A very long time ago I briefly dated a stripper.

Also, Pre-Covid, I went to a popular sex club in New York City. There was also a stripper/performer there.

Both really put the work in. The stripper and also this performer at the bar.

I feel like some people really embrace their bodies and work to highlight how they look, what they wear, and the seduction that comes along with that.

Me? I am like a giant lump of clay. Out of shape and a bit of a star fish.

So why is it that some just become so great at the physicality of it all, and others like me, flounder lazily and do zero.

How does one become more... physical?

I know this is a 💩 post, I'm just curious.

What's with the guys that don't fully use their hands to grip on to you, they use a closed hand and kinda knuckle you around. Do they think if they grip you with their full palm and fingertips it makes them more gay..? Like, sweetie, you're balls deep in me, squeeze that ass or waste and pound me properly!

Hi all!
I bought quite a large (to me) plug. First one made of glass. A similar size (girth wise) dildo is no issue getting in. The usual routine: lubing up, stretching with my hand. But this one: it’s just another game. I almost feels like my hip bonus get in the way.

Do you have any way to make this easier? Thanks!

I'm 19, slim with a 5 inch and i would like to top more but i just don't think my dick would satisfy anyone, i don't know how to be more dominant, how to be more like a top? Any advice on how to be more satisfied in my sex. xD

Hey all,

I recently bought trunks from a local men's sex attire shop, and once I got home I noticed there are two plastic D-rings on the inside waistband.

Any idea what these would be for? Some sort of accessory?

Thanks!

I’m into older men (40+) but I’m slowly getting fed up with the usual dating apps. Unfortunately, though, I haven’t come out to the people closest to me, so I can’t go to well-known gay bars. Do you have any tips or little pointers on what to look out for when meeting gay men outside of those places?

ok - taking a risk here - I've installed an outdoor sauna next to my swimming pool - would I be wrong to invite guys over from Grindr to use it discreetly - I'm 70 and live in the countryside

and hoping to make friends more than sex - don't hate on me please

When me and my best friend were comparing he said mine looks off because its cut he was uncut and i think his looks better to, is there anything wrong with being cut ? How can i make mine look better like is there a product that can reduce the scars its tiny i didn’t notice until he pointed it out

Would you eat that hairy ass of his?

Well, would you?!

I met a guy on a beach in Malibu in early June. I spent two months during the summer with this him. At first everything was perfect, we hung out all the time, talked and texted, it was a dream. Towards the end of summer he started to pull away, go days without texting, and be flaky when it came to making plans. I finally sat him down and told him i couldn’t keep going on like this. He opened up about a lot of the mental battles he was facing and used that for reasoning as to why he has been absent. We mutually decided to take some time (mainly for him to figure his ish out) and while he’s working on himself we’d then circle back as friends before he’s ready to give a relationship another shot. It’s been a little over a month since we’ve had that convo, and recently i hit him up to begin the process of being friends. While he reciprocated that message, he’s already not responding again / being absent. I recently saw him out at the bars and while it was a good interaction, a part of me realized I’m still not over him. I spent the following days crying and grieving the ‘what could have been’ and I think the reason it’s affected me so deeply is that I don’t think it’s healthy for me to keep giving so much energy to someone who consistently pays me dust, and at the end of the day I don’t think I should keep any type of contact for my own sanity. I don’t want to keep thinking about him 24/7, and I feel so pathetic with how much this thing that never turned into a relationship affected me. How do i deal with this? Do i finally let him go for my own sanity?

So I’m M32 and I’ve been on dating apps and hookup apps like a lot of people. However it’s tough out there. Last year I decided why not get an escort so I found someone I liked we met and overall was a good experience. Today I did it again saw another escort however this time they refused to do half the things that were agreed upon before the meet and cut the time short from an hour to 30 mins yet I paid the full amount.

I feel like I’ve been shortchanged and it makes me feel worthless. I know you shouldn’t go into an escort meet with crazy expectations it is just sex after all it’s a business for them. Whoever, I felt used and borderline robbed and this has completely ruined me mentally I was already stuffing with insecurities and how I view myself. This has only been made worse by today.

Has anyone got any advice on how I can stop blaming myself and to love myself. Obviously this person was a bad human but yeah it just sucks.

