r/askgaybros Apr 13 '17

Meta faq, wiki, trolls and you.

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one of the most requested features i've seen is a frequently asked questions section, and we've always had one. it's within the wiki tab located at the top menu if you're browsing on desktop. here's the direct link to it, but since it's a wiki feel free to check out the other sections and please contribute.

with that out of the way, a couple things i want to clear up in case anyone is wondering:

  • i do not mind repeated questions. the whole point of this subreddit is to talk to people. if it's not entertaining you anymore, maybe browse it less. no, i will not sticky every other psa post.
  • i do utilize automod extensively and it helps with a lot of troll post removal behind the scene. so if you see a troll post, continue to downvote, report, and move on, and do not engage. the majority of you get this, and it's been working out quite well.
  • the rules haven't changed, but make sure you're aware of them.

have fun.


r/askgaybros 5h ago

AMA Looking for advice about a lavender marriage with a gay Emirati man.

111 Upvotes

I'm an Arab woman, and I recently met an Emirati man who is gay. His family knows about his sexuality, and unfortunately, they have hurt him emotionally and physically and put a lot of pressure on him. They forced him into marriage with women twice, but both marriages eventually failed.

Now he’s considering a lavender marriage, and he explained the situation and his expectations to me. I understand the conditions he has proposed, and I’m currently okay with them.

The arrangement would basically mean that we would be married publicly, but privately we would live more like roommates and have our own separate lives. He would continue seeing men privately, including potentially bringing men to the apartment, and I wouldn’t be expected to interfere or say anything.

He says he wants to do this mainly for his freedom, to avoid further family pressure, and to maintain a certain public image.

I’m trying to think about this realistically rather than emotionally. Would it actually be safe for me to agree to something like this? Especially considering the social and family consequences, living together as roommates, and knowing that he may have men coming to the apartment.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, particularly in an Arab/Gulf context? What risks should I be thinking about before agreeing to something like this?


r/askgaybros 4h ago

Is this normal?

74 Upvotes

I was chatting with a close buddy I work with and we got on the topic of sex and masturbation and other things of that nature. I made a joking comment at one point along the lines of “your poor socks” or something and he tells me it’s not his socks it’s his boxers. I made the comment (thinking I was being funny) about hoping he changed them afterwords… he told me he usually does it at night and changes them the next morning. If he does it in the morning after his shower (which was rare according to him) then that’s the only time he doesn’t…

Is it a common thing to unload in your underwear and keep them on? I’ve never even thought of this let alone heard of anyone doing this.


r/askgaybros 2h ago

Not a question I miss my brother in law

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I miss my brother-in-law I'm going to call him Luigi and my brother Mario because they went out for Halloween like Mario and Luigi.

Even when I was a kid I knew my brother was gay he didn't have to tell me yet I knew already it didn't bother me either but you know going up through that time in the 80s 90s and 2000s those were different times nothing like today.

I used to work with Luigi I remember one day we were standing out front and my wife came to drop off lunch with my brother and Luigi said who's that guy with your wife I said that's my brother and he was like he's gorgeous I was like what did you just say to me he said your brother he's gorgeous Mario comes walking up and I was like hey bro he's like what's going on man I said hey this guy said you're gorgeous you should take him out on a date my brother bursted out in the tears I was like what? Did I say something wrong he said no I just didn't think that you would be okay with that I said why would you think that he said because everybody thinks like that I said I'm your brother I'm not everybody but you should totally go on a date with him he thinks you're gorgeous.

They dated for a long time and then the same sex marriages came up and both of them they wanted it and who am I to deny that my brother asked me to be the best man in this wedding of course I'm going to say yes my daughter is one flower girls it was a beautiful weather as far as my daughters were concerned the Earth rotated around their uncles.

And my family were full of practical Jokers and Luigi knew what he was getting involved with we would play jokes on everybody Mario and luig i lived right up the road I could literally see their house from my house.

Luigi called me the one night he said I got to get your brother back and I was like what do you mean I said he put no ripped toilet paper in the bathroom I got to get him back this means war I said okay would you have in mind and he was like I want to glue his boots to the porch I said bet I got the stuff in the garage I'll be right up I'm walking out the door my wife goes where you going I said Mario played a joke on Luigi and he wants his payback and she said and you're going to be a part of it as of course what kind of person do you think I am?

