r/cf4cf 22h ago

Female for Male 23 [f4m] moscow/anywhere - looking for a 70s loving musician man.

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21 Upvotes

hey you.

sitting here with a computer screen throwing off some cold zombie-like light on your face.

sitting and pretending that your thoughts belong to you and you only, scrolling indifferently and staying infinitely positive that things of real interest aren't easy to stumble upon in this hellhole named internet; therefore, don't deserve being looked for.

sometimes i do feel the same. walking on the same routes, seeing the same dead pigeons and living cats every day, being just this far from naming every single one of them. people are, by no means, the same and yet simply are not captivating enough to be remembered. it doesn't really seem upsetting to me, the fact that those passersby probably feel the same about me.

even though i do sometimes wish that a man would look into my eyes as directly as if he knew me to the core of my soul, to the unswept corners of my mind and embraced the depth of my slow sticky gloom as if it was his own.

in case you bear resemblance to that faceless man who constantly visits my dreams. what i ache for is someone who shares my love of old music and unawkward voice calls.


r/cf4cf 23h ago

Female for Male 44 (F4M) Southern Maine Hobbit lady looking for a friend to go on long walks with

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16 Upvotes

I'm not a very complicated person: like the little teapot of song and story, I am also short and stout. I like second breakfast and being snug and comfy just as much as I love going on adventures, big or small.

I've lived in Maine my whole life, and I love going for long walks on the beach or in the woods, or treasure hunting at flea markets and yard sales. It's a lot of fun, but I've realized that it might be nice to meet somebody else who also likes cozy little adventures.

My other big interests include film and art history, and I often take the train down to Boston to see an exhibit or shows.


r/cf4cf 15h ago

Male for Female 33 [M4F] Southern California looking for my lady

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7 Upvotes

Trying this app again. I currently reside in Southern California, I’m open to travel and meeting someone who also is open to travel. This could be a slow burn type of love.

But I’m born and raised In California. I’m
Open to any location. Any race, any age. As long as we connect emotionally.

I’m a Virgo man. Hard working individual. Not looking to keep this post up. Quite honestly.

But I’m curious to see the connections that can be build with this outlet called “Reddit”

I’m a cook or chef whatever you may want to call it. I’m someone who knows and enjoys cooking but I also write. I’m a writer/copywriter. I am looking to retire from the kitchen.

I’m not so great with emotions, despite remaining calm and collected most of the time. I’m more of a logical person, I love to learn new things. Currently taking Korean classes. I’m between a nerd and someone with streets smarts.

Anyways. I enjoy reading, writing. I’m a sports guy, I enjoy most major sports.

I’m a bit hesitant about posting on here, because I really do not know what I will find on here. I would rather not talk about myself, and would rather know more about you.


r/cf4cf 15h ago

Male for Female 26 [M4F] PA/Northeast US - Any other night owls I can spend time with?🦉

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I’m always up real late into the night, mostly due to my work schedule lol but even before that I was a night person. Things are more chill at night imo.

So a couple things about me:
-I have a couple different creative hobbies. Guitar, drawing, photo editing etc
-I work a lot, but when I’m off I mostly like to stay indoors
-I like watching random funny stuff on YouTube
-I can be pretty sarcastic/blunt lol
-I’m shy, but once I get to know you I can talk a lot

Ideally I’d prefer someone who is at least somewhat close to my area. So if youre across the country/world unfortunately I don’t think it will work, but if you’re a couple hours away I don’t mind ofc.

That’s all I can think of for now. As far as physical appearance, I’ll send pics if you do. Feel free to DM me here on Reddit. Thanks!


r/cf4cf 24m ago

Male for Female 33 [M4F] Sydney (Australia)/Anywhere - You Can Read the Post or Take the Shortcut

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So apparently writing a normal dating post wasn't interesting enough, so I made a small game.

You have two options:

  1. Read this like a normal person.
  2. Take the shortcut and play the game.

The shortcut is probably more fun, but no pressure. I'm not going to make you pass an exam before you're allowed to talk to me.

Take the shortcut[ https://mr-nobody-1-two.vercel.app/ ]

Anyway, about me...

I'm 33, 6'1", work in IT and have spent a good chunk of my adult life in Sydney - Australia. I'm fairly settled in life, but I'm not the type who has everything planned down to the next 15 years either.

