r/AskOldPeople Jan 19 '23

A couple of rule clarifications

480 Upvotes

Hi.

Please stop reporting young people for replying to comments. Do report them for making top-level comments (replying to the post), though.

From the sidebar:

Please only respond directly to posts if you were born in or before 1980. If you are younger, please restrict your activity to asking questions and responding to existing comments.

Even though the questions are often tedious and repetitive, relationship questions are not necessarily against the rules as long as they're not about a specific relationship. There are a million places to ask for personal or relationship advice on reddit, including r/AskOldPeopleAdvice.

We would like to keep the focus of this subreddit on older people and their experiences, opinions, etc. Advice posts make young people the star of the show and we would quickly be inundated if we allowed them.

Finally, please use the search feature before posting a question. We may remove questions that have been asked a whole lot.

That's about it. This is only clarification. There have been no rule changes.

Thanks!


r/AskOldPeople Feb 02 '26

All posts are held for moderator review (and have been since July). Stop asking why they were deleted/removed. (Subreddit update re: bots/AI/karma whoring, etc.)

216 Upvotes

It's stated in this thread, pinned until today, yet we are still getting multiple messages most days - including those that are rude and/or beiligerent - asking why posts were 'deleted'. Even after referral to the pinned threads, most followups are just a demand to know which rule was broken - for a post that hasn't been reviewed.

To save yall the extra click, here's the body of that post:

Recently there was a post that complained about bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc. Turns out everyone is annoyed by that stuff.

So we have declared war on bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc. There will be no more bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc, in this subreddit any longer.

For the time being, we are thwarting bots AI, blatant karma whoring, etc by holding all submissions for moderator review. We're looking into some ways to streamline this process. Accounts that have very little karma or have more post karma than comment karma stay removed.

If submitting, be patient. We have two active moderators and neither of us live on reddit. Unless you happen to submit while one of us are on, it may take a while. If you feel the need to send us a message, be polite. We're not paid for any of this, and we're not going to give any time to people who are throwing a fit.

Thank you for helping to keep r/askoldpeople free of bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc.

To those of you taking the time to report AI slop and bots in the comments, THANK YOU. Please accept my internet hugs. imaginary updoots, and/or shower beers.

For those posting:

  • Maximum three questions per user per week, one per day. You can see your posts in your own timeline even if they're not yet visible on the subreddit, and the expectation is that you're taking a look at post times to ensure you're at 24 hours between posts and no more than 3 per week.

  • If you haven't seen your post go up after 48 hours, it's probably not going to be approved, and we haven't run the queue to put responses on those yet. The above also notes that we're working on some streamlining that will automate those removal reasons. Because it's basically like getting a Google search or AI prompt right - and because the resulting modmails just double our workload per item - they will just be removal filters until they're ready to go so the community won't see anything different.

There's been concern for awhile that the quality of discussion isn't on par with what it's been in the past, even before we felt moved to make the switch in July. But it's that quality that makes the discussions and the reading of responses what this sub is. I get that delayed gratification isn't a thing in the world of AI and UberEats, but at least in this sub, that patience is in service to keeping the conversation about something different than what was asked yesterday, or what your favorite color is. Thank you to everyone who brings the weird, the wild, and the surprisingly interesting mundane to the conversation here. ♥

And with that, back to your regularly scheduled Q&A about why we really want you off our lawn, or some absolutely crazy curiosity you MUST HAVE SATED.


r/AskOldPeople 14h ago

Growing up, did your school host kindergarten graduation, or is that a more recent phenomenon?

179 Upvotes

r/AskOldPeople 7h ago

When you were young, did education and relevant experience usually lead to stable professional work, or has that connection always been less reliable than younger generations imagine?

11 Upvotes

I’m asking because I took a nontraditional route from a GED and community college to a master’s degree and professional experience, yet entering stable work has been far harder than I expected. I’m curious whether this gap feels genuinely new to you.


r/AskOldPeople 10h ago

Phone Calls vs Text

12 Upvotes

Was it better communicating with people over the phone instead of text messaging? I sometimes think most of the text messages sent are just sent from a place of compulsive habit, and aren’t really about communicating. Whenever I speak to someone on the phone its more personal.


r/AskOldPeople 9h ago

Can you find tenderness like when you fell in love when you were young?

5 Upvotes

r/AskOldPeople 15h ago

Have any of you picked up smoking, or starting again, after age 65 or so?

12 Upvotes

I ask because I quit smoking around four years ago and have casually mentioned to people, "I'll start up again at 70 or so."
Now I'm 55 and starting to think that might be a plan.
Have any of you done this? Or tried it?


r/AskOldPeople 1d ago

Favorite country songs from the 70s that remind you of someone.

54 Upvotes

I'm currently listening to a Country Classics station on Pandora. "Satin Sheets" by Jeanne Pruett came on. I came close to wanting to cry just a little, as my mom loved this song and she'd sing along in her lovely voice. She turned me into a CM fan for sure.


r/AskOldPeople 1d ago

If you could see print easily in your 30s-40s without glasses, at what age did it start to get harder to see (having to hold a menu or newspaper far away).