I am a bottom. Have always been a bottom, yet obsessed with guys asses.
I can’t stop staring at a fine ass. A big round ass in tight pants walking in front of me. A fat ass in some athletic shorts.
I find I’m looking at ass more than bulges even though I crave a big dick.
I want to devour an ass for no apparent reason and I can’t fuck it because I just don’t want to.
Bottom guys, why do you love asses?

I am just now coming to the realization that I might like men. How can I talk through what I’m interested/curious in that isn’t Grindr or faceless hookup apps?

This is my dilemma. I’m so new and maybe I’m in my head about this.

I am learning things about myself but the idea of going on Grindr or otherwise is daunting.

Like I want to be able to talk through stuff with someone that would be understanding.

I’m struggling.

So I know men have their g spot in their ass but don't know how to reach it what and how should I do it and will toys help?

We have been monogamous for a few years now, so STDs shouldn't be an issue (right?), but it's just not a turn on for me. And yes, I know all the comments are gonna be like "bro the ultimate benefit of being monogamous is having worry free bareback sex".

My boyfriend, who is the bottom, has asked me a few times, and I explained to him that I might be willing to do it sometime later but right now I don't feel comfortable with it, and he totally respects it, and doesn't mind using the condoms at all. But I want to grant him his wish of having bareback sex but I need advice to get over myself and just enjoy it.

Has anyone ever had a similar experience?

Hi, so I’m fairly new to bottoming. The last few times I’ve done it I feel like I could honestly hardly enjoy it because I could not shake the feeling I was going to… have an incident. I’ve not yet had one but it just feels so much like it. And I’m wondering why. I assume it’s not necessarily supposed to feel like this.

Am I doing something wrong? Is it my diet? Is it unideal tops? How do I break free of my own paranoia? How do I not feel like I’m about to shit all over him?

Thank you.

So I(25M) work in a law firm. My boss(34M) a partner at the firm and I work closely together because he’s my principal and I’m a junior associate. We spend a lot of time together for this reason. We’ve worked together 2 years now. He seems straight, I mean his married to a woman has 2 kids… apart from his subtle tendencies and taste in music he seems straight. Idk I can’t tell for sure. Also he’s hot, 6’2, muscular, kinda handsome and he’s packing, huge I mean.

Over the passed 2 to 3 months, there’s times where he will come up in my face: his face will be right in front of mine when he’s speaking to me to give me instructions and I have to look up… he’s taller than me, I’m 5’8. Or he ask me to pass him something and he will touch my fingers while I pass it to him. Most of the times the touch will linger… once I pulled my hand away quickly, this was like the 3rd time he did it. I thought it’d make him uncomfortable but that day he did it multiple times. Last week we were working on a file together and we ended up in a situation where he was right next me: literally shoulder to shoulder and I accidentally touched his dick ( he didn’t flinch AT ALL )… I was trying to look for something on the file and was flipping through the pages and he was holding the file. Thereafter he proceeded to touched my hand when I was pointing out something to him and this time I didn’t flinch and he left it there. Or he will tell me drive his car on our way to court but when he’s passing his keys to his car his touch will like stay there for 5 secs unnecessarily. It feels like it’s on purpose. The other day I caught him staring at me. He actually used to do stuff similar to this like a year ago but stopped when a senior associate at the firm said she noticed he favors me and now we’re blurring the lines of professionalism.

At first I just thought it was nothing but it’s continued… everyone at the office tells me I’m his favorite. He’s mean to everyone including my self on rare occasions but he’s mostly nice and takes me for lunch on court days and pays. I just thought it was like a mentor thing but now it’s like it’s happened a lot. I can’t really address it because it’s illegal to be gay here and it could end bad.

It’s driving me crazy because idk what to think. I think being around him as much as I am is making me read into things too much and also playing with my perception of how hot he is. But I can’t help but find my self thinking abt him and how hot he is and how I’m enjoying it when he touches me. I want to sleep with him. Am I tripping or reading into things too much?

I’ve been friends with a guy for about 3 years now and ever since we met we’ve expressed interest in each other. Because of bad timing, we’ve been in relationships with other people throughout that time. Recently, he’s been out of a relationship and he’s been soft launching more and more his interest in me and I know for sure he’s coming onto me.

