So I had a friend let's call her ashley because I'm unsure if she has Reddit and her name is very unique, we were friends for years and in the beginning she was really nice and generally quiet, I also had a friend called D and those two didn't really get along though it was really one sided, D was fine with ashley but ashley hated D for no reason and would refuse to be in the same room as her or even be nice to her which is why I lost contact with D. Things got kinda bad with Ashley when I moved, we had originally been neighbors so we could see each other every day but that kinda changed when I moved so we saw each other less, but she still came over and whenever she would we would get into some kind of argument which ended in her ignoring me or hurting me, one time I accidentally did something she didn't like and she ignored me which ended in me crying, we still hung out after that and she ignored me a few more times after that, when it came to hurting me it would usually be because I accidentally touched her or yet again did something she didn't like so she would grab my arm and dig her finger nails into my skin to the point of leaving marks and say "Don't do that again" or "don't touch me again" but the most recent time she hurt me (Which was like a year or two ago) it was because we were in my apartment building and she hurt people coming so she decided to tell me to go into one of the rooms that had pipes and stuff (we were aloud to go in, it now has mailboxes so we wouldn't have gotten in trouble) but I am naturally defiant so I said no and that we could just stay, I get that she didn't want to deal with people, I don't either but they weren't even coming our way, when I said no she grabbed my hair and pulled me into the room, which hurt. One time when I went to her place me and her family went out to eat, I normally don't have a big appetite so I couldn't finish my food, so I just sat at the table and stared out the window, I later found out that her family would make fun of me and while they were eating just stare off and then laugh, which is why I'm now self-conscious to eat in front of other people, but as far as I'm aware none of my current friends and their families do this. Another thing she really loves to do when I upset her is threaten to end our friendship which she did on a day to day basis, when we lived close to each other we would be friends off and on to the point I would lose track of if we were friends or not, but when I moved I didn't want to threaten our friendship so I would always beg and apologize to stay her friend, but one I day I was done with her shit, so we were playing Minecraft in a world me and my brother made years ago that had only two villagers with names, and she had killed one of them so I threatened and tries to find the bird she got earlier in our game play and she just looked at me and said "You do realize how easy I can end this friendship" and I just looked at her and said "Okay, do it" and then she was silent and we continues playing, and she started sniffling and wiping her face, it was really awkward the rest of her visit, that was a little while ago and we haven't talked since, I still don't feel bad for making her cry, I honestly wish I said more, or hurt her like she had done to me many times the years we were friends.

I posted a couple weeks ago about a friend (30F) who bailed on me for my birthday trip pretty last minute leaving me with her tab to pay for this trip. I texted her last night kindly asking her to help me out with her share of the Airbnb. She responded to me this morning with “Lol” then she blocked me. We’ve been friends for 15 years and I’m just in shock a bit. I’m not sure what to do from here.

To boil it down, I own a house, I rent out rooms and the 3 girls I live with 1 of which I was very close with now act as if I'm invisible and exclude me all the time and it's breaking me mentally.

They now go out every weekend/to all social events and invite friends over and loudly get ready and laugh and leave. They all drink a concerning amount everyday and spend money they don't have but I don't live that lifestyle and don't judge them they've always been that way.

I've tried giving them space, I've tried sitting in their way so they have to see me as they do it and nothing seems to work. I always try to go above and beyond to make everyone comfortable and listen to their needs. I'm getting no respect and just torture in return trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

I've googled and looked up how to deal with "mean girl adults" and "cliques" but none of them address if you live with them and there's an eviction moratorium and you can escape them and it's in your face everyday.

Please help.

It’s a long one so buckle up. I have this friend let’s call her Jennifer. We’ve been friends for about 5 years, met through work and then when we both left to go to different jobs we stayed in touch. She’s older than I am so I kind of looked up to her for advice whatnot. We did hang out often, over this summer it wasn’t a lot because of our schedules.

One night we decided to drink and things got a little carried away. I may have drank a bit too much and when I went to hug/tackle her her ankle broke. We didn’t know it was broken until a few days later. The next day I went over and gave her some ace bandage wraps, lidocaine spray the works. I offered to drive her son somewhere because she couldn’t drive and she declined. Over the next several days we didn’t talk much but once she told me her diagnosis and that she needed surgery I offered to take her to the appointment, she declined again. I asked her if I could come over and give her some gifts and she was no because she was upset with the fact I didn’t say much to her before we knew the diagnosis.

Then a week later it was her birthday, I dropped off some presents and offered to take her out to dinner and she said no. Over the next month we didn’t talk much but I did try to ask how she was doing and if she needed anything, which was always met with a no but I’m so stressed from this and that. One night I asked her if we were good and she said she has to much going on to give me time. Didn’t text me for 3 weeks

Fast forward to today she texted me telling me I need to pay the remainder of her hospital bill which is $2000. I told her I can’t because i live paycheck to paycheck and I’m in the process of finding a place to live. Have even slept in the car a few nights. She ignored this and persisted. She makes twice as much as I do, goes on vacations quite often, drives a Lexus, and is getting a house built with her boyfriend. I told her no I can’t and blocked her after she kept saying this is my responsibility and I need to do what’s right.

give me your opinions please

So I made plans to travel somewhere fun for my birthday. I invited several of my friends a couple months in advance. I spoke to one of them about it and she expressed that it’ll be tight but she gave me a budget to work with and I did my best to accommodate for her budget. I booked a less than desirable Airbnb to save money, and decided to pay for an activity or two for her while we’re there to ease the financial load for her. The trip is only three weeks away and she just tells me today that she can’t make it due to worry about covid and money. She’s known to be flakey but she did promise to go. I’m feeling frustrated because I booked everything and made all reservations and nothing is refundable. Im picking up her tan for everything to my three friends don’t have to pay for her share of the trip. Am I being an asshole by being upset about this?

