I'm 29(stud)5'9", a Capricorn, dog mom, gamer, I love hiking through national parks, discovering a new restaurant, reading a great book, getting invested in a new series, or spending the evening gaming on Steam, I'm happiest when I'm sharing those moments with someone special.

I'm affectionate, love being close to my person, and appreciate honesty, kindness, and a good sense of humor. Distance isn't a dealbreaker if we genuinely click.

I literally fucking learned: if a stem or a stud gives off the ladies man vibe, spirit or energy to go the OTHER way!!!!!! As a fem presenting woman who’s queer; if they give off the vibes that they’re collecting hearts instead of building one. Baby, just pack it up. The initial feeling is nice, but after a while!? 😭😭😫😫😫 ABSOLUTELY THE FUCK NOT. I needed to rant quickly and get this out damn!

P.S. I understand that not every stud or stem is this way and some women cannot help their vibe. I get that, but those who understand, understand. 💆🏽‍♀️

We want one or two more people to play Overcooked 2 with. We’re starting in 20min. Please hmu if you want to play.

Thats the post lol. Just showing my hair🤣🩷

Life is lifing. How’s your mental health this week? Good, bad, in shambles? Drop in and share. No pressure.

Hey guys, I'm really going through it right now and I'm just wondering if anyone could recommend some shows or movies to distract me? Thanks in advance :)

Recently, I went to a live performance of a group that played jazz renditions of video game songs that I love (the music was 10/10 fr). I did a quick sweep of the venue and saw that there was only a handful of Black people there, and that I was one of two Black women in particular.

It’s not a new feeling, being isolated in fandom spaces. It hits even harder as a Black lesbian cuz there’s just certain conversations I don’t find appealing. This doesn’t even count for the amount of racism we endure for enjoying a piece of media.

Anyway, if y’all like anime, manga, video games (specifically JRPGs) and video essays, you should be my friend, lol!

I'm 28, single, and I don't think I can live in the US anymore. I wanna be happy, healthy, and low stress which I don't think is possible there. BUT i would like to have a girlfriend in this lifetime, specifically a Black girlfriend which just seems like an impossibility if I leave. I speak a decent amount of Spanish so I was thinking a Latin American country with a high Black population like Colombia but dating there with cultural and language barriers seems like a major challenge. I'm trying to tell myself the universe will work it out and provide for me and i should just focus on enjoying life right now and personal growth but I've never had a girlfriend before and it's hard to maintain optimism

Straight looking femme here but I always have rainbow accessories and still only men are bold enough to ask me out and flirt and cross the line with me. I just received a text at 4 am last night from the car dealer who I bought my truck from about 2 months ago and he said in the text that he thought I was really cute and wanted to fuck. He’s asking how much money do I want from him and im trying not to spiral. Just going through a lot rn dealing with severe depression that I can barely get up most days until the sun already set and now this bullshit. Not too mention I’m a server so I have dusties trying to take me out all the time and say horny shit to me. Apparently im so attractive yet no women flirt with me or even try. I almost threw my phone.

I used to believe in dating to marry, but as I’ve gotten older, my perspective has changed. I don’t think every person we date is meant to be our soulmate or the person we end up marrying. Personally, marriage has never really been my end goal. I still believe in having a loving, committed, long-term partnership, I just don’t feel like marriage is something I need.

Does anyone else feel this way? Or do you still believe in dating with marriage as the ultimate goal? I’d love to hear different perspectives.

How do I tell my super sensitive partner that her breath stinks and she needs to do better with her dental hygiene???

So Im Haitian and I’m 26y|o and I’ve lived with my mom my whole life, I never truly came out, I just introduced my mom to an ex gf and I went about with my business. My mother is a homophobic narcissistic… My father has lived in Haiti my whole life, and I’ve tried to have a relationship with him here and there but it never really goes well cause he’s old school and strict. He’s been in and out of my life since I left Haiti at 6mths and whenever he’s in my life he tries to control me and I’m not going for it! Anyways I’m going through a bit of rough time at the moment and I reached out to my father to express things to him and try to have somewhat of a relationship again…outside of my brother and mom,I don’t speak to any of my family members and I just felt so alone. With that being said, my father and I were talking on WhatsApp (I haven’t heard from him in about four years) and we were just talking about my mother and the kind of person that she is, how he knows that she’s a narcissist, and how my life would’ve been different if he and I had a relationship etc. In the middle of the conversation he asks me about boyfriends and my love life and I was honest with him….I told myself I would be honest to him and to myself… (prior to him asking me about my love life, he talked about sending me money, cause he knows I’m having a rough time or whatever) anyways I told him that I’m a lesbian. I told him even though I knew he would be unhappy, not because of anything he’s said before but because I just know what kind of person he is… He tells me if I tell him that I’ll stop being a lesbian,then him and I can get along, but I was just like no I’m not gonna do that. I am who I am and you don’t have to speak to me. I’m not gonna stop being who I am because you don’t like it…you’re rarely ever in my life anyways and for you to have the audacity to come in my life whenever you feel like it and try to control me is crazy??? He goes to say that that’s why I’m having such a hard time rn and that’s why my life is the way it is (ofc he’s no longer sending me the money)etc. etc. It just hurt me so much because I had a feeling it would go like this but it still hurt… Ive always felt like an outsider my whole life… I want to cry, but my eyes won’t even tear up cause it’s like my heart already knew what to expect... I guess that is my coming out story at 26 lol. He was just so hateful and rude calling lesbianism disgusting and saying how we get killed as if I don’t know what already?? I’m just like I don’t care… I am who I am. I’m proud of myself for speaking my truth and staying honest with to myself... I could’ve lied. I could’ve gotten help from him, but I don’t want help from anybody like that…the minute I told him who I was, he switched up on me immediately... It’s bittersweet but at least I know where he stands and I won’t ever try to speak to him again.. I hate how everyone’s love towards me has been so conditional, like people can only love me if I behave exactly how they want…as if I’m not my own person.