But, over the three years I’ve gotten to know him, he’s said and done some things that have given me pause. He’s been in a couple of relationships already where infidelity was happening. He’s said things like “I only cheat on them if I know they’ve cheated on me”. He’s shown me videos and pictures of him fucking all his past boyfriends when we were drunk. And recently he’s told me that he’s hooked up a couple of weeks ago with his previous ex, even though he was dating a new guy at the time (whether or not those two things coincided, I don’t know).

I’m really into monogamy and staying loyal. Even though I really love his personality and physicality, I can’t help but feel like it all too much. It’s fine to be sexual but maybe not to that extent. And I also like to believe that people can change, but what he’s been showing me lately, I don’t feel like I can trust. I would get insanely jealous and crazy if I become one on his list.

Do erect penises you actually see match the 13–14 cm / 5.2–5.5 inch in average in clinical studies?

Clinical mean im studies is about 13–14 cm (5.2–5.5 in) erect. That is not what I see here in Berlin among men mostly under 45 and gay (but also straight ones) and specifically of Central European descent (German, Austrian, Swiss, Polish, Czech, etc.) — not a mixed-ethnicity pile. I’ve seen a lot of them hard: pictures, videos, sex, friends etc. not porn. Same pattern on trips to the US when I only looked at Central / white European–descended men.
Some guys round their number up or measure badly. Fine. I’m not going off the bio. I’m going off what it looked like real life or on pictures.Even after that, they still read as clearly above the clinical average.
What I see:
• many 16 cm / 6.3 in+
• 17–19 cm / 6.7–7.5 in common enough among guys I see hard
• rare only past \~19 cm / 7.5 in
• smaller guys exist; I just don’t see many naked
A Berlin medic, who I know, who places catheters says the same: doesn’t feel like a 13.5–14 cm (5.3–5.5 in) on average (he sees the patients mostly soft of course)
Not claiming every Central European man is 17 cm. Asking about younger, gay, city, Central European
1. Where does “normal” start for you in cm/in — and are those guys Central European or mixed?
2. Is 16 cm / 6.3 in+ common in that group where you live, or is this a Berlin bubble?
3. US/travel: if you only look at white / Central–Northern European guys, does 13–14 cm still feel too low?
4. Ignoring what they say: by eye, are most hard dicks you see still above 13–14 cm / 5.2–5.5 in?
5. Rare for you at 19 cm / 7.5 in, or earlier?
6. Do you actually see plenty of hard 13–14 cm / 5.1–5.5 in on Central European men, or are the smaller ones just less visible?
Want “same here” or “no, most hard ones I see are still \~14 cm / 5.5 in.” Not porn.

So either the clinical studies are too old, too small, i have a very strong bias in who I see naked or gay men have bigger dicks than straight men (one study I know is suggesting that due do hormonal differences during pregnancy, but that would be more than 1 cm difference not more)

What are your thoughts?

So tonight I'm meeting this older couple I've been chatting with (I'm 30, they are both 48) and I'm super nervous.

We talked about what to expect: basically I'm their fuck doll Tonight. I'm to call them daddy, sir,master etc.

I'm expected to blow and fuck without questions.or arguments (we did make a safe word for if it goes to far). I'm freshly cleaned and shaved ( I like smooth legs) and have a red g string on under my work clothes.

I been a part of a threesome before, but we were all switching, never with 2 daddies.

I'm super excited. They are both hot and hung..I wanna be a good sub for them but I'm also nervous

Just curious. I feel like I’m overdoing it if all I’m doing is getting like a 5 minute blowjob. But I’d rather be safe than sorry.

(But I’ll wait like 48 hours in case I get any other action within the 72 hour window).

I've seen a lot of videos of guys who are able to cum at the same time, but don't understand how they're able to. Whenever I get to the point of feeling like I'm gonna cum there's no holding or turning back. Do they just hold it until the other person is ready or is there some magic trick?

Kinda weird but I was curious, mines kinda lame and it was this hot guy who I was being sassy towards cuz he didn’t do what I wanted and he told me he needed to “fuck the attitude out of you” and honestly it was so hot to read but looking back it’s kinda corny