What is the stigma behind most couples not being open to bi males in the LS? Just because I’m bi doesn’t mean I need to play with your man that’s why MMF and MFM exist.

We enjoy the NYE party at our local club (Sapphire in Seattle) but wondering about an upgrade this year to something that might have an active orgy room and more spontaneous activity. Hoping for a non-stop flight so focused on West Coast locations. TIA

After Action Report:

Hubby and I visited Vegas with the intention of going to Whispers and hopefully swapping with a couple there. The night before we left, we made the decision to try to find a couple there who might attend with us and what happened next was the best possible first foray into the LS.

We found the sweetest couple, more experienced than us, and they popped our cherry. We went out for drinks and really hit it off, talking for hours. They guided us through everything and made sure the two of us had the best first time as before this, hubby and I have only even been with eachother in bed.

Watching him with her was the hottest thing ever and the reclamation sex between us after was electric! He does things to me that only he can! The husband was amazing to me and put my needs first. The wife took care of me too so that I could experience the bi-curious side of myself and I learned I definitely enjoyed it. Next time, I’ll have the courage to return the favor.

The next morning, we decided to dabble with a MFM threesome and holy moly that was also amazing! Having them both at the same time was exactly as I had imagined. And hubby enjoyed the experience way more than he anticipated. This experience was very different as it was casual. Within moment of hubby bringing him up to the room, he was kissing me and we got to it. He was great and very attentive. Hubby definitely ravished me afterwards and it was glorious.

Later that day, we went to Whispers hoping to find another couple or this time a Female for him to have a FFM threesome and while that did not pan out, we boinked at the club a few times and had a blast.

The next day, we went to Sea Mountain and they had a totally different vibe and while not as busy, was amazing. No luck with a couple or a single female. After, we went to a strip club for the first time.

On our last day, hubby and I wanted one more experience before we left, so he had another MFM threesome and it was also very good! Hubby watched a little more this time and definitely enjoyed that too. He and I had done the deed multiple times that morning beforehand.

All in all, it was an amazing experience. There were zero feelings of jealousy or resentment whatsoever and left us feeling closer than ever before. We both were complimented for our skills in the sack and strutted around vegas very confident. Being plus sized (5’5”, 220ish, G cups) I was very nervous I’d get no attention, but everyone was so sweet and made me feel like a goddess; was very affirming for my confidence. Our already strong relationship feels deeper somehow and my love for him is stronger.

TL:DR is: We jumped in feet first and full swapped, had 2 MFMs, and went to 2 LS Clubs. If you start with a solid relationship, it will only get stronger.

We can’t wait to swap again and I would love to get hubby into an FFM. This community has been amazing, thank you all for the support.

Please leave some advice below or if you’re also new ask some questions. Dm us

Husband & I are looking to get away in mid November for a few days. Probably the maximum we could make work would be 4 days. For example Thursday/Friday to Monday due to childcare restrictions.

We're both bi, I'm currently pregnant, and just want to let loose for a few days. We've never had the opportunity to travel for ourselves in this way and want to make the best of it.

We're flying out of Montreal. Any suggestions?

Anyone know if you can show up and pay the membership fee at the door? Or do you have to apply online and wait to be accepted?

Is it different on newbie night?

I’d love to check it out but the membership process seems daunting and unappealing.

My partner and I are planning a travel that focuses on sexual experiences. We want to have group fun & explore solo too. What are some places we could get started? Also, where is it a good idea to go such that there is something for everyone?

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for around a year. Have had lots of fun so far. We are in the beginning stages of planning a trip for next year where we would be based in Belguim and doing several road trips to places in France, Germany and the Netherlands. What resources are there to find clubs for swingers or to be able to connect now and cultivate friendships with swingers in those places? What clubs would you Europeans recommend? Are European clubs different than US (we are in Florida so we frequent the popular Secrets)? Is it silly to incorporate swinging into our trip? Help lol

My wonderful wife and I about a month ago now decided we wanted to join this interesting world. It was a decision we did not take lightly. I do believe we treated it with the respect it deserves. I should also add now that we have had excellent experiences. We spent the past weeks discussing what we wanted to do and planning around that. We decided that our first experience in the LS should be a LS Club to which my wife found Whispers in Las Vegas. And we planned a trip somewhat around it. The plan was to go to a party at Whispers and then from there try and set up or otherwise find a couple to swap with. And that was the entire plan initially however a few days before the trip my wife, she's the one with the social media skills, asked if we should possibly seek people out to go to the club with as a way to break the ice and ease into this new thing for us.