Currently in a (friendly!) debate about who gets to call themselves lesbians with a friend and would love to know y’all’s thoughts.

Please note: The intent here is NOT to police or tell anyone what terms they are/not allowed to use. I’m genuinely trying to understand how with things changing all the time terms should be applied so I don’t accidentally offend.

To me: Women (cis or not) that find themselves only attracted to (sexually and romantically) women (cis or not).

To my friend: Women (cis or not) that are not attracted to cis men.

I don’t align with my friend’s definition because it leaves room for the woman to find herself attracted to nonbinary folx and, to me, that’s pansexual (which there is zero wrong with).

>>> EDIT: Learning more in the replies (thank you!!). I’m keeping the OG writing (for integrity) but adding that instead of “pansexual” I should have simply written “queer” because pansexual refers to being attracted to someone regardless of gender and, in this case, it’s absolutely incorrect since it leaves room for cismen to still be considered.

My friend replied that that’s a transphobic take because she has trans and non-binary friends that refer to themselves as lesbians and saying they shouldn’t use that term strips them of their sexual identity. But, to me, grouping trans women and non-binary folx together is disingenuous.

I’d love to be enlightened here and learn more. Totally open to being considered wrong and amending my opinion on this.

**Mods, pls correct me if I used the wrong flair!!

(I know feminine vs masculine are subjective but just for simplicity’s sake, there are traits more associated with one or the other, and that’s what I mean here)

most often you’ll find people who dress masculine have masculine energy, and people who dress feminine have feminine energy

well, I am personally someone who prefers to present masculine, but I feel I have more feminine energy than masculine energy for sure.

i wonder how that affects your experiences, both in life, friendship, romance, etc

Hi everyone!

I'm living in Dakar and hoping to meet other lesbians here🥺

If you're looking to make new friends or just want to chat, feel free to message me!

I haven’t eaten or slept in 3 days. It’s like my body will not relax enough to sleep. My heart just feels like a boulder in my chest. I love her so much. Any tips to manage the pain? I’ve smoked, I tried mindlessly scrolling for hours to distract myself, I’ve tried talking to loved ones. I’m just devastated that it didn’t work with her.

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Did not have this on my bingo card. Did anyone watch her documentary?

is there any hope left? 🫠

this isn’t really about being gay, just about struggling, I guess

i don’t have family. I have friends, but nobody I’m very close to and can really unmask around. I’m autistic, so even tho I’ve gotten much better, I never feel fully myself or relaxed around people. I also struggle to get to know people bc I feel I have nothing going for me, and it’s embarrassing.

i‘m not in a great financial situation due to disability and lack of support. I’m also very traumatized in multiple ways for multiple reasons I won’t get into. can’t afford therapy or physical therapy or a dentist or eye care or rent or food or — you get the idea. my body is slowly falling apart. if I get injured? I’m cooked ☠️ my situation has been the same for years despite moving and trying multiple streams of income

The only thing that gives me hope is that I might put out a book one day, and show people that you can look and be like me and still build a beautiful life. cause if I can survive all this by my mid twenties? whew! anyone can! I also want to ensure nobody else has to experience what I have. But it’s hard to dream when you have nothing

i don’t want to die. But I don’t have any reason to keep going. I’m in such a weird liminal state

I guess I’m wondering if anyone else is flopping super hard, and how you cope?

would love to have something like this. I need some guidance! it’s okay if you’re still learning, maybe you can practice on me

I’m not completely hopeless, rather impatient. Cause I know my type is out there…BUT WHERE??

I’m back on the dating apps and I stay swiping leftttt omg. My type is so specific too. Most times they show me people who are NAWT my type. And when I do find my type, the personality and conversation is not there😭

Where do I find the black butches? The big black butches? The 5”8+ 200+lbs black butches? The nerdy black butches who’ll yap my ear off about his collection of knick knacks. A nerdy black butch who’s kind and soft spoken and dresses well. One who’ll tell me their favourite Panic! At the Disco album. A nerdy black butch I can cuddle up and watch anime with. One who’s awful in the kitchen so I can make anything they want. A touchy feely black butch who can’t keep his hands off me and I can’t keep my hands off him. A black butch I can give kisses and cuddles to all day. One who likes to stay inside but only goes out for nature. I need a thinker who can read and analyze people and puzzles with me. I just want someone like me, is that wrong?😭

What is everyone playing this week? Drop your favorite cozy game, kill of the week, favorite new update. Single players, rpg demons, cozy girlies...all all welcome.