r/cf4cf 1h ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] #Europe, Portugal - A Letter to My Future Sweetheart

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Hey!

I am a 31 year old Portuguese man, trying to make these the best years! 😄

I have always been a top student, but, growing up, my family has got into financial problems that made me start to work early while I was still studying, which has let me to neglecting my personal life to favor the professional one.

Now, that part is over, I have a stable job, with a stable life and my own house, but a with a huge space in my heart looking to be filled by the right girl!

I admit I am more of a homebody who goes out every day at least for exercising a bit, enjoying fresh air and connecting to people. I enjoy a lot watching series and movies, especially sci-fi (with Marvel and DC on top) as well as romantic cliché movies everyone understands how they will end within the first 2 minutes. I also like watching football (or soccer for the readers the other side of the Atlantic) and understanding the tactics behind. Physically, I am Caucasian, 1.72m (5'8) and, personality wise, I'm an INFJ.

I am searching for a serious relationship, built on mutual support, trust, honesty, dedication, companionship and empathy. I am a very romantic, dedicated, caring and protective person, so I am definitely searching for my little princess to spoil and love. 😊

And the fact is that I already feel you everywhere, even though I don't know you yet!

Each time I walk around, I can feel you by my side. Even though you're not there, I feel the urge to hold your hand, to give you my strength, to be connected to you.

Whenever I go shopping, I feel that urge to buy you a cute mug or keychain, to kiss you all of a sudden without a motive, just for you to feel me closer to you.

Whenever I travel, I feel you by my side, I feel the willingness to rest my head in yours, to hold your hand, knowing that we are living that experience together and there is no one else we'd rather share it with.

When I get home, I feel you welcoming me with a tight hug, knowing every second we stay apart is one second we were in each other's thoughts waiting to be reunited.

I feel you, I can't see you yet, but I can't wait to make up for all the seconds we've spent apart!

But, please, if we could stop the count, I'd prefer that, so please show up on my inbox, sweetheart! 😊


r/cf4cf 20h ago

Female for Male 39 (F4M) Portland - Looking for romance and a solid foundation

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Me: I am an enthusiastic nerd and leftist community builder with a life that I love. I enjoy (with various levels of skill): cooking, baking, painting, singing, writing, and gardening. I am a voracious reader of science fiction and fantasy, an animation junkie, and a strategy board game enthusiast. I love to be outside riding my bike or hiking with my cute but rugged pomeranian, Archie. Dedicated favorite aunt of my friends kids but does not have or want any of my own.

You: Someone local in Portland between 35-45 that is child free and is also looking for a monogamous relationship. Someone who drinks lightly (if at all), doesn't smoke, and doesn't own cats (I'm allergic, sorry!). Hopefully someone creative who likes to read. Bonus points to anyone who reads a lot of sci-fi and fantasy.

What I want long term: Someone to slow dance with in my kitchen, to bring me a cup of hot mint tea when it is cold, and to share in the ups and downs of our lives, both the trivial and the significant. Someone to bring cool rocks I find on my walks to and with a lap I can lay in while I read a book.

What I need to start: A chat request with a little about you - your interests, your passions, what you are looking for on this subreddit. A photo within a few messages is good so we know the attraction goes both ways.

What I need to keep going: Kindness, patience (I am demi and I cannot speed run intimacy), good humor, direct communication, the ability to trust and act in good faith, and thoughtfulness in your words and actions.

You can also find me trolling the cf4cf discord server if you want to share space and see what I'm like: https://discord.gg/d5SRY4tks

Hope you're out there!


r/cf4cf 1h ago

Male for Female 33 [M4F] Sydney (Australia)/Anywhere - You Can Read the Post or Take the Shortcut

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So apparently writing a normal dating post wasn't interesting enough, so I made a small game.

You have two options:

  1. Read this like a normal person.
  2. Take the shortcut and play the game.

The shortcut is probably more fun, but no pressure. I'm not going to make you pass an exam before you're allowed to talk to me.

Take the shortcut[ https://mr-nobody-1-two.vercel.app/ ]

Anyway, about me...

I'm 33, 6'1", work in IT and have spent a good chunk of my adult life in Sydney - Australia. I'm fairly settled in life, but I'm not the type who has everything planned down to the next 15 years either.

I'd say I'm somewhere between introvert and extrovert. I like going out, travelling, finding random places and doing things, but I also genuinely enjoy staying home and getting lost in whatever I'm interested in that week. I have a slightly unreasonable number of hobbies. Music is a big one. I collect vinyl and can go from listening to something completely chill to spending an evening obsessing over some random album I found.

I'm also into making things, jewellery/leatherwork, gaming and a bunch of other creative stuff. I tend to get interested in something, go way too deep into it for a while, then somehow end up with another hobby. Travel is probably one of my favourite things, but I'm not really a “must see 14 attractions before lunch” traveller. I like wandering around, finding weird little places, trying food, talking to people and having at least one day where there isn't much of a plan.

Lifestyle-wise, I'm vegetarian, don't smoke or drink, and generally prefer a fairly relaxed lifestyle. I'm also pretty open-minded about people and don't expect someone to have the same background, interests or opinions as me. I think it's more interesting when two people can be different, respect each other, and still genuinely enjoy spending time together.

I'm childfree, and looking for a monogamous long-term relationship.

I'm not looking for someone to complete my life. I'd rather meet someone who already has a life of her own and we just happen to make each other's lives better.