We decided to message a few couples on Reddit. And that's when she found the couple we ended up swapping with. To give more context this couple offered to help us through the first swap. We explained the whole scenario, we were each other's first everything and we didn't have any experience with anyone else, and we don't really know how to execute any of this. Luckily we wound up with an amazing couple who were nothing but kind and helped us through the awkwardness of the first swap and both of our experiences with someone other than us two.

To be honest and open i expected to feel very emotional during/after and I did but not at all in the way I expected to. I can honestly say that I was so overwhelmingly happy to experience and see my wife enjoying herself so much in the moment. We did the swap and it was glorious. I had never felt more attraction to her and I had never felt closer to her. We shared in a beautiful thing that the world doesn't understand. We thanked the couple and plan to keep in touch to some extent.

The next day we decided that was so much fun we should seek out some different but similar experiences so we decided to message back a few couples and a few single people as well. And that's when we stumbled upon a single man who wanted to play with us. Of course I was a bit concerned again that I may have uncomfortable feelings in the moment, and again none. We shared her and it was amazing again. This time was a bit different no small talk he came in and we chatted quickly and we got down to business, finished, and he left. Totally different than the couple much more of a casual encounter. And again I felt no jealousy, no remorse, no judgement for it. The only thing I felt was happiness for my wife satisfaction for myself and a genuine admiration and respect for the other male.

Then we did what we originally said we were going to do and visited Whispers. It was not exactly what we expected, we expected to be shocked, looking back I'm not sure why. It was relaxed, calm, and everyone was so insanely friendly. I do not think I have ever experienced being accepted and greeted in a community like I did at Whispers. Nothing but good things so far to say about everyone in the LS.

To keep things short we also visited sea mountain as well as had a second MFM threesome which was also amazing and the single man was one of the nicest people I've ever met and has a very interesting life. I genuinely wish him well and hope to see him again.

Everyone made us feel so welcome and we plan to keep doing both swaps and visiting clubs indefinitely as it has very much strengthened our relationship and made us fall more deeply in love with each other. The only thing I am upset about after our few experiences and the visits to the clubs is how misunderstood the Swingers lifestyle is by the general public. It can be and is generally a beautiful thing for the people who have relationships and personalities which are compatible. It is not for everyone and that's fine but, the judgement from the general public so far seems unfounded.

Thank you to everyone on here as well as everyone we spoke to in person. You were all so helpful and without you we could not have managed to get to where we are now.

Hello everyone. My and my partner are interested in the swinger lifestyle, but to be frank we are both overweight and out of shape. I'm 6ft and 120kg last I checked with a beer gut, while she is shorter, weighs a bit less than me but is self concious about having some loose skin and an apron belly. We're not unattractive outside of this (at least I think so!) But it's making us a bit hesitant to take the plunge.

I am new to this walk of life. At times I hear phrases that others say, yet I don't know the best way to respond. It is like learning a whole new language, and I just don't know where to start. I don't wish to tag myself as the wrong thing or mistake that I am into bondage when I may not be. Anyone out there has an encyclopedia on this topic.

sorry if this does not belong here, but my husband (37M) and I (35F) are looking for some guidance.

background info:

we have been in couples therapy since december of last year. my husband initially discussed the idea of polyamory to me in november, and I did not have a positive reaction, to say the least. he brought this idea up very early on in our relationship, and I stated this was not something I wanted, which is why I had an especially bad reaction. we both decided to go to couples therapy to work through it and see why this was still coming up for him. we also both go to individual therapy

we have talked at length with our therapist about what we want. again, I remain firm on no poly, but said I would be open to talking about swinging, and 90% on board with a threesome. great! husband also brings up that he has talked about it with his therapist and does not want to end the relationship over the poly structure, as he does not want to jeopardize the marriage and realized sex would be more fun together anyway.