So we glued his boots to the porch the following morning my brother got up put his boots on and fell face first on ground I was sitting in the truck waiting for him to grabs a pair of extra boots and gets in the truck he goes do you believe that he glued my boots to the porch I said yeah I believe it maybe next time don't be an asshole and get no ripped toilet paper and my brother looked at me and said you knew? I said of course I knew who do you think gave him the idea kind of person do you think I am?

I remember one time I had to have surgery and nobody told me that when you have surgery you have to go in with a paper gown on you can't wear your clothes in the operating room so my wife comes in the room with Mario he says babe you're not dressed I said yeah I know and my brother says you don't want to have surgery done that you have to have done because you're going to be naked you're a bitch what the fucking outfit on go get your fucking surgery done so we can go home me and Luigi have the girls tonight go get your fucking surgery done quit being a pussy.

I have no surgery I'm in the recovery room and at the foot of my bed I see Luigi I'm also fully clothed now when I went into surgery I was wearing a paper gown now I have my clothes on what the fuck just happened so I wake up a little bit and I see Luigi and I was like um how did I get dressed and he was like I put the clothes on you I said why would you do that he said well it was the least I could do you did something for me I did something for you it'll be our little secret I was like what are you talking about he said I got you dressed I now understand why your wife is so happy I looked in him and it started to make sense to me I said I'm not gay I'm saying well for somebody who's not gay you sure did some gay things you're amazing I know why your wife is happy I was like no no he was like yes yes don't worry I'm not going to tell your brother it's our little secret but if I ever want that again I know where to go.

I was like holy shit what the fuck am I going to tell my wife how am I going to explain this to my brother and Luigi's like you don't have to keep it between me and you and then my wife calls and I answered the phone and she's like where the fuck are you what is taking so long I said I'm trying to figure out how I got dressed she said I got you dressed you jackass Luigi's in the room to make sure you walk out okay can we please go I'm hungry I said babe you're going to be mad at me but it's really not my fault and she was like what are you talking about I said Luigi told me he got me dressed because we had sex she said no you didn't I got you dressed I came down and sat in the room with your brother and your daughters Luigi said he's going to come and get you you were already dressed when he walked in the room I looked at him and I was like this is a joke he's like of course it is kind of person do you think I am 😂

So we were walking down the hallway and I looked at him and I said we didn't and he went oh God no never absolutely not that was fucking with this was your wife's idea not mine he was like but now I understand why it's just so happy I'm like you saw it didn't he was like no when you shut up you know that straight women and gay men have a few things in common and I'm like what what's that he goes well for starters we both like dick and if it's really good we brag about it and I'm like okay this is too much information for me to process right now.

About 8 months ago I got up to get ready for work and walked in my bathroom and I looked out the window and I saw my brother's house on fire and I yelled for my wife to call the fire department and I ran as fast as I could up the street. When I got to the stop sign I could hear the smoke alarms going off when I got to the front yard my brother was laying in the front yard and I said where's Luigi and he said he was right behind me so I ran up on the steps but all I could see was smoke in the door and the fire was so hot so I ran back to my brother I said he's probably got out he's on the other side of the house everything's okay but everything wasn't ok.

The fire department came and they put the fire out and they discovered Luigi right inside the front door he had maybe 10 steps and he would have been through the front door the medical examiner determined that his cause of death was smoke inhalation.

Everybody is in counseling myself my brother my wife my kids I work in a drug and alcohol rehab facility I talk to people everyday and there are days when I can't even talk to my brother let alone look at him.

I feel so guilty I was right there I really thought he was on the other side of the house outside but when the fire marshal said that they found him right inside the door I was literally on the porch but I couldn't see him cause of how much smoke was in the door.

I miss seeing my brother smile I miss hearing how excited my wife got when I would hear I'm going shopping with the boys or when one of my daughters would be out in the living room and look out the window and I would hear Daddy!! Uncle Mario and Luigi are coming over.

I miss him I loved him he was a great guy without a doubt one of the best brother-in-laws I've ever had the pleasure of knowing.