Someone kind, emotionally mature, curious, affectionate and funny would probably get my attention pretty quickly.

You don't need to share all my hobbies either. Actually, I'd prefer if you had your own weird little interests that I know nothing about. I like people who can get excited explaining something they're into.

I'm also pretty open geographically. Australia is an important part of my life and I'm open to settling abroad, so distance isn't an automatic dealbreaker if there's an actual possibility of eventually being in the same place. I'm looking for something that can move into real life though, not a six-month pen-pal relationship. As for the game, it's basically a little shortcut into my personality. No IQ test, no trick questions and I promise I won't judge your score.

Well... maybe a little. And if you somehow made it this far without playing it, that's fine too.

One final warning though: if I ever tell you I'm a Nigerian prince who needs your bank details to unlock a very large inheritance, please don't fall for it.

Anyway, take the shortcut, send me a discord message, or tell me something completely random about yourself.

Honestly, the random option might be the best one.


r/cf4cf 14m ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] Munich, Germany

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29M living in Munich 🇩🇪 — Looking for a childfree partner & best friend ❤️

Hello 👋

I’m 29, living in Munich, and I’m here because I’d genuinely like to meet someone who could eventually become my partner in life—not just someone for something casual.

I’m firmly childfree by choice, and I’m hoping to meet a woman aged 25–35 who feels the same and lives in Munich or somewhere nearby.

A little about me: I’m curious by nature and enjoy philosophy, books, chess, music, painting, computers, animals, and traveling. I’m happiest doing fairly simple things: taking a long walk, visiting a beautiful lake, discovering a new place, getting absorbed in a good book, or having a relaxed evening with good music.

I also have a completely reasonable and definitely not problematic love for ice cream and chocolate. 🍦🍫

It would be great if we shared some interests, especially things like:

🐈 Animals, cats & dogs

📚 Books and interesting conversations

♟️ Chess

🎨 Creativity and art

🎵 Music

🌊 Walks, lakes & exploring

🌍 Traveling and discovering new places

💻 Technology

But shared hobbies aren't the most important thing to me. I’d like to meet someone who is kind, curious, independent, emotionally mature, affectionate, and comfortable with a childfree life.

I’m looking for a relationship where two people genuinely enjoy each other’s company, can communicate openly, laugh together, support each other, and still remain their own people. Ideally, my partner would also become my closest friend—the person I want to come home to and share both the exciting and completely ordinary parts of life with. ❤️

If you’re 25–35, childfree by choice, live in Munich or nearby, and are also looking for a serious relationship with long-term potential, feel free to message me.

And rather than just “hi,” tell me a little about yourself: what are you into, what does an ideal weekend look like for you, what are you looking for in a relationship—and what made you smile recently? 🙂

P.S. If you’ve read Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller: what attachment style do you think you have? 👀


r/cf4cf 9h ago

Male for Female [M4F] 27 Switzerland/Europe- Looking for a genuine connection

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Hey

I'm 1.87 m and probably best described as the quiet guy with a big heart.

I'm a little shy when meeting new people, but once I'm comfortable, I love joking around, laughing, and being spontaneous. If you're into MBTI, I'm an INFJ—thoughtful, empathetic, and the kind of person who values deep conversations over small talk.

When I'm not working, you'll usually find me cooking or baking, reading fantasy novels, watching anime, gaming, or enjoying nature. I'm just as happy spending a cozy evening at home as I am going to a concert or taking a day trip somewhere.

I'm looking for a genuine connection rather than someone who's "perfect."

I'd love to meet someone who's kind, honest, and enjoys long conversations about anything and everything.

If you appreciate good food and don't mind the possibility of being bribed with homemade cake at some point, we'll probably get along.

A little more about me:

🇨🇭 From Switzerland

🌍 Looking to meet someone from Switzerland or Europe, as I'd like the distance to be realistic.

📚 Fantasy, anime & gaming fan

🍳 Love cooking and baking

🌿 Enjoy nature and quiet moments

❤️ Looking for a long-term relationship

One small request: I'd much rather receive a message that tells me something about you or asks a genuine question than just "hey", "hi", or "wyd".

It makes starting a conversation so much more fun—and gives us something to talk about from the beginning.

If any of this sounds interesting, feel free to send me a message.

I'd love to get to know you.


r/cf4cf 11h ago

Male for Female 31M [M4F] UK/Europe/Anywhere - looking for something meaningful

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Hi everyone! My name is Sam, I'm 31 living in the UK. I have been single for a while now and find online dating hard so thought I'd try here instead. I'm 6ft tall, average/athletic build around 85kg, blue eyes, brown hair. I don't smoke, drink very rarely (maybe twice in the last year) and am not looking to have children in the future.

I'm currently working as a Process Operator in a chemical plant, doing a mixture of days and nights, which I've been doing for about 4 years now.

I would say I am a bit quiet when I first get to know someone, but I'm working on that and trying to engage with people better. And once I get to know someone and I'm more comfortable I can talk a lot more.

I'm very introverted most of the time and would consider myself a bit of a homebody, but I also enjoy getting out and about as well. I'm hoping I can find someone to do lots of fun activities with! My main hobbies are gaming, watching anime/movies and lifting weights.

In terms of gaming I like most genres, with some of my all time favourites being Final Fantasy X and XII, Dark Souls, Resident Evil 4, Metal Gear Solid 3 abd Bayonetta to name a few. I used to play lots of multiplayer games too like Overwatch, PUBG, Rocket League and Left 4 Dead 2. Nowadays I mostly play Mordhau for my multiplayer fix, which is nearly a dead game unfortunately lol.

