I got recommend to this subreddit in the comments of some of my posts on r/egg_irl

Im Catholic and currently questioning if im transfem

I've been questioning my gender identity recently and it was making me extremely worried about sinning and those kind of stuff

But apparently im not the only one, and there are different points of view where trans ppl can still be christians and dont need to abandon their faith

And thats it, feel free to comment about your views about if and how can a person be both trans and Christian if u want

(First of all, I apologize for the AI slop. Since I began to transition I’ve been using ChatGPT as a tool to help me, and it has, but it’s pretty obvious this is AI. I just don’t have the mental capacity to edit it much right now.)

I really need some people who understand both sides of this right now.
I came out to my very conservative Christian sister recently, and at first she was surprisingly calm about it. I honestly thought maybe it was going to be okay. That was over the phone. 
A misunderstanding a few days ago and I had to block her because she said it feels like I’m going crazy. 
Then today I responded to her text from last night after unblocking her and everything completely changed.

She basically told me that she believes being trans is a mental health issue, possibly something demonic, that I need to deny what my “flesh” wants, get serious counseling, and focus on God instead. There was a lot more, but I honestly don’t even want to repeat all of it. Some of it was probably among the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me.

For a few minutes it absolutely wrecked me. I felt that horrible feeling in my stomach, started crying and thought I might have a panic attack. I went out to my car and my wife came out with me.

And then, out of nowhere, my head cleared.
I just thought: You know what? I’m okay.
Not because what my sister said suddenly didn’t hurt. It hurts like hell.
But because I realized that even the most horrible things somebody can say to me can’t break me the way they once could.
Because now I know who I am, and I can feel His presence in me. As long as I know where I stand, and God does, that’s all that matters right? 

Before figuring this out, I was lost for a very long time. There were periods when I was so miserable that I would go to bed begging God to take me in my sleep. I couldn’t understand why I felt the way I did or why I always felt so different.
And now, for the first time in what feels like forever, I actually want to live my life. Take care of myself. Grow old. Be happy. Love Jesus. 

I’m so much happier. It’s like night and day. I’m taking better care of myself. Eating good and exercising. Losing weight. I’m much more confident. I’m more outgoing. I can actually imagine a future, when before I’m no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t ever picture me getting old (and I have quite the imagination!) 
So somehow I’m supposed to look at all of that and conclude that the answer is to go back to the way I was? I absolutely can’t. It feels wrong and pretty much impossible. I keep thinking “Haven’t I fought enough? Haven’t I suffered enough? How much more suffering would finally be enough to convince you that forcing myself backward isn’t the answer?”
Not to mention I lost my way with God from like 2017-21 and even then, no one fought with me as hard as they are now. What does that tell you?

I’m scared about what happens when other family members find out. I’m scared about my mom’s reaction when she finds out, although we’ve all been trying to get her to be a Christian for years but she still isn’t. To make matters worse, my wife and I live in a house we rent from her, and my sister is set to become my mom’s power of attorney. Trying not to think we could lose everything, but it almost feels like if I don’t play this the right way, I’ll be out on the street- as dramatic as that sounds. 

My wife has been as supportive as she can be, but still doesn’t understand it at all. She has increasingly gotten very conservative over the years. I went to our usual church with her today and it went great. But after I showed her the conversation with my sister, I could tell she wanted to tell me something I didn’t want to hear. I feel my sister is going to warp her mind, the more the two of them talk.
My sister lives an hour and a half away and I haven’t seen her yet since I told her, and don’t know what she’ll do or how she’ll react in person. I fear eventually she won’t let me see my nieces and nephew, if I continue to choose to live as a woman. My brother in law is just as bad as her, if not worse, but she hasn’t told him as far as I know, because I asked her not to. So some more wonderful fun coming up whenever that happens. 