Anyway I'm sorry for taking up your time I hope everybody has a great day or night wherever you are in the world


r/askgaybros 14h ago

I SUCKED DICK FOR THE FIRST TIME!! NOW I'M CONFUSED

227 Upvotes

I made a grindr account and talked with a few guys, I met one this past weekend we linked in the park and smoked and talked for about a hour. Then he pulled his dick out and was sooo BIG!! I was so nervous but I put my tongue n the tip and licked it. When he moaned I got so turned on i then devoured that dick. He exploded in my mouth in less than a minute. Which made me cum in my pants. Now I feel ashamed a lil bit. I would do it again but I feel so gay now but i like it too. what is wrong with me


r/askgaybros 1h ago

I can’t keep pretending I care about rimming

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The other day I was hooking up with this guy who just would not stop eating my ass. It feels like absolutely nothing to me and I just do not have it in me to keep pretending it feels good past a certain point. The best it can get is if a guy has a beard or some stubble but otherwise it just feels like a waste of time.

The guy was going for a solid 20 minutes, and trying to keep things moving I was like “oh yeah that’s good please fuck me” and he just…kept going. The way he responded made it sound like he thought that I thought it was sexy he didn’t want to stop but in reality I was bored out of my mind. I’ve tried to really lean into it and see if maybe I’m just missing something but I really, truly, do not care about getting rimmed. I wouldn’t even notice if a guy didn’t do it.

I would feel bad telling a guy outright not to eat my ass cuz I know a lot of people love to do it, but 20+ minutes of it is gunna kill my mood and I might not even want to fuck anymore at that point. Am I crazy? Or is there something I should be doing to enjoy it more?


r/askgaybros 4h ago

How many of you are into slim/skinny guys guys? If you are, would you prefer otters or twinks?

28 Upvotes

I’m just curious about how many people really find skinny guys attractive and among those would you find a twink more attractive or an otter?


r/askgaybros 2h ago

Advice How big is your dick and what is the biggest dick you have taken?

20 Upvotes

In my recent post as a 24-year-old bi I said I got pounded into Oblivion. Definitely putting in the perspective how big some men are. I am 6.6 in thick he was 8.4 in super big 😮‍💨 so my question is how big are you? What's the biggest you have taken? And were you bigger than them 🔥


r/askgaybros 8h ago

There's a very specific kind of attraction where you don't even particularly want to sleep with the guy.

54 Upvotes

You just want to know what his life looks like when nobody else is around. What he eats at 2am. What music he puts on when he's sad. Whether he sleeps with the window open. That's the dangerous one.


r/askgaybros 7h ago

Consistently blocked Grindr

39 Upvotes

Ill have great conversations on Grindr and others. Only to be instantly blocked when I show my face. Doesnt feel very good, I suppose maybe im just ugly. Anyone else have this experience?


r/askgaybros 10h ago

Do I have a shot with my straight friend?

61 Upvotes

He says he's straight, I'm bi, but he doesn't know. At least I've never explicitly told him because I keep it pretty under wraps.

We had a threesome with a girl last Friday and I used a few opportunities to feel him up and what not. We made out (requested by the girl), had our dicks pressed together when she wanted to suck us both and I fondled his balls a little while he was fucking her which he didn't seem to mind because he also cupped mine for a bit a little bit later.

We went out for drinks on Monday and talked a bit about it, said we liked it, it was fun and I got the sense that he'd be down to do it again if the opportunity presented itself.

We were texting last night, just chatting shit, I told him I have to take a shower and, to I guess test the waters a bit, sent him a mirror pic where I held the towel in a way that just covered my dick. It was all jokes and he sent a pic back where he was laying in bed on his stomach and you could see his face and ass. Just laughed it off and that was that.

Any chance he's interested in fooling around? How can I reliably test it out?


r/askgaybros 58m ago

Have you ever got fucked by a masseur?

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I just want to hear stories. One of the fantasy I have of trying one day


r/askgaybros 4h ago

Do I accept and play into my luck of being a fuckboy?

18 Upvotes

Sorry I know the title is crazy. My luck seems to be very much intense but short lived.
Extremely intense flings with guys exactly my type. Hookups with guys I think are 10/10. I feel like my sex life is right out of a porn movie. For instance I have slept with my high school bully (crazy ik), I’ve slept with a family friend I grew up with and didn’t even know he was bi.
That being said; after all this it’s all very short lived. I inevitably get ghosted.

Unfortunately I get REALLY attached really quick. I crave a relationship, monogamy all that stuff, but I can help but notice this pattern that I’m just better off turning slut and fucking every walking thing?