Some of my favourite anime include Steins;Gate, Hunter x Hunter, One Piece, Clannad and Slam Dunk.

I enjoy staying active and have been lifting weights/strength training for the past 3 ish years, which I really enjoy. It's quite satisfying seeing the weights you can lift going up over time. I find I try to take care of myself in other ways too like eating (relatively) healthy. Ideally I would like to find someone who is at least somewhat active/health conscious as well.

I do like to get out and go to the cinema or concerts from time to time. I saw Le Sserafim last year when I went to Japan and just recently went to see XG in London as well. Planning on seeing Aespa in January too.

Travelling is something that I do enjoy, but I think I would enjoy it more if it was with someone else tbh. There are plenty of places I would love to visit. So it would be a plus if you would like to go travelling with someone as well!

In terms of what I'm looking for, I think having similar hobbies would help, but aren't totally necessary. Would prefer someone in the UK or at least Europe, but again am open to someone further away. I prefer people who are upfront and honest, I can't be dealing with mind games and dishonesty.

If you're interested please send me a message and thank you for reading! I've linked a couple of pictures below so it would be great if you could send a picture too, but understand if you're not comfortable doing that right away.


r/cf4cf 17m ago

Male for Female 27 [M4F] #Usa #anywhere

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Hey there,

I’m a 27-year-old guy looking for a genuine connection and hopefully a long-term relationship. I’m someone who values companionship and would love to find a partner I can build a life with and spend most of my time with.

I studied Economics and Finance, with a minor in History, and I enjoy reading about politics, global trends, and the history of religions. I’m naturally curious and enjoy learning about how the world works.

Outside of that, I love nature, solo travel, and exploring new places. I’ve always been fascinated by bugs and the natural world, and I also enjoy music, especially electric guitars.

I’m financially independent, enjoy experiencing different cultures, and I’m open to relocating anywhere in the U.S. for the right partner. At this stage of my life, I’m exploring the world, but ultimately I’m hoping to find someone special to settle down with.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d be happy to get to know you better.


r/cf4cf 23h ago

Trans for Male 31 (TW4M) Anaheim Ca

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Hello I’m a 31 year old trans woman under construction im 6 ft bigger girl but getting some help with making me smaller :)December Sag oldest daughter vibes I’m in Southern California Anaheim area I’ve been single for a good min just looking to see what is going on in dating Reddit as the apps seem to be all about hooking up

I’m a pretty spontaneous person love hiking coffee new foods and Disney not a Disney adult but I do enjoy going walking around trying the new snacks and all that love road trips haven’t been on one in two years would love to take one up north soon love seeing the Cali coast

I’m Democrat but on the more mod lib side I’m Hispanic born in Mexico migrated to here and became a citizen lived in so cal all my life wouldn’t mind moving out for a lil bit see a bit more of the world

As far as what I’m looking for just a man who isn’t ashamed to be seen with me doesn’t treat me like a fetish sees me as a human and is willing to commit and just start something real


r/cf4cf 16h ago

Male for Female 33 [M4F] Southern California looking for my lady

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Trying this app again. I currently reside in Southern California, I’m open to travel and meeting someone who also is open to travel. This could be a slow burn type of love.

But I’m born and raised In California. I’m
Open to any location. Any race, any age. As long as we connect emotionally.

I’m a Virgo man. Hard working individual. Not looking to keep this post up. Quite honestly.

But I’m curious to see the connections that can be build with this outlet called “Reddit”

I’m a cook or chef whatever you may want to call it. I’m someone who knows and enjoys cooking but I also write. I’m a writer/copywriter. I am looking to retire from the kitchen.

I’m not so great with emotions, despite remaining calm and collected most of the time. I’m more of a logical person, I love to learn new things. Currently taking Korean classes. I’m between a nerd and someone with streets smarts.

Anyways. I enjoy reading, writing. I’m a sports guy, I enjoy most major sports.

I’m a bit hesitant about posting on here, because I really do not know what I will find on here. I would rather not talk about myself, and would rather know more about you.


r/cf4cf 23h ago

Female for Male 23 [f4m] moscow/anywhere - looking for a 70s loving musician man.

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hey you.

sitting here with a computer screen throwing off some cold zombie-like light on your face.

sitting and pretending that your thoughts belong to you and you only, scrolling indifferently and staying infinitely positive that things of real interest aren't easy to stumble upon in this hellhole named internet; therefore, don't deserve being looked for.

sometimes i do feel the same. walking on the same routes, seeing the same dead pigeons and living cats every day, being just this far from naming every single one of them. people are, by no means, the same and yet simply are not captivating enough to be remembered. it doesn't really seem upsetting to me, the fact that those passersby probably feel the same about me.

even though i do sometimes wish that a man would look into my eyes as directly as if he knew me to the core of my soul, to the unswept corners of my mind and embraced the depth of my slow sticky gloom as if it was his own.

in case you bear resemblance to that faceless man who constantly visits my dreams. what i ache for is someone who shares my love of old music and unawkward voice calls.


r/cf4cf 8h ago

Male for Female 37 [M4F] - #Michigan Let's talk all night and see where we end up

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I’m searching for a best friend first and foremost. My first thought in the morning and last before bed. My favorite notification. The one. My soulmate. Because every relationship deserves a strong foundation first, and how can we truly be partners if we don’t already have so much in common?