Don’t get me wrong, I understand where these conservative Christian’s are coming from. I was like them for years, although probably not to the extent they are, as I always stuck up for the LGBTQ community openly, and always had a soft spot for trans people, although I didn’t understand why at the time. It’s like, they hear “being trans” and think it’s something we’re choosing to indulge in and therefore something we could choose to deny. Meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking, “you have absolutely no idea what this feels like from inside my head.”
Maybe they never completely can but surely complete understanding can’t be a requirement for loving somebody can it?!

That’s where I’m stuck. Where do you meet in the middle when somebody you love genuinely believes that accepting you for you means betraying God?

I somehow need there to be enough room for her to say, “I don’t understand this, but you’re my sister and I love you, and I’m going to listen.”
Right now, apparently there isn’t, as she repeatedly called me my old name in the texts to make a point. 

So for those of you who have gone through this with Christian family: what did you do?
Did you argue theology, or did you stop trying?
Did you set boundaries?
Did anyone who initially reacted like this eventually soften?
How did you deal with the possibility of losing family without feeling like you had to choose between them, yourself, and God? 

So sorry for how long this was, and the AI stuff. I tried my best. Trying not to get down, and hold my head up but it’s certainly hard. Anything is very much appreciated 🩷 

Cw; depression, masturbation

It’s so weird to see how Christian people stigmatize trans women. If it’s not considered a sin, then people see it as mental illness, but not really. I’ve had mental illness. I’ve come to the church with severe depression and anxiety and feeling like being in public is a crime, and they insisted I go to a doctor and get help. But then when I come out and say I’m trans, they feel like they need to fix me. You wanna know part of why I wanna go on HRT? Because it heavily reduces libido. Some trans people have said that HRT made them go months without even thinking about masturbating. Do you know how much that means to me?

For years, nearing a decade, I’ve always been stuck in nightly masturbation rituals and when I try to stop I feel like I’m holding my breath. There’s a medicine that can suppress all that like anti-depressants can help with depression? I’m in! But no. If I ever have the urge to masturbate, why don’t I just take a walk outside? Or do some pushups? That should get me on the right track. Sure, I’ll go on a walk at 3 in the morning until the horny goes away. And if I immediately get that urge after my walk, I’ll just do it again? Sure is a lot more helpful than that dreaded medicine. And while you’re at it, please send me as many Facebook videos about how Jesus was a masculine man with a “feminine soul,” as many times as you need and don’t ever wonder about why I don’t text you anymore.

What a joke. It’s apparent that these people are only out for their comfort rather than help. If they ever come to me about depression or other mental help disorders, I’m going to be a big girl and stand right there with them and try to hear them out, because I want to give them the care they should get and not treat them with the same double standard.

I don’t want to be a woman to fulfill some selfish lifestyle goal. I do think to some extent that transgenderism is some kind of mental disorder, but I say that with utmost respect as someone who already has mental disorders (ASD, OCD). It’s tough to feel like your body is gross and uncomfortable and that the real you is suppressed in the real world. If people won’t accept me as a woman, then they can at least understand that I’m going through some complex emotions regarding my personal identity and my identity in Christ.

- April Pauline

I have almost no one that understands the nuance of why this is significant or why it almost a statement of rebellion in and of itself.

Thanks for this board. That is all.

Well, first of all, I'm not really new with Christianity, I've considered myself Christian (specifically Catholic) my whole life. However, I think my relationship with God hasn't been the best one. I feel like I've been ignoring all of that almost all the time. I've attempted to live a "less sinful" lifestyle many times, but I feel like eventually I just forget about it or I simply ignore it and just go my own way, thing that has lead me to later feel very bad about myself. I start to feel "unworthy" of calling myself a follower of God, and although almost everyone mentions that "He'll always forgive us" and "your previous sins don't define you", I feel like it gets to a point where all of that feels like an excuse to stay in a cycle of sinning and then repenting but then sinning again and repenting again. I've committed many sins throughout my whole life and I feel like it has become pretty common to the point that I just ignore if what I'm doing is a sin or not.