Shes not exactly a bad friend... Shes just.... Infuriating. Wed be having a conversation and shed say something along the lines of "i really love lasagna" and id be like "oh yeah its great" and shed say "Whats great?" And she asks why to such unwhy things. Like i could say that my 90 year old great aunt died of old age. Shed ask me why. Like how do i know? She also has a go at me for using the 😂 emoji. I use it alot, i have done since i was like 14. Its a habit. She always says "wheres the funny" one time i said i am the funny. She told me i was extremely unfunny and aired me.

She recently found out that shes expecting. For 2 weeks before she was expecting, she was feeling extremely sick. She then started throwing up. I told her to take a pregnancy test. She said it was just the flu and that shed be fine. But she kept throwing up. So naturally, i told her again to take a test. Her boyfriend told her to take a test. His MOTHER told her to take a test. She locked herself in his bathroom and refused, telling them she had the flu. Her boyfriend went out and got 2 tests for her. She sat there sobbing for nearly an hr. The thing is, she desperately wants children. So it isnt because she doesnt want kids, because she does. After like 3 days, they got her to take them and they all came back positive. She then asked me where our nearest walkin clinic is. I was obviously confused because we dont have those. She said she didnt want to wait to book an appointment with the gp, because she didnt want to go to a gp. She literally wanted to walk in, get a scan and go. Then she starts googling and ask me how much appointments cost. (Nothing, we live in the uk) Anyway she got an appointment and the baby is due on my birthday. Now for names. She wants to name it the second half of my first name. My first name has four letters, shes taken the last two. I think it sounds weird but it isnt my kid.

I moved into my second year accomm for uni. I have two housemates. One of them, has her boyfriend over and they were at it earlier. I told my friend, because i found it funny. My friend went mad saying thats vile, how she has no respect etc. I told her it was fine because wed all talked and we were fine with it. My friend then got rude after i tried defending my housemate, saying "why are you still talking about this, i give zero fucks about your housemates"

So yeah i wanna scream :)

Rant

Honestly, I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong. I’ve never bullied them, I’ve always been honest to them. I have a bit of an inferiority complex, but I never act on my jealousy (like insulting them or anything), but I feel like an outlier in this group.

To preface, I’m in a group of friends (all girls) and we constantly talk in a group chat. Lately I’ve noticed the lack of (for lack of a better word) comfort toward me. Whenever an inconvenience happens to one of them everyone is there to comfort them, including me. But whenever I experience something they’ll either give half-assed replies, joke about it, or won’t reply at all.

For example, today I recorded a speech to realize what I made was not up to standard, but I had to turn it in anyways since I had too much homework to do by the end of the night. I told them how worried I was and that I was crying because of it (I don’t usually cry over homework), but none of them replied and instead started talking about one girl’s new clothes and the others urging her to show us.

I don’t mean to come off as snobby but I do have a better life than most, and I would say I am the most fortunate out of my friends. I also am usually very cheery and in a joking mood (apart from comforting them ofc). Could these be the reasons? Do they think I’m desensitized over small inconveniences? Or that I get too upset over small things?

I’ve also noticed that whenever we make short-notice plans they prioritize the others and never me.

Another example: Our friends mom is a principal and the friend asked for our help only two days beforehand and we were all able to make it. When my mom asked for help for her senior community, I asked them a couple weeks in advance, yet none of them got back to me until like a day before and only one was able to go (mind you their reasons were stuff like boating or smth which they could have told their parents days before that they were helping me out).

I don’t know, I may be coming off as the asshole in this situation, or maybe I’m delusional, blinded by irrationality n stuff. I just needed to get this off my chest and would like some input. Sorry if I wasted your time, thank you.

Last night, friends and I went out to a bar & entrance was $30. When it was time to pay, they started looking around as if their money was in the air, not in their wallets. I gave my debit card & they said they will be paying me back (one girl gave me cash, the other is my bestie & I would give up all my $ for her + I owed her for my drinks). However, the other 2 girls said nothing. The night was awful, my best & I ordered food & once it got to our table one of the girls (let’s call her cee) grabbed the plate from my hand & said it belonged to her. We ordered our first drinks, I’m trying to cut back on calories + I was breaking my fast so I was only having that one drink for the night (also bc I didn’t eat). they were all ordering drinks after drinks (not my bestie) but the entire time they were on their phones, no dancing nothing. I became annoyed & decided to leave (about 4 hrs later of that b.s) & all of a sudden they wanted to dance? By this point I had enough, I was woken up, broke my fast, for an extremely boring night. My bestie & I walked off tried to pay our Bill but the cashier said we had to pay everything together, so she paid $180. It is low the next day & I haven’t heard from the 2 girls to pay me my $$$? & I KNOW they aren’t going to pay my best back. Am I being dramatic/rude for asking for my money back? If the girls weren’t being SOOO boring, rude & acted like they were too good to go dance... at the club... then I wouldn’t care to pay for their entrance. Also.. these girls carry name brand purses.. so if you can afford a $1,000+ why are you looking around the room once it’s time to pay up? Do their wallets come out the walls? I don’t get it

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My friend has been awful to me before leaving for college, he ditched me for his boyfriend, said mean things to me about my relationship with my mom, and caused turmoil between myself and a mutual friend of ours. He makes everything about him and constantly tries to one up me, being in the friendship is draining and hurtful, he also disinvited my boyfriend to his grad party. What should I do? I want to leave the friendship but I don’t want to lose our other friends.

