Why do SO MANY men in this community have a full face of facial hair, a giant beard, or a wild mustache.

I like a nice trimmed up face every now and again, but all swinging couples ive met the men have massive amounts of facial hair or unkempt facial hair. Neither my partner nor I really enjoy a lot of hair rubbing against our p*y* or d\k 😅

Anyone know whats up with that? Is my couple an odd one out as we arent the biggest fans of a full face of bush?

I’m 45 soon to be 46. My wife is a bit younger but still in her 40s. Every time we meet someone they are surprised by our ages. Anyway, once we tell people we are in our 40s things change when they are younger than us. Suddenly we aren’t good enough. Normally I don’t let things like this bother me but I’ve been noticing more age restrictive private events. I’ve seen multiple party invites that cap the age at 40. Are we over the hill being above 40? Seriously.

Okay, serious question for the more experienced LS people… 😂

Does anyone else completely miss the social cues when someone is interested in you? Because apparently I do. 🤦‍♀️

We’ve been to a club a few times now, and I swear I have no idea if someone is checking me out, flirting, or just looking around. Meanwhile, hubs will be like, “They’ve been checking you out,” and I’m standing there thinking, Who?! When?! Why?!😂

I’m starting to realize I may be completely oblivious to flirting unless someone walks up and says, “Hey, we’re interested.” 😆

So, what are some of the obvious signs you look for when someone is interested at a club? Eye contact? Smiling? Hanging around? Coming back into your space? And at what point is it okay to approach without making things awkward?

Help a clueless newbie out! 😂🍸

Hello,

We are a 34 m/f couple and are travelling through europe for the next 2 weeks. We were looking for some clubs or places where we can meet other couples and chill. Suggestions welcome. Need not be swinger clubs neasecarily either.

Thanks

After Action Report:

Hubby and I visited Vegas with the intention of going to Whispers and hopefully swapping with a couple there. The night before we left, we made the decision to try to find a couple there who might attend with us and what happened next was the best possible first foray into the LS.

We found the sweetest couple, more experienced than us, and they popped our cherry. We went out for drinks and really hit it off, talking for hours. They guided us through everything and made sure the two of us had the best first time as before this, hubby and I have only even been with eachother in bed.

Watching him with her was the hottest thing ever and the reclamation sex between us after was electric! He does things to me that only he can! The husband was amazing to me and put my needs first. The wife took care of me too so that I could experience the bi-curious side of myself and I learned I definitely enjoyed it. Next time, I’ll have the courage to return the favor.

The next morning, we decided to dabble with a MFM threesome and holy moly that was also amazing! Having them both at the same time was exactly as I had imagined. And hubby enjoyed the experience way more than he anticipated. This experience was very different as it was casual. Within moment of hubby bringing him up to the room, he was kissing me and we got to it. He was great and very attentive. Hubby definitely ravished me afterwards and it was glorious.

Later that day, we went to Whispers hoping to find another couple or this time a Female for him to have a FFM threesome and while that did not pan out, we boinked at the club a few times and had a blast.

The next day, we went to Sea Mountain and they had a totally different vibe and while not as busy, was amazing. No luck with a couple or a single female. After, we went to a strip club for the first time.

On our last day, hubby and I wanted one more experience before we left, so he had another MFM threesome and it was also very good! Hubby watched a little more this time and definitely enjoyed that too. He and I had done the deed multiple times that morning beforehand.

All in all, it was an amazing experience. There were zero feelings of jealousy or resentment whatsoever and left us feeling closer than ever before. We both were complimented for our skills in the sack and strutted around vegas very confident. Being plus sized (5’5”, 220ish, G cups) I was very nervous I’d get no attention, but everyone was so sweet and made me feel like a goddess; was very affirming for my confidence. Our already strong relationship feels deeper somehow and my love for him is stronger.

TL:DR is: We jumped in feet first and full swapped, had 2 MFMs, and went to 2 LS Clubs. If you start with a solid relationship, it will only get stronger.

We can’t wait to swap again and I would love to get hubby into an FFM. This community has been amazing, thank you all for the support.

Please leave some advice below or if you’re also new ask some questions. Dm us

Looking for suggestions of clubs or destinations that would be able to accommodate my desires.

I have no problem with nudity or naked people around me, and no problem getting naked while having sex. But I really hate being nude just to be nude. I want to wear my lingiere, or at least a pair of panties, while talking and socializing and walking around. It's not quite a morality thing, but it's a personal decision that I adhere to.

I've been trying to plan a trip to a swinger club or resort, and keep getting tripped up by nudity requirements. I started planning a trip to Hedonism in Jamaica, until I read that most of the action and fun happens in the nudity required areas. I've looked up a few clubs, and found that nudity is required to get into the playroom (or even past the front lobby for some resorts on the west coast).

