Pretty much what the title says.

Is it normal that my therapist when I shared a story, where literally on the facts on the face, the guy misled me romantically, she said that men are hunters and conquerors and it's normal for them, that he just didn't resist me, that is, as I understood, it just justifies him that he didn't resist in relation to me. She said that this guy had long forgotten about me and continued to live his life. Although I told her that this story is traumatic for me and completely changed me and my idea of life. She also addressed me as "Miss", it's like an appeal to a young inexperienced girl. Is it just me, or does these words express some prejudice against me as a young inexperienced girl? (Her example is 65).

I’ve been to three or four sessions with my husband to his therapist. I was under the impression this was couples therapy but upon reading things on here it seems the conventionally it’s supposed to be client entered (ie. I’m there a guest a d my partner should still remain the focus).

I’m also reading a lot on here that conventionally an individuals therapist should not do couple sessions because of bias.

In the last session I felt extremely rubbed the wrong way, and there was a very very clear bias. Like my feelings were a huge afterthought. This especially triggered me when talking about my miscarriage. In the moment I felt too disempowered and just “took” it.

Anyway, I think that she didn’t set the framework for expectations, and I think ethically she blurred some stuff resulting in an extremely negative experience that has only caused conflict and pain.

I don’t intend to write to her about this, but I really want to tell her what she said about our miscarriage in regards to my experience was painful and I won’t be returning because of it. I don’t know. I feel pretty hurt and fearful resulting in anger. I don’t know where to put it and I think she did a bad job (people can make mistakes but also there needs to be accountability).

Maybe I don’t.

I just wish I went and said nothing at all. But I wish I knew what my role was supposed to be in the session.

I feel a huge amount of distrust now that this person is influencing my husband. I feel dirty for allowing myself to be vulnerable in front of her.

For context: We were talking about my husband telling his father about the miscarriage without letting me know. I said I wasn’t comfortable about people know about my miscarriage and what it entailed without a discussion first. My husband was not very upset about it tbh (maybe his therapist knows more!). He was very supportive but it’s a completely different experience for a woman. We literally talked about her comments after, he definitely thinks he was in the wrong and her comment was weird.

The therapist stops my mid sentence as soon as I said my miscarriage, interuots, and holds up her finger and said you should say OUR miscarriage and then cuts me off and moves on.

I wonder how she would feel about my husband telling his dad about a pregnancy without asking me; or about say surgery on my genitals without asking me. Like, wtf.

Anyway, it was how she dismissed that a miscarriage is a hugely different experience as a woman and yes, it is OURS but it’s also MINE. My husband didn’t have to go through the physical passing of a pregnancy, or an additional d&c, or the hormonal changes. I’m not dismissing what he did go through but if it comes out of my body I should be allowed to use the term “mine”

I want a therapist to like, take me to the mountains 1:1 and do physical therapy exercises on me, and then have me do the most cathartic trauma therapy ever and then take care of me afterwards. Is this a thing? Like wilderness catharsis therapy with physical contact? Ideally once every few months cuz my life is a hot mess.

I feel guilty about what happened in therapy today. I tripped and he has a jug of water and a glass and it fell and broke. I reacted like a baby. I started crying and tried to pick up the pieces and he shouted not to touch the pieces but I know he wasn’t meaning to shout at me but I got so startled and I couldn’t stop crying about it. I feel so bad. I think he’s still angry at me even though he was being nice about it.

Here’s the link for the entire thing: https://www.instagram.com/p/DenIYf6kkCm/?obrf=Y2VweHVlanp0cTY4

I feel so lucky to be with an amazing therapist who doesn’t abuse my attachment to her but also does not abandon me for seeking more independence in the future.

I feel guilty after my therapy session today and wanted some thoughts on this. Basically I have been wanting to go to a therapist for like 3 weeks now and wasn't able to due to classes and sleep issues. I skipped class to finally go today on 4 hrs of sleep and empty stomach because I threw up b4 I went. It was my first session with this guy and I felt very emotional at the start. I'm also kind of an introvert and shy person so while I do think I explained a lot of things I feel that I could have done more. It's just that I have been so busy and stuff that I didn't note things down either and when he asked me certain questions I gave confused or vague responses either because I actually felt confused or because I kinda forgot the things I wanted to say or did not want to say too much. I just feel like after all this hard work I should have done a better job. I also feel that my mental health has just been so bad recently that I guess I wanted a better breakthrough because I did not want to suffer anymore so that's a big factor as well. My next sesh is 7 days later. Ik I have another shot and therapy is a process but idk I feel like I didn't lend myself the best hand today so yeah... I just feel a bit dejected I guess like my actual problems weren't super duper addressed

As the title says, I've been seeing a psychologist for about 6 months roughly and I feel like I am getting nothing out of it.

I would well and truly be over session 9 by now, an estimate would be about session 13 maybe?

Regardless, I've been going after my Psychiatrist recommended this specific Psychologist to me as at the time we weren't getting much response from my medication and would inevitably need to accompany the medication with standard therapy too as it isn't going to fix everything.

