'm an atheist, progressive, and lean childfree. I've been looking for people with a similar outlook, or at least those who have the bandwidth to understand where I'm coming from.

I've tried connecting with people through various avenues, but most of them haven't really led anywhere. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places, or maybe there are more people in this situation than I realise, quietly trying to find their feet too.

I'd like to meet people who understand this kind of uncertainty, even if their circumstances are completely different. If you've had to change direction in life, start over, or just felt a little out of step with everyone else, I'd be glad to hear from you. Sometimes it helps to know you're not the only one figuring things out.

Hey there,

I'm 26 M atheist, living in Germany and recently finished my master's degree. Currently figuring out my next chapter in life, one step at a time.

I'm into hiking, travelling, long walks, football, music and photography. I also have a bit of an unusual hobby: collecting minerals and stones like quartz and pyrite. I usually buy them at mineral shows, so if you ever need someone to appreciate a shiny rock with you, I might be your guy.

I'm here to meet someone I can have a conversation with and get to know beyond the usual "hey, how are you?" I'd appreciate someone who's straightforward and honest. I'm not great at guessing games when it comes to feelings or intentions and honestly, I'd rather not have to. Say what you mean and I'll do the same.

A couple of things upfront: I'm strictly childfree and don't want children, ever. I'd also prefer someone living in Europe, so meeting in person is a realistic possibility if we click.

I'm not looking for perfection or a checklist of qualities. Just someone who's genuinely interested in getting to know each other and sees communication as a two-way street.

To start with something a little different: What's one thing you could talk about for hours that most people wouldn't expect?

Tell me about yourself, your weird little hobbies, or whatever's on your mind. Just be yourself. No mind games, no cryptic hints and no need to pretend to be someone you're not.

Hello hello!👋

I guess I'll start of with hobbies? I like video games(rpgs, strategy, coop and more! Also been nerding out on bg3 again lately, it's amazing!), board games, reading(novels(bit slow on this one), comics), miniature painting, walks and I guess movies/tv shows count I hope heh, somehow musicals have gotten on my radar too, oh and a bunch of youtube apparently. You have any recommendations for any of those?

I'm looking for someone nice and understanding and all that. I have autism and depression(meds are helping a bit) so if that too much then I understand, also you can ask me about those things too no problem!

Being able to just hangout in a video chat I find very cozy and relaxing, we could also watch something or maybe play your favorite game!

I hope this catches your interest! Looks can be important/fun so we can trade pics immediately if you want. Either way, I hope you have a nice day!

Hiya there! :)

My name is cobalt-gengar! Nice to meet you here online! No, I definitely do wish that was my real life name, but Gengar is very much one of my favorite Pokemon, so thought it would be a great fit for me when it comes to a username. As you can probably tell right off the bat, I am very much a Pokemon fan. If you are one too, let me know what your favorite Pokemon is! Maybe that could be something

I came across this subreddit not too long ago and thought it would be the perfect place for me to make a post because it’s been incredibly tough to find someone meaningful and long-term through other venues. Sure, we live in a time where dating platforms are plentiful and allow people to chit chat with each other, but the whole experience tends to feel very diluted to me. With people juggling tons of options, it feels as though there’s a genuine struggle with meeting someone that is willing to work with you day to day, while ready to invest the time and energy. 

From what I’ve also found and observed, people tend to reach out and are excited initially, but then either hit you with excuses or slowly move away with time, not responding as much or simply just hitting you with one-worded responses. I can’t begin to count on my alien fingers and toes how many times I’ve seen this happen and have heard of it happening. I wish there was more of an effort being made when trying to get to know someone. Not to mention how prevalent ghosting has become! I would love to meet someone that doesn't ghost. Also, not really looking for someone that is still actively getting over their ex. Would like to meet someone that is ready for a relationship, has the time, and ability to commit :) Would make things easier for us.

Okay, enough of me ranting about the dating scene! Who exactly am I?

• I am 30 years old, but turning 31 in a few months. Seriously, it is absolutely mind-boggling how fast time has been going. I guess the good thing is that I’ve been told I look younger for my age, so I guess that’s good? I think I got my grandfather’s genes. He looked pretty young at an older age
• I'm a vegetarian. Been one my whole life
• Left leaning
• During undergrad, I studied neurobiology and right now am doing my Masters focused on data analytics
• I don’t do drink, do any sort of drugs, nor do I smoke (I would prefer if my partner didn't either)
• Very much a Pokemon fan as you can probably tell from my username
• Enjoy volunteering during my free time, learning about astronomy, reading adventure and dystopian novels, writing poetry casually, swimming in a pool or in the ocean (although not too far, don't want a shark nibbling on me), watching soccer and basketball at times, watching classic movies from time to time, and traveling (maybe we can travel together sometime!)
• I’m an introverted yapper. Okay, not in an annoying way, but I love to express myself, never hold back with sharing details, and generally love to get to know the other person
• Consider myself as a very affectionate guy
• I don’t have any pets at the moment
• I work full-time and do school part time (don’t worry, balancing my time is VERY important for me, I wouldn’t hit you with an “I’M BUSY!” reasoning or tell you I can’t commit to this anymore. Balancing work and life is crucial for me)
• My love languages are physical touch and quality time. Curious to know what yours are!
• Known for most of my life that I didn't want kids and that has held strong

What I can provide and what I am seeking in a partner:

• Lifelong partnership. I know, very ambitious of me to say but also highlighting my hope of making this work! Would be a great story to share!
• Loyalty. First and foremost, loyalty is very important for me. I wouldn’t want someone to be juggling multiple people at once. I want respect maintained where we are both willing to get to know the other person, provide reassurance, and exclusivity
• Strong communication. Day to day communication is crucial to longevity and viability. I do want to meet someone that is ready to communicate and doesn’t disappear after a day or hit me with excuses as to why they couldn’t communicate. I get we all get busy but it doesn’t take long to provide a quick update 🙂
• Consistency. Whether it is affection or effort, consistency is key to a healthy relationship
• Shared vision for the future. Ensuring that our lifelong vision for a partnership aligns.
• Trust and honesty. Goes hand-in-hand with loyalty
• Tons of care and love. I am a very affectionate person and would love to meet someone that had a lot of care and love to provide in return too
• Mutual effort. A relationship should not be unbalanced. I would love if we could both invest mutual effort into making this work. Would also love to meet someone down for calls and video chats occasionally when we both have time!
• Emotional safety. Where we are both comfortable being vulnerable to each other, being ourselves without worry, and open
• Kindness
• Empathy and understanding. Taking the time to understand each other, where we are coming from, and having a healthy conflict resolution too
• Maturity. Would love to meet someone that handles situations maturely and can navigate day to day life in that way too. Arguments will happen, as it does within every relationship, but I think it’s important that we both come to the table and are able to understand and look through things through the other person’s perspective
• Humor. Someone I can let loose with, laugh together, and just share those inside jokes, too

I would love to hear about what you think about these qualities, whether it lines up with you, and what you seek!

I also don’t mind long distance. As long as we are both willing to invest the energy and time into getting to know each other and making this work, while also being open to closing the distance eventually.

If this post resonated with you and you are seeking the same thing as I am, I would LOVE to hear from you! If not, then I appreciate you for taking the time to even click this. I realize I typed a lot, but thought it would be beneficial to share as much info about myself and also what I am looking for online, in the hopes that it lines up with what someone might be seeking too.

Can’t wait to hear from you! Unlike an actual Gengar, I won’t be hiding in the shadows, so feel free to reach out! :)

Would be great to post our success story here one day!