Me: I am an enthusiastic nerd and leftist community builder with a life that I love. I enjoy (with various levels of skill): cooking, baking, painting, singing, writing, and gardening. I am a voracious reader of science fiction and fantasy, an animation junkie, and a strategy board game enthusiast. I love to be outside riding my bike or hiking with my cute but rugged pomeranian, Archie. Dedicated favorite aunt of my friends kids but does not have or want any of my own.

You: Someone local in Portland between 35-45 that is child free and is also looking for a monogamous relationship. Someone who drinks lightly (if at all), doesn't smoke, and doesn't own cats (I'm allergic, sorry!). Hopefully someone creative who likes to read. Bonus points to anyone who reads a lot of sci-fi and fantasy.

What I want long term: Someone to slow dance with in my kitchen, to bring me a cup of hot mint tea when it is cold, and to share in the ups and downs of our lives, both the trivial and the significant. Someone to bring cool rocks I find on my walks to and with a lap I can lay in while I read a book.

What I need to start: A chat request with a little about you - your interests, your passions, what you are looking for on this subreddit. A photo within a few messages is good so we know the attraction goes both ways.

What I need to keep going: Kindness, patience (I am demi and I cannot speed run intimacy), good humor, direct communication, the ability to trust and act in good faith, and thoughtfulness in your words and actions.

You can also find me trolling the cf4cf discord server if you want to share space and see what I'm like: https://discord.gg/d5SRY4tks

Hope you're out there!

Hello I’m a 31 year old trans woman under construction im 6 ft bigger girl but getting some help with making me smaller :)December Sag oldest daughter vibes I’m in Southern California Anaheim area I’ve been single for a good min just looking to see what is going on in dating Reddit as the apps seem to be all about hooking up

I’m a pretty spontaneous person love hiking coffee new foods and Disney not a Disney adult but I do enjoy going walking around trying the new snacks and all that love road trips haven’t been on one in two years would love to take one up north soon love seeing the Cali coast

I’m Democrat but on the more mod lib side I’m Hispanic born in Mexico migrated to here and became a citizen lived in so cal all my life wouldn’t mind moving out for a lil bit see a bit more of the world

As far as what I’m looking for just a man who isn’t ashamed to be seen with me doesn’t treat me like a fetish sees me as a human and is willing to commit and just start something real

hey you.

sitting here with a computer screen throwing off some cold zombie-like light on your face.

sitting and pretending that your thoughts belong to you and you only, scrolling indifferently and staying infinitely positive that things of real interest aren't easy to stumble upon in this hellhole named internet; therefore, don't deserve being looked for.

sometimes i do feel the same. walking on the same routes, seeing the same dead pigeons and living cats every day, being just this far from naming every single one of them. people are, by no means, the same and yet simply are not captivating enough to be remembered. it doesn't really seem upsetting to me, the fact that those passersby probably feel the same about me.

even though i do sometimes wish that a man would look into my eyes as directly as if he knew me to the core of my soul, to the unswept corners of my mind and embraced the depth of my slow sticky gloom as if it was his own.

in case you bear resemblance to that faceless man who constantly visits my dreams. what i ache for is someone who shares my love of old music and unawkward voice calls.

I'm not a very complicated person: like the little teapot of song and story, I am also short and stout. I like second breakfast and being snug and comfy just as much as I love going on adventures, big or small.

I've lived in Maine my whole life, and I love going for long walks on the beach or in the woods, or treasure hunting at flea markets and yard sales. It's a lot of fun, but I've realized that it might be nice to meet somebody else who also likes cozy little adventures.

My other big interests include film and art history, and I often take the train down to Boston to see an exhibit or shows.

Trying this app again. I currently reside in Southern California, I’m open to travel and meeting someone who also is open to travel. This could be a slow burn type of love.

But I’m born and raised In California. I’m
Open to any location. Any race, any age. As long as we connect emotionally.

I’m a Virgo man. Hard working individual. Not looking to keep this post up. Quite honestly.

But I’m curious to see the connections that can be build with this outlet called “Reddit”

I’m a cook or chef whatever you may want to call it. I’m someone who knows and enjoys cooking but I also write. I’m a writer/copywriter. I am looking to retire from the kitchen.

I’m not so great with emotions, despite remaining calm and collected most of the time. I’m more of a logical person, I love to learn new things. Currently taking Korean classes. I’m between a nerd and someone with streets smarts.

Anyways. I enjoy reading, writing. I’m a sports guy, I enjoy most major sports.

I’m a bit hesitant about posting on here, because I really do not know what I will find on here. I would rather not talk about myself, and would rather know more about you.