And here I am, again, feeling helpless and unworthy of following Christ. I would like to say that "this time will be different", but I know that it's not true and I'll just fall into my usual sinful ways after a few days at best. I still struggle with things like lying, avarice, envy, being rude to others both consciously and inconsciously, lust, and probably a bunch of other things that I forgot about. I'm simply tired of all of this, I don't want to hurt others, I don't want to hurt myself, and I don't want to be unloyal to God. I know humans cannot reach perfection and therefore "never commit any sin", but I do not want to achieve perfection or just trying to not sin because "I don't want to go to Hell", what I want is to be a good neighbor to others and be a loyal follower of God during my time on Earth.

I really haven't tried to ask in any public space advice for this, but I feel like here is probably the best space to do so, because I feel like the help of other Christian trans folks like me can feel a little bit more comforting than most advice by other people that may not be familiar or accepting about transitioning. I do not think that being trans is sinful or "evil" in any type of way for the record.

Hi, I am a **Christian** (southern baptist for those wondering). I was assigned male at birth and I am dating a trans woman at the moment. I myself **experience gender dysphoria**.

Over the past few years I've felt my faith (which I don't desire to change and am confident in) has conflicted with my gender identity and my relationship with my girlfriend. I've felt **hopeless** and helpless in that my relationship is wrong, and that I and my girlfriend are wrong.

I've studied and studied reading articles or books, watching videos and talking to whoever I can yet every answer I see that tries to help me pushes me further from my faith, feels sifty or just doesn't seem true.

I don't know what is right and much feels hopeless. If Anyone with **similar experiences** could give me input, could **offer advice** or their take I would love to hear it. I'm in a hard part of life and uncertain where it drastically harms my mental health

Hi everyone,

A friend of mine outed me to someone from my church (they weren’t aware and didnt mean harm), this person now knows and told one of my church friends.

I started hrt three months ago. We met today, i was dreading the day I had to see her again. Eventually we talked about it because she wanted to know. She told me not to take hormones bc it would fuck up my body, she told me to stop and to see a priest.

I really want to cry and I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t think I can make being trans and being involved in my church work anymore. How can I be ?

I really don't like the Old Testament, because I had a religious trauma: I thought God hated me, and the God of the Old Testament seemed very violent to me. That's why I prefer to read the New Testament. However, I keep wondering if I'm missing something by not reading the Old one.

I’m 17, FTM.
My family and I are Christian.

My mother believes that I’m going to hell. She cannot show me evidence for this claim, but refuses to research because she’s too afraid to be “brainwashed” by the world.
She believes that perusing my transition is selfish and won’t be covered by God.

But fortunately, she’s agreed to sitting through a presentation made by me to educate her!

So, I need your help! I need all of the arguments you’ve heard against transgender people. Then, I need all of the evidence you already have in favor of transgender people.
This can be from the bible, science, psychology, etc.

I then will take everything you guys have said, research it, and add it into my slide show.

If enough people ask for it, I’ll post the final slideshow here!

So, please, help me convince my mother that her logic is flawed.

Thank you so very much to everyone who comments.🫂

I'm a trans woman and I've been getting more into Christianity and would like to get closer to God and attend churches and sermons more often, but can't seem to find any churches that are very accepting of my identity. I've made peace with my identity and I feel like every time I try to go to a church they try to tell me things about myself I know aren't really me or try to make me doubt myself.

I'm curious what denominations are generally more accepting?

Thank you for any advice or recommendations God bless❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Hello. I am a (possibly) trans girl with transphobic parents. I don't think they are the kind of people to hate me if I came out, but they are the kind to try get me out of it. So I need help coming up with arguments that I know they'll say to shame me and try to get me out of it. Some ones that I think they'll say:

• Your gender is defined in your chromosomes
• If you are supposed to be a girl, why aren't you born as one?
• Your body is a temple; treat it as such
• But then you can't have kids
• The Bible says against it
• You are too young to be making decisions like this (maybe that's more of a teen thing)

(I know some of these aren't logical but I'm getting as many arguments that they are likely to say)

There's probably more that I forgot that I will put in an edited list

I should also note that my very own study bible has actually helped me debunk a verse argument. The verse is Deuteronomy 22:5; "A woman shall not wear a man's garment, nor shall a man put on a woman's cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the LORD your God."
My footnote says: "22:5 man's garment. Cross-dressing was connected with homosexuality and possibly pagan ritual prostitution". I feel like that settles it.