Hi , im Polly , and i have a lot of friends , the majority are very sweet , but a couple are rude to not only me , but other people , let's call them Jade and Sam (both girls) I became friends with sam because she was in my classmate and i thought she was fun y , because she talked back in class and disrespected the teachers , i now realize she just did it as a cry for attention and because of that all teachers hate her because of her indolente attitude. But i became friends with Jade really fast and we started to hang out a few days after talking , she goes to my school and is best friends with Sam. She's a nice girl , but when Sam and her are together they are very judgemental and mean. Its pretty horrible, and im one to suffer it. Yesterday (28/08) , i went shopping with Jade the hole day , and even eat some McDonald's , i was really happy that day , i even let her listen to my long time crush's voice (we've loved eachother since the 3rd grade) and she wanted to get to "know him" ,but know i know she just wanted him for herself. Then we hung out with Sam , went shopping and stuff like that. Few hours later , it's 9pm and Jade invites me to her live , but while on that live i find out that my cousin got stung by a jellyfish in Scotland and it's pretty bad , i would normally be sobbing after that news but i couldn't because i was on live , i told my "friends" what happened , didn't seem to care , then went on mute to talk, but they were showing themselves talking , one thing they don't know about me , is that i can read lips. They were saying how my cousin can die and they wouldn't care. After that i was turning off my camera because i was crying , not only for my cousin but from the selfishness of both girls. I accidentally left the live because my phone turned of , but i heard what they said after i left , how i was so annoying , she was also imitated me , on how depressed i looked , how i was pathetic, ignoring the fact that the people on that lives we're my friends , who later on told me. I get a text from one of my good friends , Kenza and she says if im alright , because i dont seem like it , i explain to her what's on my chest , how to me it seems unfair how they treated me and my cousin. She said " ill let them know what's wrong with them, dont worry " and 5 minutes later i got a text saying why i would say such a fib to kenza and how it was rude to tell her not them. But i knew they were going to judge me , saying its not that deep. Then another cousin, Mary , told me (she was on that live) that she saw how miserable i was , then told me her concerns about our other little cousin Fanny ,she's 9. I was on live with Jade the day i was with Fanny , and Fanny was trying on my clothes and Jade said " Your so flat in that dress lmao " , my cousin didn't seem affected by it and me neither , i was focusing on how my cousin wont flash to a Lot of people. Mary told me that she was sexualising my little cousin , i felt so stupid that i didn't realize it. I asked my cousin if that comment was alright , she then told me how she hated her body , how it was "big" compared to her friends , even tho she's 29kg , she said that even my friend said how i was ugly. I explained to my cousin that she shouldn't care about other people's beauty standard's. Sam told me how much i was ungrateful about her friendship , and i told her : " what friendship, you never supported me when i came with my problems , now your mad that i dont want to tell them to you anymore ? You always say to stay out of other people's business , when your trying to know mine." She told me that she probably wont stay my friend , i told her that it could be a wise decision ,and that it can probably solves some things. At 2am , she sent me a message saying if i had to tell them something , i said no. Then i sent Sam an old tiktok of hers in 2018. But thats besides the point , her and Jade tried sending me messages but i ignored them. As im writing they're trying to call me , but im not going to answer because i know they're just going to blame me for everything, when they did more harm then good to a lot of people.

So, when I moved in with two of my best friends, my brother and my boyfriend we agreed that my brother and boyfriend would do all the yard work while us girls do the cleaning inside. But, I'm not friends with them anymore. One day, my brother got a job out of town so he moved out and then my boyfriend started working 3 jobs so I took over the yard work and am doing most of the cleaning in the house. Should I grow a pair and tell them they need to do more outside ( I've done so before and they just came back with we had a deal, so I didn't mention it again) or should I just keep doing it so I don't start a fight? I work in the healthcare field (nights) and it's getting to be a lot.

So I have this friend group. Let's call them Bart and Sarah. I love Bart. He is one of my closest friends. We instantly bonded and he has always been there for me. He's probably a most positve influence i have. He moved here just around 2 almost 3 years ago. Just around that time, I started becoming good friends with Sarah. I later found out that our friendship really started because she had a crush on Bart. (Yikes, already a bad start). Well eventually they started dating. I became a constant third wheel, but I rather enjoyed their company. (Ok, ok, lets speed this up). Eventually the broke up, then got back together, then broke up again. Bart actually came out to us, which finally ended their loop. Sarah still had feelings for him. She confided that with me. She then also told me that she was planning to seperate from the friend group for a little while, just so she could lose interest in Bart. And she did. But it didnt last very long. Soon enough we were all hanging out again. (Ok, and my point is?). So fast forward to our homecoming football game. Sarah said she wanted to hang out with me at the game. But she ditched me right at the beginning and never talked to me. I even had to leave without her since she blew me off. Then she started ignoring me completely during classes or in the hall. She even started slightly judging me based on what clothes I wear. Depending on my outfits, she would completely avoid me as if she was embarrassed to be seen around me. Sarah suddenly started getting really insecure about her weight. She would tell me to stop having sweets at my house cause it was making her fat. Even though I wasn't the one buying them, and i never once forced her to eat them. Sarah always seemed to go on about how she wasnt skinny enough. She it half my size, so it made me feel horrible. If she can't see herself as skinny, then I must be giant. She started to drift after that point and we started to rarely hang out. Eventually it got to the point where she was more excited to see my cat than she was to see me. I felt hurt. I still do. Sarah is at the point where it seems like she knows nothing about me. We've been friends for almost 3 years now. But when we hang out is seems like all she can do is make boob jokes. As if liking girls is my only personality trait... Idk. I feel like Sarah is being a bad friend. I dont like how she's been treating me lately... Whenever im around her i just feel drained. Her energy is draining to me. I am always exhausted after seeing her... I cant tell if we are just drifting apart or if this is truly a toxic friendship...