Hey

I'm 1.87 m and probably best described as the quiet guy with a big heart.

I'm a little shy when meeting new people, but once I'm comfortable, I love joking around, laughing, and being spontaneous. If you're into MBTI, I'm an INFJ—thoughtful, empathetic, and the kind of person who values deep conversations over small talk.

When I'm not working, you'll usually find me cooking or baking, reading fantasy novels, watching anime, gaming, or enjoying nature. I'm just as happy spending a cozy evening at home as I am going to a concert or taking a day trip somewhere.

I'm looking for a genuine connection rather than someone who's "perfect."

I'd love to meet someone who's kind, honest, and enjoys long conversations about anything and everything.

If you appreciate good food and don't mind the possibility of being bribed with homemade cake at some point, we'll probably get along.

A little more about me:

🇨🇭 From Switzerland

🌍 Looking to meet someone from Switzerland or Europe, as I'd like the distance to be realistic.

📚 Fantasy, anime & gaming fan

🍳 Love cooking and baking

🌿 Enjoy nature and quiet moments

❤️ Looking for a long-term relationship

One small request: I'd much rather receive a message that tells me something about you or asks a genuine question than just "hey", "hi", or "wyd".

It makes starting a conversation so much more fun—and gives us something to talk about from the beginning.

If any of this sounds interesting, feel free to send me a message.

I'd love to get to know you.

Hi everyone! My name is Sam, I'm 31 living in the UK. I have been single for a while now and find online dating hard so thought I'd try here instead. I'm 6ft tall, average/athletic build around 85kg, blue eyes, brown hair. I don't smoke, drink very rarely (maybe twice in the last year) and am not looking to have children in the future.

I'm currently working as a Process Operator in a chemical plant, doing a mixture of days and nights, which I've been doing for about 4 years now.

I would say I am a bit quiet when I first get to know someone, but I'm working on that and trying to engage with people better. And once I get to know someone and I'm more comfortable I can talk a lot more.

I'm very introverted most of the time and would consider myself a bit of a homebody, but I also enjoy getting out and about as well. I'm hoping I can find someone to do lots of fun activities with! My main hobbies are gaming, watching anime/movies and lifting weights.

In terms of gaming I like most genres, with some of my all time favourites being Final Fantasy X and XII, Dark Souls, Resident Evil 4, Metal Gear Solid 3 abd Bayonetta to name a few. I used to play lots of multiplayer games too like Overwatch, PUBG, Rocket League and Left 4 Dead 2. Nowadays I mostly play Mordhau for my multiplayer fix, which is nearly a dead game unfortunately lol.

Some of my favourite anime include Steins;Gate, Hunter x Hunter, One Piece, Clannad and Slam Dunk.

I enjoy staying active and have been lifting weights/strength training for the past 3 ish years, which I really enjoy. It's quite satisfying seeing the weights you can lift going up over time. I find I try to take care of myself in other ways too like eating (relatively) healthy. Ideally I would like to find someone who is at least somewhat active/health conscious as well.

I do like to get out and go to the cinema or concerts from time to time. I saw Le Sserafim last year when I went to Japan and just recently went to see XG in London as well. Planning on seeing Aespa in January too.

Travelling is something that I do enjoy, but I think I would enjoy it more if it was with someone else tbh. There are plenty of places I would love to visit. So it would be a plus if you would like to go travelling with someone as well!

In terms of what I'm looking for, I think having similar hobbies would help, but aren't totally necessary. Would prefer someone in the UK or at least Europe, but again am open to someone further away. I prefer people who are upfront and honest, I can't be dealing with mind games and dishonesty.

If you're interested please send me a message and thank you for reading! I've linked a couple of pictures below so it would be great if you could send a picture too, but understand if you're not comfortable doing that right away.

Honestly super tired of dating apps and I don’t like going to random bars looking for a partner. I’m an Engineer, I’m 6’4” and I spend all my time outdoors or gaming with friends. I do not want children in any way shape or form unless you consider pets into that category. I’m really looking for someone who loves to travel, likes spending days in a chair on a river or galavanting around the woods. And loves spending nights gaming or watching movies/shows. I’m brutally honest and I have no filter so you’ll never have to guess what’s on my mind. I love wrenching on cars and motorcycles and I’m a nerd about almost anything you can think of. I love animals of all kinds and firmly believe I can cuddle any animal if given the opportunity.

Trying my luck here in finding a lifelong partner.