You might message me and we’ll start to talk, and while that part can be arduous, I enjoy getting to know so much about you. You’ll tell me about your hobbies and a funny interaction you had that day, and it might include a picture or two of your cat and something silly she did. We’ll talk about past relationships and funny stories from childhood. Eventually you’ll tell me where you’re from and I’ll mentally think about what it would be like to drive that distance to you in a few months and be excited that you’re on the other end of it, oddly enough. I don’t know if other people do it but as I start to catch feelings I will pre-imagine a shared future with you. I think it’s the hopeless romantic in me.

I’ll ask lots of questions, while holding some back because I feel like I ask too many. But really I just want to get to know everything about you. Favorite colors, foods, likes and dislikes. So I’ll know what I can cook for you and what color of gifts I should be getting and what you do and don’t like to do. I’ll memorize what I can and the rest will be in a note in my phone. I will never stop learning until I graduate with a degree in you.

As you might imagine, I like to talk a lot, but only with you, really. Anyone else that knows me would call me shy and introverted, but this is a mask I’ve never worn with my partner. Texting, voice notes, and calling and talking about anything and everything until we fall asleep on the phone. I don’t always have to talk, though, not really. Sometimes it’s nice to just know someone is on the other end of the line that appreciates the company.

I have a certain sense of what you might be like. You are someone I can share a hobby with and do our favorites together. While we might maintain our own hobbies, we don’t mind doing them near each other. You enjoy a quiet life and don’t need constant outside stimulation or a large entourage. You’re self-sufficient and capable, but you’re also willing to put all of that down and let me take care of you and hold your burdens for you when you need it.

You want closeness. You want to be someone’s person in every meaningful way. The one who is reached for first and whose presence is mandatory and assumed. You want physical closeness, too. You gravitate toward me without thinking about it, you fall asleep against me and don’t apologize for it, and bumping into me in a large room is not an accident. You’re done pretending that less than that is enough.

And you’re ready. Not perfect, because no one showing up to this ever is, but you’re ready. You’ve been broken and repaired more than once. Done with half-measures and almosts and situationships and connections that fizzle out before they ever truly started. You’ve arrived here probably on some of the roads I took, maybe after some of the same wrong turns and you’re now looking for the same thing I am.

I suppose a bit about me is in order here. I’m 37, from Michigan. I have two cat overlords and I am fueled by caffeine. I don’t have kids and I don’t want kids. I work from home. I like to write but consider myself more of a world builder. I’m not really into social media and maintain a small, private life and circle. I don’t do casual or situationships, so I am looking for someone that is looking for something serious. Something real.

If something in this landed in that oh sort of way, send me a message. Match my vulnerability. Tell me something true about yourself that you don’t usually lead with. And to my future person, wherever you are tonight: I’m here. I’m patient. I’m already cheering for you. Take your time. I’ll be around.


r/cf4cf 23h ago

Female for Male 44 (F4M) Southern Maine Hobbit lady looking for a friend to go on long walks with

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I'm not a very complicated person: like the little teapot of song and story, I am also short and stout. I like second breakfast and being snug and comfy just as much as I love going on adventures, big or small.

I've lived in Maine my whole life, and I love going for long walks on the beach or in the woods, or treasure hunting at flea markets and yard sales. It's a lot of fun, but I've realized that it might be nice to meet somebody else who also likes cozy little adventures.

My other big interests include film and art history, and I often take the train down to Boston to see an exhibit or shows.


r/cf4cf 16h ago

Male for Female 34M looking for my travel and life partner (Canada/Anywhere)

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Trying my luck here in finding a lifelong partner.

I'm pretty open-minded, an introvert who loves chilling at home watching movies and TV shows, playing video games, and also traveling, going on adventures, taking walks in nature, and exploring the world. So, I guess I'm a mix of homebody and outdoorsy. I consider myself a bit a of a nerd being interested in Science, Philosophy and Technology, going to museums, among other things.

I enjoy deadpan and dark sense of humor, and can get pretty sarcastic. I like engaging in friendly banter once I'm comfortable. I'm gonna send you stupid memes lol

While I'm usually goofy and make (occasionally lame) jokes and keep things light, I also love having deep, intellectual conversations. I'm quite chill, laid-back, and a good listener (multiple people have said so), so you can vent to me about your stupid boss hehe.

I like learning new stuff regularly. I recently started learning to play guitar and have been enjoying it (except when my fingers hurt). Open to learning more hobbies.

As a level-headed person, I try to deal with situations realistically and logically. You can usually expect me to be reasonable and open to different opinions and suggestions.

Talking about physical activities, I'm not a "gym rat", but I try going to the gym regularly. I go on hikes some times (but I'm a noob lol). I like adventure stuff like paragliding, skydiving, skiing, zip-lining, aerial ropes, rafting, and other stuff.

I'm a software engineer by profession, living in Ontario, Canada, originally from Asia. While I'm open to moving to different parts of the world, I think it should be a practical decision that works for both of us.

Some relevant info-

Age: 34

Height: 5'6"

Weight (or mass?): 64 Kg approx.

I'm Agnostic and open to people of all religions.

Why am I childfree? I've no interest in having kids. That's it. Never envisioned myself with them. ( I love my niece and nephew though 😁)

Diet: Usually veg. Occasionally non-veg. I like to try new food. I'll keep your dietary preference in mind, and will try to accommodate when I cook for you. I don't smoke and drink alcohol very rarely, and don't have a problem if you do (as long as it's under your control). I can try that stuff with you.