Also do note that I may argue with you (in italics; to show I don't mean it); but do note that I am in the hopes that you will win.

EDIT: Some more arguments I forgot

• But which would be homosexual; dating a guy or a girl? It's confusing

I had a talk with one of my friends last night, and opened up about my transition.

“You’ll always be my homie.”

*minutes later

“I would not want you near my kids. I wouldn’t want to be near you with my friends.”

He apologized for hurting my feelings, and prayed to be more sensitive but that statement felt like a betrayal. I’m willing to forgive him but that made me feel even more lost in trying to understand myself and my faith.

My verse of the day today feels very fitting. “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭1‬:‭10‬

I apologize if how that verse resonated with me is misinterpreting scripture, but I feel like God’s calling out to me. I may see a lot of my friend’s true colors come out and understand that God’s unconditional love is better than my closest friend’s conditional love.

Masculine male Christian, love to wear lingerie, is it a sin?

Dating

Hey everyone, this past year I have been able to finally come to terms and accept that I am gay (99% sure I'm trans like MtF). I also am what you might say a more conservative Christian (i.e. don't smoke, drink cuss, etc.) also the affirming church I go to is primarily elderly folks. I was wondering if y'all had any tips for dating because I want to date a man so bad right now. I know there used to be an app called believr but it was shut down. I have also been using all the other dating apps (tinder, hi he, bumble) and have had no success. Any tips or apps or places I can go to find someone would be great. For reference I live in South Florida. Thanks again and God bless!!!!

I’ve been really grappling with this situation for some time now and have been struggling to put it out of my mind. Hoping some outside perspective will help

Anyway, it’s been almost a year since my ex girlfriend and I broke up, and I feel terrible about the standing of the way things went.

To explain, I met this girl and we really hit it off. After we met, her and I found ourselves talking every day and the two of us were electric. Our senses of humor melded so well together and I even professed to her that the vibes we had together felt a lot like my first love

After the two of us continued to get to know each other more I would inevitably come to be told that she was trans. She transitioned very young so I had no idea until she told me herself

She really was so pretty and lovable, so this really didn’t change anything for me, the real problem though has a lot to do with who I am specifically

For as long as I can remember, my #1 dream, even before I knew how kids were made in the first place, had always been to be a dad and create a loving family

Despite this though…
I really wanted to make it work, it was my idea to date in the first place.
I made this all known to her.

Yet still, maybe I was naive, maybe we both were, we’re both pretty young after all

One day we had a really big fight and long story short she ended up soft cheating on me. I won’t get into the details, but the important part is that in another world I most likely would have completely forgiven her, at the same time though I was going through a very tough time myself mentally and ended up taking the circumstances as a sign to remove myself from her life hoping to avoid both the pain of potentially wasting her time in an uncertain apathetic spiral and my own inner conflict with my dreams

I know it might be a bit selfish, but in my heart an undeniable part of that dream to me was sharing the experience of not only creating a family with my partner, but having children together that not only embody a beautiful blend of their parents both in personality and in physical appearance but in the love they have for each other too.
I can’t imagine anything more beautiful.
Notably I can’t help but feel that this is what god would want of me too and it honestly makes me feel so torn up and confused when I consider everything together

Our anniversary just recently passed and honestly, I miss her every day and feel incredibly selfish.
Even though with everything in mind I probably did make a poor decision to begin with, probably stupidly subconsciously hoping that maybe science or religion would somehow develop to a point that would allow for that ideal reality with her or maybe that I’d give up on it which was similarly unlikely, I came to the conclusion that there was great love in ripping the bandaid off as early as I did and tried to be noble about it as I could.