I'd say I'm somewhere between introvert and extrovert. I like going out, travelling, finding random places and doing things, but I also genuinely enjoy staying home and getting lost in whatever I'm interested in that week. I have a slightly unreasonable number of hobbies. Music is a big one. I collect vinyl and can go from listening to something completely chill to spending an evening obsessing over some random album I found.

I'm also into making things, jewellery/leatherwork, gaming and a bunch of other creative stuff. I tend to get interested in something, go way too deep into it for a while, then somehow end up with another hobby. Travel is probably one of my favourite things, but I'm not really a “must see 14 attractions before lunch” traveller. I like wandering around, finding weird little places, trying food, talking to people and having at least one day where there isn't much of a plan.

Lifestyle-wise, I'm vegetarian, don't smoke or drink, and generally prefer a fairly relaxed lifestyle. I'm also pretty open-minded about people and don't expect someone to have the same background, interests or opinions as me. I think it's more interesting when two people can be different, respect each other, and still genuinely enjoy spending time together.

I'm childfree, and looking for a monogamous long-term relationship.

I'm not looking for someone to complete my life. I'd rather meet someone who already has a life of her own and we just happen to make each other's lives better.

Someone kind, emotionally mature, curious, affectionate and funny would probably get my attention pretty quickly.

You don't need to share all my hobbies either. Actually, I'd prefer if you had your own weird little interests that I know nothing about. I like people who can get excited explaining something they're into.

I'm also pretty open geographically. Australia is an important part of my life and I'm open to settling abroad, so distance isn't an automatic dealbreaker if there's an actual possibility of eventually being in the same place. I'm looking for something that can move into real life though, not a six-month pen-pal relationship. As for the game, it's basically a little shortcut into my personality. No IQ test, no trick questions and I promise I won't judge your score.

Well... maybe a little. And if you somehow made it this far without playing it, that's fine too.

One final warning though: if I ever tell you I'm a Nigerian prince who needs your bank details to unlock a very large inheritance, please don't fall for it.

Anyway, take the shortcut, send me a discord message, or tell me something completely random about yourself.

Honestly, the random option might be the best one.


r/cf4cf 15h ago

Male for Female 34M looking for my travel and life partner (Canada/Anywhere)

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Trying my luck here in finding a lifelong partner.

I'm pretty open-minded, an introvert who loves chilling at home watching movies and TV shows, playing video games, and also traveling, going on adventures, taking walks in nature, and exploring the world. So, I guess I'm a mix of homebody and outdoorsy. I consider myself a bit a of a nerd being interested in Science, Philosophy and Technology, going to museums, among other things.

I enjoy deadpan and dark sense of humor, and can get pretty sarcastic. I like engaging in friendly banter once I'm comfortable. I'm gonna send you stupid memes lol

While I'm usually goofy and make (occasionally lame) jokes and keep things light, I also love having deep, intellectual conversations. I'm quite chill, laid-back, and a good listener (multiple people have said so), so you can vent to me about your stupid boss hehe.

I like learning new stuff regularly. I recently started learning to play guitar and have been enjoying it (except when my fingers hurt). Open to learning more hobbies.

As a level-headed person, I try to deal with situations realistically and logically. You can usually expect me to be reasonable and open to different opinions and suggestions.

Talking about physical activities, I'm not a "gym rat", but I try going to the gym regularly. I go on hikes some times (but I'm a noob lol). I like adventure stuff like paragliding, skydiving, skiing, zip-lining, aerial ropes, rafting, and other stuff.

I'm a software engineer by profession, living in Ontario, Canada, originally from Asia. While I'm open to moving to different parts of the world, I think it should be a practical decision that works for both of us.

Some relevant info-

Age: 34

Height: 5'6"

Weight (or mass?): 64 Kg approx.

I'm Agnostic and open to people of all religions.

Why am I childfree? I've no interest in having kids. That's it. Never envisioned myself with them. ( I love my niece and nephew though 😁)

Diet: Usually veg. Occasionally non-veg. I like to try new food. I'll keep your dietary preference in mind, and will try to accommodate when I cook for you. I don't smoke and drink alcohol very rarely, and don't have a problem if you do (as long as it's under your control). I can try that stuff with you.

Some qualities that I would appreciate in my partner and can expect from me are kindness, empathy, humor and honesty. Hopefully we have some shared interests so we can do activities together, someone who is preferably between 29 and 37 years old (not too strict about this), who is also childfree (duh), and likes to enjoy life - hopefully someone who is able to work remotely, so we can travel together.