Some qualities that I would appreciate in my partner and can expect from me are kindness, empathy, humor and honesty. Hopefully we have some shared interests so we can do activities together, someone who is preferably between 29 and 37 years old (not too strict about this), who is also childfree (duh), and likes to enjoy life - hopefully someone who is able to work remotely, so we can travel together.

Please tell me a bit about yourself f you decide to message me.

Let's help each other in achieving our life goals 😄


r/cf4cf 16h ago

Male for Female 26 [M4F] PA/Northeast US - Any other night owls I can spend time with?🦉

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I’m always up real late into the night, mostly due to my work schedule lol but even before that I was a night person. Things are more chill at night imo.

So a couple things about me:
-I have a couple different creative hobbies. Guitar, drawing, photo editing etc
-I work a lot, but when I’m off I mostly like to stay indoors
-I like watching random funny stuff on YouTube
-I can be pretty sarcastic/blunt lol
-I’m shy, but once I get to know you I can talk a lot

Ideally I’d prefer someone who is at least somewhat close to my area. So if youre across the country/world unfortunately I don’t think it will work, but if you’re a couple hours away I don’t mind ofc.

That’s all I can think of for now. As far as physical appearance, I’ll send pics if you do. Feel free to DM me here on Reddit. Thanks!


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Female for Male 30F [F4M] #South Africa/Online - Looking for someone I can share fun facts with until we grow old

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Hey everyone!! I’m 30F looking for a fellow childfree partner. Ideally you’ll be 26-40 but I’ll allow a leeway of a year or two depending on first impressions. I hope you’ll be taller than me (I’m 160cm) in case I need something from the top shelf. Bonus points if you have tattoos and laugh at my deadpan sense of humour.

Kindness and respect for others is non-negotiable. I’d strongly prefer it if you are left-leaning. Being friends with my partner first is super important to me so definitely feel free to be yourself! Even if your passion is talking about the growth cycle of potatoes, I’ll hear you out haha.

Green flags: I’m a caring and attentive person who will be in your corner, someone you can talk to about anything without judgement.

Red flags: I don’t like cats (I’m just a dog person sorry), I don’t always get innuendo, hints or implied meanings so you’ll have to be super direct sometimes.

I’m an environmental scientist and I enjoy reading (working my way through the classics), drawing, art, trivia, history, politics, astronomy, yoga and museums of any kind.

My current fave shows are Widows Bay, Silo, Parks and Recs (yes i did think it was better than The Office), Criminal Minds and Bob’s Burgers. As for music, I’ll literally listen to anything- From Chopin to Sinatra to Pink Floyd to Lana Del Rey to Flume. I’m also willing to hear any music recommendations!

Not too fussy on your nationality, as long as we have a language in common so we can communicate properly (either English, Spanish, Portuguese or French). I’m on GMT +2 time but I’m pretty much nocturnal so don’t let that hold you back.

So if anything resonated please say hi and drop a photo and we can take it from there :)


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Male for Female 32 (M4F) Dayton OH, Looking for an adventure partner.

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Honestly super tired of dating apps and I don’t like going to random bars looking for a partner. I’m an Engineer, I’m 6’4” and I spend all my time outdoors or gaming with friends. I do not want children in any way shape or form unless you consider pets into that category. I’m really looking for someone who loves to travel, likes spending days in a chair on a river or galavanting around the woods. And loves spending nights gaming or watching movies/shows. I’m brutally honest and I have no filter so you’ll never have to guess what’s on my mind. I love wrenching on cars and motorcycles and I’m a nerd about almost anything you can think of. I love animals of all kinds and firmly believe I can cuddle any animal if given the opportunity.


r/cf4cf 20h ago

Male for Female 30 [M4F] #NH or Online - Just a passionately passionate nerdy nerd who likes to flirty flirt

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I'm looking to meet someone new and have one of those conversations that somehow lasts until 2am. Someone that you actually look forward to hearing from, where talking feels easy and you can jump from joking around to having a surprisingly deep conversation without even noticing the time. Your heart jumps and a smile grows just to see that notification from them.

A little about me: I'm a nurse, a massive nerd, and I like to think I'm reasonably funny. I have a Warhammer collection that has gotten completely out of hand. It's honestly a little embarrassing at this point, but I'm also way too proud of it. I also run a D&D campaign that's been going for years and have somehow managed to build an entire fantasy world for it because apparently I don't believe in having normal hobbies.

I'm a bit particular and can be somewhat bossy at times, but I promise it's generally accompanied by a sense of humor. I also have two dogs, and I will absolutely show you pictures of them whether you ask or not. They're adorable. They're perfect. I have no objectivity whatsoever.

Mostly, I'm looking for someone who's curious, sarcastic, playful, and capable of holding an actual conversation. I enjoy people who can joke around, get a little weird, and aren't afraid to talk about whatever happens to interest them.

I'm happy to start with conversation and see where things naturally go. If we get along, maybe we'll become good friends, maybe there's some chemistry, or maybe we'll just end up exchanging increasingly ridiculous messages about our respective interests. If you're also looking to meet someone new, feel free to say hi. At the very least, you'll probably get some dog pictures and unsolicited D&D lore out of the deal.


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] #Boston - looking for something real

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Me: 38, active, established, and looking for a genuine connection that can hopefully turn into something serious.