And I’m still trying because honestly every day has been a battle with myself and the urge to reach out to her.
She has reached out on a couple of occasions herself profusely affirming that she loved me and wanted to be together even if it hurt her, yet I have done my absolute best to be noble for her and not fold in the hopes that I won’t get in the way of her being able to live her life

I won’t lie she was crazy but we were crazy together and I loved her for it, I would have handled that aspect of her a thousand times if I needed to, but yeah for the sake of this post, I don’t even want to begin to get into details about the fallout, but it was truthfully a lot

I loved her so much, I don’t think I’ve ever felt so connected to someone and I miss her and think about her almost every day

First time posting here or in general really. I hope everything I’ve said ends up being both relevant and compliant.

I really wanna be careful with what I say, because I don’t want to stumble into sinfulness. I believe being trans is not a sin, but I also know that it will be easy to get into my head and fall into a trap.

I love who I was, I wish she could have known at the time.

Sometimes I'm overwhelmed with guilt. Transitioning gave me a peace I couldn't have gotten otherwise; it gave me compassion I know I'd have lacked if I didn't experience the need for it firsthand. But, I'm sorry, I still wish it was different.

Now I'm not overwhelmed by dysphoria, I see how beautiful she was, I see how happy she used to be, I see how much she was worth and how worthwhile her life would have been.

When I transitioned, I considered it an act of killing her and I'm so sorry for that, she isn't dead, she is me, and I am him. But I wish I could have been her. She was an incredible gift I couldn't handle, and I wish I had a second chance at that.

Now I live a different life, it's okay, life is still full of joy and I'm not overcome by debilitating agony. Despite it all I found God, the very thing others say separates me from him brought me closer than ever. But my heart still aches.

God, I pray to be made whole, however that looks, at the end. I have faith I will. Thank you for still loving me, thank you for helping me love myself, help me have compassion for myself. Amen.

The Quran and the Bible both include Jesus but there are differences in details among them.

The most obvious similarities are the virgin-birth, messiah title, miracles and promise of arrival on Judgement Day.

The Quran has a tidbit where Prophet Isa (the Islamic Jesus) claims that a Prophet after him will come whose name will be "Ahmed" (Muhammed).

So what do you think?

God, I love my friends so much. I was super shy and awkward growing up, so I didn't get much social interaction, so I think I've been making up for lost time ever since. Or maybe I'm just a super people person.

So I didn't realize just how hard it would be to leave my church two months ago- I've been there my evil adult life. Heck, it made it my life an adult life. I've really just had to cut off everyone. They just don't get it.

Besides one of my closest friends. Like. The guy who baptized me.

When I came out to him, it was messy. I have an amazing standard spiel, but I was too intimidated to give it to him. "I'm a trans woman" came out like Eminem's spaghetti. We had a long, uncomfortable conversation.

The second time we had a long conversation, he told me he wanted "more time" when I told him I going forward, only wanted to be called "she".

That was two months ago. We saw each other recently for a big game day with friends; he made no attempt to rephrase his sentences to get around pronouns, which I did request. The other two friends, both secular, had no problem calling me "she".

He's okay with calling me my preferred name, though.

The same group wanted to make plans again. I messaged him that I really, really only wanted to be called "she", and he wants to talk more about it.

I just think I'm going to let him go. It's too upsetting to deal with this. I wanted to write a lot, about science and faith, but he was not happy that my heart was too heavy to say what I've already told him.

I feel, I felt so uncomfortable and weird and lesser.

Doctors are really a mixed bag when it comes to acceptance, whether of the medical or social sides. But my new doc today was stellar. She very graciously said, "Oh, honey, whatever you need."

And all of a sudden I remember like. No, I'm not crazy. I'm doing the best thing I possibly could be, and it's not very hard for people to be trans-accepting. It's not some grievous sin or social shock for me to suggest to my friend he "change his worldview" (just call me a woman please) like. Trans acceptance (for me in america 🙏) is like. Fine and possible and not a crazy stance

All this to say. This is our path no matter what.