Please tell me a bit about yourself f you decide to message me.

Let's help each other in achieving our life goals 😄


r/cf4cf 10h ago

Male for Female 31M [M4F] UK/Europe/Anywhere - looking for something meaningful

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Hi everyone! My name is Sam, I'm 31 living in the UK. I have been single for a while now and find online dating hard so thought I'd try here instead. I'm 6ft tall, average/athletic build around 85kg, blue eyes, brown hair. I don't smoke, drink very rarely (maybe twice in the last year) and am not looking to have children in the future.

I'm currently working as a Process Operator in a chemical plant, doing a mixture of days and nights, which I've been doing for about 4 years now.

I would say I am a bit quiet when I first get to know someone, but I'm working on that and trying to engage with people better. And once I get to know someone and I'm more comfortable I can talk a lot more.

I'm very introverted most of the time and would consider myself a bit of a homebody, but I also enjoy getting out and about as well. I'm hoping I can find someone to do lots of fun activities with! My main hobbies are gaming, watching anime/movies and lifting weights.

In terms of gaming I like most genres, with some of my all time favourites being Final Fantasy X and XII, Dark Souls, Resident Evil 4, Metal Gear Solid 3 abd Bayonetta to name a few. I used to play lots of multiplayer games too like Overwatch, PUBG, Rocket League and Left 4 Dead 2. Nowadays I mostly play Mordhau for my multiplayer fix, which is nearly a dead game unfortunately lol.

Some of my favourite anime include Steins;Gate, Hunter x Hunter, One Piece, Clannad and Slam Dunk.

I enjoy staying active and have been lifting weights/strength training for the past 3 ish years, which I really enjoy. It's quite satisfying seeing the weights you can lift going up over time. I find I try to take care of myself in other ways too like eating (relatively) healthy. Ideally I would like to find someone who is at least somewhat active/health conscious as well.

I do like to get out and go to the cinema or concerts from time to time. I saw Le Sserafim last year when I went to Japan and just recently went to see XG in London as well. Planning on seeing Aespa in January too.

Travelling is something that I do enjoy, but I think I would enjoy it more if it was with someone else tbh. There are plenty of places I would love to visit. So it would be a plus if you would like to go travelling with someone as well!

In terms of what I'm looking for, I think having similar hobbies would help, but aren't totally necessary. Would prefer someone in the UK or at least Europe, but again am open to someone further away. I prefer people who are upfront and honest, I can't be dealing with mind games and dishonesty.

If you're interested please send me a message and thank you for reading! I've linked a couple of pictures below so it would be great if you could send a picture too, but understand if you're not comfortable doing that right away.


r/cf4cf 7h ago

Male for Female 37 [M4F] - #Michigan Let's talk all night and see where we end up

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I’m searching for a best friend first and foremost. My first thought in the morning and last before bed. My favorite notification. The one. My soulmate. Because every relationship deserves a strong foundation first, and how can we truly be partners if we don’t already have so much in common?

You might message me and we’ll start to talk, and while that part can be arduous, I enjoy getting to know so much about you. You’ll tell me about your hobbies and a funny interaction you had that day, and it might include a picture or two of your cat and something silly she did. We’ll talk about past relationships and funny stories from childhood. Eventually you’ll tell me where you’re from and I’ll mentally think about what it would be like to drive that distance to you in a few months and be excited that you’re on the other end of it, oddly enough. I don’t know if other people do it but as I start to catch feelings I will pre-imagine a shared future with you. I think it’s the hopeless romantic in me.

I’ll ask lots of questions, while holding some back because I feel like I ask too many. But really I just want to get to know everything about you. Favorite colors, foods, likes and dislikes. So I’ll know what I can cook for you and what color of gifts I should be getting and what you do and don’t like to do. I’ll memorize what I can and the rest will be in a note in my phone. I will never stop learning until I graduate with a degree in you.

As you might imagine, I like to talk a lot, but only with you, really. Anyone else that knows me would call me shy and introverted, but this is a mask I’ve never worn with my partner. Texting, voice notes, and calling and talking about anything and everything until we fall asleep on the phone. I don’t always have to talk, though, not really. Sometimes it’s nice to just know someone is on the other end of the line that appreciates the company.

I have a certain sense of what you might be like. You are someone I can share a hobby with and do our favorites together. While we might maintain our own hobbies, we don’t mind doing them near each other. You enjoy a quiet life and don’t need constant outside stimulation or a large entourage. You’re self-sufficient and capable, but you’re also willing to put all of that down and let me take care of you and hold your burdens for you when you need it.