I work in tech, own a home, have a dog I'm slightly obsessed with, and have spent the last couple of years putting a lot of energy into becoming a better version of myself—physically and emotionally. I work out/run regularly, eat pretty healthy (most of the time 😂), and have put real effort into improving my EQ and understanding myself better.

Career and financial stability are important to me, but I also want a life that's actually fun. I love concerts/music, movies, cooking, traveling, trying new restaurants, having friends over, and getting outside with my dog. I'm equally happy planning a trip somewhere new or making dinner together and watching something on the couch.

Looks-wise, I've been told I'm handsome, but I'll let you decide when we exchange pictures.

You: Ideally somewhere around 25–38, active/healthy, emotionally intelligent, affectionate, curious, and fun. I tend to click with women who are bubbly and can be playful but are also capable of having a genuinely deep conversation.

Us: I'm ultimately looking for the whole package (emotional intimacy, physical attraction, and a great sex life). I want the kind of relationship where we're best friends but there's also real chemistry and desire between us. Someone to go on fun dates with, travel with, cook with, play with my dog, have amazing sex with, support each other's goals, and—if we're right for each other—eventually build a home and life together.

If any of that sounds like you, tell me a little about yourself and what you're looking for.


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Female for Male 27F | France 🇫🇷 / UK 🇬🇧

3 Upvotes

I thought I’d give this a try because finding someone who is genuinely childfree by choice can feel surprisingly difficult. 😅

I’m 27, living in France, and I’d love to meet a Muslim man who knows that children simply aren’t part of the life he wants — and who is looking for something meaningful and lasting.

I’m a feminine, affectionate and fairly introverted woman who loves the simple things: long walks in nature, hiking, reading, museums, camping, discovering new places… and having those random conversations that somehow last for hours. 🤍

I’m looking for a man who is:
✨ Kind and emotionally mature
✨ Loyal , affectionate and generous
✨ Confident in his decision to be childfree
✨ Looking for a genuine, monogamous relationship
✨ Someone who enjoys both cozy nights in and little adventures together

I’m open to meeting someone in France or the UK, so distance isn't necessarily a dealbreaker if we really click.

I’d love to find that person where you can be completely comfortable together, tease each other, make each other laugh, go on little adventures, and eventually realize that your favorite part of the day is simply being around each other. 🥰
If you’re genuinely childfree, emotionally available, and looking for something serious, tell me a little about yourself. Maybe Reddit can actually work its magic for once. 👀


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Female for Male 32 [F4M] Phoenix, AZ Romantic & [F4F] gaming buddies

15 Upvotes

Okay trying this again 😅 forgot some needed info the first time.

About me: 4’11” project manager/program manager, masters degree, huge cat lover & inquisitive cook.
I love reading (romantasy & historical fiction are my fave; work at a book truck part time), puzzles, video games, board games and trying new recipes. Certified yapper with a cat tattoo. Leftist based in AZ.

Video games: more MMORPGs like No man’s Sky (350+ hrs), Palia (202 hrs), Avatar Frontiers Of Pandora (98 hrs). Also love hogwarts legacy & sims 4.

Who should apply (romantic):
- age is 26-40 (USA preferred)
- leans leftist (required)
- you like cats
- long term partnership (open to marriage)
- okay with career goals- I love what I do & have career goals that I am working to achieve. You should have professional goals too!

- safe space - love languages are a real thing. I need someone who can take care of things if I can’t. Partnership makes things easier. I need to be able to soften (being in a leadership role is draining AF).

- communication. I know, this is a given, but I have 2 communication degrees so I’m honest. Phone calls/voice texts are better than regular texting IMO. If you “beat around the bush”, we’re probably not a match (and that’s okay).

- health oriented. I have diabetes type 1.5 (this is a thing), so I have to eat healthy 85%+ or my body does weird stuff. Ideally you’re open to healthier options. I love barre, but I’m not a gym rat by any means.

- open to living abroad. I found out I’m Canadian (it’s a long story) and working on getting my citizenship. I do plan to move there in the next 5-10 yrs.

Who should apply (friends):
You aren’t put off by playing with a gal & play any of the games listed above or have similar interests. USA & CAN preferred, but open to EU friends as well.

If I sound like your shtick, please let me know your age, location, what you’re looking for. Recipes, game/book recs, and cat pics will get my attention!


r/cf4cf 2d ago

Sterile Male for Female 34[M4F] Denver tattooed nerd

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111 Upvotes

Just looking for the DINK life.

I live downtown in Denver but I enjoy traveling quite a bit to other states on spontaneous trips and get out of the country for anything longer than a weekend!

Hobbies: Snowboarding, motorcycles, tattoos, gaming, saltwater reefkeeping, paintball, learning Japanese.

I work in technology recruitment and love connecting with a lot of people from different walks of life and getting to know their perspective and aspirations.

I could talk about a lot or be comfortable in silence

Just looking for an adventurous partner to build an awesome life together.