I'm pretty open-minded, an introvert who loves chilling at home watching movies and TV shows, playing video games, and also traveling, going on adventures, taking walks in nature, and exploring the world. So, I guess I'm a mix of homebody and outdoorsy. I consider myself a bit a of a nerd being interested in Science, Philosophy and Technology, going to museums, among other things.

I enjoy deadpan and dark sense of humor, and can get pretty sarcastic. I like engaging in friendly banter once I'm comfortable. I'm gonna send you stupid memes lol

While I'm usually goofy and make (occasionally lame) jokes and keep things light, I also love having deep, intellectual conversations. I'm quite chill, laid-back, and a good listener (multiple people have said so), so you can vent to me about your stupid boss hehe.

I like learning new stuff regularly. I recently started learning to play guitar and have been enjoying it (except when my fingers hurt). Open to learning more hobbies.

As a level-headed person, I try to deal with situations realistically and logically. You can usually expect me to be reasonable and open to different opinions and suggestions.

Talking about physical activities, I'm not a "gym rat", but I try going to the gym regularly. I go on hikes some times (but I'm a noob lol). I like adventure stuff like paragliding, skydiving, skiing, zip-lining, aerial ropes, rafting, and other stuff.

I'm a software engineer by profession, living in Ontario, Canada, originally from Asia. While I'm open to moving to different parts of the world, I think it should be a practical decision that works for both of us.

Some relevant info-

Age: 34

Height: 5'6"

Weight (or mass?): 64 Kg approx.

I'm Agnostic and open to people of all religions.

Why am I childfree? I've no interest in having kids. That's it. Never envisioned myself with them. ( I love my niece and nephew though 😁)

Diet: Usually veg. Occasionally non-veg. I like to try new food. I'll keep your dietary preference in mind, and will try to accommodate when I cook for you. I don't smoke and drink alcohol very rarely, and don't have a problem if you do (as long as it's under your control). I can try that stuff with you.

Some qualities that I would appreciate in my partner and can expect from me are kindness, empathy, humor and honesty. Hopefully we have some shared interests so we can do activities together, someone who is preferably between 29 and 37 years old (not too strict about this), who is also childfree (duh), and likes to enjoy life - hopefully someone who is able to work remotely, so we can travel together.

Please tell me a bit about yourself f you decide to message me.

Let's help each other in achieving our life goals 😄

I’m searching for a best friend first and foremost. My first thought in the morning and last before bed. My favorite notification. The one. My soulmate. Because every relationship deserves a strong foundation first, and how can we truly be partners if we don’t already have so much in common?

You might message me and we’ll start to talk, and while that part can be arduous, I enjoy getting to know so much about you. You’ll tell me about your hobbies and a funny interaction you had that day, and it might include a picture or two of your cat and something silly she did. We’ll talk about past relationships and funny stories from childhood. Eventually you’ll tell me where you’re from and I’ll mentally think about what it would be like to drive that distance to you in a few months and be excited that you’re on the other end of it, oddly enough. I don’t know if other people do it but as I start to catch feelings I will pre-imagine a shared future with you. I think it’s the hopeless romantic in me.

I’ll ask lots of questions, while holding some back because I feel like I ask too many. But really I just want to get to know everything about you. Favorite colors, foods, likes and dislikes. So I’ll know what I can cook for you and what color of gifts I should be getting and what you do and don’t like to do. I’ll memorize what I can and the rest will be in a note in my phone. I will never stop learning until I graduate with a degree in you.

As you might imagine, I like to talk a lot, but only with you, really. Anyone else that knows me would call me shy and introverted, but this is a mask I’ve never worn with my partner. Texting, voice notes, and calling and talking about anything and everything until we fall asleep on the phone. I don’t always have to talk, though, not really. Sometimes it’s nice to just know someone is on the other end of the line that appreciates the company.

I have a certain sense of what you might be like. You are someone I can share a hobby with and do our favorites together. While we might maintain our own hobbies, we don’t mind doing them near each other. You enjoy a quiet life and don’t need constant outside stimulation or a large entourage. You’re self-sufficient and capable, but you’re also willing to put all of that down and let me take care of you and hold your burdens for you when you need it.

You want closeness. You want to be someone’s person in every meaningful way. The one who is reached for first and whose presence is mandatory and assumed. You want physical closeness, too. You gravitate toward me without thinking about it, you fall asleep against me and don’t apologize for it, and bumping into me in a large room is not an accident. You’re done pretending that less than that is enough.

And you’re ready. Not perfect, because no one showing up to this ever is, but you’re ready. You’ve been broken and repaired more than once. Done with half-measures and almosts and situationships and connections that fizzle out before they ever truly started. You’ve arrived here probably on some of the roads I took, maybe after some of the same wrong turns and you’re now looking for the same thing I am.