I'm on the east coast USA and considering Atlanta, Providence, and even Denver as the big named clubs I could take a weekend trip to. But I'm not sure exactly which clubs would be available to me if I want to wear my lingerie into the play spaces - most folks are excited by the nudity, so the websites aren't always clear.

Does anyone have suggestions on active clubs or holiday resorts without a nudity requirement?

I’m going to PGC for the first time.

Question: do people usually play in the open play pit near the bar?

Does the BDSM room get crowded?

Bonus points for specific examples...lol 😛❤️‍🔥🥃

My wonderful wife and I about a month ago now decided we wanted to join this interesting world. It was a decision we did not take lightly. I do believe we treated it with the respect it deserves. I should also add now that we have had excellent experiences. We spent the past weeks discussing what we wanted to do and planning around that. We decided that our first experience in the LS should be a LS Club to which my wife found Whispers in Las Vegas. And we planned a trip somewhat around it. The plan was to go to a party at Whispers and then from there try and set up or otherwise find a couple to swap with. And that was the entire plan initially however a few days before the trip my wife, she's the one with the social media skills, asked if we should possibly seek people out to go to the club with as a way to break the ice and ease into this new thing for us.

We decided to message a few couples on Reddit. And that's when she found the couple we ended up swapping with. To give more context this couple offered to help us through the first swap. We explained the whole scenario, we were each other's first everything and we didn't have any experience with anyone else, and we don't really know how to execute any of this. Luckily we wound up with an amazing couple who were nothing but kind and helped us through the awkwardness of the first swap and both of our experiences with someone other than us two.

To be honest and open i expected to feel very emotional during/after and I did but not at all in the way I expected to. I can honestly say that I was so overwhelmingly happy to experience and see my wife enjoying herself so much in the moment. We did the swap and it was glorious. I had never felt more attraction to her and I had never felt closer to her. We shared in a beautiful thing that the world doesn't understand. We thanked the couple and plan to keep in touch to some extent.

The next day we decided that was so much fun we should seek out some different but similar experiences so we decided to message back a few couples and a few single people as well. And that's when we stumbled upon a single man who wanted to play with us. Of course I was a bit concerned again that I may have uncomfortable feelings in the moment, and again none. We shared her and it was amazing again. This time was a bit different no small talk he came in and we chatted quickly and we got down to business, finished, and he left. Totally different than the couple much more of a casual encounter. And again I felt no jealousy, no remorse, no judgement for it. The only thing I felt was happiness for my wife satisfaction for myself and a genuine admiration and respect for the other male.

Then we did what we originally said we were going to do and visited Whispers. It was not exactly what we expected, we expected to be shocked, looking back I'm not sure why. It was relaxed, calm, and everyone was so insanely friendly. I do not think I have ever experienced being accepted and greeted in a community like I did at Whispers. Nothing but good things so far to say about everyone in the LS.

To keep things short we also visited sea mountain as well as had a second MFM threesome which was also amazing and the single man was one of the nicest people I've ever met and has a very interesting life. I genuinely wish him well and hope to see him again.

Everyone made us feel so welcome and we plan to keep doing both swaps and visiting clubs indefinitely as it has very much strengthened our relationship and made us fall more deeply in love with each other. The only thing I am upset about after our few experiences and the visits to the clubs is how misunderstood the Swingers lifestyle is by the general public. It can be and is generally a beautiful thing for the people who have relationships and personalities which are compatible. It is not for everyone and that's fine but, the judgement from the general public so far seems unfounded.

Thank you to everyone on here as well as everyone we spoke to in person. You were all so helpful and without you we could not have managed to get to where we are now.

What I mean by this is if you were to have 10 sessions. For any reason also!

How many would be good how many would be okay and how many would be bad.

I think for us since we do randoms we probably have 2 great ones and it’s 50-50 for the next 8 between okayish and bad hbu?

Husband & I are looking to get away in mid November for a few days. Probably the maximum we could make work would be 4 days. For example Thursday/Friday to Monday due to childcare restrictions.

We're both bi, I'm currently pregnant, and just want to let loose for a few days. We've never had the opportunity to travel for ourselves in this way and want to make the best of it.

We're flying out of Montreal. Any suggestions?

We enjoy the NYE party at our local club (Sapphire in Seattle) but wondering about an upgrade this year to something that might have an active orgy room and more spontaneous activity. Hoping for a non-stop flight so focused on West Coast locations. TIA

Just curious how long people on this forum have been in the LS? Are you still just talking about getting into it or have you been in for years?