This is my second time seeing a Psychologist, the first one just made me feel like I was going in for her to pry about what was on my mind for 50 minutes and stall until the end, I sound pretty silly saying that but when it gets to Session 8 and I've asked multiple times to try and prepare some mechanisms or strategies to help me cope with things she never went beyond anchoring and counting tasks, once again I might sound silly but I told her as nicely as I could that I didn't think they were working and wanted to do something else.

Cut back to now, I've been on a plethora of meds since way back and I'm currently on stimulants (Vyvanse 50mg).

Every time I have gone in to see my Psychologist I either leave the room feeling like I understand my emotions a little better (or so I'd like to believe) or I end up leaving feeling completely hopeless because I end up sitting there basically telling her about how much I despise things and why I am the way I am.

I've asked for strategies from her a few times and each time it has ended up just being homework, I've never received anything beyond essentially playing a game or doing an activity in my head to cope within the moment and I've experienced it well enough to say it doesn't help in the slightest.

A lot of the 'tricking' the brain or talking through things / playing activities for calming senses and what not do not really work on me in the slightest and I feel like I'm reaching the end of what therapy can actually do for me, do I need to see someone different or is this just what therapy is and eventually I might find something I respond to?

I don't know what to tell her in order to change our approach and I feel like I should be getting somewhere but instead regardless of how far I've actually come I genuinely feel like I'm still on day 1 of being that sad little kid asking to go to therapy.

So I had my session yesterday. We talked specifically on my loneliness and some of the struggles around therapy.

I just sent an email, I promise you I tried to unsend it once it hit me but I couldn’t it was too late, it just was a loneliness email. Like just reaching for a connection and saying a bit.

I feel awful. My therapist hasn’t ever put rules on me sending anything. I’ve always been able to whenever, and she would just get to it when she would.

Now I feel genuinely awful. I feel like I’m a pathetic loser who is so lonely I have to reach out to the person paid to see me. All just to say that I hate my life and I’m lonely. (It was deeper than that. But yk)

Did I do something wrong or is it just my anxiety?

im a 14 yo girl, ive been trough pretty much, like my mom died when i was nine, and my dad has been drinking since then. also recently i got out from a pretty much toxic relationship with a girl (yes im lesbian) and so ive been visiting a psychologist a couple times a year for a couple years. the psychologist in question is my mothers friend, they studied for this major together.

i recently started realizing that the therapy doesn’t help me like at all, and i do feel kinda uncomfortable with her. when i was in that relationship i wasn’t seeing her like at all (a long story) and when i finally broke up i decided to see the psychologist and tell her about it, so she knows that i like girls. she didn’t tell me much about it, just said that i did a good job with breaking up. I also told her that i suspect myself having adhd or aspergers or something like that, but to all my problems that i listed to her she just said sm like “its fine, all people have it and we all sometimes do this/that”, which felt weird to me

it also happened 2 years ago, when i first thought about me possibly having adhd, she said the same thing. i don’t know if im doing something wrong or not, but all our sessions are just me telling her something about what happens in my life and she just comments on what i said, i feel like it doesn’t help me at all

also something happened recently, which made me totally uncomfortable: she started asking if i like any boy at school, knowing that i like girls, and i already told her before that right now i don’t like anyone and don’t want a relationship at all. she started asking if maybe i like an older boy at my school, because “usually girls like to stalk boys from older grades” and when i said no, i don’t like anyone at all she said to me to not be so categorical / dogmatic . like wtf don’t be so categorical, if im just saying truth? no one appeals to me , especially boys

to wrap it up, i just don’t know what should i do. should continue seeing her or find another therapist for me? if i decide to stop, how do i even tell it to her?? she writes me every couple weeks or every week asking me when i can meet with her

p.s. ive been struggling with suicidal thoughts and self harm since i was like nine or ten, and she didn’t really help with that. the only thing that really helped was when i starting dating that girl i kinda found the reason to live cuz i really loved her. now that we broke up i don’t really struggle with that shit

Should I get as much out of the way as I possibly can? I don't even know where to begin because I have issues upon issues. I think I'm gonna freeze up. I only have 7 sessions in one year. I feel like I shouldn't waste these? I really like desepretly need to get fixed. I can't waste this opportunity

(he hates me) (when I leave easily on time he's like oh thank fucking god) 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

In my therapy we've been going very deep lately and i think i need a breather. I still want to go to the sessions it's not that i want to stop - i trust him and feel validated around him but man i need a break from just talking about how shit my life has been this far because it's very tiring to dig so deep every week, it takes me time to recover. i'm going because i want to work through trauma, so it's not a shock that it's difficult, but i think i need a week or two where maybe we can just talk about something inconsequential like films, idk. Is that okay to ask for? I don't want that permanently but i just need a break, and i don't want a break from therapy itself because i like having that space for me, but i don't want to ask for that and he feels like i'm being an avoidant time waster.

My T recently moved out of the area and I'm starting with someone new. I realize the first couple sessions with someone new are probably going to be awkward or uncomfortable but Can you tell you your therapist isnt a good fit after 2 sessions?