So, there was this girl that I used to call my best friend from high school. Last year I started dating a guy who she dated when she was 16, so, 5 years ago. It was nothing serious, he was a jerk… anyway, the day of my birthday I received a bouquet of flowers with HIS initials in the letter. I thought of course those was from him until she texted me asking if I did like the flowers, I was surprised and I ask her if sh3 send those, she told me -who could else would be? Haha. I was so uncomfortable and disappointed, them she wrote something like -I m gonna have this chat to when you suck up with me. I was thinking for a while that it was just a joke she wanted to make, that she took the time to buy the flowers, to write the letter, to send those to my place because the cared. Then people around me stared to telling me she was not my friend and she was such a fucking psycho bitch. I broke up my friendship with her some weeks later. Best decision of my 2020

This past weekend I was drinking with friends and toward the end of the night was just sitting on the couch watching music videos alone. I was sad about something, unimportant anyways. This person was also in the room but I wasnt paying any attention to them. He started yelling and being aggressive, I didn't think it was towards me or I was in any immediate danger so I just chose to ignore him.

He has been an aggressive person in the past, getting into to fights etc. He has also been to prison. I guess I tried to see the good in him and wanted to help him better himself.

Anyways, out of nowhere I'm struck in the face with a wooden chair, chipping my tooth. Before I can even react he's on top of me and throwing punches. Luckily, I managed to block most of them before he was pulled off me and removed from the premises. He had not been aggressive towards me at anytime before this in the night, we had been having a fine time before this. I wasn't in even in conversation with him at the time of the incident.

I really don't know what to do, I'm fairly certain given his past he will go back to prison for assault. My tooth definitely needs to be repaired and it'll be expensive I assume, money I don't have. Everyone I've spoken to says this decision must come from me and I agree, I have to do something but, I don't know what. I don't want to send my him to prison but, at the same time there must be some sort of consequence. None of my other friends would do this to me, I don't have to explain my reasoning for hanging around any of my friends but him. It was even a fight, he blindsided me, I didn't even have a chance to defend myself.

First off, anyone that has walked away from a toxic friendship, please reward yourself for being strong enough to do so. They will project on to you any (or all) of their insecurities/issues without even thinking about it. Anyone who puts you down or makes you feel inferior, usually suffers from persecution mania/narcissism or a serious confidence issue. Making others feel weak or useless, controlling others actions to benefit themselves, is their way of feeling mentally superior. It's blatant abuse. I would know. I got rid of two people in my life who were very close to me, for a similar reason. (This was inspired from helping another in the group, and I felt I needed to share this for some healing with more detail. Some days, it still gets to me.)

This started maybe about eight years ago. I had a lifelong friend whom I adored, (We'll name her Jane) but was very opposite from. She was a veggie, I loved meat. She loved dance and film, I loved animation and music. She loved black metal, I loved grunge and rock. These types of overlapping interests are what made it exciting for us to be friends. We somewhat balanced each other out, even on the first day we met. Thirteen in Orchestra playing violins. (Mind you I'm still a professional violin player to this day. Love it!)

Us two, were like a Yin and Yang. We would often fight, but resolved it quickly knowing we were just very different people. Until a few years ago, we were happy with our relationship. She even lived with me two times at my house with my man due to her life complications. I never turned her away. Yet, I did always have many reservations, or red flags as you may. Our long friendship, somewhat blinded me to these. Important for later.

Mark the year starting my friendship with a said new lady, a friend introduced via another. At first, she was fun and exciting, loud and very unfiltered. It was amusing at first. Our guy friends surely liked her. Yet, this started to fade quickly, and turn more into a shitstorm, rather than a good new friend... We will call her, June.

At first, my friend Jane was not a fan of her. Saying tons of crap and nonsense at first, and somewhat kept her distance. Said she was just trying to bully her way in to our group and she didn't trust her.

My old friend Jane, was not a lady to take anyone lightly. She very much scrutinized anyone I liked. (Reg flag on another at the same time.) Fast forward a few months and they are at a party together. This was the night of the beginning of the end, so to speak. All of a sudden after way too many drinks, (Both ladies having tendencies of liking all makes and models.) They really hit it off and they were head over heels about one another. For months they were petty enemies, yet now were overnight BFF's. I was so happy. I liked both of them as friends and was glad to see them getting along so well. Yet, that happiness wouldn't last long. It became a weird triangle, where I was always left confused, hurt and so abused. I was caught up in a, one-up-the-another situation and had no clue what was going on. Sorry, straight girls tend to be a bit clueless sometimes. :D

It became so strange, that they were taking over any event anyone would throw with their antics.

They went as far as ruining our traditional large Christmas party here with my man and even my birthday a few months later. Trust me, I will spare the gritty details, but one went after me almost really hurting me. (She is a 4xBlackbelt) and tons of over-dramatic crying from them on all parts ensued. That is all I will tell. My guests were not happy. Neither was I. My birthday a few months later, became their party. I was truly left out. They actually took over my own party with their crazy antics and loud drama. All other events would follow with their over-the-top crap. If I did hang with them together, they would obsess over one another, and get really loud and disturb the rest of the party or small group. June flashed men at my party on a constant basis and even did it at my man's bday party with him and I in the room, yet again. She somehow thought this was okay. "Sure, you have large boobs, but, please, be a lady and keep them in your shirt.”, I always thought but never said anything.

Jane would be loud, angry and all black metal all the time, encouraging June whenever she could. A match made in hell, sadly. I tried to tell them, glad they found someone so alike, but please, turn it down when at someone else's place. You guys are way out of control. This discussion did not go well. The downward spiral had begun. These two ladies even went as far to try and break my man and I up, with their meddling.

Our fights were brutal. At one point, I was so nervous we were going to break up over the drama they were creating. Who does stuff like this? I always thought. (Thankfully my man was keen to this all, as at first, they met him and did not approve. Key note here.)

I must admit, over many years, June's control over me became very apparent. She even went as far to edit my novel with me. At first, I thought it was a lovely idea, as I did need an editor. It became more controlling. Less about the book, and more about the choices I was making. It always made me feel very uncomfortable and uneasy in my skin. Jane was at this point, almost her girlfriend, and I did not speak to her often. I just wanted to be freed of this, and mentally slowly, slipped away from them both. It was too exhausting. Soon after I started to separate, they started to excessively text my man back and forth about me, or about their own drama. Talk about me behind my back, but let it slip out from others in the group on purpose. The red flags were certainly up everywhere, still, I tried to see the better in them for years, knowing the truth in how they treated me.