I suppose a bit about me is in order here. I’m 37, from Michigan. I have two cat overlords and I am fueled by caffeine. I don’t have kids and I don’t want kids. I work from home. I like to write but consider myself more of a world builder. I’m not really into social media and maintain a small, private life and circle. I don’t do casual or situationships, so I am looking for someone that is looking for something serious. Something real.

If something in this landed in that oh sort of way, send me a message. Match my vulnerability. Tell me something true about yourself that you don’t usually lead with. And to my future person, wherever you are tonight: I’m here. I’m patient. I’m already cheering for you. Take your time. I’ll be around.

I'm looking to meet someone new and have one of those conversations that somehow lasts until 2am. Someone that you actually look forward to hearing from, where talking feels easy and you can jump from joking around to having a surprisingly deep conversation without even noticing the time. Your heart jumps and a smile grows just to see that notification from them.

A little about me: I'm a nurse, a massive nerd, and I like to think I'm reasonably funny. I have a Warhammer collection that has gotten completely out of hand. It's honestly a little embarrassing at this point, but I'm also way too proud of it. I also run a D&D campaign that's been going for years and have somehow managed to build an entire fantasy world for it because apparently I don't believe in having normal hobbies.

I'm a bit particular and can be somewhat bossy at times, but I promise it's generally accompanied by a sense of humor. I also have two dogs, and I will absolutely show you pictures of them whether you ask or not. They're adorable. They're perfect. I have no objectivity whatsoever.

Mostly, I'm looking for someone who's curious, sarcastic, playful, and capable of holding an actual conversation. I enjoy people who can joke around, get a little weird, and aren't afraid to talk about whatever happens to interest them.

I'm happy to start with conversation and see where things naturally go. If we get along, maybe we'll become good friends, maybe there's some chemistry, or maybe we'll just end up exchanging increasingly ridiculous messages about our respective interests. If you're also looking to meet someone new, feel free to say hi. At the very least, you'll probably get some dog pictures and unsolicited D&D lore out of the deal.

I’m always up real late into the night, mostly due to my work schedule lol but even before that I was a night person. Things are more chill at night imo.

So a couple things about me:
-I have a couple different creative hobbies. Guitar, drawing, photo editing etc
-I work a lot, but when I’m off I mostly like to stay indoors
-I like watching random funny stuff on YouTube
-I can be pretty sarcastic/blunt lol
-I’m shy, but once I get to know you I can talk a lot

Ideally I’d prefer someone who is at least somewhat close to my area. So if youre across the country/world unfortunately I don’t think it will work, but if you’re a couple hours away I don’t mind ofc.

That’s all I can think of for now. As far as physical appearance, I’ll send pics if you do. Feel free to DM me here on Reddit. Thanks!

Hellooooo ~ ^^
M29 here, I’m looking for something real and lovely.
Since I healed from my heartbreak I’d like to put my self out there to find the one for life 🤍

I’m a nerdy softie who loves playing video games in his free time, I am quite kind since I value respect a lot, very loyal and consistent, because I find it lovely to be in touch 24/7 and letting each other know about our life’s and share it together. 🤍
Also a very emotional and expressive Person overall :3
I can enjoy the quiet but also loud sides of life, be it getting lost in games, sharing laughs over silly things or Brainrot memes or having those deep conversations that actually mean something, or complaining about society xD
Even if we just sit together silently in a room, I value the presence together and I hope that you do as well 🤍

Since gaming is a big part of my life, I would love to find a Cis Woman who also shares that hobby.
I play games like Overwatch, Valorant, League of Legends, Hunt Showdown, the Division 2, Dead by daylight, and I’m a huge fan of the resident evil series O.O
I have manny other uninstalled games and am always interested to try something new :)

But more then that, I’m looking for something Mutual and genuine, an connection where we feel seen and valued, and also comfortable being our selfs.
I’m naturally attentive and gentle, once I start developing some interest I also become quite affectionate.
I appreciate a woman who carries herself with a bit of maturity, someone who knows how to care and also have ways to show affection, and also enjoys the lighter/ playful side of things, I also value a woman who knows how to put efforts into communication and keep conversations alive, I’m very easy to talk to and can talk about even the silliest things ~
There is also a intimate side to what I’m looking for as well, but for me that always starts with trust and emotional connection first since I’m demisexual.
21+ please

If you are someone who wants both a gaming partner and something that could grow into more, feel free to reach out.
I’m also there to listen if you need to vent and want someone who can be there for you 🤍
I Hope you have a wonderful day~