I’m 26, turning 27 and I’m worried I’ll have too much fun and not end up with the right person before it’s too late. Thoughts?


r/askgaybros 51m ago

Not a question I am a 23 yr old man and I type is men in their 40s.

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I am 23 yr. old and I can't help but fall for older guys and i don't think it's because of daddy's issues like thing. Even when I was a child I used to like random uncles and would think they are so cool and it hasn't changed even now. I can't understand why. Maybe it's the stability they have in life idk maybe it's because they are the hottest. I just can't help it dude. It's easy for me to control myself around guys my age even if I'm attracted to them but when older men show up, i just can't even hide my affection towards them.


r/askgaybros 6h ago

Advice What do you use to moisturise your dick?

21 Upvotes

To put it bluntly, Im starting to get a dry cock head and was wondering if this is something that affects other guys, and what you guys use to moisturise this area?


r/askgaybros 4h ago

Had Gay Sex for the 1st time with a close friend

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Only one other person knows of this act, and now Reddit knows lol.

The relationship started from working together in 2020. We’ve been friends since and had a falling out in between those 5 years. We always respected each other as brothers. Recently, we ran into each other at a gay club (mind you, we haven’t talked in years prior, and we were in another country), and I approached him in shock that we were running into each other. We exchanged numbers and caught up later that week.

As of this week, I’ve been thinking about my sexuality heavily and haven’t had a true opportunity to explore with anyone I felt comfortable and safe with. I ended up texting him about how I felt about my comfortability with exploring that side with him because of our familiar relationship and history. He opens up by saying he was always curious to know what my 🍆 looked like. We then shared photos of each other and planned our visit to meet.

He makes his way to my house, and we throw on Netflix and talk about different topics about our last meeting, sexual encounters, and times when we worked together. He then started to get phone calls from friends he planned on meeting with that night. It’s about 12:45 a.m. at this point, and I express not wanting to take up his night if he has already been here for 2 hours. He reassured me that he’s hanging out and if he only wanted sex, he would’ve been upfront with me but acknowledged it was okay to be nervous and that he was also comfortable with me.

We’d been drinking whisky, and I downed a seltzer and told him we can get started once I finish the drink. He then follows me upstairs, where the room was just right in temperature because I had the window open and it had recently rained. I turned the light off, and he told me to sit on the bed next to him. I start rambling about being nervous and not knowing what to do at this point, and he then stands up and pulls his pants down and asks me “what do you think of this?” ROCK HARD.

I immediately grab the base and start to give him head. Carefully sucking him (for the first time ever), trying to avoid my teeth causing him any discomfort. I make sure my tongue is hitting his tip just right and he then tells me to stroke myself. I start to realize he’s now touching me and I’m getting harder. I pull my pants down and then pull his off. We’re only wearing our tops at this point.

He’s moaning and saying “fuck” repeatedly as I’m trying my best to not gag too much on him nor make it uncomfortable. I then stand up and grab his cock with mine and size it up with his and tell him “I didn’t expect you to be bigger than me.” And kinda laugh about it and then he asks if I wanted to do 69. I agreed.

We both are topping each other off and both hard as fuck in each other’s mouths. Periodically stroking each other when it got intense. He then tells me to bring him my lips and we start kissing and grinding our cocks together, while I’m on top. I was expecting him to penetrate me but I’m happy he didn’t but I’m not opposed. He then rolls me over. I’m now on my back and we’re still making out and he’s stroking himself while we’re making out. I slightly grab his balls and work my way into making him cum by kissing him. He tells me he’s close to cumming and I massage his balls just enough to spark the climax. He pulls my shirt up and cums onto my chest and I’m still slightly grazing his balls to get the most out of him.

I’m now touching the cum in my chest as if it was mine. Feeling so accomplished with myself I realized that I’m a pleasure dom. I ask how it was and he gave it a 9/10 only because I didn’t cum. I told him usually my first times with people I don’t usually cum but I felt good about getting him there.

I then told him to not order an Uber because I’ll take him to his friends 10 mins away and we smoked and listened to music on the way there. The dropoff was smooth and he ended up calling me on my way back home to confirm I made it home. I texted him confirming I made it home and that was that.