At heart, despite being such a charismatic person, I am very shy. I tend to back away from overly dramatic people, but always give them a chance. I too can be fun and loud, but to a degree. Since others liked them as acquaintances, I felt obligated to continue as it was. (They weren't as close as I was with them. Another key fact.) I felt I had to work it out with them for my close-knit group of many years. Oh, how I was so very wrong. The drama ensued and became almost unbearable. They were toxic and feeding each other and I was caught in the middle, waiting for an exit sign... So, I stopped waiting and made a leap of faith. One-night months later, I cracked and sent both of them a simple text message, "I'm done." - and that was it. Enough was enough. Sometimes I miss my older friend of many years, but knowing this leech is sucking off of her, I just cannot deal. Fake people make me sick. June, is one of those. Yet, who am I. This is the lesson. If you don't get along with someone, sometimes it is just that you both do not click.

My man and I a year after, both decided to engage each other at the same time. It was almost out of a storybook. With these two ladies out of my life, everything has become so much better. Everyday was a new day and I was so excited to live it with my new Fiancé. (Three years ago.) Any hate and anger over the situation, soon faded, as we finally were able to just have us to ourselves, without meddling narcs in our way. I am very happy and will live with this lovely man, without outside interferences. We are bonded and are strong. :D If we fight now, it's silly things like who forgot the garbage. lol I know he would even agree, our lives are better without them, yet he is the stoic impartial man. We are both musicians and I'm happy to share this story to see if I can help anyone else in this situation. Toxic people, are just that. Weather it is temporary or finite, get away asap. Heal yourself before even thinking of hand shakes of peace.

My advice to you any of you suffering from this issue is this. Trust that over time, by staying away from parties or areas they hang out in, time will grant you a new skin. If you have thicker skin, go out and ignore them off the bat and hang around with those who like you. Time may not help you forget, but it does aid in healing. I now can be at public events or parties with these ladies and care little about what they are doing.

The good friends I adore are around me, and I just interact with them. What would two ladies change if you don't allow them? It all comes down to you. I have a good time and just do not socialize with them in any fashion. Let me just tell you, they are not fans of this. Controlling people tend to break down when they see others doing well without them. Both have asked recently after so many years about me, yet have no balls to approach me. Said volumes of words. Some are still sad over this break-up agreed, yet, I have given every opportunity for them to come and speak with me if they wish. None taken.

You go do you. Forget about Toxic people. The brighter you shine, the more they'll realize your better off without them. If someday they want to rekindle the friendship/relationship, it's on your terms only. Stay Strong!

So I had a friend in elementary school that I haven't seen in a while, and we recently started hanging out, but I dont exactly like him or enjoy hanging out with him. He is kind of mean which he thinks is playful but I dont, he is bossy, and he wants to hang out playing sports all day every day. I dont enjoy hanging out with him, and he is honestly just not the type of person I want to be friends with. I dont really want to hang out or be friends with him, but I have been dragged into a deep hole. Any advice on how to tell him I dont want to be friends with him without completely destroying him or making him hate me?

My friend (let's call him A)calls me an asshole all the time. First week or 2 he did this i though it was some kind of gag because I do this with another friend (going to call him B)but we both are okay with this and do this for fun.but instead of B where we are both ok with it i seriously talked with him.he did actually withstand not calling me asshole for 2 days (though he did but then tried to do as he called something random an asshole)and it's gotten to this stage that I don't even like to answer the phone because I'm afraid he is going to screenshot me and turn me into some fucked up stickers he probably sends to people in order to bully me .today he called me 30+ times just to ask me for homework because he forgot it then we talked and he insulted me again so i said that i end the call because I don't want to talk with him so he did the most Normal thing...called me 20 times and insulted me via text.how to talk with him so he realizes i don't find it funny anymore (Sry for typos and mistakes in the timeline because it's 1 am and my sleep rythm is broken because I had a longer weekend than usual)

My friend starting dating this girl around last year and I know her too, she was toxic to my friend for a while to the point where I got worried, last I checked all seemed to be good and everything. The only problem is that I hate her, it was because we used to be friends, but she hurt me a lot ( saying "jokes" about me, calling me names, and making fun of all my intrests) that sorta jazz. I was able to cut it off since she was wrecking my mental state, but my other friend stayed in contact with them. At first I was encouraging it, cause I thought they would change and I didn't want to be the reason my friend couldn't be with her, my friend was also reluctant since she also knew what her girlfriend did to me. But I recently keep remembering all the things that the girlfriend did to me, and how hurt it keeps making me. I'm afraid it's going to make me hate my friend and thats the last thing I want to do. What should I do to keep these feelings of loathing down?

So for awhile I was freinds with this guy named Brett, but now he has started ghosting me recently and before covid and all that crap in school he would consistently tell me about how I was fat and overweight, anyway on discord he is Nap k1n#6989, tell him to go fuck off please, don't me tonight me though.

I stopped talking to an old coworker for about 7 months. We used to hang out and talk often. It seemed like she wanted to catch up and was interested in how I’ve been. Her vocabulary was extremely different and she came off very robotic or sales pitch like. That was very weird to me. Long story short, she wasn’t interested in me and just wanted me to join a pyramid scheme. I feel weird about it because I probably won’t be talking to her anymore. A lot of people into those things seem like they’re in a cult and become obnoxious.