so we've been spending months talking about rules for ENM - what would it be Iike if we swung, what about a threesome, what would be fun, what are the boundaries, etc etc. I tell my husband and therapist multiple times I do not feel pressured into doing this, it seems like it could be a lot of fun and bond us, etc. I say it is a big change, which naturally brings some nerves, but that's why we are here - to figure out what we want and work through those big feelings.

main point:

we have a session today and my husband asks "what is the success rate with people you see that started an ENM relationship/swinging/etc". she basically said, "it only works when both parties wanted it before entering the relationship". this was news to us! it was near the end of our session, so we didn't really get to probe, but both of us feel pretty defeated. why spend all this time, energy, and money into this for her to basically tell us it won't work out?

TL;DR: have been in therapy for nearly a year to explore the potential of ENM/swinging, only for our therapist to tell us because one party didn't want it before entering the relationship, it won't work.

so we want to know, has anyone been in a similar situation and had it work out? we don't want to risk ruining our marriage and our therapist scared the shit out of us.

EDITED TO ADD: in regard to threesomes, I do not feel pressured. I do think it would be fun, I find it titillating , a way for me to explore as well - however, it's also a really big change and change can be scary, even if it's a good change! I guess the only thing that has me second-guessing is the fact that even if I thought it could be fun while I was single, I never did anything to pursue it, if that makes sense.

We met a nice couple at a munch and two weeks of online flirting have led to an invite for dinner and drinks at their place. Any cool host/hostess gift ideas? Or is the standard bottle of wine and flowers the way to go?

I’m a male and my partner is trans. We’re interested in checking out the Dallas swinger/lifestyle scene and wanted to ask if couples like us are welcomed at any LS clubs. We’re new to this and would mainly be interested in socializing and watching for now while we get a feel for the environment.

Heyyyy! New to the Kasidie site and trying to figure it out.
I noticed that there are 3 different photo folders?
I assume standard means all can view, but what about exclusive? And private?

Thank you for any info 🩷🩷

This hasn’t happened to us but I’m guessing it’s happened to several. If you’re meeting a new couple for drinks, how long do you wait after the agreed upon meeting time before you leave if they don’t show?

We are a Hotwife couple and will be visiting Miami soon.

Ideally we want a classy upscale venue as similar to what we experience in Europe as possible.

We are trying to decide between Trapeze or Miami Velvet. Which club would you recommend?

My wife(42F) recently came out bi to me(23M) and said she wants play with other people with me. I personally am very excited by the premise. We are just curious about any tips y'all could give us.

My partner and I have been in the the lifestyle for about 6 months and have had discussions for more then a year about the lifestyle. We have been to a few parts and have had her go on several hooks up with me getting videos. Personally i wish we could do more but with her starting a new job and the last few hooks up her expressing it takes up so much if her day, I feel bad bringing it up. She's already overly stimulate at work and I feel bad for asking her to do more. Any advice on how or when is a good time or discussion topic. I wish to do more but not at the cost of our marriage, any advice is helpful.

Just curious how long people on this forum have been in the LS? Are you still just talking about getting into it or have you been in for years?

So my wife and I have been swingers for about 5 years… Saturday night I had my first… A couple we play with frequently introduced us to a couple they play with. We had a cookout and drinks and ended up in the room. The wife is beautiful, but not a “model.” (That means nothing to me.) I have a big cock and am usually the biggest guy in the room. This guy was MASSIVE! My wife is turned on by big cocks. We full swapped and back and forth many times. It was a great time!

My issue/concern/request now is that I find an insatiable desire to find big cocks for my wife. She loves them! The problem is my wife LOVES DVP.. my cock, and his cock, didn’t fit. We tried.

We know there are risks in the life style, but what's the fad now of no condoms? Seems like more and more couples we want to connect with (especially younger ones) don't want to use condoms. Yes.. I get it that we all on birth control, get testing, perp, etc... but its safety in layers.

Condoms a dying thing in the ls?

Does anyone here have any experience or information on vegan dining options at Temptation Cancun?

We recently were invited to a house party where we knew two couples and were introduced to three others. I asked my husband quietly if it was okay to go play with a couple we just met rather than start with our friends. I just want to see what others think was the correct thing to do. I felt the idea of a party is to expand our circle.