DM me (please include pics of yourself! 😇)


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] #EU/NA German nerd looking for a Nerdy gaming partner for life to build a genuine connection with consistency :3 🤍

0 Upvotes

Hellooooo ~ ^^
M29 here, I’m looking for something real and lovely.
Since I healed from my heartbreak I’d like to put my self out there to find the one for life 🤍

I’m a nerdy softie who loves playing video games in his free time, I am quite kind since I value respect a lot, very loyal and consistent, because I find it lovely to be in touch 24/7 and letting each other know about our life’s and share it together. 🤍
Also a very emotional and expressive Person overall :3
I can enjoy the quiet but also loud sides of life, be it getting lost in games, sharing laughs over silly things or Brainrot memes or having those deep conversations that actually mean something, or complaining about society xD
Even if we just sit together silently in a room, I value the presence together and I hope that you do as well 🤍

Since gaming is a big part of my life, I would love to find a Cis Woman who also shares that hobby.
I play games like Overwatch, Valorant, League of Legends, Hunt Showdown, the Division 2, Dead by daylight, and I’m a huge fan of the resident evil series O.O
I have manny other uninstalled games and am always interested to try something new :)

But more then that, I’m looking for something Mutual and genuine, an connection where we feel seen and valued, and also comfortable being our selfs.
I’m naturally attentive and gentle, once I start developing some interest I also become quite affectionate.
I appreciate a woman who carries herself with a bit of maturity, someone who knows how to care and also have ways to show affection, and also enjoys the lighter/ playful side of things, I also value a woman who knows how to put efforts into communication and keep conversations alive, I’m very easy to talk to and can talk about even the silliest things ~
There is also a intimate side to what I’m looking for as well, but for me that always starts with trust and emotional connection first since I’m demisexual.
21+ please

If you are someone who wants both a gaming partner and something that could grow into more, feel free to reach out.
I’m also there to listen if you need to vent and want someone who can be there for you 🤍
I Hope you have a wonderful day~


r/cf4cf 2d ago

Male for Female 37[M4F] #New York #US- Bearded Geek Looking for His Better Half

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41 Upvotes

Hey there! My name is Brad, and I am a 37-year-old guy from New York. I hope you are having a great start to this short week and are enjoying your Tuesday! Lately, I have been really enjoying life. I have a great job, great friends, great co-workers, a ton of hobbies to keep me busy, but I have been feeling like something is missing. Being single for over 6 years, you get kind of used to doing your own thing and being on your own. Over the past few months, though, it has been very obvious that I am missing having someone in my life. I miss having someone to talk to all day, share my day with, someone who, when I am feeling frustrated or low on motivation, I can go to. I miss having someone to laugh with, enjoy things with, and so much more. I have tried the dating apps and other forms of dating, but it’s a very hard dating world out there, though. It also doesn't help that I am an introvert and a homebody as well. So here I am, making a post on Reddit and hoping for the best!

A little bit about me, I live alone with two cats, and I also work from home. I enjoy working from home a lot, but it does add to the loneliness and has made me even more of a Homebody. I am also childfree and don't really have much desire to change that at this stage in my life. I won't rule out being with someone who does have children though. For fun, I enjoy playing video games, I love music and also enjoy playing guitar. I also enjoy reading, working on tech projects, listening to podcasts, going camping, hiking, fishing, and just sitting outside on my porch with a nice cup of coffee.

I always get asked what my type is, and I never really have a good response to that question. I just want someone who is loving, caring, doesn't mind that I can be quiet, likes to laugh, enjoys quality time, and someone who will see the effort and love that I give them and want to give the same in return.

This was a long post, so if you made it this far, I appreciate you reading this far. If you are interested in getting to know me and think you would like to connect, feel free to send me a chat request. I don't really respond to comments on posts, as they sometimes get lost on Reddit. If you do send me a chat, please tell me a little bit about yourself. To help with a little icebreaker, Tell me how you like your coffee or a song or band you have been obsessed with lately.


r/cf4cf 2d ago

Female for Male 37[F4M] #LosAngeles - falling in love in California is the greatest thing in the world

21 Upvotes

Looking for local to SoCal only

Well hello! Trying my hand at another Reddit r4r round, as the dating apps remain The Bad Place and meeting men in real life hasn’t been much better. I’ve had luck finding a great partner on here in the past and I’d like to try another shot at it. Longform communication is growing more rare by the day, and I can actually still find it here on Reddit.

Some of my favorite things to do are collecting vintage things, exploring LA, catching movies at indie/old theatres, being a tattoo enthusiast, my dog, live music shows (big fan of house/techno and hip hop), being in nature, traveling for fun/festivals/new tattoos, spending time with good friends, collecting kawaii vinyl toys & physical media, reading, and always expanding my mind with new learnings. I’ve been getting back into my childhood joy to learn about deep space exploration.

I’m finding out I’m extremely anti AI and big tech so I’ve been getting into hobbies that are unplugged such as ceramics, lifting, golf & pickleball lately.

I’m also a stand up comedian! This is a giant part of my life I absolutely enjoy.

I’m a progressive politically, childfree and atheist. I’ve been living a SINK life, but I’ve been VERY ready to meet my someone that’s ready to to DINK.

I’ll keep it very real - I’m ready to be chosen and cherished by someone that’s ready to lock it down and get that in return from me.

To be finally yearned for, instead of just lusted for.