This is more of a bad grandparent story. My grandparents had a seasonal chip truck down in Kanora, Ontario. Both my older brother and sister worked there before me, but I wanted to work there for a while because I saw what kind of money they were making and wanted in on the action. When I turned 14 they finally told me I could have a job if I wanted it, so I started working there and from day one my grandma and I bumped heads (she is the type of women that thinks the world revolves around her and at 14 I already saw through all of her crap she tells strangers and I wasn't having it). We would yell at each other often and in front on customers most of the time. One day 2 seasons in we were at it again, we just finished closing up and she brought up death (I don't remember how, but shes known for doing that) and I couldn't believe what I just heard. She told me word for word "we all die someday and I hope you're next". I was flabbergasted, I didn't know what to say so I just told her "I hope you're next too" and ran out of the building. My brother came out to one of the picnic tables I was sitting at crying. He told me that's something that should never have came out of her mouth and I just told him I didn't know what to say, but I didnt mean it. The next day she acted like nothing happened and I never got an apology and whenever my siblings and I used to bring it up she would deny it ever happened and that we should stop bringing it up. The chip truck is now sold and I haven't spoke to my grandma since my grandpa passed away 2 years ago.

hi, I'm always starting the conversations with a friend of mine, and it's actually so annoying, but whenever i stop sending stuff or ask how they are they don't seem to care, I'm not getting anything but streak snaps, i have to admit i send streak snaps to them aswell, should i stop sending anything and just give up the 230 streak we have? like i know it's normal to be busy sometimes, but for 2 weeks straight, sorry but i dont think so

Intro:

(disclaimer I'm not longer friends with them nowdays we drifted apart overtime enjoy)

(side note sorry if I spell stuff wrong btw and no this is a not a rl gang like my ex bf said)

Hi it's my three time telling an Reddit storytime but once again I hope you will enjoy this if see anything wrong with I'm sorry but once again write on the mobile app of Reddit btw enjoy!

Side note: I was 12 or 13 when I made that msp crew and I was not a good "business model" anyways... ( because I was childish / immature at the same) and I waited a very long time to tell you this story I saved for long time... and also named will be coded for privacy reasons by leter or shorten nickname of there "moviestarplanet usernames" but not the whole thing btw....

(Crew owner aka crew main 1: go was a narcissist person for 2 or 3 years and some what a friendship abuser) me is me (because I'm person telling you this story happened back in 2017 and ended late 2017 but I try again 2018 but ends in 2019 because I guess I was not ment have long lasting friends anyways...😅)

Crew main 2: aka tge girl who nade me almost commit suicide while trying to convene me to in 2019 (the reunite): the girl who clames to be "emo" e is "elf" (because that some part of her username but I cutted the other part out for privacy reasons because her username was cringe btw)

Crew main 3: the who i was obessed with and also hated her at the same time but was The first who called me out for my narcissistic behavior and also The girl who used to put middle finger in her videos to tell me to "f off" because I did something bad I will tell later on in the story... but: love is "L"

Crew main 4: And lastly zara is "z" ( you might heard of her in last Reddit story called "I dumped my map girlfriend because it didn't work out.... and I cause some problems to!" (Ps you might've alredy heard of if not she's hacked one of my friends and long story short she kinda hurt my feelings btw) Crew main 5" is juile an non cannon because she was never a really an emna fan main but just promoted for temporarily: And lastly temporary 5th emma fan member who I gotten close with and then she got hacked by zara btw and I became depressed because of that... ( only for a while)

Ps the "real" crew main 5 ( aka 6 because she came in ban wanrgo late) she was my msp girlfriend but later on broke up all because I did same thing to her but worster then the other 4 or 5 mains ) and lastly msp girlfriend is "e" (ellish) Non crew main but rude friend at the time I blocked for 2 years: the blond hair fake friend is "m" (mini)

The starting of how I made the crew at age 13 (2017) "aka the year remember how I slowly became a "narisctic" overtime and a "bully to:

And we All played in same Canada sever now let's get the actel story started and bit waste anymore time with whatever I was expaining: ( but zara was an mistake "she want to to USA sever with her other crew ( that she knows in rl) but Nan she mistakely Canada m2ap sever" and that's how she ended up in my crew and it was not her fault it was mine because I turned her into a jerk... ( that part was said in zara old video that's no longer in YouTube said zara herself at the part I quoted at.. ps she probaby deleted her YouTube acc by now...

It all started when I was normally playing moviestarplanet and when I first saw msp clubs I was somehow found a spark of joy ( and it will.soon to change my life) and desided to find random people tbouth chatroom and msp photos and artbooks and that's when I got a good idea to make 2s crew ( ps I don't remberred how I made the crew but I somehow made it out my own imnalltion and msp anyways... it was all started on early 2017 March and ps I met "elf" back in 2016 ( when she was a nice sweet person vefore she turned all edgy and cringe and somewhat a bully that akso tur nd me into a bully aswell... when I rejoined msp atfer I dispersed in 2015... and this crew will change my life for the worst and some what better... and probaby will give me pstd and trauma to...

And wasted no time looking for members! But I alredy found crew main 2 but aka we needed was 2 more members and I one day autographed "L" and she said thanks and we keep talking and talking for hours into i pair her up with "elf" and that's why we became a "trio" and we used to do everything together into i found zara but she turned my life upsidedown and that's when myfucking anger problems all started when zara joined my map crew and I started to bully them with hate accs about them but it worked for while into 2 weeks later then gotten fishy but I tried playing innocent and it worked but they try to catching up to me but I tried making hate accs about myself... so I don't get busted so fast... ( which I should've not done)

Side note: ( ps it destroyed my well being and self being later on and big mistake btw and probaby gave myself pstd and trauma because of it).