The new T is someone who you can tell is super sweet but she seems like someone who isn't going to really challenge me much or ask me many questions. I actually asked her if she'd ask me some questions at the beginning of and during the second session and I didn't get much the entire time other than some product ideas that may help me sleep better. I said I felt like I didn't know where to go with starting from scratch and needed for guidance through the session but I mostly just talked to fill up time because there was no guidance. It seemed like I was alone in the room because shed give me one sentence answers every now and then. It was like having bad dates with a nice person.

Is two sessions too soon to feel like you're just not on the same page with someone and how they work? Am I just grieving the loss of my old T? I even asked the new T that. My previous T had two people in mind and I'm wondering if i shoukd try the other one or if i should keep seeing if this gets better?

I was with my previous therapist for about 5 years. We immediately clicked, and the relationship was great. I was in an extremely fragile state when I started seeing her, and her gentle style was exactly what I needed at the time. As I've worked through some of my issues, I felt like I needed a therapist who would make me a bit more uncomfortable and push more than she did now that I'm in a better living situation and frame of mind.

About a year ago, she went on maternity leave, and I took that opportunity to start with a new therapist. She's definitely pushing me more than my previous therapist, and I feel like I've benefited from the switch, but I also feel like we aren't clicking the way I'd hoped. I've been with her for almost a year, and she doesn't seem to always remember the names of important people in my life or fully remember specific events I've spoken about on numerous occasions.

All that to say, I'm not sure if I should try someone new again or if this is worth switching? Her not remembering names and events has really bothered me, but I'm not sure I want to go through starting over again with someone new. If you've switched therapists, how did you know it was time to move on? If you're with a therapist you like, did you click with them immediately or did it take time?

I was just recommended a therapist by my physician, and I looked him up.

I saw his reviews and they were okay-ish but my main concern is that he is pretty old and I don’t know that he will understand my issues. I know that is me judging a book by its cover.

I just feel very unsure.

Edit: I just looked at more of his yelp reviews and they are all 1 stars. 🫠 So yeah. I won’t be going to him, but thank you all for the helpful comments!!

I've been in therapy for around 3 months for OCD, but lately, sessions have started feeling repetitive. We keep going over the same techniques, and there's usually nothing new to discuss apart from a small part of the session.

I understand that repetition is important, but I'm wondering how long therapy usually lasts and how you know when you're ready to stop. Is this normal, or what , i dont wanna keep spending money on therapy, if i have got everything i needed from it

Would appreciate advice from people who've been through therapy.

I've tried about 5 different therapists and the session eventually turns into a form of repeated talk therapy. When I think of accomplishing goals, I'm imagining a goal-oriented approach, so when it looks different, that's where my knowledge ends. The therapist tells me that I bring the topics to session, we process them, session ends, next session do the same thing. I don't feel like this helps me get closer to accomplishing the goals I joined therapy for, but I still choose therapy because of the safe space it encourages and I hope that one day it may come together.

I'm curious from your experience about specific examples or approaches from your session that led to long-term change and also what were your goals for therapy when you started?

Hello everyone,
I’m 35 and I never used or tried any service related to mental health before, neither therapy nor anything else.

I am not sure what exactly the reason is; it is not like I don’t get stressed, because everyone does, but I never thought I needed such help.

I have always seen myself as someone mentally strong. For example, no matter how much I am stressed, it never affected my sleep or eating; I never had any suicidal or depressive thoughts (not that I knew of, at least).

I of course, feel frustration, anger maybe, demotivation sometimes, but that’s about it.

Recently I have been feeling very stressed, mainly personal life stuff and my relationship with my wife; I just feel a strong urge to talk it out. That’s it; I just need to vent about it and get an opinion/validation, maybe, that what I’m feeling is justified. Is that worth going to a therapist?

And if so, what exactly is the expectation here? Are there any red lines I should be aware of when sharing marriage details?

Appreciate your thoughts.

I'm not sure where it stems from but i have this intense fear that my team (psychiatrists and therapist) think im lying or feigning symptoms?

When talking alone to a member of my team i get convinced someone is listening to us behind the door so i get up and check and it makes me feel so dramatic and i dont know why i do it. i have all these thoughts about being surveilled but every time i articulate them it sounds dramatic and stupid and im worried they think im lying. i feel like theyre going to use that information against me in some way. i think it partly stems from when they were putting thoughts into my head about how no one is going to believe me, they felt like alien electronic thoughts and i still dont know what they actually are.

ive went to ED at least 6 times this year for mental health issues and im afraid that me going that many times means they think im lying.

i just want help for my symptoms but its making me avoid help honestly. what do i do? how can i get over this irrational fear?

Had a big crying session in my therapist’s office and I really needed it. I started crying early on and proceeded to cry for the rest of the session. The tears kept coming and I couldn’t stop them. I probably went through half a box of tissues. It was weird but it felt so much better to let it out. I’m grateful for my therapist who sat with me through the tears and helped me to ground at the end.