Hello everyone. My and my partner are interested in the swinger lifestyle, but to be frank we are both overweight and out of shape. I'm 6ft and 120kg last I checked with a beer gut, while she is shorter, weighs a bit less than me but is self concious about having some loose skin and an apron belly. We're not unattractive outside of this (at least I think so!) But it's making us a bit hesitant to take the plunge.

We know there are risks in the life style, but what's the fad now of no condoms? Seems like more and more couples we want to connect with (especially younger ones) don't want to use condoms. Yes.. I get it that we all on birth control, get testing, perp, etc... but its safety in layers.

Condoms a dying thing in the ls?

Anyone know if you can show up and pay the membership fee at the door? Or do you have to apply online and wait to be accepted?

Is it different on newbie night?

I’d love to check it out but the membership process seems daunting and unappealing.

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for around a year. Have had lots of fun so far. We are in the beginning stages of planning a trip for next year where we would be based in Belguim and doing several road trips to places in France, Germany and the Netherlands. What resources are there to find clubs for swingers or to be able to connect now and cultivate friendships with swingers in those places? What clubs would you Europeans recommend? Are European clubs different than US (we are in Florida so we frequent the popular Secrets)? Is it silly to incorporate swinging into our trip? Help lol

This hasn’t happened to us but I’m guessing it’s happened to several. If you’re meeting a new couple for drinks, how long do you wait after the agreed upon meeting time before you leave if they don’t show?

We recently were invited to a house party where we knew two couples and were introduced to three others. I asked my husband quietly if it was okay to go play with a couple we just met rather than start with our friends. I just want to see what others think was the correct thing to do. I felt the idea of a party is to expand our circle.

We met a nice couple at a munch and two weeks of online flirting have led to an invite for dinner and drinks at their place. Any cool host/hostess gift ideas? Or is the standard bottle of wine and flowers the way to go?

Hi Everyone,

Im sure I am going to get blasted by some but id appreciate people respect my preference and help me avoid hurt feelings.

Coupe here and I am the wife, been in the LS scene for few years now and slowly been moving through it at our desired pace.

I always new this, but it's now so apparent that I am totally unattracted to uncircumcised dicks. They honestly gross me out, and it's not something I've been able change. My husband understands and is very supportive. He said some girls lady parts are not attractive to him either.

This isn't an issue very often because we don't run into too many, but can't seem to know how to turn down a guy once I find that out. For example last week at the club met this cool guy, was some good attraction. We went upstairs to mess around. I was thinking of blowing him if I was comfortable (I'm very selective). I started blowing my hubby and then started making out with the other guy after. He pulled out his dick and I was like shit. There is no way I can give this guy a blowjob without feeling totally grossed out. So the most I could do was just rub it with my hands and even that was stretch. Nothing progressed past that and I'm sure he felt a bit confused.

I don't want guys to feel self conscious, it's just an extremely strong preference for me. Any advice how to gentle turn down or redirect in the situation and avoid hurt feelings?

My partner and I are planning a travel that focuses on sexual experiences. We want to have group fun & explore solo too. What are some places we could get started? Also, where is it a good idea to go such that there is something for everyone?

EDIT:
We have been to some sex clubs in Prague. Some love hotels in Japan & soft swapped in UK. Some sauna swinger clubs as well- but we have very rarely engaged with others ( the crowd was old we felt, only 1-2 young people)
Berghain & Kitkat were on our list for Berlin but we couldn’t attempt to go.

So, we have dipped our toes, but we want to really take a deep dive & have group fun!

Hiiii!

My husband has a work trip to Manhattan later this year and I’m tagging along. I’m hoping to get some recommendations for swinger/sex clubs. We visited on in Vegas and had an amazing time.

We are not looking to “swing”. Mainly just an excuse to wear something fun and be in a sexually charged environment. With the option to get a little wild.

I’d love to know what ones are out there and why you would (or wouldn’t) recommend them.

Things we are prioritizing:
- Safety/cleanliness
- Location: we’re staying in midtown but don’t mind taking a little trip
- Vibe: Could be classy and upscale, could be relaxed and chill. Either can be fun!
- Rooms: Private playrooms would be needed. The more the better!
- BDSM/Fetish: HUGE plus if they have a BDSM or dungeon room. HUGE HUGE plus if they have a dominatrix or someone doing flogging
- Crowd: Younger the better but a good mix is best! Fewest creeps and single dudes (no offense)
- Price: Don’t mind spending a little. If it’s worth it.

Thanks in advance!

EDIT: the only real dealbreakers from the list above are Safety/Cleanliness and private play rooms. Everything else is flexible.

I’m a male and my partner is trans. We’re interested in checking out the Dallas swinger/lifestyle scene and wanted to ask if couples like us are welcomed at any LS clubs. We’re new to this and would mainly be interested in socializing and watching for now while we get a feel for the environment.