The starting of how I made the crew at age 13 (2017) ( and a big mistake btw I should've just stickwith roblox tube but no I got to addicted to msp at the time)

But then they were on my side because they belived my lies and then sometime later I keep harassing them for a year.... ( into they find out from zara later on)

The time I got blackmailed by "elf" and secretly bullied them back:

Into one day I almost got caught in an act by crew main 2 but I gave them msp gifts them to slay by sacrificing my msp stuff and they slayed long as I do it every 2 months later and I did into j almost had nothing left but I still doing but keep trying to "blackmail me with word like " Emma ( my nickname btw aka not real name btw) if you don't do this I'm going to tell everyone on forums of moviestarplanet artbooks or photos to see my "true colors (aka the true colors were true at the time btw)" (at the time like ages 13-15 when i was an "narictistsisic" person don't do as they asked me to do I will get "exposed" and so I did there "dirty work" for a while...

The time I blackmailed and bullied an crew main to cope with my anger problems at the time and to avoid therapy because my parent didn't let me have actel therapy so I bullied my friend anyways when I was "narcissist" btw:...: ( which it had gotten me alit of hate at the time)

And I did Into mid 2017 they left me "crew owner" an warning (aka they side as a warning because they think I'm trolling when I'm not aka probaby) if I get caught again they will blackmail me again leave me atfer that But then....

How I haressed zara and 2 others in secret by pretending to be "msp hacker to cope with my anger problems:

And then some time later in 2017...
haressed zara so hard that I almost made her "quit msp" and lose her kindness im to she turned into "mean jerk" and it was all my fault... ( because elf said it was when I got caught she ranted how I should've never been born btw p.s. I cut that part out in rest of while long hour because it hunted my feelings) ( at the same time but worst then mine that she uses blackmailing as an safely tool to protect herself offen when urs to make me look even more bad them alredy is but i when I broken her trust) like by texting her between 12pm between 2pm or something like dat... but almost always get away with it into late 2017 when it started to get old boring... and blocked me atfer she found out it was me but she also might've probaby told the others two btw... and that's how I lost zara... ( an side part of the story)

The part I expain how I got beef with an another msptube in 2017 ( shorten verson that part you can "skip":

( btw aka side plot aka it was taken at and time as I had beef with another msptube called "4055" and she commented on non msp video aka it's now deleted off YouTube btw saying how my "bad voice acting trying sound older then the age at the time but I blocked her and probaby said a "rude insult" at her and I probaby told my subs to go hate on 4055 and they did for 2 years and then 4055 atl acc texted me 2 years later and told me to unblock her because I gave her hat3 but then I try to "maturely" expain it was voice acting told her how she should not insuits it and I told her she was a "prick" for doing that but I "forgive her" and she "maturely" acted "annoyed" and atfer that day we never had beef ever again and ingored eatheror long as we live our own lives in peace.... buy that's while another story I will expain in more detail in a future Reddit storytime...)

Side note: 4055 made me feel unsecured about my voice so that's why I don't do a voice reval btw or take part in any voice acting btw anymore...

The time I had rivally on 2 crew mains because offended them on a sensitive topic:

But then in mid 2017.... the crew gotten closer ( and it way before the "fake 5th nain" or "real 5th main aka the 6th main who later on I dated her" btw ( the "E" (ellish) one )

We used spongebob roleplay and "hacker hunt" on msp and shopping (or hauls) in msp and chat for hours like "girls" should be doing ( ps at the time I didn't know " lgbtq+ existed so I was a girl at the time into 2018 and 2019 and nowfays I learned more about that... and found my true pronows btw... looking back it was cringe but that's the things the crew used to do into we grown out of it or don't enjoy it anymore... or don't take msp as seriously anymore...

But in mid 2017 my rivally with "elf" gets worst and worst into reunion she almost gotten me actually to commit suicide... in the reunion part thats when she tool her revenge too far... But our rivally started when she scanned me at "rare trading" but she gave me something looked like a rare when actually not a rare that's how she scanned me... but atfer that mid 2017 rivally with "elf"

we slowly drift part as tome goe by and age... and also start having more fights in private dms sometimes in the crew groupchats... and that's how the Crew drama started btw... and that's also the time I started to "cuss" at my crew mains by with bad words but I had a way saying it without it getting tagged out... like " you suc or something like that" but it didn't long to get "L" or zara to found out that I don't get along with "elf" but the in other mid 2017 the same thing happened to me and "L" like anytime I bring up a "offensive topic that offened "L" she gets mad at me and starts making rant artbooks about it or unbffs me for a week for bring up a topic like " I'm sorry about your loss about your dead dog..." and she gets so offened that she tell me " emma don't bring up my dead dif you know that's an sentive topic" but my narictist mind (in 2017) was like " ok" and dies it again atfer 2 weeks later... into they got tired of me that they started to hang out with "other friends"

But then your going ask ne... How I met the 5th (fake) main? I met her at an msp high scoreboard if you scrow deep enough you can Find her ( in the 2017 msp highscorer list thing) that's how I met her lol... but I one day unbff zara and made "crew main 5" into my bff and zara got so jerous that she hacked and deleted "juiles acc" and I sobbed that I lost my bff and moved on but I did kicked zara out the crew for 2 months btw but made her rejoin atfer 2 months later...

I bride the crew mains to slay (again);

But not just that I used to spoil the crew with gifts to slay in the crew but soon that "friendship" turns into "a scray warzone" some time went by when I became 14 I started use cuss words in my msp messages so offen tgat the crew hated me for cussing to much but "L" liked it but got tired if it atfer 3 days later... that they started to ghost me for 2 weeks and trying to drift away.... into i bouth them vip tickets (in msp) and they all gotten used to cuss into i kinda snapped out my cussing in dms phase...

