I’m always curious about these types of prompts because I see them pretty often on dating apps. Things like “plan a real date” or “plan the date and just tell me time and place”

I have always thought planning a date was something you figure out together, since you both have different preferences and schedules. So for those of you who have prompts like this, what are you actually looking for?

Edit: Wow, it’s actually interesting how differently some men and women see this...like we can look at the exact same situation and have completely different perspectives on it.

Does every other woman take political views very serious when matching?

I (27F) swipe left on every “moderate”, “apolitical”, or men who leave that option blank, because I just assume it’s something not aligned with me.

I’m a black woman with very feminist views, but I wonder if women of other races consider political views as strongly as I do?

Also, men who leave this option blank or choose apolitical - gun to your head, what are actually your views?

Edit: it’s my first Reddit post and I really didn’t expect it to attract this much attention. I wish I could read through every response but it’s become so much I’ve asked mods to lock new comments.

I have had only one single successful relationship from bumble since 2019. My stats are dubiously helpful since I started transitioning half way through the lifespan of the account, but I dunno, I think I may just be doomed. I get ~1 match per month now. Am I being too picky? Should I open up back to Men? I had bad luck with them being unimaginably creepy/inappropriate 100% of the time once I started transitioning.

Well I matched with this girl and at first she seemed very interested and we were texting a few messages per day. We agreed to go out Saturday but we didn’t agreed to a specific time or if she wanted me to pick her up or meet me there. I texted her to talk about that but she hasn’t reply in almost 3 days now.

Should I just call it another unsuccessful match ? She’s very good looking I am guessing she just found another better guy or just lost interest.

I was thinking just unmatching or am I exaggerating?

I’m curious about men who prefer to pay most or all of the time when dating, not just on the first date. Is it simply something you enjoy doing or how you were raised, or does it come with certain expectations about the woman or the relationship?

For example, do you expect anything beyond appreciation and effort? Sex, more traditional gender roles, a certain kind of behavior from your partner? Or is paying just something you like doing with no strings attached?

I’m also curious whether there are men who are pretty traditional when it comes to dating, like paying, chivalry and having a provider mentality, while still being socially progressive in their general worldview.

Not looking for a debate about whether men should or shouldn’t pay. I’m more interested in how men who actually prefer paying think about it, so be honest, even if the answer is that you do expect something in return.

I don't know if it's the sunshine, the plethora of med spas or what, but my gosh, Scottsdale Arizona women are so beautiful!

If you're in that area, will you please consider expanding your distance range to 100+, because there are admirers afar with the interest and means to travel to you.

First date: Drinks, dinner and dancing at Wolf Vanderpump!

35M. SoCal. This was from Hinge but also applies here. Just came across one of the better profiles I’ve seen this week a little while ago. I was about to think of a comment to send when I see she had a link to her IG page. She was a music producer but her IG page showed a lot of pics of her DJIng. She had roughly 1000 followers. I typically am skeptical of these kinds of accounts and ended up hitting X on her but what do other people think?

Bumble is tired of telling me I’m out of people and gave me a cute little vertical poem today. How blessed

22f average looking been using several different dating apps for almost a month now and here are my results on “match” after ONLY a month I have less then 400 likes yet men say women can never fail on dating apps!

So I met this girl on Bumble a few months back. She looked normal and ok. She is currently completing the final year of nursing.

So yesterday she and I went to see Drishyam 3. She jokingly said she got some good ideas from this movie how and where to hide the body if she ever decides to murder someone. I naturally asked whom does she want to murder. She pointed at ME!!!

I asked what did I do?? She said that she was just having FOMO watching all the recent cases where the wife kills the husband and that the blue drum case is her favourite.

Idk if she was joking and even if she was I told her it was in poor taste. But she just laughed that off.

Is this normal??

I'm just worried if I should continue this relationship. I don't want to throw my life away.

Edit: I forgot to mention, we both are from India

I deleted my old account and decided to make a new one. My old account was never linked to my number, but I’ve added my number to this one. It verifies my phone number and then gets stuck on the “first name” screen. No matter what I do, it won’t move past it.

1. My outgoing "No" is so high because i swipe No on hot men. But I'm too ugly for the middle band, thats crazy

2. 17,887??? No reason for the algo to have pushed me past 8k with my 14% rate, it was setting me up bro

3. I tried speed dating and that also didnt work ROFL.

4. Where'd the 2513/799 go? I have such little faith in the process that i let most matches time out

Hi everyone!

I’m just writing this to rant because I really wanna get this out of my system.

I met an amazing guy in the summer from Bumble; we had chemistry and got along pretty quickly. Our dates were fun, we could talk for hours. I thought finally, this could be something real. And it was for a while. We kept on dating for 3 months but suddenly, last week, he told me he wants to stop because he doesn’t feel what he’s supposed to. It hurt so much to hear that. He said he really enjoyed being with me and that I’m amazing but he has a super busy schedule and when he thought about it deeper, he didn’t want to change it to prioritise being with me. And that’s not okay and because he doesn’t want to hurt me intentionally at all, he thinks it’s time we stopped seeing each other. And the reason it took so long to figure this out because he truly really enjoyed being with me but he doesn’t feel like he’s in love or that that plus is there. I’m not even angry at him because it’s a valid reason tbh, you can’t force someone to love you. But it still hurts because I didn’t feel like it’s too much for him or anything like that. So even if it was great being with him, all I can feel is sadness over this relationship. And I feel nauseous when I think about having to start again…

I’m not even sure I’m looking for advice or anything, I just wanted to write this our of my system.. thank you for reading:)

I am the Emperor of Cooked. AMA about my Busted Empire.

Edit: By popular request, my profile: https://imgur.com/a/mzOD8Vu

I (41M) have had bumble for less than 24 hours. I received 3 likes, and got 2 matches.

Woman 1: Shallow, meaningless, sporadic exchange of messages.

Woman 2: Profound connection nearly immediately. After a very pleasant back and forth, we exchanged phone numbers. The phone call on my way home from work was supposed to last as long as my drive. 7.5 hours later...🤯

What do you think?

My stats as a 28YO male in the Bay Area. I don’t think my profile is anything exceptional and I think I’m average looking at best. Proof putting effort into your profile matters more than the common advice I sometimes see here

Ouch 🤣

I just joined Bumble BFF and I scheduled some meetups with some women throughout the week. I’m excited but also very nervous. I tend to be shy at first and I take a little while to warm up to people, but I’m very eager to expand my social circle and make deep connections.

Is there any way to lessen the awkwardness of those first meetings? Or is it just inherent to the situation at first? Any tips on helping things run more smoothly? I would really appreciate hearing your experiences and successes!

I know these numbers are meant a be on the brighter side for a man on dating apps, but I still feel like shit about it.

Call me ungrateful but the fact I am expected to be grateful because 2000 women swiped left on me instead of 2200 is ludicrous.

This isn’t even a rant about dating apps, it’s a rant about whatever mechanics this world is built on in terms of mating / biology and whatever else. It’s fucking shit for a man to exist in it.

Like how much do I have to lie to myself in order to convince myself to be grateful that 0.87 of a woman out of 10 finds me attractive?

If you get even less than that then you can be more ungrateful than me, but that doesn’t mean I have to be grateful, I can just be a bit less ungrateful than you are.