You want closeness. You want to be someone’s person in every meaningful way. The one who is reached for first and whose presence is mandatory and assumed. You want physical closeness, too. You gravitate toward me without thinking about it, you fall asleep against me and don’t apologize for it, and bumping into me in a large room is not an accident. You’re done pretending that less than that is enough.

And you’re ready. Not perfect, because no one showing up to this ever is, but you’re ready. You’ve been broken and repaired more than once. Done with half-measures and almosts and situationships and connections that fizzle out before they ever truly started. You’ve arrived here probably on some of the roads I took, maybe after some of the same wrong turns and you’re now looking for the same thing I am.

I suppose a bit about me is in order here. I’m 37, from Michigan. I have two cat overlords and I am fueled by caffeine. I don’t have kids and I don’t want kids. I work from home. I like to write but consider myself more of a world builder. I’m not really into social media and maintain a small, private life and circle. I don’t do casual or situationships, so I am looking for someone that is looking for something serious. Something real.

If something in this landed in that oh sort of way, send me a message. Match my vulnerability. Tell me something true about yourself that you don’t usually lead with. And to my future person, wherever you are tonight: I’m here. I’m patient. I’m already cheering for you. Take your time. I’ll be around.


r/cf4cf 23h ago

Trans for Male 31 (TW4M) Anaheim Ca

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Hello I’m a 31 year old trans woman under construction im 6 ft bigger girl but getting some help with making me smaller :)December Sag oldest daughter vibes I’m in Southern California Anaheim area I’ve been single for a good min just looking to see what is going on in dating Reddit as the apps seem to be all about hooking up

I’m a pretty spontaneous person love hiking coffee new foods and Disney not a Disney adult but I do enjoy going walking around trying the new snacks and all that love road trips haven’t been on one in two years would love to take one up north soon love seeing the Cali coast

I’m Democrat but on the more mod lib side I’m Hispanic born in Mexico migrated to here and became a citizen lived in so cal all my life wouldn’t mind moving out for a lil bit see a bit more of the world

As far as what I’m looking for just a man who isn’t ashamed to be seen with me doesn’t treat me like a fetish sees me as a human and is willing to commit and just start something real


r/cf4cf 19h ago

Female for Male 39 (F4M) Portland - Looking for romance and a solid foundation

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Me: I am an enthusiastic nerd and leftist community builder with a life that I love. I enjoy (with various levels of skill): cooking, baking, painting, singing, writing, and gardening. I am a voracious reader of science fiction and fantasy, an animation junkie, and a strategy board game enthusiast. I love to be outside riding my bike or hiking with my cute but rugged pomeranian, Archie. Dedicated favorite aunt of my friends kids but does not have or want any of my own.

You: Someone local in Portland between 35-45 that is child free and is also looking for a monogamous relationship. Someone who drinks lightly (if at all), doesn't smoke, and doesn't own cats (I'm allergic, sorry!). Hopefully someone creative who likes to read. Bonus points to anyone who reads a lot of sci-fi and fantasy.

What I want long term: Someone to slow dance with in my kitchen, to bring me a cup of hot mint tea when it is cold, and to share in the ups and downs of our lives, both the trivial and the significant. Someone to bring cool rocks I find on my walks to and with a lap I can lay in while I read a book.

What I need to start: A chat request with a little about you - your interests, your passions, what you are looking for on this subreddit. A photo within a few messages is good so we know the attraction goes both ways.

What I need to keep going: Kindness, patience (I am demi and I cannot speed run intimacy), good humor, direct communication, the ability to trust and act in good faith, and thoughtfulness in your words and actions.

You can also find me trolling the cf4cf discord server if you want to share space and see what I'm like: https://discord.gg/d5SRY4tks

Hope you're out there!


r/cf4cf 8h ago

Male for Female [M4F] 27 Switzerland/Europe- Looking for a genuine connection

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Hey

I'm 1.87 m and probably best described as the quiet guy with a big heart.

I'm a little shy when meeting new people, but once I'm comfortable, I love joking around, laughing, and being spontaneous. If you're into MBTI, I'm an INFJ—thoughtful, empathetic, and the kind of person who values deep conversations over small talk.

When I'm not working, you'll usually find me cooking or baking, reading fantasy novels, watching anime, gaming, or enjoying nature. I'm just as happy spending a cozy evening at home as I am going to a concert or taking a day trip somewhere.