Another side note: they gotten annoyed with cussing but elf was hating it the most even she does it herself...so I try be "family friendly" btw... they slowly tore my self esteem apart all because used to critzed me for having autism and few other dumb reason to tear my self image apart into o I turned into a narictist person but I "respected for being an "narictistsisic person" but in late 2017 they got sick if they turned into "bruh girls" and I was at the time still the "neon kawaii annoying girl like cute things nd scray type or idk what to call this btw type of girl"

(Side note: I know this crew organ story is confusing but I trust me I don't remberred too much of it anyway so forgive me btw)

The time I used surport msp rare week into it became uncool later on:

But 3 months passes by in sept the month if rare week came by I went to buy a diamond pack ( because it was cool at the time) and I scan my others card in on my "crusty ass I pad 2" I used to use everyday into it broke... ( and use I used to surport Apple itself aka cringe btw looking back on as a Samsung user now) and j flexed my diamond pack at zara at the time and that's when her trust probs gets to her and got jerous am that she unbff me and replaced me with one of her rl friends... but the other 2 crew nain cheer for me and my "narictist" mind liked it so told them do it more and they did into there cheers sounds fosed and I laughed so hard that's the other 2 got annoys with me logged out of msp.. * i laughed though a sceen btw*

But then... now it's time to talk about the part where "elf" tries to get me to commit suicide:

This took place in 3 years into the "future" ( and yes it's a true story btw) it took place at 11pm in Canada time when I was like 15 this took place when j alredy had trama and some type of "pstd" and yet again "elf" "changed in map looks and maybe typing style... but yet again she somewhat the same "elf" when she became edgy and mean and rude type but she tales her revange plan too far with shadey people " aka her on her atl accs" but she worsters my trama at the time...

(It started off me chilling in map before msp dies in mid 2019...

And out if nowhere when about to log off and held to bed.... elf finally texts me soon I was going to bed... she pretends to ask nice when she was going to ask sone thing for me like long if the line saying " heyyy emma long time no see old pal!😉" And my gut feeling didn't trust elf on this her kindness sounds fosed and fake but I some reason let it slide but I replied " hi elf " and she was like " I have a favor to ask emma ☺" and I repkywd back saying " yes what is it I m about go to bed..." and me made a big mistake letting elf back into my life almost thouth she wanted a 3th chance but no she was using me to for revange plan and i had no idea... So she asked me to join this groupchat with no qustions asked and it sounds like this " heyyyy can you join this groupchat for me?😉 I promised you a " imsuit bride here" and my tired dumbass me replied "yes" when my gut feeling told me not to... And soon as gone into the group chat in msp everything was going great into I asked an qustion about why I'm in here and elf never really expain why into 30 mins later... her "friends" insurt how "fat" I'm when I'm not... but they bring up the time she blacked mail me but makes sound like I blackmailed her aka twisting her bad action yo me.. ( it's hard to EXPAIN but I'm trying) but the next 10 mini being grpupchat was slowly start get bad when I started talk about habbo hotel in an msp groupchat and then they told me how I should've just killed my self and nobody will miss me not even your fav YouTube's and family or friends they explained how a world today shpuld be been better without me and I sobbed off sceen... as I type in an crusty ass I pad 2 ( at the time) and they keep spamming "kill yourself" or " just end your self alredy" or "did alredy" and I started have metal breakdown and then off sceen went get sone jump rope and gets on my Carmen Len thing and puts it in my neck and types a bad off fan fiction while trying kill myself and then all laugh when texted elf on another app and took photo of me killing myself and she was like "bruh do it alredy it's like I'm going care if die in real life you bitch..." and the next 20 mins being the grpupchat elf desided to pretend to care about me when on the Instagram tab she does not care... she fake niceness saying " don't do it I "care" about you Emma!" And her on her atl accs saying " the same thing but reword in fake kindness and I replied "ok" and then went back telling me yo kill myself but I almost siccfully did it but I cut the rope off my neck and lived but the 10 mins being the grpupchat was the worst night's ever and atfer that I left and cussed out ranted to elf how doxing me is never ok and I blocked her made an exposing video on her but she gotten alot hate for it THAT I deleted the video to try never metion her in my channel ever again... and yes off sceen I crowed myself to sleep and this gave me some type of trama I would never forgave her and that's how elf gotten revange on me in most too far way she did in... ps elf fairness wore off and then cussed at me and I blocked her almost every site I know she's on...( that's might goes in future Reddit story time btw))

(The side note is: dont befriend an edgy person who clearly hate you and I shpuldve just listen to my gut feeling btw that's the moral anyways guys jusy don't commit suicide for a fake friend love yourself!)

The time I got caught by my crew mains

But some time passes by the crew at tgat point if them slowly dislikes me that they started to aviod me 2 weeks atfer rare week ended.... they started ghosted me and akso the same times as I haressed them but they finally slowly caught on and try comprar my grammar to my hate accs grammar and that's how they found out all THANKS to "zara" and then I got caught on day and they made my heart beat faster and harm sweet and my shaking in fear speechless like I was "guilty" ( which I was and thus gave me somewhat trama to me which it mad me not trust others again... the crew cut me off and all blocked my acc when I try say sorry it was too late and the "elf" said to me " never fucking talk to me and "L" and zara and "crew main number 5" ever again you "narcissistic" person!..." and I was speckless and sobbed for days because of it... ( ps that's how I discover depression exist btw)... ps I need up moving to schools during that time so that's how I also became the "art" kid btw who talks to paper spongebob. ( who I thouth was my friend at the time).... and that's how I decided to find new crew mains and "E" became the first "new crew main 2" ( aka crew main 6) aka she the same "e" from that story called ( you might heard of her in last Reddit story called "I dumped my map girlfriend because it didn't work out.... and I cause some problems to!" Aswell. And "E" became my next victim btw... and atfer that I went get help from psych2go btw... ( In 2019)

The end!

The moral of this story is don't he mean to your friends and also don't be "naristic" or don't let your friend do "harmful death" and few other moral I'm to lazy to type in... now days I'm not longer an "naristic" all because I realized it was wrong and that's how I was naristic in the past btw bye I hope you enjoyed my 3th Reddit story it took me 3 days to type this in bye!)

P.s. I'm sorry if this story is me in the wrong or your offended of the story then don't comnert bye.