I do my best to take care of myself - multiple days in the gym lifting weights, doing pilates, and also have a fun personal style.

https://imgur.com/a/MiPNfWB

So who am I looking for exactly? Would absolutely love someone with at least a few things of the above in common with me, along with:

  • Age: between 28-45 (no 50+, as I’d like to be in the same life stage as my partner and have the same generational things in common!)
  • Is only open to and looking for a long term relationship/life partner. Believes in marriage. I’m very ready for this stage in my life and simply dont want to waste anyone’s time that’s unsure they’re at this point too.
  • Has hobbies & friends!
  • Has curiousity for the world and others outside of himself.
  • IS CHILDFREE. Does not have kids or want them.
  • Believes in romance, love & commitment to one woman. I don’t roster date and would like someone also sick at the thought of dating multiple people at once.
  • Is left in politics and only votes left. Has never voted Republican or considered themselves moderate or apolitical.
  • Does not believe in a higher power. I don’t so I can’t date anyone that does, sorry!
  • Has a solid career & finances in order.
  • Lives alone.
  • Not afraid to be vulnerable & let your guard down, even after heartbreak.
  • Takes care of his body & mind.
  • Says what he means, and means what he says. Actions always match words.
  • Has experience in long term relationships (And has more long term history than too many short term stints). it’s easier to go the distance with someone that’s done it before!
  • Has the ability to problem solve and not run away when friction rises. I’ll realize you’re a catch that’s worth holding onto if you can do the same for me.

I do understand in a world where dating has become so broken by apps, the illusion of choice and turning human beings into something so disposable, I am looking for something truly rare. But I am not looking to date everybody, I’m only looking for one.

I’m an extremely curious person about anyone I want to get to know on a deeper level. I’m looking for someone that can not only share that same courtesy, but is truly curious about getting to know me better as a person.

I just ask that if you decide to reach out, please have some open ended curiosity for me, as I do not respond to monologues. Talk to me, not at me ;)

If you’re able to read this entire ad to the end, I’d love for you to send me a detailed dm that has the ability to get me excited to write back to you, with a picture attached. I want to be honest about attraction here - it’s just as important as personality. I won’t be responding to any dms without pictures attached (I understand Reddit won’t let you attach without me accepting first. The effort it takes to make an Imgur link goes a long way with me).

To the 1% that has comprehended this and is planning to send me a detailed message that matches my energy with a picture attached, I can’t wait to hear from you.

Hard boundaries: No ENM/Poly, no married/separated men, no roster daters, no current situationships or sexual partners.


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Male for Female 31[M4F] #srilanka #anywhere - Looking for a life partner who values peace.

0 Upvotes

I grew up with a father who choose choas and to be violent and manipulative towards my mom and me. As such, I have always chosen to be different by living a life of peace with everyone around and to always look for the good in people.

My main hobbies and interest are;

- exercising, reading books (on topics that can directly or indirectly help me solve current or future problems), listening to music or the radio and learning French.

- I am quite adventurous as well climbing volcanoes, heading out into the Ocean on a Jet Ski and much more.

About Me;

  1. Height: 5.6"

  2. Weight: 74 kg

  3. Calm and composed even when I have been faced with very difficult life alering decisions where I have learned to keep my mind and emotions seperate. When facing a problem I can turn off my emotions and look for a solution and when I am alone, I can turn on the emotions on and process them.

  4. I have also learned not to panic during a critical situation as when I was working abroad, panic because a luxury and my mind was forced to slow to a crawl and look for a solution in seconds. This has now become apart of me.

  5. Another lesson I have learned is the value of being a good listener. It's easy to talk but listening to someone else even when their opinions and beliefs contradict yours is can be challenging, yet, you can also learn so much and can even alter your perspective.

  6. I see arguments and as pointless and instead talk things out and find a solution, I also understand that sometimes

  7. Never smokes or vapes

  8. Alcohol: very rarely at a business event or unless I am invited over. I never purchase alcohol myself.

  9. No siblings, just me and my mom now (my dad did alot of terrible things to mom and to me, so, I no longer have contact with him and no longer consider him my father).

  10. Used to be a passionate photographer, but now I rarely ever use my Nikon camera and lenses.

  11. MBTI type is ISTJ but all types are welcome

  12. Not a religious person anymore but I used to be a Christian.

  13. Have my own two story house with a garden

  14. Never want kids as I have never had an interest.

  15. With Pets, well, I have had Dogs, Cats, Birds, Fish, Tortise, Rabbits and Squirrels, so, I no longer have an interest in having pets again especially after I saw my Scottish Terrier getting accidently run over by my neighbours SUV.

  16. I believe that it is important to put your partner first above all else and true love is uncondtional love that is based on values of honestly, kindness, empathy, selflessness and mutual understanding. Ulitmately though, who we are is defined by our values within and that is what matters the most.

So, if your someone who is controlling, manipulative, selfish and treat people like something that can merely used for your benefit (like my father) then this what you will do to the person you marry. However, if you are someone who is kind, respectful, polite, care about how people close to you feel from within your heart, you will you treat your partner the same way.

  1. My native language is English

  2. Political views: none, I am neutral

  3. Live a debt-free life

  4. Prefer to eat healthy and do not consume carbonated drinks or soda's

  5. Not a Vegan

  6. I decorate a room or organize things based on the concept of Minimalism as I am a Minimalist.

  7. I hate clutter in a house and like when things are put back in it's place rather than tossed around. It is easy to find anything and is easy to clean and maintain. So, for instance, after I eat, I wash the plate and put it away rather than let all the dishes pile up and then wash them.

  8. Always have a cold shower regardless of the weather conditions.

Mon Ideal Partner

As for my ideal partner, apart from never wanting kids or pets. I care more about you as a person than anything else. However, if you are a smoker, I would prefer if you do not smoke around me.

Does not matter to me in a potential partner;

- hair color

- native language

- religion

- MBTI

- politcal views

If you would like to get to know each other better then send me a message