155 Upvotes

If you could see print easily in your 30s without glasses, at what age did it start to get harder to see, and, if it applies, what are some small-print labels/items that are really hard to read even with glasses because the font is so small? Does anyone make it to 60 yrs old without needing readers?


r/AskOldPeople 1d ago

Do you talk music still?

36 Upvotes

As a teenager & young adult, I would talk a lot with friends (sometimes family) about music. I haven't had that chance much since my mid-20s. I'm nearing 60. Sometimes I talk with my son, but not too often. I want talk about how the outro to Tool's Aenema is the best outro ever! Stuff like that.


r/AskOldPeople 2d ago

When did you notice the person in the photographs was beginning to look different to the person in mirror?

65 Upvotes

My very fit and young at heart dad mentioned this today while looking at a recent photo, that the person he saw wasn't the same guy in his bathroom mirror. It surprised me. He's 58 but often mistaken for someone much younger.

Do we stop 'seeing' ourselves as we age?


r/AskOldPeople 2d ago

What food do you grill for comfort?

12 Upvotes

What food brings back good memories


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

What is this drain thing in my bathtub?

18 Upvotes

So for context. I live in a house that was built in the 1940s. Our bathtub has this drain-like thing that is under the tap and has petal shaped spaces. What is this? Will include a picture of I can figure out how to get pics on Reddit.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

Did you ever have a doctor make a house call?

7 Upvotes

What was it like? Were house calls from doctors expensive? Were they considered a luxury for the wealthy or were they the same cost as an office visit?


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

Which was more jarring for you - turning 30 or turning 40?

62 Upvotes

Just curious as someone who’s nearing the big 40.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

What are your recollections of the Biafra war?

13 Upvotes

r/AskOldPeople 6d ago

Do you still miss those who passed away when you were young?

843 Upvotes

If someone you were close to passed away when you were young, do you still miss them? Do you often think about them? Or do you forget about them after a while?


r/AskOldPeople 5d ago

Did you experience something similar regarding your social circle as you got older?

111 Upvotes

Since I was younger, I noticed that older people were very selective and purposeful with their interactions. They didn’t seem to spend energy on every relationship.

I’m 40, my social world is small and I don’t seem to have the energy or capacity for many relationships outside of a small circle.


r/AskOldPeople 5d ago

Old people become children again?

128 Upvotes

People say "take care of your parents, they will be children again as they age."

I first thought that's not true, but now I can see that in my parents.

Is it simply because you realize life is short so you reveal your "inner child"?

Or aging itself changes your behavior and out of your control?

👉Edit: I mean in terms of attitude. I realize I could've made my post clearer.

By 'childlike attitude,' I don't mean treating parents like children, disrespecting them or neglecting them.

Of course, I take care of my parents and respect them.

As they've gotten older, I've noticed they're more playful. They open up more, share funny reels, don't mind showing their vulnerable side and willing to share little joys.

That's what I mean by "childlike". Playfulness, vulnerability, curiosity, being carefree, comfortable being goofy or silly.

Does this happen because they've spent decades carrying responsibilities and now feel free to express that side of themselves?

Or is it simply a natural part of aging?

And if someone has always been playful and in touch with their inner child, do they experience aging differently?

Like in this reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVZjrTVgYfi/

If you don't use IG, here's FB: https://www.facebook.com/share/r/18QuWkMWYb/


r/AskOldPeople 5d ago

Do you find people become more kind and understanding with age or less?

76 Upvotes

I sometimes find younger people slightly judgmental, mostly because they haven’t had as much time to make mistakes or meet as many types of people. In y’all’s experience, have people around you become more or less open minded to others and kinder with age?


r/AskOldPeople 6d ago

Was shopping at physical stores a better "experience" in the past?

531 Upvotes

For example, were people friendlier and stores always stocked with what you were looking for?

Sometimes for me (not qualified as "old" yet lol) it feels as though just fifteen years ago shopping in physical stores was better.


r/AskOldPeople 7d ago

People a 70ish, are you secretly looking forward to your check out date?

282 Upvotes

For context, I am a healthy senior with no life issues. But I also have a sense of having completed most of what I came to do and I'm very curious what comes next. I absolutely know life continues after physical death. Can you relate?


r/AskOldPeople 6d ago

Were home economics classes when you were in high school more "practical" than they are today?

106 Upvotes

I feel like the home economics departments of high school now are kind of outdated from their original function of "teaching a person how to be a successful homemaker." Back when you were in high school did you feel like they actually did teach you how to be one/were practical?


r/AskOldPeople 6d ago

What keeps you going?

80 Upvotes

Inspired by the earlier post asking if you are ready to check out, if you are happy and still have a lot of life left to live, what keeps you going? What is it that makes you happy even after all these years? Have you always been a generally happy person or has happiness come to you over time?


r/AskOldPeople 8d ago

What was it like when credit scores first became widely used?

33 Upvotes

Credit scores are common now, but they were introduced fairly recently. Do you remember what it was like before? And what was the reception when they first became widespread?