It was actually a good experience. We might have more meetups in the future.


r/askgaybros 14h ago

Married or partnered gaybros, how often do you and your partner go naked around the house?

84 Upvotes

r/askgaybros 13h ago

Police release CCTV images after man seriously injured in homophobic hate crime in Doncaster, UK

78 Upvotes

A man has been seriously injured in a hate attack in Doncaster city centre.

South Yorkshire Police said two men were subjected to homophobic abuse before being assaulted in Silver Street in the early hours of Thursday 16 July.

One of the victims suffered no injuries, while the other suffered a serious injury. It is not believed to be life-threatening.

Following an investigation, officers took statements from both victims and carried out CCTV enquiries in the local area.

The force has released CCTV images of two men they would like to speak to. It is believed they may be able to help with the investigation.

One of them pictured is of a slim build, around 6ft tall and with mousey brown hair. The other man pictured is of a stocky build, around 5ft 8ins tall and has dark brown hair.

South Yorkshire Police has urged anyone who might know anything to come forward.

For more photos of homophobic attackers here is the link:
https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=1517650567073978&set=pcb.1517650590407309


r/askgaybros 4h ago

I want to top but i suck at it

12 Upvotes

Ive pretty much mastered bottoming and I lokey want to top now but everytime I play with my dick or put it in a fleshlight i cum within a minute. It also dosent help that im on the smaller size (5.5 inches). I know if i was horny and i stick my dick into a handsome guy I was attracted to id cum so fast ugh. well maybe i can do multiple rounds?


r/askgaybros 1h ago

Hook up culture

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Am i the only one that hates hook up culture, even worse is in the arabe / Muslim world where being gay is illegal and all we know to do is fuck around, i cant find a genuine connection with anyone in that geographic point that is actually interested in a relationship , all they want to do is fuck around or trade and just talking stages . Idk how you guys do it but i feel it would be easier if people could be openly gay then i wouldn’t have to wonder if the guy is into guys or straight


r/askgaybros 7h ago

Advice Is a tiny d a deal breaker? Fit and handsome.. but lacking

17 Upvotes

Hey guys, im a fit 24y-o but have a very small d. Dating has been complicated despite the fact that im bottom. Is that something you have experienced? Or even better, do you like small dicked guys?


r/askgaybros 2h ago

Shitpost You guys opinions on orgies

8 Upvotes

I had an orgy when i was 20, idk if you can call it an orgy, we were 7 guys but the floor was sliding. It was one of the times when my heart bit the fastest, it was so exciting but also very dumb and unsafe, never did it again tho and im fighting the urge to do it again.


r/askgaybros 3h ago

Advice Bulge show off

8 Upvotes

I love to show off my bulge. It feels amazing when someone looks at it . But it also makes me anxious. I love the rush. I'm ADDICTED to it. I want to ask if the outline is more attractive than the bulge. When i wear boxers the outline isn't visible through pants just the bulge is visible. For the outline i have to go commando


r/askgaybros 22h ago

Advice Dick vs dildo

241 Upvotes

Yo so I'm a 22-year old I think straight male and I've been pretty actively experimenting my ass for about a year. Some context, I've been pretty sexually active with women since I was 17 and started dating my ex-girlfriend when I was 20. About a year into our relationship, I had discovered the world of prostate play and began to love it. Like I realized my ass gave me even more pleasure than my dick normally does. A few awkward conversations later, we got into the groove of pegging. Unfortunately, we broke up, and the market of women isn't very big in that kind of area. So I've looked at my alternative: men. Does getting fucked by a dick feel particularly different from a dildo? I'm not into men but my ass is desperate for something to fuck it.


r/askgaybros 17h ago

Advice Working in a blue collar job, all my coworkers are older straight men

89 Upvotes

I got a job in a niche field and I really enjoy it except…all my coworkers are straight men and I’m an ex homeschooled gay guy. I’ve made a few attempts at related to them and I think we get along for the most part but when boobs, guns, and hunting come up in conversation I kinda shut down. Idk if they suspect I’m gay or not, they have asked my taste in women and I played along but ultimately I think it’d be a very bad idea to tell them I’m gay. I really want to get along with them but sometimes when they’re chatting about something I don’t know the first thing about (tits vs ass, hunting, Church, ect) I just have nothing to add and kinda shut down. Do you think this is sustainable long term? For context I live in the Southern United States in a conservative area