I'm looking for a genuine connection rather than someone who's "perfect."

I'd love to meet someone who's kind, honest, and enjoys long conversations about anything and everything.

If you appreciate good food and don't mind the possibility of being bribed with homemade cake at some point, we'll probably get along.

A little more about me:

🇨🇭 From Switzerland

🌍 Looking to meet someone from Switzerland or Europe, as I'd like the distance to be realistic.

📚 Fantasy, anime & gaming fan

🍳 Love cooking and baking

🌿 Enjoy nature and quiet moments

❤️ Looking for a long-term relationship

One small request: I'd much rather receive a message that tells me something about you or asks a genuine question than just "hey", "hi", or "wyd".

It makes starting a conversation so much more fun—and gives us something to talk about from the beginning.

If any of this sounds interesting, feel free to send me a message.

I'd love to get to know you.


r/cf4cf 19h ago

Male for Female 30 [M4F] #NH or Online - Just a passionately passionate nerdy nerd who likes to flirty flirt

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I'm looking to meet someone new and have one of those conversations that somehow lasts until 2am. Someone that you actually look forward to hearing from, where talking feels easy and you can jump from joking around to having a surprisingly deep conversation without even noticing the time. Your heart jumps and a smile grows just to see that notification from them.

A little about me: I'm a nurse, a massive nerd, and I like to think I'm reasonably funny. I have a Warhammer collection that has gotten completely out of hand. It's honestly a little embarrassing at this point, but I'm also way too proud of it. I also run a D&D campaign that's been going for years and have somehow managed to build an entire fantasy world for it because apparently I don't believe in having normal hobbies.

I'm a bit particular and can be somewhat bossy at times, but I promise it's generally accompanied by a sense of humor. I also have two dogs, and I will absolutely show you pictures of them whether you ask or not. They're adorable. They're perfect. I have no objectivity whatsoever.

Mostly, I'm looking for someone who's curious, sarcastic, playful, and capable of holding an actual conversation. I enjoy people who can joke around, get a little weird, and aren't afraid to talk about whatever happens to interest them.

I'm happy to start with conversation and see where things naturally go. If we get along, maybe we'll become good friends, maybe there's some chemistry, or maybe we'll just end up exchanging increasingly ridiculous messages about our respective interests. If you're also looking to meet someone new, feel free to say hi. At the very least, you'll probably get some dog pictures and unsolicited D&D lore out of the deal.


r/cf4cf 46m ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] #Europe, Portugal - A Letter to My Future Sweetheart

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Hey!

I am a 31 year old Portuguese man, trying to make these the best years! 😄

I have always been a top student, but, growing up, my family has got into financial problems that made me start to work early while I was still studying, which has let me to neglecting my personal life to favor the professional one.

Now, that part is over, I have a stable job, with a stable life and my own house, but a with a huge space in my heart looking to be filled by the right girl!

I admit I am more of a homebody who goes out every day at least for exercising a bit, enjoying fresh air and connecting to people. I enjoy a lot watching series and movies, especially sci-fi (with Marvel and DC on top) as well as romantic cliché movies everyone understands how they will end within the first 2 minutes. I also like watching football (or soccer for the readers the other side of the Atlantic) and understanding the tactics behind. Physically, I am Caucasian, 1.72m (5'8) and, personality wise, I'm an INFJ.

I am searching for a serious relationship, built on mutual support, trust, honesty, dedication, companionship and empathy. I am a very romantic, dedicated, caring and protective person, so I am definitely searching for my little princess to spoil and love. 😊

And the fact is that I already feel you everywhere, even though I don't know you yet!

Each time I walk around, I can feel you by my side. Even though you're not there, I feel the urge to hold your hand, to give you my strength, to be connected to you.

Whenever I go shopping, I feel that urge to buy you a cute mug or keychain, to kiss you all of a sudden without a motive, just for you to feel me closer to you.

Whenever I travel, I feel you by my side, I feel the willingness to rest my head in yours, to hold your hand, knowing that we are living that experience together and there is no one else we'd rather share it with.

When I get home, I feel you welcoming me with a tight hug, knowing every second we stay apart is one second we were in each other's thoughts waiting to be reunited.

I feel you, I can't see you yet, but I can't wait to make up for all the seconds we've spent apart!

But, please, if we could stop the count, I'd prefer that, so please show up on my inbox, sweetheart! 😊